girlxxhiddenxx:
so I may not be?

Definitely you are not. And Please, stop watching porn. You might get addicted

Deltayankeeboi:


Why, is there a reason you don't like men sexually?

Don't say no reason, there must be a reason because you were not born like this, all those times in your teen years, did you have this same problem.

Are you a virgin? If not, the times you had sex with guys, were you pleasured enough.

Do you find more pleasure in MouthAction? or you like to masturbate yourself? If you don't like dick, what about dildos? which is significant among lesbians. As raw as these questions may sound, I believe those are the logical questions you should relate to us about or to a therapist.

These questions are actually very raw. y once he inserts his stuff the there is no single pleasure. But I like to be touched. Very sweet. But penetration is a no no. And I don't find any of the male parts attracting. But I like boobs and p***y

Emmyloyalty:


There's certainly a time you noticed it. At what age?

my first sexual experience was at 18. I did not enjoy it. Nor have I enjoyed anyone since then. This is almost 10years later

Paxie55:

Definitely you are not. And Please, stop watching porn. You might get addicted

lol. Why are you so sure?

If you aren't masculine looking try and get a guy who likes oral-sex, obviously you have a bad sex partner who just penetrate and start to shoot gbos gbas...get someone that would tickle your ear tell you sweet rubbish, give you French kiss for an hour and lick you up like a lollipop.... make I no spoil person pikin Abeg.Hopefully that reset your hormones.

girlxxhiddenxx:



These questions are actually very raw. When I was 18 I went to see a guy I was dating. To me it was a childish relationship. I never intended to sleep with him. Long story short he forced himself on me. It was the most painful experience as you can imagine. There was blood everywhere. After everything I went to the room and picked a knife to stab him while he was asleep. I thought of what my mom would say if I committed murder. I dropped the knife and cried myself to sleep. I later found out I was pregnant. I went back to him for help. ( I had nowhere to go) he slept with me again. (He gave a condition either I sleep with you and help or you get out of my house. I opened my leg and there was blood again.. he took me to an abortion clinic I played with my savings. I have forgiven him. You may judge me but I do not regret having the abortion. I did not have a job. I was in the university. Who was going to take care of the baby?The guy was like 33 at the time. That was my first sex experience. Fast forward some years later I meet a nice guy once he inserts his stuff the there is no single pleasure. But I like to be touched. Very sweet.

I'm very sorry about your past experience....
Do you think that experience shaped your sexual preference?...or you were always interested in girls even before the rape incidence.

But my advice is this...if you are attracted to girls and you are very sure you are, then it's not a big deal, embrace your sexuality, there are sooo many communities for lesbians and gays in Nigeria....I'm pretty sure they have a way of finding each other....
I've mentioned it before that I'm very good friends with a foremost homosexuality researcher in Nigeria.I have been informed of lesbian couples in Abuja whose parents have come to accept their mature, working class, well to do daughters to be together.
You wont be the first person to discover she is a lesbian, and you wont be the last either. There are sooo many homosexuals in Nigeria that you would be surprised.
And if you later discover you like guys too, then its possible you are bisexual, which is also not the end of the world.
Dont allow any religious hypocrite make you feel bad....

Now I understand
You’re not a lesbo nor bisexual trust me if you’re you wouldn’t be asking
Youre just damaged psychologically by your experience.
See many of rape victims get to outgrow it and move on just like as males survive bloody beatings and still make excellent husbands who don’t raise hand on others. First you need to find a way to leave behind that encounter. Personally I can never date a rape victim because of the baggage except she shows she has outgrown the shit. Terrible things happen and people should stop playing victim and suffering their partners. You need to show the will to live. Stop the porn and love for yourself some ladies Dnt like penetration doesn’t make them lezbos. If ur in that shoe you focus on pre-intimacy and use various lubricants. Sex is an art and should be expressed when you think of trying to satisfy the other that’s when you lose sense of it.
Even if you chose the gay route understand you still need to study and adopt. It isn’t as cool as it’s portrayed I have never seen the level of jealousy like those express. Point is try to undo your past. Start afresh. And you have to really find love as most people I see have no idea what love is and be responsible. You’re alive make good use. You survived the rape and abortion don’t see why you should stay damaged. Even some bisexuals get married. Take charge of your life as you can achieve anything you want including developing any sexuality you. Goodluck whatever you chose to do with your life

girlxxhiddenxx:
nothing in there body attracts me. The long organ actually annoys me. Pen*etr*ton is just annoying. (God please forgive me) but I fake enjoying it to make my then boyfriend happy. We had been together for soo long and you could see him trying to please me. I would be dry everywhere. I suggested we watch lesbian porn together and he refused. I understand why o. And yes I am physically attracted to ladies

My ex loved lesbians. I watched lesbian porn with her till she grew confident Abt making love to me.
I watched her admire other girls n made her understand it was okay to. She cheated on me with them n I didn't complain infact I pretended not to notice.
I was good with her not cheating on me as long as it wasn't a man.
It happened till d day I discovered my guy was bleeping her. I never forgave myself till now.
You have heightened sexual urges, period. Get bleeped n move on

No, you aren't a lesbian, your empty lesporn-filled life only fills in you in that role.

girlxxhiddenxx:
my first sexual experience was at 18. I did not enjoy it. Nor have I enjoyed anyone since then. This is almost 10years later

I believe the above is the problem. You opted for the gay feeling when the normal one betrayed you.
I insist you visit a therapist or counselor before it goes beyond repair.

girlxxhiddenxx:
lol. Why are you so sure?

Cos it's caused by constant reminiscing on the videos you watch. It will fade away once you stop watching porn.

RealtorX:

There is no problem about this. At least one in every four women in America is either a gay or a lesbian and this applies to all human beings too. This is a natural feeling. I as a person, watching two females play with each other is a great turn-on for me. I get aroused easily.

Your feeling is natural and I love it!

You mentality sound advance to me.

I don't understand you being gay as s lady .

I can hlp u get over this thing..u have boobs u have pussy.so we can seat and watch porn.together while I let u feel.like a lady...
the spirit of.lesbian will run away.
it that simple.u guy didn't know how to help u.

I can help u.I use to have friends who are lesbian they like guys now....we go pool together..

where u bad and ur age?

girlxxhiddenxx:



These questions are actually very raw. y once he inserts his stuff the there is no single pleasure. But I like to be touched. Very sweet. But penetration is a no no. And I don't find any of the male parts attracting. But I like boobs and p***y

I read your post before you modified it.
If what you wrote was actually true, then you should see a therapist or any person you feel wise enough to be of help to you. BTW, why did you modify it.

Also check on Google on dealing with the after effect of what you experienced.

If you know how to filter search on Google, you will get all the help you need and learn from other people's experience.

Truth is, the help you seek, you can't find it on nairaland.

girlxxhiddenxx:
always

Since you've always loved boobs and pussy,migrate to one of those countries where gay is legal and enjoy your lesbian life to the fullest.There are many girlfriends/potential life partners for you and if you want kids,there's always IVF or adoption.Don't derail from your lesbianism cos of your family and friends.SAY YES TO GAY MARRIAGE

girlxxhiddenxx:
I am in Nigeria and not America. same sex relationships are a crime here.

anty no too wory ur self joor

girlxxhiddenxx:


I had a boyfriend. But I have never really found any pleasure in the male organs. But I like female p*rn. I went to get checked in a hospital if anything is wrong with me. But nothing is wrong with medically. I just like b**bs and female pu**y. Has anybody else experienced this? What should I do? I confided in a friend she said I should try getting a girlfriend so I would know for sure. But I don't want anybody to look at me as a freak. Imagine me working up to a girl and asking her if I can s**k her br**st. Lesbians in the house how did you know you were a lesbian? If it turns out I am a lesbian there is nothing that would come out of it because I can't even get married to a girl. So, to what end? Please pray for me even if you don't have advice for me

On the plus side, you don't need to cold-approach anyone,
if you dont want to.

There's Tinder...

You'll meet other girls looking for girls.

Deltayankeeboi:


I read your post before you modified it.
If what you wrote was actually true, then you should see a therapist or any person you feel wise enough to be of nhelp to you. BTW, why did you modify it.

Also check on Google on dealing with the after effect of what you experienced.

If you know how to filter search on Google, you will get all the help you need and learn from other people's experience.

Truth is, the help you seek, you can't find it on nairaland.

ok. I will thank you.

Kpokakpoka:


I'm very sorry about your past experience....
Do you think that experience shaped your sexual preference?...or you were always interested in girls even before the rape incidence.

But my advice is this...if you are attracted to girls and you are very sure you are, then it's not a big deal, embrace your sexuality, there are sooo many communities for lesbians and gays in Nigeria....I'm pretty sure they have a way of finding each other....
I've mentioned it before that I'm very good friends with a foremost homosexuality researcher in Nigeria.I have been informed of lesbian couples in Abuja whose parents have come to accept their mature, working class, well to do daughters to be together.
You wont be the first person to discover she is a lesbian, and you wont be the last either. There are sooo many homosexuals in Nigeria that you would be surprised.
And if you later discover you like guys too, then its possible you are bisexual, which is also not the end of the world.
Dont allow any religious hypocrite make you feel bad....

honestly. I don't know

Galactico4ever:
Since you've always loved boobs and pussy,migrate to one of those countries where gay is legal and enjoy your lesbian life to the fullest.There are many girlfriends/potential life partners for you and if you want kids,there's always IVF or adoption.Don't derail from your lesbianism cos of your family and friends.SAY YES TO GAY MARRIAGE

hmm.... I don't know for sure. I have never tried it out

girlxxhiddenxx:
how do I stop been one. I am very pretty. Jail would not fit me.

lol .u are very funny.who does jail fit.lol. but on a serious note.lets find out first something.did u attend girls secondary school?
2.were you in the boarding domitory.
3.Did your senior try to touch you in sensitive places.?
4.do you have elder sisters or brothers.?. This is to find out the source of your sexual inclination.answer first then I will give you the next line of action.

Kemimarch16:
God will change you

that's if she wants to be changed

kingjoe:
lol .u are very funny.who does jail fit.lol. but on a serious note.lets find out first something.did u attend girls secondary school?
2.were you in the boarding domitory.
3.Did your senior try to touch you in sensitive places.?
4.do you have elder sisters or brothers.?. This is to find out the source of your sexual inclination.answer first then I will give you the next line of action.

I went to a nice day school. I have older siblings but they never tried to touch me

You can help yourself by not avoiding your guy again. God will help you.

girlxxhiddenxx:
I would quit the porn. Thank you. I had a guy for more than 5years but this attraction never came. I avoided him all the time

AmazingELixir:


There's absolutely no reason to judge you my dear...neither do I see how you feel as requiring help.

I don't just want to shake your hands....I just wish it could be a warm hug.

I think you like her pusssy

IamDavids:
You can't change yourself. You have to accept who you are. And being gay doesn't stop you from having kids. There are numerous options. I hope you find true love and be happy with your sexuality.

if you are a Nigerian and you stay in Nigeria and you are giving this stupid advice, then you are mad and one of the reason we have problem in Nigeria....imagine advising someone to break the Nigeria law and constitution....great why not advice people who lust for blood to keep killing....stupid

I would tell you to try exploring men, try to see if anyone draws your attention sexually (even a little) and go wild on his arse, you might just find out how un-gay you really are. But I wouldn't want to be that guy that makes matters worse for you, so best of luck in your future endeavors...

She said lesbians in the house, are they no lesbians in the house to help out.

Be proud of who you are, embrace your sexuality girl. I have a very good friend who is gay.

girlxxhiddenxx:
I went to a nice day school. I have older siblings but they never tried to touch me

ok then we have ruled out that angle.
Now, the hard work starts.you have to make up your mind that you want to love men.1.stop watching lesbian porns.
2.buy books on relationships and sex.
3.read them.
4.try and get closer to God and pray against your abnomality.
Take an example from a child that prefers using her left hand in writing and doing chores.continous practice with right hand goes along way to change the person.
5.resist the temptation of having a fellow girl in a secluded place.
6.keep on having guys as your friends.
Once again it's hardwork but your determined mind you would pull through.cheer up

That rape incidence was so emotionally traumatic for you that it may have affected your sexuality. Here is how that can happen.

The hypothalamus which is the part of the brain that controls sexuality and the amygdala which is the part of the brain that controls emotions are very close to each other. Your traumatized amygdala may have affected your hypothalamus and thus your sexuality.

Psychologically speaking, the cause of the emotional trauma was a guy and your body has made the decision that it's not safe or fun to have sex with men, women are safer, better and more fun.

This is one of the ways people become gay.

I believe your own case has a chance at being reversed.

I am a therapist and have some experience in dealing with this type of issues. I might be willing to work with you on this. You can PM me and we can take it up from there.

you grew yourself into a lesbian,now you have given lesbianism a meaning to your personal existence,meaning is "what you make of it" ,you may think meaning is nothing but believe me there is more power in meaning than what keeps the earth on its axis,so the ball is in your court,what does lesbianism mean to you and what does being straight mean to you?which ever has more value or adds more value to you wins,when you decide that lesbianism no longer means something to you then it is done or when you decide that being straight no longer means something to you and you 'mean' it ,i assure you when you sleep over this and wake-up and still feel the same then come and call me out on nairaland ,so time to get serious,you choose and make sure you actually mean it,if you dont mean it then dont do it because you would be disappointed.