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Bullshit, even my friends dont come to my crib without reaching out.
Talkless of a woman who`s loyalty is debatable.

MajorOvakporaye:
only people who are doing things that are illegal or unacceptable would find it offensive if they aren't notified of a lover's visit.

I don talk finish

See,unless you are a student and she is not the serious reading student, I do not see any reason why she can't visit you unannounced. Wetin you dey hide ? Even if you want to sleep, you can still sleep well.In fact, a better pillow has been provided for you .
However, everyone is different. That is why it is good for people to communicate and ask questions like this ,so that someone will not be embarrassed

Sermwell:
We had to settle a serious quarrel in my compound today between a lady and the guy she's dating! It's actually a serious relationship because if not for the covid-19 pandemic, they would have been married!

The guy claimed that his woman came to visit him without pre-informing him and the lady was screaming at the top of her voice that she doesn't have to call him before coming.

Some of my neighbors were in support of the guy and I feel it's not right because I'm also dating someone, and we visit each other anytime we like without prior notice!!

Some of my neighbors think otherwise!!
please I need your opinion. Do you think it's wrong to visit someone you are dating without prior notice??

Different strokes for different folks

Davash222:
In this modern age, only an illiterate will visit someone without prior notice.
One girl tried that rubbish with me back then in school days. I opened the door for her, just for her to see I'm not with anyone, then, I sent her home immediately. Told her to call me when she gets to her hostel.

She left.. I continued with my precious sleep.

lmao. This guy is sound jare. My nigga continue him precious sleep.

Zita55:
Wetin concern me


I can come anytime whether I informed you or not

Let me give you my address joor

Ishilove:
See them making mouth on the first page like lions, meanwhile in reality if she shows up unannounced they will meekly welcome her and rush to go and buy fuel for the house. Shior

They do that because they're sure of nacking the girl. Simple.

joseph1832:
They do that because they're sure of nacking the girl. Simple.

Only immature, sex starved guys do that.

It is the dumbest thing to do. It smacks of no trust and a monitoring spirit infestation. That thing you will do if you jam another person, why not go ahead and do it if you don't trust your guy? Ways of spoilt forcnicants.

chiddyok:
It’s not normal ooo. Even if they give you a copy of their key, please call them before you go.
My people say e better make them greet you 2 days than you done come again.

Lol
Where can I find a girl like you?

Tonymegabush1:
Hope u wouldn't come unannounced Nne

well if na correct person would inform him first...Players should be caught in the Act.So surprise visit for those ones

femmyapson:
Which of them?
Tunde or Dapo?

Lmao

whitelotus:
Only immature, sex starved guys do that.

personally don't believe maturity has anything to do with sex.

Ejenavi18:
It's okay but I don't like it.
I don't like someone showing up in my home unannounced.

the person yur dating is now *someone

Sermwell:
We had to settle a serious quarrel in my compound today between a lady and the guy she's dating! It's actually a serious relationship because if not for the covid-19 pandemic, they would have been married!

The guy claimed that his woman came to visit him without pre-informing him and the lady was screaming at the top of her voice that she doesn't have to call him before coming.

Some of my neighbors were in support of the guy and I feel it's not right because I'm also dating someone, and we visit each other anytime we like without prior notice!!

Some of my neighbors think otherwise!!
please I need your opinion. Do you think it's wrong to visit someone you are dating without prior notice??

from my perspective its wrong to go visit your partner unannounced. What if he or she went out, travelled beside that what the eye doesn't see does not weakens the heart

E no make sense at all abeg...me I won't condone such


Guy please come and patronize us

MajorOvakporaye:
only people who are doing things that are illegal or unacceptable would find it offensive if they aren't notified of a lover's visit.

I don talk finish

i support you.....i dnt knw why all the comments above sounds so harsh... .... someone u claim u love com visiting unannounced... u dey vex.... why?..

Well it depends on the understanding and if the guy never said you are free to come anytime I think it's best you notify him, just imagine if the guy friend came visiting mayb with his Gf and the guy and his friend quickly step out to get something in the eatery of a cold beer to chill the day and the Gf come unannounced only to meed the friends bae in the house settled and relax with remote and she steps in I guess the first look of reaction won't be good.

megley:
I don't visit anybody without informing them

I don't like unannounced visits too especially if you're bringing someone along

Give me heads up. What if you don't meet me at home? I wouldn't wanna just show up at anybody's doorstep and find out they're not at home. I don't have that kind of time to waste

So you mean someone you are about to get married to should inform you before coming to visit you?? what are you hiding??

Sermwell:
We had to settle a serious quarrel in my compound today between a lady and the guy she's dating! It's actually a serious relationship because if not for the covid-19 pandemic, they would have been married!

The guy claimed that his woman came to visit him without pre-informing him and the lady was screaming at the top of her voice that she doesn't have to call him before coming.

Some of my neighbors were in support of the guy and I feel it's not right because I'm also dating someone, and we visit each other anytime we like without prior notice!!

Some of my neighbors think otherwise!!
please I need your opinion. Do you think it's wrong to visit someone you are dating without prior notice??

In a sentence, it's absolutely wrong.

realtalk19:
I am of the opinion of informing the person before visit. I am not a fan of imprompu visits because I like being prepared so you wunt come to my place and what I have planned out doesn't include an extra mouth or invasion of space. I cherish my privacy a lot.

I always inform whoever am visiting ahead of time.

So you mean someone you are about to get married to should inform you before coming to visit you??

Sermwell:
So you mean someone you are about to get married to should inform you before coming to visit you?? what are you hiding??

It's not about hiding something. Do not let that becloud your thinking. Would you be happy if your mother-in-law pays you guys a visit without informing you or your wife first?

Think about it.

What’s the essence of dating if you can’t put your mind at rest and date positively. What if he doesn’t cheat and still doesn’t end up marrying you. Is good to learn to respect people’s privacy. Am a lady and I won’t take that.
Aside cheating I can get busy with work. I have plans for the day and not think of wondering how a bf is cheating.
I think there should be others things to think of in a relationship than cheating! cheating! Cheating!

joseph1832:
personally don't believe maturity has anything to do with sex.

It does. At some level, a man shouldnt be that desperate for sex that he would swallow his pride and personal space.

Dynahair15:
from my perspective its wrong to go visit your partner unannounced. What if he or she went out, travelled beside that what the eye doesn't see does not weakens the heart

How can your partner travel without your knowledge if there's true communication between you guys??

I've only try it once and have promised myself not to try it again, took off to her place around 9 pm so I got there around 10pm but to my greatest shock the kind padlock wey I meet for her door ehn. I was shocked dialed her number and it was switched off.

It is a matter of personal preference. Personally, I will want to prepare for you both physically and mentally so the heads up will be good. Also, I usually do a lot of mental work and for my mental stability, it would be nice to know so I can round up and properly be with you. It's just a heads-up.

Sermwell:
So you mean someone you are about to get married to should inform you before coming to visit you?? what are you hiding??

Your missing the point here. Its not about what someone is hiding. Its about prep.

You re still same person that will go out there and broadcast that erhh, I visited this person`s house. He could not even offer me a bottle of coke.

Cocao:
It is a matter of personal preference. Personally, I will want to prepare for you both physically and mentally so the heads up will be good. Also, I usually do a lot of mental work and for my mental stability, it would be nice to know so I can round up and properly be with you. It's just a heads-up.

Precisely!
I also need that time to prep, both mentally and otherwise. Same rule applies to the girlfriend. Fiancee though, thats a different talk.

Species on here think that such a situation is black and white.

AfroKnight:
Most of these comments only consider the situation where the woman visits the man unannounced. Perhaps if the roles were reversed they would understand the need to call beforehand.

Even if you get key, madam, call me before you show.

She have my key, I have hers but I will never ever go unannounced and she will never try that rubbish with me. Well, the relationship is free of sex and the likes probably why it is easier. Trust is one key thing in a relationship, if its lacking it wont work. If she doesn't trust the guy why not end the relationship, why put herself under unnecessary pressure and emotional stress.

Liliantalks:
I pity the babe that will date this one

Eyaaah, But we're doing great and hope to get married soon. Jokes on you.