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Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by money121(m): 10:19pm On Jun 09, 2020
Ok
Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by Benwallt(m): 10:19pm On Jun 09, 2020
WYSIWYG. As for me I will cane you and ensure you return with speed. If you want to monitor my progress you gat inform me
Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by bukatyne(f): 10:20pm On Jun 09, 2020
This is the first time I have thought a lover might be offended about been visited 'uninvited'.

If it is another state, maybe.

But if communication is on point, you should be able to plan your surprise visit around their schedule.

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Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by Nobody: 10:20pm On Jun 09, 2020
If I can't visit you without preinforming you, then there's no us. Like seriously why should I? The only reason I'll call is if I need to see you urgently and need to be sure if you're home or at a friends so I can meet you up. Otherwise, I'll storm for my cabal as ah like. No shaking cool

The man is having a skeleton in his cupboard thats why he's angry. The Lady should reconsider. No time. sad

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Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by legba1(m): 10:20pm On Jun 09, 2020
What are we even debating here... If the lady in question is the one I have made up ma mind to marry, then she could come in anytime...not when she even have a copy of the key

While courting my wife, she does that severally and I made no fuse about it because there's no big deal about it.. I worked in Lokoja while she lives in Abuja... They are both kids

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Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by Mypump: 10:21pm On Jun 09, 2020
Depends the partners understanding
Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by simplepee(f): 10:21pm On Jun 09, 2020
I don't see anything wrong with it, my man can visit me anytime he wishes without informing me.

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Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by VectorVee68(m): 10:23pm On Jun 09, 2020
monaPhilz:
She can visit anytime and that's totally ok

I agree with you

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Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by RaptObserver: 10:24pm On Jun 09, 2020
If you try that with me, I will not allow you enter my house. Na me and you get the house?

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Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by googi: 10:24pm On Jun 09, 2020
Country and time has changed, no be small. You cannot visit anyone without notice anymore.

Chai, we used to demand food unannounced. Dis iPhone generation na waa.

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Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by Lovelyn451(f): 10:25pm On Jun 09, 2020
Hian why not? Even get ur spare key sef...
Me I go to my boyfriends house, chop all his food and run back to school..

Date/marry ur best friend, there won't be any rules and protocols in the r/ship...trust me

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Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by Nellsworld(m): 10:28pm On Jun 09, 2020
Its normal, the guy is immature or he is just a cheat, a lady that is abt to be ur wife (fiance), you are giving rules, to me my gal can visit me anytime she wants, my house is her house

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Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by VenumX: 10:29pm On Jun 09, 2020
Sermwell:
We had to settle a serious quarrel in my compound today between a lady and the guy she's dating! It's actually a serious relationship because if not for the covid-19 pandemic, they would have been married!

The guy claimed that his woman came to visit him without pre-informing him and the lady was screaming at the top of her voice that she doesn't have to call him before coming.

Some of my neighbors were in support of the guy and I feel it's not right because I'm also dating someone, and we visit each other anytime we like without prior notice!!

Some of my neighbors think otherwise!!
please I need your opinion. Do you think it's wrong to visit someone you are dating without prior notice??

It shouldn't have resorted to a quarrel. It just shows how shallow the foundation of their relationship is like many other sham situationships.

Every relationship is different.

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Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by Sanchezmillz: 10:34pm On Jun 09, 2020
Sermwell:
We had to settle a serious quarrel in my compound today between a lady and the guy she's dating! It's actually a serious relationship because if not for the covid-19 pandemic, they would have been married!

The guy claimed that his woman came to visit him without pre-informing him and the lady was screaming at the top of her voice that she doesn't have to call him before coming.

Some of my neighbors were in support of the guy and I feel it's not right because I'm also dating someone, and we visit each other anytime we like without prior notice!!

Some of my neighbors think otherwise!!
please I need your opinion. Do you think it's wrong to visit someone you are dating without prior notice??

If the guy has given you his spare key,then i guess you can come unannounced. Having that key makes you also a co-owner or resident of that house. But if he hasnt,why would you come unannounced??its just logic mehn, it doesnt mean he is cheating or anything but do you date someone who doesnt have a job? Or someone wit nowhere to go? If you come and dont meet him at home nko? Who u go blame?

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Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by Chyki1(m): 10:37pm On Jun 09, 2020
Only an unrepentant cheat will ask his/her lover not to visit without prior information. Ashawo alert grade 1

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Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by Codyt(m): 10:37pm On Jun 09, 2020
Davash222:
In this modern age, only an illiterate will visit someone without prior notice.
One girl tried that rubbish with me back then in school days. I opened the door for her, just for her to see I'm not with anyone, then, I sent her home immediately. Told her to call me when she gets to her hostel.

She left.. I continued with my precious sleep.
No time guy
Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by Juliearth(f): 10:38pm On Jun 09, 2020
This is a factor of individual differences. While some may welcome this, others will not. Know your partner before throwing such surprises.

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Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by mechanics(m): 10:39pm On Jun 09, 2020
It depends on what they agreed on.
Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by Tonymegabush1(m): 10:39pm On Jun 09, 2020
Come unannounced go unannounced.

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Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by Olayetan(m): 10:39pm On Jun 09, 2020
MajorOvakporaye:
only people who are doing things that are illegal or unacceptable would find it offensive if they aren't notified of a lover's visit.

I don talk finish


Illegal things like?
An example could justify your view.
Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by barrypro: 10:40pm On Jun 09, 2020
Its not Ok, I dont like it at all.
Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by jaxxy(m): 10:41pm On Jun 09, 2020
Sermwell:
We had to settle a serious quarrel in my compound today between a lady and the guy she's dating! It's actually a serious relationship because if not for the covid-19 pandemic, they would have been married!

The guy claimed that his woman came to visit him without pre-informing him and the lady was screaming at the top of her voice that she doesn't have to call him before coming.

Some of my neighbors were in support of the guy and I feel it's not right because I'm also dating someone, and we visit each other anytime we like without prior notice!!

Some of my neighbors think otherwise!!
please I need your opinion. Do you think it's wrong to visit someone you are dating without prior notice??


If u have skeletons in ur cupboard u obviously don’t want an unannounced visit by ur babe. He’s only being smart by half.

Unless he’s the one paying her Tfair to and fro then she has to pre inform him plsss. Dependent gals don’t have such privileges.

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Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by NomzyJust(m): 10:43pm On Jun 09, 2020
Simple... hello babe, you dey house? No/Yes Now see.
Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by madamori9: 10:44pm On Jun 09, 2020
If you cannot go over to the house of someone you are dating, then something is probably wrong. The subject of privacy cannot be used to justify such sentiments.

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Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by Olayetan(m): 10:45pm On Jun 09, 2020
Sermwell:
We had to settle a serious quarrel in my compound today between a lady and the guy she's dating! It's actually a serious relationship because if not for the covid-19 pandemic, they would have been married!

The guy claimed that his woman came to visit him without pre-informing him and the lady was screaming at the top of her voice that she doesn't have to call him before coming.

Some of my neighbors were in support of the guy and I feel it's not right because I'm also dating someone, and we visit each other anytime we like without prior notice!!

Some of my neighbors think otherwise!!
please I need your opinion. Do you think it's wrong to visit someone you are dating without prior notice??


Op
Truth be told,
Only partners who have negative tots visits without informing their partner and it only mean there's no trust in such relationship..

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Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by pansophist(m): 10:47pm On Jun 09, 2020
It depends on the intent, an the situation that warrants such.

For example, if my partner visits me unannounced because her phone was lost and there was no means of communication, then that is understandable. Or other scenarios such as showing up because she was around my neighborhood, or as a surprise (a one-off thing) especially when it is accompanied by gifts, then yea, she is welcome.

But if her intent was to expose her suspicious infidelity of me, or to uncover an imaginary crime she has concocted in her head, then I will not accept that and how I shall handle the situation will depend on the situation at hand. its all about intent.

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Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by Nickymezor(f): 10:47pm On Jun 09, 2020
Nope. Courtesy demands u inform him first...what if he is out of town n u den meet his absence? But then some dude's are worth visiting unannounced. Those who are die-hard players/ liars.
Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by DaInferno(m): 10:47pm On Jun 09, 2020
I'd like her to visit unannounced, cus we are so used to each other, it doesn't matter to me
relationship no be secret cult, don't use too many unnecessary rules to spoil it, abi u be cheat?

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Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by GboyegaD(m): 10:48pm On Jun 09, 2020
Sermwell:

I think something is fishy if one of the parties in a relationship doesn't feel comfortable with visitation without prior notice. Don't you think so??

Does this mean the other party in the relationship doesn't have a life because s/he is in a relationship? In the current world we live in, courtesy is key and boundaries need be respected.

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Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by IgboGirlsFucker: 10:48pm On Jun 09, 2020
Sermwell:
We had to settle a serious quarrel in my compound today between a lady and the guy she's dating! It's actually a serious relationship because if not for the covid-19 pandemic, they would have been married!

The guy claimed that his woman came to visit him without pre-informing him and the lady was screaming at the top of her voice that she doesn't have to call him before coming.

Some of my neighbors were in support of the guy and I feel it's not right because I'm also dating someone, and we visit each other anytime we like without prior notice!!

Some of my neighbors think otherwise!!
please I need your opinion. Do you think it's wrong to visit someone you are dating without prior notice??
Interesting...
So, after all the drama and screaming, did you break up with him or he has dumped you already?
Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by vioment: 10:48pm On Jun 09, 2020
No.

Call first and make sure It's a good time.
It's called courtesy.
Re: Is It Normal To Visit Someone You Are Dating Uninvited?? by Caleb17: 10:49pm On Jun 09, 2020
It is not okay. If you lay ambush for your partner, you might end up being the one that will be injured...

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