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Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by tyup(m): 10:31pm On May 23, 2020 |
ecolime: Man what yr saying is totally off sense....she's doing all that cuz of too much comfort and OP's situation will never change till he reduce that amount buy enough food n other necessary things needed at home so she doesn't starve n doesn't complain sososo is not available If she doesn't get this money for some months she will have sense by force. The only person i pity now is OP (tho i'm not praying things change) but if it does that he's not having enough money then he'll know what real problems and wahala is frm a nagging wife Damnit God made wives helpmates an not some lazy ass pocket dryers 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by Nobody: 10:35pm On May 23, 2020 |
deji85:so, who does the housework? Cos if she does all the housework, then she is being productive. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by tyup(m): 10:35pm On May 23, 2020 |
Ghostrye: no need to talk action speaks more louder |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by bukatyne(f): 10:39pm On May 23, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2: Some husbands don't want a wife sitting at home under the guise of 'doing chores'. I know someone who got two helps so that his wife would not sit at home. And no, he doesn't need her money. He can't just stand a wife staying at home all day. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by ecolime(m): 10:42pm On May 23, 2020 |
tyup:So you are suggesting he reduces what he has been giving her for over 3 years? This is not possible. The best he can do is not to increase this figure for the next 7-10 years. Trust me |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by Nobody: 10:43pm On May 23, 2020 |
bukatyne:True, but he should not dismiss house chores. Men might not appreciate it but they are lucky to meet a tidy home and a loving family. This couple needs communication. They ought to plan their future. I'm a little envious of this woman tho. But i doubt i will quit my job for marriage |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by tyup(m): 10:45pm On May 23, 2020 |
ecolime: He should cuz that's what is making her lazy the mindset of my husband can provide everything and it really doesn't have a nice ending on the long run |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by ecolime(m): 10:45pm On May 23, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2:I really wonder why people under rate house work. It's serious work trust me 1 Like |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by Nobody: 10:46pm On May 23, 2020 |
ecolime:But he is unhappy. Op, nothing is wrong with being a housewife. If you come home to meet a relaxed, sexy woman who keeps your home neat and gives you peace of mind, then consider yourself lucky. Tell her that you cant assist her in starting a business. Let her understand that she has to invest in her future or retirement. What if you lose your income? What will she do. Tell her that until she starts and suceeds in business. There will be no more abroad trips. Do you have kids? 2 Likes |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by Nobody: 10:49pm On May 23, 2020 |
ecolime:Exactly. There's a reason children complain about it, it is also why househelps, nannies and cleaning services are expensive. 1 Like |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by deji85: 10:50pm On May 23, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2: My wife does a bulk of the cooking she also does the shopping from the market. I also help with the chores. I clean the floors except for kitchen and our bedroom almost every Saturday morning. Laundry is easy as we have a washer dryer. And yes she cooks very well. |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by Uneed2talk: 11:01pm On May 23, 2020 |
deji85:It is even worse if it's a son, as you can see, society won't disturb her too much as long as she is married and to a well to do man. Trust me, these kinds of people can be very hardworking if they finally find that thing they can do with good returns. Please bear with her, infact let her know it is a problem innate in her and not her fault, she didn't choose to be that way. If she can accept and begin to see things clearly, it will be a motivation to push herself because she now knows she need more push to get up unlike an everyday hardworking person and she will also nip it early in any of her child who shows trait because it's mostly inherited. So please see how you can set her up, if she sees progress you won't need to push too much any more. 2 Likes |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by Uneed2talk: 11:04pm On May 23, 2020 |
deji85:Perhaps she can do well with a restaurant business, back up with other hardworking hands. You will need to help her persevere till she see positive output. 1 Like |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by Acidosis(m): 11:07pm On May 23, 2020 |
I'll like to know the kind of job you do from home that made you waste at least #5m trying to set your wife up for business. Please help a brother sir. 1 Like |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by Lamanii22(f): 11:16pm On May 23, 2020 |
Dear God please let my future husband be a giver like this OP.... Back to your matter... Try not to give her money for a while... just feign some troubles.. Don't allow her have her way all the time.... 4m,350k, shop rent, equipment money!!! Jesu mi OP, oporrrrr gidi gan... 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by elektra(f): 11:20pm On May 23, 2020 |
She has gotten a maga. You sef you are paying. She is not suited for business. Tell her to get a job and seriously limit the spending money you give her. 1 Like |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by Nobody: 11:29pm On May 23, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2:Using marijuana is not a reason to be lazy. The safest place for a lazy girl is in her husband’s house. |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by Nobody: 11:30pm On May 23, 2020 |
Too many fake stories on nairaland these days. We don’t know the ones to believe again. 2 Likes |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by Nobody: 11:31pm On May 23, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2: You just dey yarn dust. |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by JourneytoEL(f): 11:41pm On May 23, 2020 |
deji85:not everyone is suited for entrepreneurship, that is what many Nigerians don't understand. It takes a whole lot of perseverance and willpower to be one. Some are better off been employed. The best thing is to find her a federal government job, with 1-2m you will get a good federal agency, all you have to do is go their headquarters in abuja and look for the director of human resources or any director in FCC from your tribe and the rest is history. Govt jobs are easy to run and she will surely get paid corona or not. The other option is to open a business in your name e.g Coke, indomie or flour mega distribution company and make her the manager. Tell her she will be paid variably each month e.g 10% of the sales she makes, that will make her sit up 3 Likes |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by gowonmaharajah(m): 1:23am On May 24, 2020 |
deji85:brother deji,a beg what sort of work do you do that pays you in USD ? show your guy way na..e jooo |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by deji85: 1:37am On May 24, 2020 |
gowonmaharajah: I am a software engineer and work for a US based company. 6 Likes |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by gowonmaharajah(m): 1:41am On May 24, 2020 |
deji85:smiles... lucky you.keep it up,sir. I am happy for you! 1 Like |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by HiFreda(f): 2:04am On May 24, 2020 |
This covid19 era is a perfect time to reduce unnecessary activities and plan strongly for the future. Tell her your company is going through hard times and are thinking of slashing salaries and laying off staff. Let her believe that your job might be on the line. And beg her to help you come up with something you both can do for income before they sack you. Keep talking about how they might sack you everyday. This wiłl put some fear in her as the future she envisaged for a long time is being threatened. She will start coming up with ideas. Brainstorm them with her. Make her do the market research until she shows passion/skill for one. Then you can consider starting small. 6 Likes |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by GboyegaD(m): 2:19am On May 24, 2020 |
Oga, what your wife need is likely a job and not a business. Setting her up for another business is likely a recipe for disaster except she is contributing a large chunk of the capital. Encourage her to dust her resume and find a job she likes. She doesn't seem to have the resilience of an entrepreneur and isn't willing to search a job now because of the mindset that there is money and her upkeep allowance is higher than many people's income. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by frozen70(f): 2:20am On May 24, 2020 |
deji85: This is something that calls for concern Just the two of you and over 6 million has gone just like that The truth is that she doesn't want to be responsible at all, as in she doesn't want to labour in any ways My dear start savings for the future Stop granting all her requests, let her feel the absence of cash for a while let's see if she will reason If you should be giving her over 90k per month then you are already paying her salaries She is just behaving as if she has a mission Use your head 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by GboyegaD(m): 2:20am On May 24, 2020 |
HiFreda: Please do not encourage people to think it say negative ooo. There's power in the tongue ooo. |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by jesmond3945: 2:36am On May 24, 2020 |
deji85:You guys keep on making this mistake with our women. What do you want her to do when you have invested millions into her with nothing to show, you give her over 100k every month, what do you want her to do? You have spoilt her with money, so she is relaxed. That's why she would keep malice with you because of a car. Your working from home makes her feel you plant money in a tree so how do you want her to have ambition? Make her look for work and when she starts working she would naturally want to progress, then comes ambition. You can teach her coding which is the best option. 1 Like |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by Karleb(m): 6:08am On May 24, 2020 |
deji85: I knew this. I laughed when a particular individual suggested you teach her what you do. You want her head to explode? 1 Like |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by Ibechris2: 6:23am On May 24, 2020 |
Sorry to say this,ur wife's ambition was to get wedded and not marriage perse...u de try! U have to endure it as an African man. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by cococandy(f): 7:03am On May 24, 2020 |
Stop starting businesses for her. Lots of people spout business ideas as if they are so easy to build. Successful businesses are rare. What she needs is a job. Stop wasting investments in that manner. 4 Likes |
Re: Her Lack Of Ambition Is Killing My Happiness. by cococandy(f): 7:06am On May 24, 2020 |
GboyegaD:exactly She doesn't seem to have the resilience of an entrepreneur and isn't willing to sell a job now because of the mindset that there is money and her upkeep allowance is higher than many people's income.I don’t understand women who have the power and opportunity to achieve more but are okay with small stuff . She could easily make a lot more income in addition to what her husband makes and they would have a great life together. Yet she is comfortable with pocket money. Each to their own like they say. 2 Likes 1 Share |
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