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|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by Paxie55: 7:07pm On Jun 08, 2020|
girlxxhiddenxx:Definitely you are not. And Please, stop watching porn. You might get addicted
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by girlxxhiddenxx: 7:12pm On Jun 08, 2020|
These questions are actually very raw. y once he inserts his stuff the there is no single pleasure. But I like to be touched. Very sweet. But penetration is a no no. And I don't find any of the male parts attracting. But I like boobs and p***y
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by girlxxhiddenxx: 7:16pm On Jun 08, 2020|
Emmyloyalty:my first sexual experience was at 18. I did not enjoy it. Nor have I enjoyed anyone since then. This is almost 10years later
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by girlxxhiddenxx: 7:16pm On Jun 08, 2020|
Paxie55:lol. Why are you so sure?
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by Nobody: 7:20pm On Jun 08, 2020|
If you aren't masculine looking try and get a guy who likes oral-sex, obviously you have a bad sex partner who just penetrate and start to shoot gbos gbas...get someone that would tickle your ear tell you sweet rubbish, give you French kiss for an hour and lick you up like a lollipop.... make I no spoil person pikin Abeg.Hopefully that reset your hormones.
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by Kpokakpoka(m): 7:23pm On Jun 08, 2020|
I'm very sorry about your past experience....
Do you think that experience shaped your sexual preference?...or you were always interested in girls even before the rape incidence.
But my advice is this...if you are attracted to girls and you are very sure you are, then it's not a big deal, embrace your sexuality, there are sooo many communities for lesbians and gays in Nigeria....I'm pretty sure they have a way of finding each other....
I've mentioned it before that I'm very good friends with a foremost homosexuality researcher in Nigeria.I have been informed of lesbian couples in Abuja whose parents have come to accept their mature, working class, well to do daughters to be together.
You wont be the first person to discover she is a lesbian, and you wont be the last either. There are sooo many homosexuals in Nigeria that you would be surprised.
And if you later discover you like guys too, then its possible you are bisexual, which is also not the end of the world.
Dont allow any religious hypocrite make you feel bad....
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|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by here: 7:26pm On Jun 08, 2020|
Now I understand
You’re not a lesbo nor bisexual trust me if you’re you wouldn’t be asking
Youre just damaged psychologically by your experience.
See many of rape victims get to outgrow it and move on just like as males survive bloody beatings and still make excellent husbands who don’t raise hand on others. First you need to find a way to leave behind that encounter. Personally I can never date a rape victim because of the baggage except she shows she has outgrown the shit. Terrible things happen and people should stop playing victim and suffering their partners. You need to show the will to live. Stop the porn and love for yourself some ladies Dnt like penetration doesn’t make them lezbos. If ur in that shoe you focus on pre-intimacy and use various lubricants. Sex is an art and should be expressed when you think of trying to satisfy the other that’s when you lose sense of it.
Even if you chose the gay route understand you still need to study and adopt. It isn’t as cool as it’s portrayed I have never seen the level of jealousy like those express. Point is try to undo your past. Start afresh. And you have to really find love as most people I see have no idea what love is and be responsible. You’re alive make good use. You survived the rape and abortion don’t see why you should stay damaged. Even some bisexuals get married. Take charge of your life as you can achieve anything you want including developing any sexuality you. Goodluck whatever you chose to do with your life
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by odaniel1(m): 7:26pm On Jun 08, 2020|
girlxxhiddenxx:My ex loved lesbians. I watched lesbian porn with her till she grew confident Abt making love to me.
I watched her admire other girls n made her understand it was okay to. She cheated on me with them n I didn't complain infact I pretended not to notice.
I was good with her not cheating on me as long as it wasn't a man.
It happened till d day I discovered my guy was bleeping her. I never forgave myself till now.
You have heightened sexual urges, period. Get bleeped n move on
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by chatinent: 7:27pm On Jun 08, 2020|
No, you aren't a lesbian, your empty lesporn-filled life only fills in you in that role.
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by Emmyloyalty: 7:31pm On Jun 08, 2020|
I believe the above is the problem. You opted for the gay feeling when the normal one betrayed you.
I insist you visit a therapist or counselor before it goes beyond repair.
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by Paxie55: 7:35pm On Jun 08, 2020|
girlxxhiddenxx:Cos it's caused by constant reminiscing on the videos you watch. It will fade away once you stop watching porn.
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by themaestro08(m): 7:35pm On Jun 08, 2020|
You mentality sound advance to me.
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by raphy(m): 7:38pm On Jun 08, 2020|
I don't understand you being gay as s lady .
I can hlp u get over this thing..u have boobs u have pussy.so we can seat and watch porn.together while I let u feel.like a lady...
the spirit of.lesbian will run away.
it that simple.u guy didn't know how to help u.
I can help u.I use to have friends who are lesbian they like guys now....we go pool together..
where u bad and ur age?
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by Deltayankeeboi: 7:39pm On Jun 08, 2020|
I read your post before you modified it.
If what you wrote was actually true, then you should see a therapist or any person you feel wise enough to be of help to you. BTW, why did you modify it.
Also check on Google on dealing with the after effect of what you experienced.
If you know how to filter search on Google, you will get all the help you need and learn from other people's experience.
Truth is, the help you seek, you can't find it on nairaland.
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by Galactico4ever(m): 7:39pm On Jun 08, 2020|
girlxxhiddenxx:Since you've always loved boobs and pussy,migrate to one of those countries where gay is legal and enjoy your lesbian life to the fullest.There are many girlfriends/potential life partners for you and if you want kids,there's always IVF or adoption.Don't derail from your lesbianism cos of your family and friends.SAY YES TO GAY MARRIAGE
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by shege45: 7:46pm On Jun 08, 2020|
girlxxhiddenxx:anty no too wory ur self joor
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by BuddhaPalm(m): 8:06pm On Jun 08, 2020|
On the plus side, you don't need to cold-approach anyone,
if you dont want to.
You'll meet other girls looking for girls.
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by girlxxhiddenxx: 8:13pm On Jun 08, 2020|
Deltayankeeboi:ok. I will thank you.
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by girlxxhiddenxx: 8:27pm On Jun 08, 2020|
Kpokakpoka:honestly. I don't know
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by girlxxhiddenxx: 8:29pm On Jun 08, 2020|
Galactico4ever:hmm.... I don't know for sure. I have never tried it out
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by kingjoe(m): 8:29pm On Jun 08, 2020|
girlxxhiddenxx:lol .u are very funny.who does jail fit.lol. but on a serious note.lets find out first something.did u attend girls secondary school?
2.were you in the boarding domitory.
3.Did your senior try to touch you in sensitive places.?
4.do you have elder sisters or brothers.?. This is to find out the source of your sexual inclination.answer first then I will give you the next line of action.
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by 1Alex: 8:29pm On Jun 08, 2020|
Kemimarch16:that's if she wants to be changed
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by girlxxhiddenxx: 8:36pm On Jun 08, 2020|
kingjoe:I went to a nice day school. I have older siblings but they never tried to touch me
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by proff010: 8:50pm On Jun 08, 2020|
You can help yourself by not avoiding your guy again. God will help you.
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by Lalasticlalabos(m): 9:15pm On Jun 08, 2020|
I think you like her pusssy
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by atoleybaba(m): 9:25pm On Jun 08, 2020|
IamDavids:if you are a Nigerian and you stay in Nigeria and you are giving this stupid advice, then you are mad and one of the reason we have problem in Nigeria....imagine advising someone to break the Nigeria law and constitution....great why not advice people who lust for blood to keep killing....stupid
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by Ghostrye: 9:39pm On Jun 08, 2020|
I would tell you to try exploring men, try to see if anyone draws your attention sexually (even a little) and go wild on his arse, you might just find out how un-gay you really are. But I wouldn't want to be that guy that makes matters worse for you, so best of luck in your future endeavors...
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by Shedybliss98(m): 9:43pm On Jun 08, 2020|
She said lesbians in the house, are they no lesbians in the house to help out.
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by Ekwutox: 9:51pm On Jun 08, 2020|
Be proud of who you are, embrace your sexuality girl. I have a very good friend who is gay.
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by kingjoe(m): 9:57pm On Jun 08, 2020|
girlxxhiddenxx:ok then we have ruled out that angle.
Now, the hard work starts.you have to make up your mind that you want to love men.1.stop watching lesbian porns.
2.buy books on relationships and sex.
4.try and get closer to God and pray against your abnomality.
Take an example from a child that prefers using her left hand in writing and doing chores.continous practice with right hand goes along way to change the person.
5.resist the temptation of having a fellow girl in a secluded place.
6.keep on having guys as your friends.
Once again it's hardwork but your determined mind you would pull through.cheer up
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by DeeMain(m): 9:59pm On Jun 08, 2020|
That rape incidence was so emotionally traumatic for you that it may have affected your sexuality. Here is how that can happen.
The hypothalamus which is the part of the brain that controls sexuality and the amygdala which is the part of the brain that controls emotions are very close to each other. Your traumatized amygdala may have affected your hypothalamus and thus your sexuality.
Psychologically speaking, the cause of the emotional trauma was a guy and your body has made the decision that it's not safe or fun to have sex with men, women are safer, better and more fun.
This is one of the ways people become gay.
I believe your own case has a chance at being reversed.
I am a therapist and have some experience in dealing with this type of issues. I might be willing to work with you on this. You can PM me and we can take it up from there.
|Re: Help. I Think I Am Lesbian by omale88(m): 10:15pm On Jun 08, 2020|
you grew yourself into a lesbian,now you have given lesbianism a meaning to your personal existence,meaning is "what you make of it" ,you may think meaning is nothing but believe me there is more power in meaning than what keeps the earth on its axis,so the ball is in your court,what does lesbianism mean to you and what does being straight mean to you?which ever has more value or adds more value to you wins,when you decide that lesbianism no longer means something to you then it is done or when you decide that being straight no longer means something to you and you 'mean' it ,i assure you when you sleep over this and wake-up and still feel the same then come and call me out on nairaland ,so time to get serious,you choose and make sure you actually mean it,if you dont mean it then dont do it because you would be disappointed.
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