OritaIbadan:
I employed this 21years old lady last year as a sales rep. At resumption to work she appears so decently and godly always With her Bible and Sunday school manual. I was really impressed by her spiritual and respectful nature. This made me treat her differently from others. I buy her things and sometimes gives her money and always discuss her good lifestyle with my wife. But what amazed me was that my wife was so indifferent about her each time I discuss her my wife will quickly change the topic. I thought, well women with their naughty behavior towards other women.

Fast forward to June first this year her phone was stolen and I have a phone in office that I allow them access to incase their phone is off I can easily reach them through it. This faithful day, I tried to access my Facebook account using the office phone and found out that this same lady had used it but forget to logout. Well, I knew it was wrong to check her inbox but all the same I did.

After checking her inbox I couldn't sleep all night. I found out that she is having unprotected sex with 5 guys each guy per Sunday and she just did an abortion March this year the very day she told me that she was sick and can't make it to work and she wasn't sure who among the guys that impregnated her. I also found out that she had missed her period again and trying to hang it on one of the boys. The amazing thing is that none of these guys suspects her, they all believe she is a faithful girlfriend.

I have thought of relieving her of her job, but my wife is asking me what should I give as reasons. But the truth is that I had never witnessed such a wayward life before. If I pretend as though I know nothing she will eventually commit another abortion and continue with such life which is very dangerous at her age. What if she is my own daughter?

Please I want the mode to push this to the front page. I want to seek others opinions about it

You shouldn't even be discussing this. Whether you fire her or not it won't change anything. Just advise her...but what the hell made you read a sales girl's messages to the extent of your discovery, that's low mehn, very low

Any person that is that deceitful will soon start stealing from the shop.

OP invaded her privacy.

So also did she break business and work etiquette by using an office phone for social media.

If I were OP, I would advise her, then mind my business and monitor my business' finances with laser sharp accuracy.

21 year old should have small sense at least.

Going by this comment and the number of likes you got, I can confidently say nairaland is full of immature folks.

BlueAir:
Leave the wayward girl be. It's herself she's doing not you or your business.keep using her for sales.you can sack her when she's turning ur shop to brothel or hookup centre

Amotolongbo:
We should learn how to separate business from personal life.

She is your sales girl, relate with her strictly on business and show less concern on her personal life.
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The way we mind our business this days ehn! Hmmn, if she dress half naked mind your business, if she gets abortion, mind your business, not knowing that all these little business minding gives back to the society,
Money that's not enough, she'll use it to buy drugs for abortion, she'll break all the guys mind n probably change their mentality, from there one might decide to be a rapist, from there the society is getting more ruined

Everyone's business is to be your brothers keeper,
Yoruba will say, 4 eyes gives birth to a child but 200 guides it to maturity
Sir be one of the 200, don't leave the lady to herself, you might be her Angel



This business minding hmmmn

I strongly disagree with people who think you should just mind your business. If you are a Christian, you must use wisdom to tall to this girl in order to save her future. Codrdly talk to her without her knowing you went through her Facebook inbox. Let her know the danger in having multiple sex partners. Don't lay her off because of her way of life for now, it may worsen her already bad way of life.

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OritaIbadan:
I employed this 21years old lady last year as a sales rep. At resumption to work she appeard so decent and godly always With her Bible and Sunday school manual. I was really impressed by her spiritual and respectful nature. This made me treat her different from others. I buy her things and sometimes gives her money and always discuss her good life style with my wife. But what amazed me was that my wife was so indifferent about her each time I discuss her my wife will quickly change the topic. I thought, well woman with their naughty behavior towards other women.

Fast forward to June first this year her phone was stolen and I have a phone in office that I allow them access to incase their phone is off I can easily reach them through it. This faithful day, I tried to access my Facebook account using the office phone and found out that this same lady had used it but forget to logout. Well, I knew it was wrong to check her inbox but all the same I did.

After checking her inbox I couldn't sleep all night. I found out that she is having unprotected sex with 5 guys each guy per Sunday and she just did an abortion March this year the very day she told me that she was sick and can't make it to work and she wasn't sure who among the guys that impregnated her. I also found out that she had missed her period again and trying to hang it on one of the boys. The amazing thing is that non of these guys suspects her, they all believe she is a faithful girl friend.

I have thought of relieving her of her job, but my wife is asking me what should I give as reasons. But the truth is that I had never winessed such a wayward life before. If I pretend as though I know nothing she will eventually commit another abortion and continue with such life which is very dangerous at her age. What if she is my own daughter?

Please I want the mode to push this to the front page. I want to seek others opnion about it

Am glad there are still humans who has a good sense of humanity and cares for others...I love the phrase 'of what if she is your daughter'May God not give you a wayward one .All the same kindly call her to order speak the truth not as a boss but as a brother and father to her let her then make her choice either to change or continue eventually if anything happens to her it's her sole responsibility and you can know the root of the problem.if you don't tell her th truth what if she goes for the abortion and she comes back and falls of in your work place?who do you think they will accuse first?you sir try your best for her and leave the rest to her

If she eventually collapse due to frequent abortion and die in your shop police no go hear story and it will surely affect your business.Let her know your findings and how it could destroy her life.If she promise to change put her on your watchlist and save her job.

I won't join others in saying you should mind your business ..That you said as a Father you feel concerned makes me to feel so much about this issue. If am in your position, and I want her to change, I will call her. Tell her what I found. How how I found it. Forget about the way she will react . Tell her to desist from such act. How it will destroy her Advice her like A father. So if anything happens tomorrow, there won't be any blame on you.
That u had the opportunity to to make a change in her life. But u didn't .. all because u want to mind my bussiness. May be it's even God that made you to see her inbox. So you can make an impact. may be your Advice will be a turning point in her life. May be she doesn't have anyone who advices her at home. Don't let her be destroyed when you have the opportunity to make a change. Minding our bussiness has really destroyed this country morally. If she want to resign Because you told her the truth, then let her go. Sooner or later she will come to Appreciate you. So just remain a good Father. Talk to her. Don't lie. Tell her you opened her inbox. Tell her the evils you saw. But don't sack her. But if she want to leave .. she should go. Peace.

OritaIbadan:

Alright just thinking as a father is it the best

There is this satisfaction you get when you at least I tried....
Talk to her, advice her but don't relive sack her based on that...
Let her know that you would only sack her if her life style starts stopping her form coming to work...

Ningen:
We all have a responsibility towards building a sane society. As her employer, don't turn a blind eye to her promiscuous lifestyle. She's just 21.

As such, sacking her wouldn't solve anything.
What she badly need right now is sex education.

Your wife can take that responsibility.

It's a step forward if she learns from a woman about the dangers of promiscuity & unprotected sex. Please do that for the sake of humanity.

Oh my God... Thank God the world still have your kind. May God bless you richly. I already liked your comment even before reading the 3rd line.

Another cock and bull story. SMH.

Nezzjnr:
You guys are saying OP should mind his business... For what exactly??
Didn't you see where OP stated that he's like a Fatherly figure to her and she's different from the others

This girl is still a minor working as a sales rep... If something bad happens to her... All fingers will be pointing towards OP.

Oga make una keep quiet. Forming holier than thou. Father figure ko mother figure ni. Biko how is 21 years a minor? because country bad and she working as a sales rep bah? What in the world even made the idiot oga to go and check her INBOX. It's not as if inbox is the home page you would first see when you open a webpage.

What was he snooping around for? He wants to bang the poor girl. I can bet my balls that that nigga has sent obscene messages to several girls on fb. Imagine someone displaying your private life in the open because he pays you some useless money that is not even enough to eat food in fast food? Even God does not display people's privacy in the open.

Why is it so difficult for people to keep business strictly business? because he pays her one useless 10 or 20k per month which is not up to 20 Naira per hour gives him right to pry into her private life. In a sane country that guy could go to jail for this nonsense.

Note this is not to support her way of life. But first a 21-year old is an adult. And the boss is not in the position to do anything about it.

BlueAir:
Leave the wayward girl be. It's herself she's doing not you or your business.keep using her for sales.you can sack her when she's turning ur shop to brothel or hookup centre

Selfish and inconsiderate answer and advise. So when her awkwardness leads to her self distraught, that will be fine with you and the OP. Who knows his intervention will go a long way to deliver the girl from her actions. The girl is just 21 for Christ sake. The worst advise I have ever heard from Nairaland except you are joking. He should get her wife involved as couple and see how this broken pieces should be gathered together again, even if it means patching up her pieces in other to develope shape. ALWAYS ASK, ASSUMING IF SHE IS DAUGHTER OR SISTER. Empathy is the key, be human again.

BlueAir:
Leave the wayward girl be. It's herself she's doing not you or your business.keep using her for sales.you can sack her when she's turning ur shop to brothel or hookup centre

Only God will judge you. Yet you blame your leaders for being ignorant. You see something bad, you can't talk about it because you want to keep on doing evil things without being judged too. May God forgive you. Just know one good turn deserves another.

annford:
It was wrong for you to have gone through her chat because you'd have frowned at it if reverse were the case. Personally, I don't think it is in your place to judge her or treat her any different just because you dug up some stuffs about her. If you must let her go, you might as well sit her down, tell her your findings, get her to see her wrong and just hope she changes. I had a similar experience. My Wife and I had met a girl who was an unapologetic lesbian. We did all we could to change her but she just didn't want to change. We tried all we could but she remained adamant. She even got pregnant and didn't know who's baby it was. She later started sleeping with everything male in our neighbourhood. Well, she presently has two children by two different men that she doesn't even know their whereabouts. After trying for months to change her, we had to let her go because at some point, she started falling in love with me and I will never cheat on my wife. My wife and I always gave her goof money, clothing's and foodstuffs but she was neck-deep into sex ( casual sex). I'd advise you try rehabilitating her but if it doesn't work, cut her loose.

Did you mean to call her something else, because what you described is not what lesbians are/do.

BlueAir:
Leave the wayward girl be. It's herself she's doing not you or your business.keep using her for sales.you can sack her when she's turning ur shop to brothel or hookup centre

I don't have problem with you, Because it's clearly started you are an HALFWIT. I only have problem with the Idiots like you that liked and shared your Contribution. So because she is just a staff now she should be left to destruction! I wonder the kind of people the society are raising! Advice for you, try to make impact in lives of people. It's not a must they are your blood before you make inpact. Be Humane! Asshole

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annford:





It was wrong for you to have gone through her chat because you'd have frowned at it if reverse were the case. Personally, I don't think it is in your place to judge her or treat her any different just because you dug up some stuffs about her. If you must let her go, you might as well sit her down, tell her your findings, get her to see her wrong and just hope she changes. I had a similar experience. My Wife and I had met a girl who was an unapologetic lesbian. We did all we could to change her but she just didn't want to change. We tried all we could but she remained adamant. She even got pregnant and didn't know who's baby it was. She later started sleeping with everything male in our neighbourhood. Well, she presently has two children by two different men that she doesn't even know their whereabouts. After trying for months to change her, we had to let her go because at some point, she started falling in love with me and I will never cheat on my wife. My wife and I always gave her goof money, clothing's and foodstuffs but she was neck-deep into sex ( casual sex). I'd advise you try rehabilitating her but if it doesn't work, cut her loose.

As most contributors have stated a basic fact that you had no right to snopp on her phone and her private life so to say. as there is a set boundary wethin business and pleasure. which the gal has seemly set otherwise might hinder her productivity due to absentism which should only be your source of concern. i understand you feelings as a father as you have taken this gal as ur daughter far beyound employee level.Which is not bad at all as contributors tend to think..however it is not worth it on the long run.i used to have such concerns before as a landlord most of my tenants are students of a nearby university when i noticed that some of the students were not behaving fine ie keeping bad company,not attending classes etc. i felt appaled as a parent ,because i knew what pain their parents must be passing through financially ie to pay for accomodation which i the landlord of course was benefiting. i tried to advice them,but i discovered that it had no effect as a majority of the students had developed a thick skin. i noticed most of the females were morally loose and smoked indian hemp. that was my major concern as it was against the law and i knew the end result as different types of shady characters in the same smoking business used to visit them. there was an instance when of my tenants complained to the girl about the smoke of the hemp. the girl now invited her boyfriends to threathen the tenant. in this line i evicted even before her lease expired.In your case the end time result of ur sales girls inmorally life might affect your business interest some way or the other mark me.Since you have got to know of her wayward life ,be on the lookout for a replacement and gradually disengage her. the only thing i have noticed is that a majority of our gals even the so called S.U gals live a very morally bankrupt life which that ur sales gal lives.Which is as a result of poor parental upbringing from their own very mothers.MOST of these gals dressing naked dress from their homes under the very eyes of their mother. who see nothing wrong with that since they dress that way in the first place. most of these gals copy such inmoral life style from their mothers. so there is very little you who is not the very parent to try and advice or take under your wings. i would advice you to take your mind off her and if you have a female child train her to behave indecently.

BlueAir:
Leave the wayward girl be. It's herself she's doing not you or your business.keep using her for sales.you can sack her when she's turning ur shop to brothel or hookup centre

If the girl is your daughter will u happy to let her continue to hv adultery with guys? pls always helping others ppl child to become good ppl is good and God will reward u,

Nezzjnr:
You guys are saying OP should mind his business... For what exactly??
Didn't you see where OP stated that he's like a Fatherly figure to her and she's different from the others

This girl is still a minor working as a sales rep... If something bad happens to her... All fingers will be pointing towards OP.

She's not a minor. She's 21. She is allowed to live her life however she chooses.
Also, from what the OP has said, her personal life does not affect her work attitude. It's none of the OP's business what she does in her spare time.

I also want to point out that 21 is prime age for youthful exuberance. All things being equal, the girl will calm down and mature as she gets older. As long as it does not affect her work productivity, let her be.

The most OP should do is ask his wife to speak to her about practicing safe sex

Dobson43:
Quick points here:

You were supposed to mind your business.

You crossed a line poking your nose in her personal affairs.

Being her Boss doesn't give you the right to judge her. She is under contract to serve you in a certain capacity. Stick to that capacity.

If her atitude to work affects your business in anyway, then you can let her off.

Why should you be bothered as a father? What's the point of drinking paracetamol on another man's headache?

If you had used this amount of time in snooping around in pushing your business forward, you would actually enjoy better patronage.


You should draw a line as regards your relationship between yourself and your workers.


It appears you have feelings for this lady thus your uneasiness that she has underperformed in your own estimation. Kill that feeling. It's her life, let her define it how it suits her

This time actually do mind your business.

this is not good advise always think if she is your daughter will u happy to let her continue adultery?

codeKart:



She's not a minor. She's 21. She is allowed to live her life however she chooses.
Also, from what the OP has said, her personal life does not affect her work attitude. It's none of the OP's business what she does in her spare time.

I also want to point out that 21 is prime age for youthful exuberance. All things being equal, the girl will calm down and mature as she gets older. As long as it does not affect her work productivity, let her be.

The most OP should do is ask his wife to speak to her about practicing safe sex

If you think 21 is not a Minor, then you shouldnt had given that last Advice. Seems you are confused yourself. 21 is not yet Matured. Many shit we did in our early 20s that we not proud of and we had wished we had someone who could advise us then

Wetin be your own, except you dey bang am,if not to go market square and asked for who stone me is most foolishness question..Leave her alone..she is enjoying her youthful time....when she see other side

OritaIbadan:

Alright just thinking as a father is it the best

enough is enough. Focus on ur biz.

OritaIbadan:
I employed this 21years old lady last year as a sales rep. At resumption to work she appeard so decent and godly always With her Bible and Sunday school manual. I was really impressed by her spiritual and respectful nature. This made me treat her different from others. I buy her things and sometimes gives her money and always discuss her good life style with my wife. But what amazed me was that my wife was so indifferent about her each time I discuss her my wife will quickly change the topic. I thought, well woman with their naughty behavior towards other women.

Fast forward to June first this year her phone was stolen and I have a phone in office that I allow them access to incase their phone is off I can easily reach them through it. This faithful day, I tried to access my Facebook account using the office phone and found out that this same lady had used it but forget to logout. Well, I knew it was wrong to check her inbox but all the same I did.

After checking her inbox I couldn't sleep all night. I found out that she is having unprotected sex with 5 guys each guy per Sunday and she just did an abortion March this year the very day she told me that she was sick and can't make it to work and she wasn't sure who among the guys that impregnated her. I also found out that she had missed her period again and trying to hang it on one of the boys. The amazing thing is that non of these guys suspects her, they all believe she is a faithful girl friend.

I have thought of relieving her of her job, but my wife is asking me what should I give as reasons. But the truth is that I had never winessed such a wayward life before. If I pretend as though I know nothing she will eventually commit another abortion and continue with such life which is very dangerous at her age. What if she is my own daughter?

Please I want the mode to push this to the front page. I want to seek others opnion about it

pls and pls ignore those said u will mind ur business, call the girl showed her u all aware of whats going on about her secret life warn her the danger of adultery and unprotected sex warn her if she doesn't stop u will report her to her Parent God will reward u, those saying u will. mind ur business are type of guys who destroys the life of someone children

Caution Her Eyeball to Eyeball

OritaIbadan:


You see because of her good attitude toward work and her costmated godly lifestyle we had make an attempt of assisting her to further her education before the lockdown. So I was seriously discouraged.

She might be good, but has a problem with saying no. I personally think she has an early sexual history. If you and your wife are thinking of helping her, then better be prepared. It's a long walk to freedom.