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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Chirowman(m): 3:11pm On May 24, 2020
she might not have gotten it,some banks are funny.i do transactions everyday and i can tell you,there might be a delay in crediting her account it happens most times .or she doesn't receive alert.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by folu4real(f): 3:14pm On May 24, 2020
MrBrownJay1:


stop trying to impress good for nothing ungrateful women with money... count your blessing you got your money back., and just send her what you owe her, nothing more then forget/block the animal.


You are calling a human being you can't create Animal. I notice majority of nairaland commentators are very abusive.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Pharaohny: 3:14pm On May 24, 2020
We are on the matter

Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by lordatkinson07(m): 3:15pm On May 24, 2020
Sue the bank. Kalas!
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by queenitee(f): 3:16pm On May 24, 2020
LINTUNE:
u are right, the guy really messed up, i believe no one will blame the female folks in this thread..lol
It would surprise you to know that people are. I mean because the lady was grateful for the money, she was supposed to lie she has gotten the money when she hasn't?
We all know how banks work. I mean we humans most time just complicate things. When the lady said she didn't receive the money and you got the statement that said she has, you could have just gone to the bank or her own bank together, at least then if she had been lying, you would know because she wouldn't be able to keep up.

I can't believe some people are cheering him on. Yes it's money, but it's not about the money. It's about the fact that the lady feel he doesn't trust her and what's a relationship without trust? But no, because all women are gold diggers, broke and good for nothing, they must find a way to make the lady the guilty one here. And it's funny he sees sense in their advice.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by toprealman: 3:16pm On May 24, 2020
Ladycewhy:
to think that guy is an adult is what irks me the most. Very anyhow human being.
An adult.....lol. some secondary school lads are also here. No age barrier.
You can tell his type from the tone of his response...his headache though.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 3:17pm On May 24, 2020
Alexaonfleek:
wow shocked
Ladies have really suffered in the hands of most nairaland guys.
God knows how many relationships nairaland comments have ruined.
The bank was clearly at fault here,why insulting the lady?
It's not her fault op couldn't give her the benefit of doubt.
don't mind that animal. He's never been in a relationship..probably all the women in his life abandoned him. All he needs is help

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Twoclans(f): 3:17pm On May 24, 2020
Agbagbaregoo:

You are right sha

When I saw your response to sisioge I wanted to get out of your thread and ignore it but alas here I am responding to your thread.I am not surprised by some responses from some of the male monikers as usual.Is it not nairaland again.Its our way.There are still some great men outside the internet and you seem to be one of such men do not be lured by the ones on nairaland.

Not so many people both men and women have time to encourage another to start off a business and follow it through.You did ,and I congratulate you however your temper seem to have been sent by village people.I want to believe you are not used to the set of lazy bankers that the country has this days.I was in the banking industry I know the nonsense that is obtainable this days.The bankers you meet were very lazy and its unfortunate you decided to believe them at the expense of a friend.

If she is worth it continue to plead with her ,you could find a way to communicate what transpired at the bank and make her know you are sorry.I say this because our generation of women are also very funny set of people most of them do not want to do any form of work aside slaying .If she is worth it fight for your friendship.

I wish you luck.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by VenumX: 3:19pm On May 24, 2020
Leave her na. Are you her God?
Abi d1ck dey scratch you?

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by toolovely(m): 3:19pm On May 24, 2020
Agbagbaregoo:

Put yourself in my shoes. How would you feel if they told you at the bank the person you sent money to has received it and is only playing pranks won't you be madd. Mstcheew

You should know that once your debited it will always show on your statement. You should also know that you are debited doesn't mean that the beneficiary have received the money because of interswitch connectivity...
I've sent money to someone and after 4 days they reversed the money. I sent mail to the beneficiary bank stating the account number, money and the originating bank. They replied that the beneficiary should go to the bank to confirm. He went there and the Money wasn't there. And the Money was reversed
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Midadeola(f): 3:21pm On May 24, 2020
jmichael259:




Did you try to get her own bank statement? E be like say u never get this kind issue with POS people whether u go dey flex ur mouth and police friend like dis. because say na gal wey gree u friend u don dey denge dey pose. Why she no go run from wahala like you. If to say na wife wey u send money to pay landlord wey dey ur neck dat night, ds thing come happen for one week, you for don stab am cos say u dey patronize am. Animalia
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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by shiki(m): 3:22pm On May 24, 2020
Agbagbaregoo:

Put yourself in my shoes. How would you feel if they told you at the bank the person you sent money to has received it and is only playing pranks won't you be madd. Mstcheew
You reacted like a kid bro, haven't you been using Nig. Banks for awhile, can't you trust someone you are dating a bit, how much was the money even Haba bro, haba
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by LtChisom: 3:23pm On May 24, 2020
Humanoid01:
@Agbagbaregoo

This might be a blessing in disguise, but I also agree with sisisioge. You should have shown her the evidence, then her reaction would determine your next action. I understand her decision to not continue with the "relationship".

She doesn't want any trouble, and she thinks that you'll have a hard time trusting her. No one wants to be in a relationship like that. Her mind may be made up but you should sincerely apologize. I know it's not your fault, and you shouldn't feel guilty, but just do it to let peace have its way.

Send her a text containing an outpour of your heart, include a shot of the document given to you by the bank. Do that just to rid your self of the guilt, then move on. Don't sweat it. If she's yours, she'll come back.
You see this if she's yours, she'll come back statement, I hate it with passion, it dosen't work at all, is it after she must have finished all her oil and wants an engine maintenance then I should sit and wait till then.
OP,. If you are wise, move on simple.
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Simbrixton(m): 3:24pm On May 24, 2020

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by dingbang(m): 3:25pm On May 24, 2020
Agbagbaregoo:
I just met this lady and everything seems to be clicking. she just started a business after I gingered her and I had to patronize her. in the course I transferred some money to her to patronize her far more money than she was selling the Stuff so as to encourage her. The bank debited me and I told her I sent it.

Throughout that day she claimed not to have gotten the money. Then throughout the next day same story so the third day I went to the bank to receive the statement of account. lo and behold her name was boldly written and the bank people told me she has gotten it. I got very angry and sent it to her but I didn't tell her anything I just ignored her call.

A policeman asked for her number at the bank that he will question her. throughout these period I ignored her and I was just imagining how a beautiful light skin tender looking babe will behave like this. Then lo and behold today the bank reversed the money. I can't explain the feeling of disappointment.

Now she said she doesn't want to have anything to do with me again that she doesn't want wahala for her life. She finally picked after many trials of calling and she insisted on me leaving her life.she even said she's not doing business again. I don't know what to do.
the bank is not responsible for your lack of understanding.
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Midadeola(f): 3:26pm On May 24, 2020
grin[quote author=Ladycewhy post=89910674]I want to know how much the money is that a policeman had to get involved? undecided.


That right there is why she said she doesn't want wahala ,maybe next time na efcc or Sars you go call for her.
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by LtChisom: 3:27pm On May 24, 2020
Acidosis:


Ignoring her isn't an issue. The above is the issue, right? Your police friend threatened her life?
That police collected her number to chyke the girl now she don gree for the police man and ditched the Op
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by janettee(f): 3:28pm On May 24, 2020
Leave her alone, she already told you that, no be by force.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by womenareapes: 3:28pm On May 24, 2020
Agbagbaregoo:
I just met this lady and everything seems to be clicking. she just started a business after I gingered her and I had to patronize her. in the course I transferred some money to her to patronize her far more money than she was selling the Stuff so as to encourage her. The bank debited me and I told her I sent it.

Throughout that day she claimed not to have gotten the money. Then throughout the next day same story so the third day I went to the bank to receive the statement of account. lo and behold her name was boldly written and the bank people told me she has gotten it. I got very angry and sent it to her but I didn't tell her anything I just ignored her call.

A policeman asked for her number at the bank that he will question her. throughout these period I ignored her and I was just imagining how a beautiful light skin tender looking babe will behave like this. Then lo and behold today the bank reversed the money. I can't explain the feeling of disappointment.

Now she said she doesn't want to have anything to do with me again that she doesn't want wahala for her life. She finally picked after many trials of calling and she insisted on me leaving her life.she even said she's not doing business again. I don't know what to do.
why will you even send money to those useless piece of shiit called Naija women undecided
you should be happy that you doge a bullet.

I have a principle of never sending money to my girlfriend, not even 1kobo unless I marry you.

surprisingly reverse is the case! those bitches send me money. grin
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Nobody: 3:28pm On May 24, 2020
Agbagbaregoo:

Put yourself in my shoes. How would you feel if they told you at the bank the person you sent money to has received it and is only playing pranks won't you be madd. Mstcheew

don't mind them, I once sent MTN 1,500 to my girl friend in the university days while she was at home because she travelled to her village , and then she insisted I sent her a used card, the normal me would just send her another card , but because I was hoping to know what really went wrong as it was during those days when 1500 card are usually well sealed , so I called MTN and I was told the number that loaded the card, I called another agent again and it was same response, then I told her MTN told me she loaded the card, BOoM!!! she flared up.

accused me of calling MTN because of calling card , I no send oo, she was a lair, this is about honestly and trust.
after then, I first load the card then transfer to her.
I later dumped the useless girl for a bigger offense.

it wasn't a bad idea you made attempt to verify to know the truth

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by OgogoroFreak(m): 3:30pm On May 24, 2020
Agbagbaregoo:

Who told you I didn't send it? I sent everything and she said she will get her out statement of account
She should have showed you her own statement. Might be the bank revert the payment from her account cos she claimed she didn't received it. Do banks even have the power to do that?
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Midadeola(f): 3:30pm On May 24, 2020
jmichael259:

Are u mad or high? What is she guilty of to be ashamed? U send her money wey she never receive u come call police on top. Before one week ur bank come return the money to you say the send no work. Are you not a fool? Will you allow your mother, sister or daughter to stay close to such a non-entity?!
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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Royalfurnitures: 3:31pm On May 24, 2020
Sue the bank...hahaha


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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by onegig(m): 3:32pm On May 24, 2020
Amanee:
If only that lady can stick to her gun and flee

Abi. She should flee.

I can count 4 red flags in his behavior here alone.

1. Not taking responsibility ( "how a bank ruined"wink A bank can cause issues. How you react and handle the situation is much more important.

2. See him cursing that "she is mad" in another response.

3. Petulance, holding grudges, keeping malice in the face of a little challenge.

4. Coming online to seek validation about something he could have simply resolved.


She has her faults but from his little explanation showed he has a lot of growing up to do.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by queenitee(f): 3:32pm On May 24, 2020
mondayaudu:
Let me advise you Bros I know you won’t take it. That girl has a serious relationship. It has nothing to do with the bank stuff. If she doesn’t have then she is very daft and you have to flee from her because even older women in the village understand that bank due malfunction.
But the guy didn't understand that bank do malfunction when he didn't give her the benefit of doubt and involved the police?
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by adanny01(m): 3:33pm On May 24, 2020
Agbagbaregoo:
I just met this lady and everything seems to be clicking. she just started a business after I gingered her and I had to patronize her. in the course I transferred some money to her to patronize her far more money than she was selling the Stuff so as to encourage her. The bank debited me and I told her I sent it.

Throughout that day she claimed not to have gotten the money. Then throughout the next day same story so the third day I went to the bank to receive the statement of account. lo and behold her name was boldly written and the bank people told me she has gotten it. I got very angry and sent it to her but I didn't tell her anything I just ignored her call.

A policeman asked for her number at the bank that he will question her. throughout these period I ignored her and I was just imagining how a beautiful light skin tender looking babe will behave like this. Then lo and behold today the bank reversed the money. I can't explain the feeling of disappointment.

Now she said she doesn't want to have anything to do with me again that she doesn't want wahala for her life. She finally picked after many trials of calling and she insisted on me leaving her life.she even said she's not doing business again. I don't know what to do.

Simple trust issues blown out of proportion. This means she was innocent afterall. She saw it and you concluded. All you needed to do was to tell her you have and maintain your word.

The bank is not responsible for any, they just exposed your lack of trust.

You really f....d up.
Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by MansoryMX(m): 3:33pm On May 24, 2020
Agbagbaregoo:
I just met this lady and everything seems to be clicking. she just started a business after I gingered her and I had to patronize her. in the course I transferred some money to her to patronize her far more money than she was selling the Stuff so as to encourage her. The bank debited me and I told her I sent it.

Throughout that day she claimed not to have gotten the money. Then throughout the next day same story so the third day I went to the bank to receive the statement of account. lo and behold her name was boldly written and the bank people told me she has gotten it. I got very angry and sent it to her but I didn't tell her anything I just ignored her call.

A policeman asked for her number at the bank that he will question her. throughout these period I ignored her and I was just imagining how a beautiful light skin tender looking babe will behave like this. Then lo and behold today the bank reversed the money. I can't explain the feeling of disappointment.

Now she said she doesn't want to have anything to do with me again that she doesn't want wahala for her life. She finally picked after many trials of calling and she insisted on me leaving her life.she even said she's not doing business again. I don't know what to do.

You acted so immaturely. What you should have done is asked her to go to bank and get her bank statement. Same way you acted one of my wife’s elder brother acted. We did a business and i sent his commission twice! Only for him to tell me after 3 days he didn’t see any alert yet, that he has no time to go to the bank. The 6th day, he called me and ran all manner of insult on me and went as far as laying threat on me. That provoked me, I went to the station, got a police man to pick him up and forcefully took him to his bank to get a bank statement from him. Behold, the money I sent twice is in his account. I just told him to transfer back my over sent money, never to step his feet in my house again and stay da fvck away from my family.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by SocialJustice: 3:34pm On May 24, 2020
Agbagbaregoo:
I just met this lady and everything seems to be clicking. she just started a business after I gingered her and I had to patronize her. in the course I transferred some money to her to patronize her far more money than she was selling the Stuff so as to encourage her. The bank debited me and I told her I sent it.

Throughout that day she claimed not to have gotten the money. Then throughout the next day same story so the third day I went to the bank to receive the statement of account. lo and behold her name was boldly written and the bank people told me she has gotten it. I got very angry and sent it to her but I didn't tell her anything I just ignored her call.

A policeman asked for her number at the bank that he will question her. throughout these period I ignored her and I was just imagining how a beautiful light skin tender looking babe will behave like this. Then lo and behold today the bank reversed the money. I can't explain the feeling of disappointment.

Now she said she doesn't want to have anything to do with me again that she doesn't want wahala for her life. She finally picked after many trials of calling and she insisted on me leaving her life.she even said she's not doing business again. I don't know what to do.
You grew up in Nigeria to adulthood and you still don't know Nigerian banks.

Bank did not destroy your relationship, you did. Spill the details of your toxic reaction to her while you were not taking her calls.

You're definitely a short tempered toxic person that should be avoided.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by MPESA(m): 3:35pm On May 24, 2020
MrBrownJay1:


but what the babe is indirectly insinuating is that he is a fraudster... while she already received the money (for whatever he was buying + wooing money). would you still want to be lovey dovey with the babe (which is what the dude was hoping for)?

E bi like say you no sabi read and understand and you comment , go back and reread again this time slowly....

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by Nobody: 3:35pm On May 24, 2020
Agbagbaregoo:

Put yourself in my shoes. How would you feel if they told you at the bank the person you sent money to has received it and is only playing pranks won't you be madd. Mstcheew

From this your response again, I really think the lady is better off without you.

I also think you need to work on your impatience and anger issues before venturing into another relationship.

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by queenitee(f): 3:35pm On May 24, 2020
OgogoroFreak:
She should have showed you her own statement. Might be the bank revert the payment from her account cos she claimed she didn't received it. Do banks even have the power to do that?
How would a bank revert the money cause she claimed she didn't see it? Once money enter your account, it is your money. Bank has no power to make any transaction on the money without your approval/decision. And if she returned the money it won't be as a reversal but as a normal credit alert.
Ah ah, do you people want to see women as being evil so much that you start commenting illogically?

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Re: How A Bank Ruined My Relationship. by smatme(m): 3:36pm On May 24, 2020
The same thing happened to my grand mother in 1958.

After the initial gra gra, she later agree.

Then she born my mama, my mama born me.

See me now on NAIRALAND.

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