tammyswits:

You sound like a real hot chic(i am very straight) so if he can't step up his game, let him go rot, its actually nice being single, you can flirt with anyone and wont have to feel guilty about it.

Haha! I say quirky things like this also, glad I found someone with a like mind. It's good to be frank sometimes!! Thanks
Yes, I do agree, but to be honest, I spent the first 19 years of my life, never being in anything meaningful or serious, but part of me is grateful that I can enjoy the single life evene just that bit longer, because can you imagine if my first serious relationship lead to marriage, straight into fifth gear I'd say!

Negro_Ntns:

Top, I can't possibly walk in your shoe to feel where it hurts. In moments like this, time heals. You are going through withdrawal and as with anything else, the transformation is a curve. The more time you spend brooding and reliving the memories, the less strong you are to leave it behind. Keep yourself busy, occupy your time with tangibles, log into Nairaland and read old threads, make new friends. In order for something new and better to begin, the old and stagnant must be buried.
Good luck girl :-)

Thank you, thank you, thank you! I did something silly and read our old saved messenger conversations a day ago, the weird thing is I expected to be sad, but instead I laughed at how funny our conversations were and how he had so many good chat up lines and how we flirted. I think that has caught up with me today, expecially as my friend told me that it is highly unlikely that he'll realise the damage he's caused or feel the need to apologise to me. Yes, I need to forget about him but I really don't feel ready to delete our messenger conversations. They are a good memory and also a good store of possible chat up lines for future use hehe!

P.s. I highlighted my favourite bits.

fntekim:

blog blog,
can i have a word with u?

Forgetting about your Ex is the best revenge you can serve him/her!!

The Sly:

But its hard. . . . . . . .Very hard.
I wish i could too. . . . . .But now i see no reason to forget someone like that.
It only makes me laugh errtime i remember what a sour loser she is. . . . . . .She lost this priceless being.

Haha! I was just about to post a 'sorry about how you're feeling' type message, then I read the last line ,

*Insert long description about Topup's Ex here*

topup:

Haha! I was just about to post a 'sorry about how you're feeling' type message, then I read the last line ,

*Insert long description about Topup's Ex here*

The Sly:

To think you are going to forget him is just a fallacy. . . . .Not easy to achieve.
Things i do sometimes is to attribute the positive development that happens to me to her departure.
Thinking it wouldn't have happened if she had remained in my life. . . . . . .Things like that.

because i believe anybody who deems it fit to leave this kind of Ace is a worthless piece of **** ever created.
There is always someone better out there. . . . .No matter what happens
Life is too short. . . . . .and too sweet too, So why waste sum precious time thinking about sum irrelevant, irresponsible beings? huh?

Yes,

I'm guessing she hurt you, because though you feel that she's gonna miss you/regret leaving you, you can't forget her, she left an impact. That's how I'm feeling, that always happens when you give all you have to a relationship, when they leave, they really do take a piece of your heart with you.

You won't be thinking about her when you're with the right person for you, because by them being right, they will tick all the right boxes.

If that doesn't ease your mind, take pleasure in the fact that you're not alone .

ima1:

@ Topup
if you would actually take your advice im sure your life would be great, girl you really need to let go n move on, relationships end for various reasons, the best thing you would do for youself is try to forget about the past. because alot of your post is about your break up, lol looks like your still the one dwelling in the past, im sure this dude might have moved on n its killing you (_{don;t take this the wong way})

I am trying to, but like I've said before, I get periods where I remember him, I get out of them, and I'm myself again. Yes it's easier said than done, but that doesn't mean it shouldn't be said at all . It is killing me that I think he's moved on, where's my happy ending dammit!! Thanks nonetheless!