You gotta move on with your own life, bro.

MrBrownJay1:


stop trying to impress good for nothing ungrateful women with money... count your blessing you got your money back., and just send her what you owe her, nothing more then forget/block the animal.

wow
Ladies have really suffered in the hands of most nairaland guys.
God knows how many relationships nairaland comments have ruined.
The bank was clearly at fault here,why insulting the lady?
It's not her fault op couldn't give her the benefit of doubt.

It is well.

na useless matter be this.

OP, you were at fault here although the bank contributed in no small way

Life has a way of straightening things out. If you feel you have a clean conscience then move on. Tomorrow holds much more

sisisioge:
You know you could have sent her your account statement for reconciliation purpose instead of ghosting her...a good person would give benefits of doubts airing the matter instead of bottling it up. Biko I think she's better off going her way jeje. If you could handle small matter like that, what would you do if something huge hits?

Good luck.

u are right, the guy really messed up, i believe no one will blame the female folks in this thread..lol

Agbagbaregoo:

Put yourself in my shoes. How would you feel if they told you at the bank the person you sent money to has received it and is only playing pranks won't you be madd. Mstcheew

Are you new to bank? You sent money and you are the one going to print statement... This very simple issue you turn am to complex matter...lol.

Humanoid01:
@Agbagbaregoo

This might be a blessing in disguise, but I also agree with sisisioge. You should have shown her the evidence, then her reaction would determine your next action. I understand her decision to not continue with the "relationship".

She doesn't want any trouble, and she thinks that you'll have a hard time trusting her. No one wants to be in a relationship like that. Her mind may be made up but you should sincerely apologize. I know it's not your fault, and you shouldn't feel guilty, but just do it to let peace have its way.

Send her a text containing an outpour of your heart, include a shot of the document given to you by the bank. Do that just to rid your self of the guilt, then move on. Don't sweat it. If she's yours, she'll come back.

op just listen to this advise

MrBrownJay1:


stop trying to impress good for nothing ungrateful women with money... count your blessing you got your money back., and just send her what you owe her, nothing more then forget/block the animal.

Op is wrong. If you have problems with women in your life, this is not perfect thread to vent your anger

I blame her not

see this one, she say make u leave her and you dey worry yourself mtchewwww. if you like make you go mumu send her another money. she is not willing to talk to you is because of guilt. she is just trying cool of or shed of the shame. is she is a reasonable lady, after some time she will call and apologise

fulaniHERDSman:
Sue the bank.

try and read b4 u coment

Stupid men everywhere, after suffering and drinking garri and groundnut for years without sugar, when they start getting one naira instead of beefing up their life, helpful friends and relations, these fools look for on non entity street girl in the name of love and start wasting his life on her, I don’t know when men would be wise..

sisisioge:
You know you could have sent her your account statement for reconciliation purpose instead of ghosting her...a good person would give benefits of doubts airing the matter instead of bottling it up. Biko I think she's better off going her way jeje. If you could handle small matter like that, what would you do if something huge hits?

Good luck.

Girls are scam. He was just unfortunate in dis case.

Modified. U are even a lady that's why u are talking like this.

Agbagbaregoo:

Put yourself in my shoes. How would you feel if they told you at the bank the person you sent money to has received it and is only playing pranks won't you be madd. Mstcheew

What happened to waiting for one week that it takes banks to reverse such issues?

Elders say Na from Saturday we go know Sunday wey go sweet.

So, Let her be.

I once sold a car for #2,500,000 to someone from another state. We went to his bank and he did a transfer to my account.

When we were still in the bank, he got an alert but I didn't get mine. I went to my bank with him and we were told the fund would still enter my account. He noticed I was not comfortable and decided to give me his bank copy in case.

Later that evening he called to tell me his wife saw the car and didn't like it. I was like... You don pay be say you don pay. I forgot I was yet to get alert.

To cut the storey short, he returned the car the next day and told me the money was reversed to his account after the wife prayed over it.
Chai!!!.

I later sold the car 2.1m after several months.

Uwa m oo.

how many of your male friends did you encourage with money and help with cash?



what's the assurance that you duo will end up as couple? why should you introduced monetary help in the early stage of the relationship?


now you've to suffering because of your sincere heart and money again?


abeg carry your cross

Naija men matter tire me.

Edusouls:
Stupid men everywhere, after suffering and drinking garri and groundnut for years without sugar, when they start getting one naira instead of beefing up their life, helpful friends and relations, these fools look for on non entity street girl in the name of love and start wasting his life on her, I don’t know when men would be wise..

abelswife:
did you or did you not say nasty things to her? I;m sure ingrate and scam where part of the things you said

Agbagbaregoo:

No at all. I saw their chats. He asked politely

MrBrownJay1:


stop trying to impress good for nothing ungrateful women with money... count your blessing you got your money back., and just send her what you owe her, nothing more then forget/block the animal.

Did you try to get her own bank statement? E be like say u never get this kind issue with POS people whether u go dey flex ur mouth and police friend like dis. because say na gal wey gree u friend u don dey denge dey pose. Why she no go run from wahala like you. If to say na wife wey u send money to pay landlord wey dey ur neck dat night, ds thing come happen for one week, you for don stab am cos say u dey patronize am. Animalia

Agbagbaregoo:

Put yourself in my shoes. How would you feel if they told you at the bank the person you sent money to has received it and is only playing pranks won't you be madd. Mstcheew

are u a baby.isnt it not nigeria.were a police officer ll tell you lies just to make u angry with ur own brother.or is it the pastors or the banks.guy you are a small boy.me money has never been an issue in my relationships. you no why.i believe money comes and goes.

LINTUNE:
u are right, the guy really messed up, i believe no one will blame the female folks in this thread..lol

my dear,you didn't read the first two parts of this thread.
Someone I quoted was still calling the girl an animal.

No be nairaland guys again
Even the op sef join dem dey bash the poor girl

If u marry dis kind lady aswear she go bring u down and ur kindnez is gonna put u in big kasala

Agbagbaregoo:
I just met this lady and everything seems to be clicking. she just started a business after I gingered her and I had to patronize her. in the course I transferred some money to her to patronize her far more money than she was selling the Stuff so as to encourage her. The bank debited me and I told her I sent it.

Throughout that day she claimed not to have gotten the money. Then throughout the next day same story so the third day I went to the bank to receive the statement of account. lo and behold her name was boldly written and the bank people told me she has gotten it. I got very angry and sent it to her but I didn't tell her anything I just ignored her call.

A policeman asked for her number at the bank that he will question her. throughout these period I ignored her and I was just imagining how a beautiful light skin tender looking babe will behave like this. Then lo and behold today the bank reversed the money. I can't explain the feeling of disappointment.

Now she said she doesn't want to have anything to do with me again that she doesn't want wahala for her life. She finally picked after many trials of calling and she insisted on me leaving her life.she even said she's not doing business again. I don't know what to do.

. Let her go my brother... Your money went out and came back.Good news! If she had married you would she have done same thing? Of her money was missing. would she be folding her hands? Never ever force a lady into relationship or marriage.Your wife will bear up and be ready to solve problems with you if she is meant for you.

Agbagbaregoo:

Put yourself in my shoes. How would you feel if they told you at the bank the person you sent money to has received it and is only playing pranks won't you be madd. Mstcheew

you will go to her and both of you check her bank starement as you did yours!

you dont deserve her! you go be wahala true true.

she took the right decision.

Agbagbaregoo:

Put yourself in my shoes. How would you feel if they told you at the bank the person you sent money to has received it and is only playing pranks won't you be madd. Mstcheew

Atimes we should know when God is cautioning us abt a move...that money is not meant to be given to her in the first place cos it may cause problem in future.

The relationship was devoid of trust and genuine love from the beginning. Mutual suspicion damages relationships. The problem was not the bank but you and the girl. When and even if the two of you becomes husband and wife, you will face more challenges. I was living in Markudi at a time and my wife sent a message that there's a need at home back in Southwest, I went to send some money in the Bank and discovered that there was 300k in my wife's account, I paid my own money in and went back home. My wife called the following day to confirm how much I paid in and I told her 80k, apparently there was a sharp practice from the back, some monies were kept in the account as a transit decoy for theft. Trust is the hallmark of relationship, please cultivate it. It's well.

Make sure you get in touch with her and explain what actually happened and if she still insist that she's not interested anymore, let her be bro

Alexaonfleek:
my dear,you didn't read the first two parts of this thread.
Someone I quoted was still calling the girl an animal.

No be nairaland guys again

smh..na attention him de find

sisisioge:


Ok then...aunty being irrational then. It showed that you sent it and got debited...if she didn't receive then she should contact her bank. Simple! It is well jare...move on and take a learning from this. Money issue is always dicey in relationships.

When he send it, he should have encourage her to also go to her and request for her statement on account.

Humanoid01:
@Agbagbaregoo

This might be a blessing in disguise, but I also agree with sisisioge. You should have shown her the evidence, then her reaction would determine your next action. I understand her decision to not continue with the "relationship".

She doesn't want any trouble, and she thinks that you'll have a hard time trusting her. No one wants to be in a relationship like that. Her mind may be made up but you should sincerely apologize. I know it's not your fault, and you shouldn't feel guilty, but just do it to let peace have its way.

Send her a text containing an outpour of your heart, include a shot of the document given to you by the bank. Do that just to rid your self of the guilt, then move on. Don't sweat it. If she's yours, she'll come back.

Op go with this flow......and use that sisioge post as a refined lines....

how old are u? let's start from dere? you seem immature to have just ghosted her