Ok, let me play you the concluding part of the story.

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You'll get so fascinated by this guy's wonderful personality, at a point, you wouldn't want to break up your present relationship (you'll want to eat your cake and have it), you'll start partially double dating with the new guy, he'll so much intrigue you, after he slides into your pant, you'll be so so love spelled, you'll then become bold enough to quit with your main BOO (in your mind, you've made the right choice). Your new guy's beast mode will now begin to manifest, he'll start treating you like trash, abusing you (this moment, you'll be like: where's the sweet guy i met?) .. you'll come back to your senses, and want to go back to the guy you broke up with, guess what?! He has moved on with his destined heart throb, and doesn't give a shii about you again, you go back to square one.

(You'll be like, WTF is my advice)
Here is it:
With this illustration, use your tongue to count your teeth, THIS LIFE NO BALANCE AT ALL.

Happy989:


I still love my boyfriend.

You don't have sense, am sure you are still a teenager.

Happy989:
I just created this account because this issue is really bothering me and I need mature advice. I have a Nairaland account but I couldn't use it to post this thread because my boyfriend knows of that account.

I started dating my boyfriend months ago and even before we started dating we've been good friends. He is intelligent, funny, has a great personality and takes good care of me. When he asked me to be his girlfriend I was so happy, because he is such a great guy. My boyfriend is in his final year in the same university that I attend. I'm still in my second year.

There is this guy in my department who is very good looking and also intelligent. He isn't jovial and extroverted like my boyfriend, but he is cool in a very confident and attractive kind of way. We started talking recently and he told me he finds me attractive. I told him that I have a boyfriend and he didn't seem fazed and never talked about the subject of my relationship. He still complimented my body and looks from time to time even though I didn't respond to his compliments in a way that indicated that I was in support of his actions.

During this covid-19 break we began talking more often over the phone and through texts and I always found our conversations interesting. A lot of times we'd talk till midnight. He is very witty and creative with words and I always smile whenever I see his texts or receive his calls.

Few weeks ago we talked about sexual fetishes and I realized we both had similar fetishes. This made him even more interesting because I found myself able to talk about stuff I hadn't talked about with anyone before, not even my boyfriend. This guy is a not like anyone I've ever met before. His views on life are very unique and original and his personality is so complex and his sexuality is very intriguing.

The problem now is that I am beginning to develop strong feelings for this guy. When he calls me on the phone I don't wish the call to end. I find myself talking to him for minutes not minding the time. He is beginning to occupy my thoughts a lot and I don't know what to do. I still love my boyfriend but there is something about this guy that just seems to draw me to him.

I don't want to do anything that will break my boyfriend's heart.

That isn't feelings, its lust or love gone wrong. Stop with all the sex stuff, a girls body is her pride, don't give it away. And are you sure he loves you or wants to smash. If a guy loves you he won't ask for or talk about sex where you are.
Keep yourself till marriage and live a good life jesus loves you

Happy989:
I just created this account because this issue is really bothering me and I need mature advice. I have a Nairaland account but I couldn't use it to post this thread because my boyfriend knows of that account.


I don't want to do anything that will break my boyfriend's heart.

i don't want to just conclud that you are wrong... the devil you know is always better than that strange angel ma'am, the new dude just use the power of words on you, and all his ideology of life is easier said than done, be careful of what you wish

Happy989, you write well. I really enjoyed your composition in your 5th Paragraph. Aside that, I don't have anything else to say, or any advice to give.

Let everyone sort themselves out by themselves.

My dear face ur book but not boyfriend issues biko u see new guy and ur body don de shake

Women! You just want chop that guy

So in all it’s about you not wanting to break his heart. You didn’t just fall out of love but you also pity him. Smh. My dear see how grownups date, sometimes you wake up and you move out and it’s perfectly ok but the thing is this while you’re all over your new guy hope he is. Move to you new guy or remain where you are. And pls next time stop letting in people on your sexuality except you are ready to have something shows you’re weak. Imagine if all men you chat with know about your personal stuff. Not decent

Justbehave:
But your toto dey scratch you abi.Do you even understand what love is?

ha

lalanice:
no, it's not every girl that always feels such.

are u sure ?

Happy989:
I just created this account because this issue is really bothering me and I need mature advice. I have a Nairaland account but I couldn't use it to post this thread because my boyfriend knows of that account.

I started dating my boyfriend months ago and even before we started dating we've been good friends. He is intelligent, funny, has a great personality and takes good care of me. When he asked me to be his girlfriend I was so happy, because he is such a great guy. My boyfriend is in his final year in the same university that I attend. I'm still in my second year.

There is this guy in my department who is very good looking and also intelligent. He isn't jovial and extroverted like my boyfriend, but he is cool in a very confident and attractive kind of way. We started talking recently and he told me he finds me attractive. I told him that I have a boyfriend and he didn't seem fazed and never talked about the subject of my relationship. He still complimented my body and looks from time to time even though I didn't respond to his compliments in a way that indicated that I was in support of his actions.

During this covid-19 break we began talking more often over the phone and through texts and I always found our conversations interesting. A lot of times we'd talk till midnight. He is very witty and creative with words and I always smile whenever I see his texts or receive his calls.

Few weeks ago we talked about sexual fetishes and I realized we both had similar fetishes. This made him even more interesting because I found myself able to talk about stuff I hadn't talked about with anyone before, not even my boyfriend. This guy is a not like anyone I've ever met before. His views on life are very unique and original and his personality is so complex and his sexuality is very intriguing.

The problem now is that I am beginning to develop strong feelings for this guy. When he calls me on the phone I don't wish the call to end. I find myself talking to him for minutes not minding the time. He is beginning to occupy my thoughts a lot and I don't know what to do. I still love my boyfriend but there is something about this guy that just seems to draw me to him.

I don't want to do anything that will break my boyfriend's heart.

Girl don’t provoke our peace jare.
Which one is you want to move but don’t want to break his heart.
Just like saying you wanna go out without getting out

You must break his heart to get out, no other easier way, just do it in the least heartless way you can.

It's nice that you have realized that you have feelings for this other guy...

However, You might think the cat does ablution because it is a Muslim, while it only wants to eat fishes

To put it simply, just remember that a guy will tell you everything you want to hear just to fulfill his wishes on your body. As soon as he gets what he wants, you're just a tally on his body count sheet.

Happy989:
I just created this account because this issue is really bothering me and I need mature advice. I have a Nairaland account but I couldn't use it to post this thread because my boyfriend knows of that account.

I started dating my boyfriend months ago and even before we started dating we've been good friends. He is intelligent, funny, has a great personality and takes good care of me. When he asked me to be his girlfriend I was so happy, because he is such a great guy. My boyfriend is in his final year in the same university that I attend. I'm still in my second year.

There is this guy in my department who is very good looking and also intelligent. He isn't jovial and extroverted like my boyfriend, but he is cool in a very confident and attractive kind of way. We started talking recently and he told me he finds me attractive. I told him that I have a boyfriend and he didn't seem fazed and never talked about the subject of my relationship. He still complimented my body and looks from time to time even though I didn't respond to his compliments in a way that indicated that I was in support of his actions.

During this covid-19 break we began talking more often over the phone and through texts and I always found our conversations interesting. A lot of times we'd talk till midnight. He is very witty and creative with words and I always smile whenever I see his texts or receive his calls.

Few weeks ago we talked about sexual fetishes and I realized we both had similar fetishes. This made him even more interesting because I found myself able to talk about stuff I hadn't talked about with anyone before, not even my boyfriend. This guy is a not like anyone I've ever met before. His views on life are very unique and original and his personality is so complex and his sexuality is very intriguing.

The problem now is that I am beginning to develop strong feelings for this guy. When he calls me on the phone I don't wish the call to end. I find myself talking to him for minutes not minding the time. He is beginning to occupy my thoughts a lot and I don't know what to do. I still love my boyfriend but there is something about this guy that just seems to draw me to him.

I don't want to do anything that will break my boyfriend's heart.

Date the both of them and many other guys.
Na so.

Hahahaha until dem lash you clean mouth, your eye go clear

All these people saying it will end in tears, must every adventure end in tears? babe see this, if you truly loved the first guy you won't fall for the second. Now if you leave the first guy for the second, chances are that you'll still leave him for the third guy and the fourth and the fifth. So keeping moving till you find your last bus stop. This doesn't have to end in tears.

Happy989:
I just created this account because this issue is really bothering me and I need mature advice. I have a Nairaland account but I couldn't use it to post this thread because my boyfriend knows of that account.

I started dating my boyfriend months ago and even before we started dating we've been good friends. He is intelligent, funny, has a great personality and takes good care of me. When he asked me to be his girlfriend I was so happy, because he is such a great guy. My boyfriend is in his final year in the same university that I attend. I'm still in my second year.

There is this guy in my department who is very good looking and also intelligent. He isn't jovial and extroverted like my boyfriend, but he is cool in a very confident and attractive kind of way. We started talking recently and he told me he finds me attractive. I told him that I have a boyfriend and he didn't seem fazed and never talked about the subject of my relationship. He still complimented my body and looks from time to time even though I didn't respond to his compliments in a way that indicated that I was in support of his actions.

During this covid-19 break we began talking more often over the phone and through texts and I always found our conversations interesting. A lot of times we'd talk till midnight. He is very witty and creative with words and I always smile whenever I see his texts or receive his calls.

Few weeks ago we talked about sexual fetishes and I realized we both had similar fetishes. This made him even more interesting because I found myself able to talk about stuff I hadn't talked about with anyone before, not even my boyfriend. This guy is a not like anyone I've ever met before. His views on life are very unique and original and his personality is so complex and his sexuality is very intriguing.

The problem now is that I am beginning to develop strong feelings for this guy. When he calls me on the phone I don't wish the call to end. I find myself talking to him for minutes not minding the time. He is beginning to occupy my thoughts a lot and I don't know what to do. I still love my boyfriend but there is something about this guy that just seems to draw me to him.

I don't want to do anything that will break my boyfriend's heart.

I always wonder if ladies knows exactly what they want in a relationship.

Just imagine you falling in love to fantasy that will soon blow away like the cloud.

All these epistles boil down to sex. That's always the objective when one writes like you have done. take for example, I can have a gf and still have female friends without benefits, whatsoever.

This our generation don tire me aswear. las las, you may get to find out that all that glitters ain't gold.

okay

Spiff20:
All these people saying it will end in tears, must every adventure end in tears? babe see this, if you truly loved the first guy you won't fall for the second. Now if you leave the first guy for the second, chances are that you'll still leave him for the third guy and the fourth and the fifth. So keeping moving till you find your last bus stop. This doesn't have to end in tears.

The tales of Olosho.
Na so Olosho take full Town o.

Sorry to say,...your matter is complicated, but will advise you not to leave your current boyfriend because:

It will end in premium tears...bewarned

Op wants to explore her sexual fantasies.

It's OK. It's not a crime but remember to breakup with your bf, before going on sexual spree with this new guy.

It's bound to happen anyways. If you don't cut yourself loose and explore now but explore with sense and protection, so u don't recieve any deadly disease or unwanted pregnancy.

But please breakup from your bf, let him date someone meant for him.

Let the sexual fetishes and exploration begins.

By the time u get to 45years, your raging hormones should be calm by then and ready to have a stable lovelife and possibly marriage.

Youth and sex! Na wa!

Happy989:
I started dating my boyfriend months ago and even before we started dating we've been good friends. He is intelligent, funny, has a great personality and takes good care of me. When he asked me to be his girlfriend I was so happy, because he is such a great guy. My boyfriend is in his final year in the same university that I attend. I'm still in my second year.

There is this guy in my department who is very good looking and also intelligent. He isn't jovial and extroverted like my boyfriend, but he is cool in a very confident and attractive kind of way. We started talking recently and he told me he finds me attractive. I told him that I have a boyfriend and he didn't seem fazed and never talked about the subject of my relationship. He still complimented my body and looks from time to time even though I didn't respond to his compliments in a way that indicated that I was in support of his actions.

During this covid-19 break we began talking more often over the phone and through texts and I always found our conversations interesting. A lot of times we'd talk till midnight. He is very witty and creative with words and I always smile whenever I see his texts or receive his calls.

Few weeks ago we talked about sexual fetishes and I realized we both had similar fetishes. This made him even more interesting because I found myself able to talk about stuff I hadn't talked about with anyone before, not even my boyfriend. This guy is a not like anyone I've ever met before. His views on life are very unique and original and his personality is so complex and his sexuality is very intriguing.

The problem now is that I am beginning to develop strong feelings for this guy. When he calls me on the phone I don't wish the call to end. I find myself talking to him for minutes not minding the time. He is beginning to occupy my thoughts a lot and I don't know what to do. I still love my boyfriend but there is something about this guy that just seems to draw me to him.

I don't want to do anything that will break my boyfriend's heart.

You write so well but stop wasting our time here biko. Your mission is to Bleep the new guy pls go ahead. Girl wey get sense. She don see say her bf go soon comot skol she wan replace am����

Op
U need to define ur feelings.
It's not everyone that u've strong feelings for u must be in an intimate relationship with.
Once u define ur feelings for this guy, u would know if u want to have him as a platonic friend, a BF or a lover.
Whatever, u come up with will decide ur next line of action.
Control ur feelings babe because u'll get to meet so many guys you will get attracted to in one way or another.

Use ur head and don't fall for guys anyhow. Guys are pretty cunning and are not fair.
If u understand what I mean

yomi007k:
You have already started cheating on your bf emotionally. It is better to break up with your guy than double date.

The new guy is not as wise as you think because no wise guy will covet his neighbours woman, goods or properties.

I believe you are below 32. I don't expect much.

It may end in tears.

Not ordinary tears , premium tears

Lastmankc:
ha

I lie?Her toto dey do her tenenetenene.

Happy989:
I started dating my boyfriend months ago and even before we started dating we've been good friends. He is intelligent, funny, has a great personality and takes good care of me. When he asked me to be his girlfriend I was so happy, because he is such a great guy. My boyfriend is in his final year in the same university that I attend. I'm still in my second year.

There is this guy in my department who is very good looking and also intelligent. He isn't jovial and extroverted like my boyfriend, but he is cool in a very confident and attractive kind of way. We started talking recently and he told me he finds me attractive. I told him that I have a boyfriend and he didn't seem fazed and never talked about the subject of my relationship. He still complimented my body and looks from time to time even though I didn't respond to his compliments in a way that indicated that I was in support of his actions.

During this covid-19 break we began talking more often over the phone and through texts and I always found our conversations interesting. A lot of times we'd talk till midnight. He is very witty and creative with words and I always smile whenever I see his texts or receive his calls.

Few weeks ago we talked about sexual fetishes and I realized we both had similar fetishes. This made him even more interesting because I found myself able to talk about stuff I hadn't talked about with anyone before, not even my boyfriend. This guy is not like anyone I've ever met before. His views on life are very unique and original and his personality is so complex and his sexuality is very intriguing.

The problem now is that I am beginning to develop strong feelings for this guy. When he calls me on the phone I don't wish the call to end. I find myself talking to him for minutes not minding the time. He is beginning to occupy my thoughts a lot and I don't know what to do. I still love my boyfriend but there is something about this guy that just seems to draw me to him.

I don't want to do anything that will break my boyfriend's heart.

Continuing with his Co when you already told him you have a bf automatically shows how cheap you can be
Feelings ko , feelings no
You can never satisfy women laye

Taniaa:
That's what happens when you meet someone new.
The fiery spark would fizzle out soon and you'll wish you never left your boyfriend.

May the Lord almighty bless you abundantly..

It will end in premium tears

thats why you should never have a reason for loving someone,you loved your boyfriend for a certain reason now a more appealing reason comes forth and your king now becomes a servant .destroy your reasons and learn to just love when you have reasons to love its not love its loneliness.i hope you'd understand .