Nickymezor:
well if na correct person would inform him first...Players should be caught in the Act.So surprise visit for those ones

How would you know a correct person. In your Personal text, "I will climb the mountain because of U". Things you do for correct person..

Must our first thoughts be negative?
What if the guy don’t have food stuffs or money to take care of her?
What if he was managing himself to pass through the week without hope of income from any angle
What of the ladies Transportation when going back?
We don’t know what’s going on with him that is making him challenge the lady
For me it’s not righ to visit ur partner unannounced

Tonymegabush1:




How would you know a correct person. In your Personal text, "I will climb the mountain because of U". Things you do for correct person..

A correct person is honest n straight forward etc .By their actions U will know one.

Nickymezor:
A correct person is honest n straight forward etc .By their actions U will know one.

Sharp loud n clear.. Correct person [guy] + another correct person [lady]=

Let out all other point of trust aside

It's very wrong for either of the partners to visit unannounced

For their safety, many things can happen apart from meeting him/her cheating

Sermwell:
We had to settle a serious quarrel in my compound today between a lady and the guy she's dating! It's actually a serious relationship because if not for the covid-19 pandemic, they would have been married!

The guy claimed that his woman came to visit him without pre-informing him and the lady was screaming at the top of her voice that she doesn't have to call him before coming.

Some of my neighbors were in support of the guy and I feel it's not right because I'm also dating someone, and we visit each other anytime we like without prior notice!!

Some of my neighbors think otherwise!!
please I need your opinion. Do you think it's wrong to visit someone you are dating without prior notice??

Sermwell:
We had to settle a serious quarrel in my compound today between a lady and the guy she's dating! It's actually a serious relationship because if not for the covid-19 pandemic, they would have been married!

The guy claimed that his woman came to visit him without pre-informing him and the lady was screaming at the top of her voice that she doesn't have to call him before coming.

Some of my neighbors were in support of the guy and I feel it's not right because I'm also dating someone, and we visit each other anytime we like without prior notice!!

Some of my neighbors think otherwise!!
please I need your opinion. Do you think it's wrong to visit someone you are dating without prior notice??

what is your business?
do you live in the barracks?
cho cho cho

realtalk19:


It's not about being a cheat. It's planning and preparation. You can't be showing up at my place unannounced and maybe I may not be around/ i already have my mum or siblings around/ my resources can't carry us for that period of showing up.

Just imagine this kind of excuse ���

EzzyCarter:

Which fruit? Read my comment again and show me what indicates the fact that I am a cheat. Talk about jumping to conclusions . Well, you don't know me so you're entitled to ur opinion sha

Oga wether you are a cheat or not is certainly not my business. I just erred my opinion

fallingsky:






Just imagine this kind of excuse ���

That is my policy. Whatever rocks your boat may not rock mine.i don't like impromptu visits.

Sermwell:

So you mean someone you are about to get married to should inform you before coming to visit you??

Is there any big deal in someone who am about getting married to informing me about his coming? I wouldn't even show up at someone's doorstep without informing them ahead. It's not my style. I respect people's privacy. We are different in our ways.

telling someone before u visit him or her for me has nothing to do with cheating, even me will inform my family members if there's any visit and I expect the same from them....it might even be because of the nature of my work

Sermwell:

I think something is fishy if one of the parties in a relationship doesn't feel comfortable with visitation without prior notice. Don't you think so??

Sorry to say Sir/ma.... It's not about the trust.... It is simple courtesy for you to inform ANYBODY you are visiting ahead of ur visit.... It's that simple..... Except for reasons beyond ur control u find urself having to visit unannounced but not that you do it as an habit.... It's very rude....

There's nothing wrong in visiting your partner unannounced. They would've been married if not for the pandemic. It's not a big deal. The guy is making mountains out of mole hill.

Poloyanabo1:
I visit my friends unanounced, if i don't meet them home, i call... i don't feel dissapointed if i don't meet them home.
I have no problems if my babe decide to visit me unannounced and i too do visit her unannounced.
But when she does visit me unannounced, she hardly gets my attention.

Lol maybe u dey live for ajebo area and get ajebo friends.... Come try am for Aj visit without calling to check whether coast clear.... Dem go just break bottle for ya head sara....���

I don't welcome uninvited guests.. same thing applies to my relationship rules because I won't go over to his place uninvited.

Sermwell:
We had to settle a serious quarrel in my compound today between a lady and the guy she's dating! It's actually a serious relationship because if not for the covid-19 pandemic, they would have been married!

The guy claimed that his woman came to visit him without pre-informing him and the lady was screaming at the top of her voice that she doesn't have to call him before coming.

Some of my neighbors were in support of the guy and I feel it's not right because I'm also dating someone, and we visit each other anytime we like without prior notice!!

Some of my neighbors think otherwise!!
please I need your opinion. Do you think it's wrong to visit someone you are dating without prior notice??

Ladies' FBI tactic 101
Its a must for both parties to do it occasionally

moonraker:


Precisely!
I also need that time to prep, both mentally and otherwise. Same rule applies to the girlfriend. Fiancee though, thats a different talk.

Species on here think that such a situation is black and white.

It is not black and white at all. Springing up on me will naturally dis-balance and disorientate me. It is not a matter of cheating at all.

But with a partner though it would be different because then you have the time to prepare yourself for your new normal.

Davash222:
In this modern age, only an illiterate will visit someone without prior notice.
One girl tried that rubbish with me back then in school days. I opened the door for her, just for her to see I'm not with anyone, then, I sent her home immediately. Told her to call me when she gets to her hostel.

She left.. I continued with my precious sleep.

Its not normal, know your boundaries.

@op go and finish what you have Started

Ariza:

Ariza love, I asked you a question on curious cat, yet to get my answer.

One4me:


Do you guys/babes forget that not too long ago, we had no Mobile Phones to call the other party or give prior notice? (Anyway, maybe my generation sha)
She/he showed up, our eyes light up with suprise and we hug him/her with our best smile and took them inside.
If he/she did not meet you at home, he/she just entered and relax (even if he/she has no key, he/she will chill with neighbours) till you come.

Thatz all, and that is why the marriages of the past, tend to last longer than that of today. FULL, UNSELFISH COMMITMENT.
seriously, do people feel annoyed when they see the person they want to marry (say in three weeks time) or they feel overjoyed?

Like four months to my marriage, we couldn't see enough of each other, if she was not in my house, l was in her house, as we count down to the day.
Anyway, things have changed now, humanbeings have changed, interraction has changed, relationship has changed, Values and Morals have changed, dressing has changed and it is only normal that Love-Life would have changed.

you're on point bro....
However, time has been of the essence of recent and i cant imagine my frustration of travelling a reasonable distance only to be stranded or dissapointed...
Visiting ones spouse without notice is not wrong, buh to avoid complications, its better he/she calls first!

Nickymezor:
Nope. Courtesy demands u inform him first...what if he is out of town n u den meet his absence? But then some dude's are worth visiting unannounced. Those who are die-hard players/ liars.

Continue ma

snadguy007:


Continue ma

Done commenting o .Snaddie how far now?

whitelotus:


Many Nairalanders are children and so, they do not understand the complexities of life.

Even my parents and siblings do not enter my house unannounced, not to talk of a girlfriend (back when I was dating). The only time this is allowed is during emergencies or you are doing a surprise event (eg intervention)

Furthermore, many Nigerians cannot think internationally. In the winter in Europe, you would suffer if you went to someone's house unannounced because, you will wait outside in the cold before the person opens the door for you. That is if even the person decides to open the door. Europeans do not like unannounced visits.

Also, personally, I am a busy man. I plan my time very well. Back when I was dating, there were few days in the week that I couldnt spare for anyone, even while I was at home. Coming in unannounced would make me treat you like a problem.

Unless you are a fiancee or a wife, you have no rights to access a man's place. In a civilized country, a neighbour can even get you arrested for standing in the front porch of your boyfriend's house if you are there unannounced. The police will ask you what rights do you have to be on another person's property. God help you if your boyfriend's phone is off when police is questioning you.

You see this right here. This is a Million Dollar comment. Although, it goes for both gender.

Taking a look at majority of the comments here (and on these type of threads), makes you wonder how some people actually live.

That was how Joke landed in My Place one time Like that, I just weak, but her Massive Behind was a big reliever,

Adejoke wherever you are God bless you for that visit

whitelotus:



The op never said that they were engaged. The title of this thread clearly says "dating".

It is good manners to respect someone's personal space and house. Call before coming. It only shows that you have no respect and manners. I cannot date or even marry a woman with such behaviour.

Even the law is clear on this issue. You shouldn't be on someone's property without permission. If police gets involved, you are in trouble.

Sí.

Another reason I avoid these threads. I've stopped trying.

Most times, you discover that it isn't actually the comment that is hide-bound.

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No mata hw serious ur relationshp is, pls dont visit d one u ar dating uninvited. I was introduced as a panter last week.
We neva setle d mata til nw

DriggityDre:

You see this right here. This is a Million Dollar comment. Although, it goes for both gender.

Taking a look at majority of the comments here (and on these type of threads), makes you wonder how some people actually live.

Guy, I dont blame you if you are discouraged by the comments here on this thread. A lot of nairalanders are either immature or jobless or even both.

Walahitalahi very very wrong ...... I hate nonsense.... Who want August visitor

Don't go if he did not invite you. Even my mother cannot come if I did not invite him.