Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,


I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had , I served in a village. while we were serving he doesn’t give me much , I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place ,he had a roommate and I didn’t , before he gives me any money we always had issues , not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to . I don’t even ask for much .

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year , got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up , his just passed , I told him that I would expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday , that if money cms he will send but right now he has no money ,, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me , he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away n he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us .


Am tired , he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on he’s friends and it annoying , i think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it , I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him . He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

My birthday would be coming up , his just passed , I told him that I would expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday...

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,


I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had , I served in a village. while we were serving he doesn’t give me much , I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place ,he had a roommate and I didn’t , before he gives me any money we always had issues , not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to . I don’t even ask for much .

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year , got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up , his just passed , I told him that I would expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday , that if money cms he will send but right now he has no money ,, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me , he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away n he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us .


Am tired , he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on he’s friends and it annoying , i think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it , I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him . He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

Spaceclenzy1:
Instead of Help him build himself ur here derailing a guy u said to be faithful on.. Bcoz he didn't send u money on ur birthday and u said to be working yet u didn't send him on his own birthday.... U must be an Ungratfull Human being

Positivechick:
ungrateful that what ?

Ladylite:

Wow, you have really suffered.
But are you sure you don't have low self esteem?

For you to cope and continue with a burden of a man, with a man who is proud enough not to hustle.

Babe, you should really study more books on relationship so you know that you are not in one, you are in a disaster waiting to happen.

Don't waste your time. Walk away, he may blow later or become rich... It does not matter. Go and watch the movie ACRIMONY... Then you will receive sense.

You are in a relationship with Covid19 in human form. Pls have self respect enough to leave and stay single till you meet a man that complements you.

Spaceclenzy1:
Instead of Help him build himself ur here derailing a guy u said to be faithful on.. Bcoz he didn't send u money on ur birthday and u said to be working yet u didn't send him on his own birthday.... U must be an Ungratfull Human being

Positivechick:
I should help him grow while he doesn’t take care of me , no matter how little. Am sorry I can’t do that .

Humanoid01:

What exactly is the problem? Is it that he doesn't take care of you or that he's not serious about getting a job?

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,


I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had , I served in a village. while we were serving he doesn’t give me much , I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place ,he had a roommate and I didn’t , before he gives me any money we always had issues , not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to . I don’t even ask for much .

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year , got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up , his just passed , I told him that I would expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday , that if money cms he will send but right now he has no money ,, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me , he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away n he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us .


Am tired , he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on he’s friends and it annoying , i think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it , I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him . He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

Positivechick:
I should help him grow while he doesn’t take care of me , no matter how little. Am sorry I can’t do that .

StrongandMighty:

Since you're working take care of yourself, He's neither your father nor your husband.

Positivechick:
both .

Ningen:


Tell us; How much did you send to him on his own birthday? — Or that didn't cross your mind?

I am genuinely pleased you broke up with him.
Man gotta wake up and plan with no liability.

You did yourself a good thing too.
But the pleasure is HIS.

Humanoid01:

But it seems like the former is the main problem. In other words, you want him to get a job so he can take care of you, which means that you're indirectly pushing him for your own gratification.

Though he seems to be proud and has misplaced priorities, you also need to look at yourself and see what you're doing wrong. Stop demanding things from him like you're his sole responsibility.

Positivechick:
thanks a lot , sometimes I was just hopeful, he is waiting for a big job. He isn’t even too serious about job searching ,it’s so passive to him , I don’t care if he’s a teacher , or a sales boy or a filling station attendant , just get busy. He said he can’t do it.

Positivechick:
okay.

Positivechick:
nope , he does not do jack for me , not a single thing . This is the first time since almost a year I am asking him for money. He has chosen not to give , n I hv chosen to break up and focus on myself continue paying my bills without him .

Positivechick:
thanks a lot , sometimes I was just hopeful, he is waiting for a big job. He isn’t even too serious about job searching ,it’s so passive to him , I don’t care if he’s a teacher , or a sales boy or a filling station attendant , just get busy. He said he can’t do it.

Humanoid01:

But according to you, he doesn't have a good source of income, so how do you expect him to give, or even have to give? If he had a job and you know he earns well, and he decides not to give, I think that's a different case.

James4bright:


You seem like a really cool girl. Don't listen to those random guys making you look like a gold digger. That dude isn't serious about his life, let him be.

I wish I had a girl who really cared about my career that much.

Positivechick:
ungrateful that what ?

StrongandMighty:


Relief yourself from this entitlement syndrome &
leave the guy alone! He doesn't owe you anything and he deserves someone that's not entitled like you..
Make your own money and spoil yourself the way you want so you won't have any reason to create this kind of thread again

Humanoid01:

But according to you, he doesn't have a good source of income, so how do you expect him to give, or even have to give? If he had a job and you know he earns well, and he decides not to give, I think that's a different case. So the problem shouldn't be about him not giving, it should be his refusal to do something meaningful.