simeotexy:
my own is that weda scam o.or not...I had a girl Wu didn't want to have sex with me b4 marriage I agreed but she was fucking three to 4 guys steady....I was so heartbroken wen I found out

No be only you bro, we plenty for this table ..
All those spiri koko sis yen...
It's well

paxonel:
for us to understand this whole thing, how do you define marriage?
What is marriage?

According to Oxford
Marriage can be defined as the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex in a CONSENSUAL and contractual relationship.

take note of the word CONSENSUAL.
meaning, it involves the agreement of the two individuals who want to live as husband and wife and not necessarily involving the consents of the family into some kind of marriage ceremony first.

That also implies that if a boyfriend and girlfriend have decided to be committed to their union such that they steak together as if they are married people, then they are legally married until the very day they decide to separate.

And if they have decided to live together like that till death do them apart, then God is aproved of such union.

On what basis do you define boy/girlfriend relationship as a legal marriage?
I'd love to see your marriage certificate authorising you to be formally having sex and cohabitating with your gf.

Just pray she doesn't sleep in your house one day and refuse to wake up.
Na dat u go hearam.

Thank God for Nairaland.
Anyone with a phone and data subscription can submit an opinion these days.

jidxin:
lol how on earth can you compare it with all this stupid illustrations. This is so absurd

Services!

Sex can be likened to a service.

So how do you buy into it when you have not test runned its performance and safety features.

In worst case scenario, see a catalogue and customer review will give you an idea about what you getting into.

On a average of 50 year contract, you telling me not to test run what am getting into?

No! Its not done.

content208:


Even if we are hypocrites, the truth still remains the truth. Our hypocrisy doesn't change the truth.

If you want a man that will truly date you without sex, you too should be ready to date him without having your eyes on his money. You too shouldn't think he should be giving you money because he happens to be dating you. If you settle that, then you have done your part.

I am not entitled to his money, same way he isnt entitled to my body.
I only have to be certain that he wont be a financially irresponsible husband

Oluwadamilare118:


I love your write up!

Now, this makes more sense than what i read yesterday. God's standards remain the same and will never change regardless of what you choose to believe, say or do!

I won't talk about all the concubines and side chicks David and Solomon knack finish....

AllenSpencer:
Its a scam!

Logically, Its insane to marry someone you have not fvcked before.

How do you buy a multi-million car without test driving it.

We talking about what you intend spending the rest of your life with and you telling me not to test run it? Fvck!

Even Suya, You taste before buying.

This is a baseless notion. Its fiction and law is only for fools!

Do you taste bread, cowbell milk, bournvita or rice before you buy it?

elpochas:
I think we should learn to respect each other opinoins.we should also know that we have different religions and cultures in this world,which some are in support and some are against sex before marraige.so if sex before marraige is good or bad for you its all boil down to your opinion and the way you see it from your own angle.

The post is meant for Christians, especially those who were led astray by the previous poster in the other thread.

Anyone who believes in the Lord Jesus will not argue with the words of this poster.

That people are comfortable in sexual immorality doesn't mean they should try to make it okay so many people can follow their path.

Interesting15:
So a guy here recently published a piece claiming no sex before marriage is a scam..

At first, I was thinking he's just one of those loose guys who only justify sexual immorality because they can't be human enough to gain mastery over their bodies, and who can't control themselves and are slaves to their urges.. But I was shocked that this guy was attempting to justify an unholy act like premarital sex, with the Holy Scriptures..

I was like, JESUS, this guy must be stopped!

First of all, if you check the guy's profile, you will discover he is selling sex tools and products. Therefore, he is only trying to pervert people's mind so they could comfortably patronise him. He is aware that the Holy Words of God is a threat to the sales of his immoral sex tools, hence, he is trying to twist the scriptures for his own dirty motives.. If only he knew the danger of what he just did! Don't forget that the devil too is a master at twisting the Bible!

Nevertheless, please discard his claims.. The Word of God stands sure.. Premarital sex is a sin, because it is contrary to God's Will. God's Will is that all sexual experiences should be shared between a married man and his female wife only, in the safe circle of their marriage.

The Bible says in Hebrews 13:4: "Marriage is honorable among all, and (let) the marriage bed (be) undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge"

It means, those that indulged in premarital sex will not only hurt themselves (STDs, unwanted pregnancies, etc), but will attract punishments to themselves (and even the devil will have a chance to afflict them).

God Himself said: "...the sexually immoral...shall have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death" Revelation 21:8

The guy even claimed that during the time of Mary and Joseph, virginity wasn't highly regarded. That's a lie from the pit of hell! Their society was a very conservative one, and women caught indulging in sexual immorality are usually stoned to death!

The guy also claimed that you can sleep around because "God only sees a clean and a pure heart". Can you imagine! If you wear a clean white dress, won't you avoid anything that can get it stained?

In conclusion, although the world is currently vehemently corrupt (as we are in the last days), I want you to know that there are still many of us (Sons and Daughters of YAHWEH) still obeying Him and living lives of total purity. And guess what? We are happy and blessed. We are enjoying our marriages, and raising godly and responsible children.

You've just spoken my mind.
When I first read that useless article that "no sex before marriage is a scam" and the poster was using the holy Bible to defend his useless point, I furious and I wanted to make an article also "sex before marriage is never a scam".
Thank God you've spoke my mind.

FromZeroToHero:
Let's settle it once and for all. Like for sex b4 marriage. Share for no sex b4 marriage.

Your likes won't change the scriptures bro, and they won't defend you on the day of judgement.

dont worry, if you are a good guy hopefully you will land a good lady, just like me, since i started sharing data to my friends using the new Airtel Me2U plan i havent lacked anything especially data and airtime, what you give you take.

kenzysmith:
my future wife na go dey suck one guy dick on a daily basis for one side and later she go come end up with a good guy like me use the same mouth kiss me on my wedding chai

Thank you Op and God bless you. I didn't see the thread and do not plan to see it either. You can be sure there many of such here on Nairaland always twisting God's Word and also attacking the Church or anyone that represents Christ. The gates of hell will surely not prevail and we pray for as many that have taken in the lies in that thread, to be delivered from the deception of Satan therein.
The end is truly here, let the true believers keep their garment cleans, backsliders, know that there is room for repentance and those that have not experienced Jesus, come and encounter him, you will be glad for all eternity.

Coder2Client:


Do you taste bread, cowbell milk, bournvita or rice before you buy it?

Good question!


And when I taste and it doesnt meet normal expectation and satisfaction, I return and get a refund with an apology included.

AllenSpencer:


Services!

Sex can be likened to a service.

So how do you buy into it when you have not test runned its performance and safety features.

In worst case scenario, see a catalogue and customer review will give you an idea about what you getting into.

On a average of 50 year contract, you telling me not to test run what am getting into?

No! Its not done.

Only an ignorant fellow will give such a flimsy and shallow definition to sex.

Sex is fellowship, union, communion.

It takes a level of trust and unashamedness to strip naked before another person and join your body to theirs.

Some of you are just too careless, too reckless.

There is a spiritual connection to sex that every religion, culture, people, civilisation recognises.

If you wish to remain ignorant, remain ignorant.

AllenSpencer:
Its a scam!

Logically, Its insane to marry someone you have not fvcked before.

How do you buy a multi-million car without test driving it.

We talking about what you intend spending the rest of your life with and you telling me not to test run it? Fvck!

Even Suya, You taste before buying.

This is a baseless notion. Its fiction and law is only for fools!

You said "buy" this one you ve not paid the bride price she is not your wife yet.


We can't even compare that your scenario with it.
If you re confused about the matter ask questions don't act as if you know...

psyco:
Is disobeying God reasonable?

Why do you assume everyone believes the same religion as you?

Thank you OP. i married my wife as virgin after 7 years serious dating. no cheating and we are serious with our career and study. Today, we are have 2 kids and there is no problem. Because sex after wedding didnt work for you, that doesnt mean it will not work for others. i am a living testimony.

Interesting15:
For those asking "What if I discovered after our wedding that my partner do not have a functional sexual organ?"

Number one, if you are a genuine child of God, and He is the one that asked you to marry a particular person, you can be sure He won't give you a spouse you won't enjoy.

Two, If you are not sure that God is the one that asked you to marry that partner of yours, simply demand a medical check up/test. Before the wedding, in many churches, both parties must submit a medical report of things like their blood group, etc. With such, it will be easy for both parties to know the other person's body state if they are so concerned about it...

So, you see, sin can't be justified!

I don't support sex before marriage, but here to tackle ur selfish comment.

If God will not give u a spouse with sexual malfunctioning organ or people with sexual problems, who will now marry them?

so they too aren't children of God?

DIVINEEVIDENCE:


Only an ignorant fellow will give such a flimsy and shallow definition to sex.

Sex is fellowship, union, communion.

It takes a level of trust and unashamedness to strip naked before another person and join your body to theirs.

Some of you are just too careless, too reckless.

There is a spiritual connection to sex that every religion, culture, people, civilisation recognises.

If you wish to remain ignorant, remain ignorant.

Stop hiding the glaring truth!

Sex is fun and very sweet


So when she strips naked on the wedding night and you get to realise she is spotted like a dalmatian and a oozing beneath, then you blame me for calling for a divorce 24 hours after wedding. Or when I get to realise she is sextually weak and have to go for alternatives, you will refer to me as a dog.

Face reality as its facing you. Its is not logical, feasible or imaginable.

Farki:


Why do you assume everyone believes the same religion as you?

God is sovereign.

Your unbelief changes nothing!

olumike001:

You said "buy" this one you ve not paid the bride price she is not your wife yet.


We can't even compare that your scenario with it.
If you re confused about the matter ask questions don't act as if you know...

You not getting the vibe!

Interesting15:
For those asking "What if I discovered after our wedding that my partner do not have a functional sexual organ?"

Number one, if you are a genuine child of God, and He is the one that asked you to marry a particular person, you can be sure He won't give you a spouse you won't enjoy.

Two, If you are not sure that God is the one that asked you to marry that partner of yours, simply demand a medical check up/test. Before the wedding, in many churches, both parties must submit a medical report of things like their blood group, etc. With such, it will be easy for both parties to know the other person's body state if they are so concerned about it...

So, you see, sin can't be justified!

The church and Christian individuals have brought many doctrines totally not stated in the word of God and made them laws to enslave people bt I like to call them doctrines of men and religious practices and beliefs.

I'm not against purity in anyways bt that doesn't mean people who don't are going to going to hell. Also sexual impurity is not the only thing that can take sm1 to hell, it states lies, malice, anger and many others so I must ask who is perfect shud pls stand up.

We must strive for perfection bt only Christ can truely make us perfect. That is the Fact b4 we assume we are that good of ourselves be u a virgin, celibate or not. However Advocating for sexual immorality is completely wrong.

rockstarB:

I am not entitled to his money, same way he isnt entitled to my body.
I only have to be certain that he wont be a financially irresponsible husband

Collecting money from him won't help you ascertain that; simply looking around and listening to him will be enough to determine if he will be financially responsible or not.

AllenSpencer:


Stop hiding the glaring truth!

Sex is fun and very sweet


So when she strips naked on the wedding night and you get to realise she is spotted like a dalmatian and a oozing beneath, then you blame me for calling for a divorce 24 hours after wedding. Or when I get to realise she is sextually weak and have to go for alternatives, you will refer to me as a dog.

Face reality as its facing you. Its is not logical, feasible or imaginable.

Lol.
You're a kid obviously.
Most likely a teenager.

When did skin pigmentation/scarification become a sufficient basis for divorce?

Every other thing you mentioned here is purely a product of childish thinking.
These are all things that can be worked on and changed.

Marriage is for people who are in love with each other.
Those things you mentioned can't even shake a loving marriage relationship.

Grow up boy!

We are all just deceiving ourselves if we try to justify premarital sex.
Anyone who has had sex before marriage will realize that everything said about fornication was true.
They just can't stop it so they try to justify it.

jaxxy:


The church and Christian individuals have brought many doctrines totally not stated in the word of God and made them laws to enslave people bt I call them doctrines of men.

I'm not against purity in anyways bt that doesn't mean people who don't are going to going to hell. Also sexual impurity is not the only thing that can take sm1 to hell, it states lies, malice, anger and many others so I must ask who is perfect shud pls stand up.

We must strive for perfection bt only Christ can truely make us perfect. That is the Fact b4 we assume we are that good of ourselves be u a virgin, celibate or not. However Advocating for sexual immorality is completely wrong.

If you don't know why the church is always vehemently opposed to sexual improprieties, go read I Corinthians 6:18 and Proverbs 6:32, 33 amongst other verses that point to the potential reaches of sexual sin.

All this nonsense started with Christianity and the brainwashing we received from western media.
In the days when we practiced our ancient Hebrew culture, who is you to carry another man's daughter without knocking on the door? Who born you?
What you call boyfriend and girlfriend, our ancestors called harlotry. Even to enter once, and they catch you, they'll call it rape and you must marry the girl.

And those days, when you marry, you know say na chassis you marry. These days, you never can tell. It's even the girls that are looking for men. YAH have mercy!

I also believe our lifestyles have been altered. We wait too long to get married! Another European strategy to check our population growth. Who said you must graduate before you marry and born pikin? Some even add masters and Phd?

Lol religious black people,so all the premarital sex your ancestors had before British brought Christianity unkor Those who want to keep their virginity should keep is their problem,we live in a world where women cover themselves in black cause some book said so,humanity generally for most of it's existence have never been very smart

DIVINEEVIDENCE:


Lol.
You're a kid obviously.
Most likely a teenager.

When did skin pigmentation/scarification become a sufficient basis for divorce?

Every other thing you mentioned here is purely a product of childish thinking.
These are all things that can be worked on and changed.

Marriage is for people who are in love with each other.
Those things you mentioned can't even shake a loving marriage relationship.

Grow up boy!

Your beliefs are fictions.

Far from reality.

You keep shying away from sextual satisfaction which is a major block in the foundation of marriage. And trying to ridicule that fact is baseless.

Their must be sex before marriage and not just once, twice or thrice.

You must have every assurance to know you on the right part after evaluating other features.

Sex plays a vital role pre and post marriage

RamessesIV:
Lol religious black people,so all the premarital sex your ancestors had before British brought Christianity unkor Those who want to keep their virginity should keep is their problem,we live in a world where women cover themselves in black cause some book said so,humanity generally for most of it's existence have never been very smart

And having indiscriminate sex is your own definition of smartness?