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Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,


I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had , I served in a village. while we were serving he doesn’t give me much , I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place ,he had a roommate and I didn’t , before he gives me any money we always had issues , not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to . I don’t even ask for much .

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year , got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up , his just passed , I told him that I would expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday , that if money cms he will send but right now he has no money ,, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me , he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away n he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us .


Am tired , he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on he’s friends and it annoying , i think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it , I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him . He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

Hunty you said he doesn't have vision nor aim and you want him to spend his scares resources(money) on your birthday.

I think you met you match, sorry but you both had no vision, did you advice him to look for good job? Try business? Learn a skill?

You are a graduate, what have you done for yourself?

Ladylite:
Wow, you have really suffered.
But are you sure you don't have low self esteem?

For you to cope and continue with a burden of a man, with a man who is proud enough not to hustle.

Babe, you should really study more books on relationship so you know that you are not in one, you are in a disaster waiting to happen.

Don't waste your time. Walk away, he may blow later or become rich... It does not matter. Go and watch the movie ACRIMONY... Then you will receive sense.

You are in a relationship with Covid19 in human form. Pls have self respect enough to leave and stay single till you meet a man that complements you.

A man that compliments her?
For God sake she is begging for money for a birthday party, i think they compliment each other.

hey lady, i sense your boyfriend is a sanguine, sanguines aint that bothered about tomorrow, they live in the present believing tomorrow will sort out itself, just give him time, thanks for being self sufficient, you can read more on types of temperament, that will give you ideas on how to relate well with him.

Shormiey:
Atleast a small gift abi ?

Atleast.... Small gift... Little things matters to me...

Lamanii22:
The OP is doing well for herself so you're the fool here.... Oponu!

Your entire households are obviously living in abject penury. Having a parasitic mindset shows how miserable you are living your life. That's if you even have a life. ode oshi

Saintinoo:
Hunty you said he doesn't have vision nor aim and you want him to spend his scares resources(money) on your birthday.

I think you met you match, sorry but you both had no vision, did you advice him to look for good job? Try business? Learn a skill?

You are a graduate, what have you done for yourself?

u didn’t read my post

Arrogantbro:
Your entire households are obviously living in abject penury. Having a parasitic mindset shows how miserable you are living your life. That's if you even have a life. ode oshi

You're talking to yourself and your generations not me...

Lamanii22:
You're talking to yourself and your generations not me...

quote me again and ogun will faya your miserable life. Mumu, dirty thing

Arrogantbro:
quote me again and ogun will faya your miserable life. Mumu, dirty thing

You are talking to yourself and your generations.... Not me... You came to my mention you should run ASAP...

[quote author=Positivechick post=90011923]ungrateful that what ? [/quo

I want us to discuss some things. Hoping to hear from you

Arrogantbro:
quote me again and ogun will faya your miserable life. Mumu, dirty thing

Ha Guy! You arrogant oo

[quote author=Shormiey post=90013570][/quote]Werey want use style enter the girl head, see strategy

Nairaland guys i trowey yansh give una....

Rickmann:
The case of ACRIMONY is quite different from this in that he never stopped working hard, believing in his hustle and at the same time still loved and cherished her even though he had nothing...all she had to do was wait a little longer as the darkest part of the night is just before dawn, but she gave up, falling to family pressure... Just then, the breakthrough happened.

That is why I asked her to watch it.

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,


I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had , I served in a village. while we were serving he doesn’t give me much , I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place ,he had a roommate and I didn’t , before he gives me any money we always had issues , not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to . I don’t even ask for much .

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year , got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up , his just passed , I told him that I would expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday , that if money cms he will send but right now he has no money ,, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me , he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away n he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us .


Am tired , he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on he’s friends and it annoying , i think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it , I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him . He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

From your write up I got to know you're a good person with unique and rare features, I also appreciate the fact that you value the relationship more unlike some girls who're only interested in the ceremonial aspect of it, i.e birthday and wedding.

If you truly love him then I'll advice you to please sit him down so you both can have a deep conversation about
1. Sustaining the relationship
2. The need for him to search for a job or
learn a skill
3. Having a vision so as to accomplish his
goals

If he continues being jobless and prefer moving with friends to and fro, believe me he'll continue being stringy{not that he's stingy} but he can only give what he have.
It will be impossible for a professor in Mathematics to supervise an MSc student in microbiology so just know you have a big role to play before you give up

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,


I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had , I served in a village. while we were serving he doesn’t give me much , I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place ,he had a roommate and I didn’t , before he gives me any money we always had issues , not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to . I don’t even ask for much .

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year , got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up , his just passed , I told him that I would expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday , that if money cms he will send but right now he has no money ,, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me , he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away n he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us .


Am tired , he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on he’s friends and it annoying , i think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it , I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him . He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

In 2020.. Babe is still looking for boy who would take care of her. My dear r/ship is not by force, take care of urself first, it will make you more attractive to better guys but if you must love an idiot, then love unconditionally and stop complaining.

OP I share your concerns and all that. See eh, just make yourself look good, feel good and be happy. You're responsible for your happiness. In as much as he doesn't owe you anything (entitlement), always note that relationship can be liken the a ship going to a definite destination. If in your estimation you feel this your ship is not taking you anywhere, simply japa. Continue to be a nice and happy person and you will attract same type of personality. Cheers.

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,


I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had , I served in a village. while we were serving he doesn’t give me much , I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place ,he had a roommate and I didn’t , before he gives me any money we always had issues , not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to . I don’t even ask for much .

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year , got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up , his just passed , I told him that I would expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday , that if money cms he will send but right now he has no money ,, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me , he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away n he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us .


Am tired , he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on he’s friends and it annoying , i think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it , I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him . He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

RUN

His a real guy for not spending on u anyhow, what is birthday? That u are killing yourself ontop

The only error i see in him is not taking is career serious, but who knows maybe his a lowkey guy.

Ladies nag alot

As for me baby mama things

Humanoid01:
What exactly is the problem? Is it that he doesn't take care of you or that he's not serious about getting a job?

As in eeh

Stevyne:
Because he no give you Money for birthday He's stingy,
No goals, No focus.


The moment will start taking responsibility for our lives, and hold on to the fact that no one owes you anything.

hahaha
Canu imagine?


Na money him no get,no be goals or focus

Theundertaker:
A man who truly loves you would know the right thing to do

like?

usmanbaba:
You seems to be the stingy one here, knowing fully well he is not working and still asking him for money is wickedness.

witchcraft

Spaceclenzy1:
Instead of Help him build himself ur here derailing a guy u said to be faithful on.. Bcoz he didn't send u money on ur birthday and u said to be working yet u didn't send him on his own birthday.... U must be an Ungratfull Human being

For God so loved the world that He gave.....

Please have sense.

Paxie55:
Yes!! I had an ex, though he wasn't lazy but he was very stingy and he wasn't rich then. So, I had to use my head and calculate the speed of the race I was about to take. I finally left him, since then till now, he's still not financially stable. Lol.

bcoz him no dey live fake life.

is either u lied abt him bn stingy or not financially stable or.......?

You are tried...

Issokay

FGonline:
bcoz him no dey live fake life.

is either u lied abt him bn stingy or not financially stable or.......?

Or what? Did I tell my story to impress you?

Ishilove:
You are tried...

Issokay

You are always on the lookout for grammatical error

HORLADSTAR:
You are always on the lookout for grammatical error

Everywhere I turn there is bad grammar. It is getting to me

Paxie55:
Or what? Did I tell my story to impress you?

and u pain dat I exposed ur fake life on social media?

Even though I only read the title, I can confidently say, "Being stingy to a woman during courtship is wisdom, but in marriage, it's not."

FGonline:
and u pain dat I exposed ur fake life on social media?

Lol. Like I never dated a stingy man? Well, I would wish that to myself in my next world. Lol.