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KingWarri:
Sista abeg lie small small naaa....

Na the sarma be that?

Rozz:
liers everywhere as if they are not the same persons pestering ladies with marriage up and down.Pls let me breath mtcheww

They might be doing that just to get to the promise land and keep enjoy it there.

First arrangee. Came back for Xmas and we finally met. He said if I agree before the end of the week we will marry. I refused, Oga wedded another woman end of the week. I marvel at women . You marry someone you are meeting for the first time in less than 3 days.

2nd Arrangee. Suddenly realized he was getting old. I was 19 and just got admission he was 34.There was nothing he didn't promise me even a car. My plans in life didn't have him in it. Will be disturbing me with midnight calls. #1 of his money I didn't see, an importer at that with so many shops. He doesn't give girls money lyk he said.His mum on meeting me for the first time told me if I won't marry him I shouldn't waste his time and money. I left him quick quick.
When I refused and left for school, he dated another girl that he paid for her school fee for 4 yrs including project and clearance then the girl absconded. I was on my way home from school when he met me on the road after 5 yrs to narrate the whole story and started begging me again.you and your mother should Eat your money. Nonsense

3rd was hellish. My lecturer. This man begged me at every opportunity until my course mates started laughing at us. He informed even his colleagues and they joined in begging me. He was in his 40s while I was in my early 20s.

After I went out with him on a lecturers insistence, he was gulping okra soup ND telling me he can't stay a day without eating it. We drove over to his house where he claimed he wanted to pick something. This man inserted porn for meoo and started caressing me as his gbola has risen. God saved me that day. Anuofia..

One week later he called me that our wedding cards was out. See me see wahala, I had to inform my bf and parents. It was war. Laslas he started threatening me with my results in final yr. My lecturer friend and my Course adviser had to warn him.

Almost a decade later, he isn't married yet which is his business anyway.

4th one that I was recommended to. On our first meeting the fool was squirming in his seat and when he could finally muster courage to talk had the guts to ask me if I was ready to bear children. I then asked him if that was all a wife means to him. Idiot. No introductions whatsoever.

They are plenty oo. For one man that esdapes a desperate woman, the woman has escaped 5x more. . E NO get wetin we no dey see.

Ps no pms. I already have 3 boys

sassysure:
U want to marry me
I am a married woman of course.

Just wanted to let you guys know it ain't easy on babes too. In dormitory, I was nicknamed one guys name because he couldn't give up. Till I went to uni.

He is one of my cousin's friend. Took my picture( don't know if its with his permission) from his house and enlarged. Hung in his sitting room.
When he finally got the message that I don't want to marry him, he went for another person. It was around Easter break and I came home from school, was jisting with a nebor when I saw a convoy of cars,asked and was told it's the guy. This guy still stopped, walked up to where me and the elderly woman were. Thank goodness for that woman. She deflected what would have hung me finally. I saw this guy with the wife drove pass me the next day, he stopped and came out to greet me. I have to involve the head of his family. I sneak in to my village towards late evening, use apiam way and enter my house through the backyard. Stay with my mum without coming out till I leave. All because of men. They will be at the compound with the elders and I will jump fence from the back and disappear straight to my mum's hometown.

Girls get it worst. They will ruin your reputation. They will go to beer parlour and make u the topic of discussion.
A babe almost blinded me with very long cane simply because her so called boyfriend wanted to marry me. His dad mandated him to marry me. Have never met the guy. Actually bypassed him on his way to my house to see me
He don't know me either. It wasn't easy for me at all. Some babes get guys who want to befriend them, I get suitors. Had few,very few guys who want to befriend me and all were outside my state.

Some will stalk you.

So when u guys are busy making it look like babes are all over you, know that your brothers are killing themselves over other women. They spent money, they can go to any length.

The way men aggressively pursued me actually had a very negative effect on me toward men cos it was suffocating and too clingy. Yeah, at a point my mummy got worried cos I never responded positively to any.

You want to know about what women pass through in the hands of men, u will never find it here, go to hair salon or campus and you will be shocked to see the level men( not boys) with money and class will go to have a babe answer his name.

Ma'am, you must be pretty, intelligent and well brought up. It's a shame that we can't see your picture on this forum.

Ulunne777:
First arrangee. Came back for Xmas and we finally met. He said if I agree before the end of the week we will marry. I refused, Oga wedded another woman end of the week. I marvel at women . You marry someone you are meeting for the first time in less than 3 days.

2nd Arrangee. Suddenly realized he was getting old. I was 19 and just got admission he was 34.There was nothing he didn't promise me even a car. My plans in life didn't have him in it. Will be disturbing me with midnight calls. #1 of his money I didn't see, an importer at that with so many shops. He doesn't give girls money lyk he said.His mum on meeting me for the first time told me if I won't marry him I shouldn't waste his time and money. I left him quick quick.
When I refused and left for school, he dated another girl that he paid for her school fee for 4 yrs including project and clearance then the girl absconded. I was on my way home from school when he met me on the road after 5 yrs to narrate the whole story and started begging me again.you and your mother should Eat your money. Nonsense

3rd was hellish. My lecturer. This man begged me at every opportunity until my course mates started laughing at us. He informed even his colleagues and they joined in begging me. He was in his 40s while I was in my early 20s.

After I went out with him on a lecturers insistence, he was gulping okra soup ND telling me he can't stay a day without eating it. We drove over to his house where he claimed he wanted to pick something. This man inserted porn for meoo and started caressing me as his gbola has risen. God saved me that day. Anuofia..

One week later he called me that our wedding cards was out. See me see wahala, I had to inform my bf and parents. It was war. Laslas he started threatening me with my results in final yr. My lecturer friends had to warn him.

Almost a decade later, he isn't married yet which is his business anyway.

4th one that I was recommended to. On our first meeting the fool was squirming in his seat and when he could finally muster courage to talk had the guts to ask me if I was ready to bear children. I then asked him if that was all a wife means to him. Idiot. No introductions whatsoever.

They are plenty oo. Ulunne is a wife material oo. E NO get wetin I no see

Which wife material and they're introducing you like website?

adewumiopeyemi:
Just look at me begging a girl of 30years to date me and she is doing yanga imagine ��

NEVER BEG FOR LOVE, IT WOULD ALWAYS END IN TEARS !!!

ravensckar:
Honestly, when I read one-sided write ups like these, I feel appalled. Ain't there two sides to a coin any more? The so-called 'desperation' from ladies may not always be what you think. It could be a way of saying their own mind is made up. They have no more time to waste.

Now, let me shock you with my own story. When I met the lady I'm married to today, she told me straight up that she's not in for any long term relationship. She's almost done with school and that if the relationship won't lead to marriage, I should jejely excuse her. Me being the 'guyman' that I was then, I wanted to chop and clean mouth. I sha played along with the intent to chop until I'm full. Now, therein lies my confusion; the said lady in question was everything I wanted in a woman (beautiful, educated, well behaved, God-fearing and highly industrious). But I have just one problem; I wasn't ready for marriage. Money no dey, even the job I was doing then, salary was around 70K.


She sha encouraged me that we should pull our resources together and that we'll survive. Long story cut short, I decided to give it a shot. After all, person wey dey ground no get anywhere to fall to. We got married in less than 4 months of dating. When I mean married, I mean a proper and elaborate wedding. Brethrens, today we're still together. Yes, she's not perfect just like I'm not as well, but we are still happily married.

It was later I understood the reason for her 'desperation'. She had wasted too much time dating some Bleep boys, hence, she felt she has no more time to waste. To her, if it's not going to lead to marriage, then, she shouldn't even venture into it. What we guys see as 'desperation' to some ladies, it's called making up their mind.

Sincerely, this is the best comment I've read on this thread... there's nothing wrong with a lady stating clear to a guy the direction she wants for her life and relationship. You don't call that desperation.

When a relationship fails the ladies tend to lose more, so it's only normal that they will do their best to build a solid relationship... a lot of times, the ladies don't really want marriage instantly, they just want to be sure that the guy they are dating has solid plans to settle down someday and they are top on that plan especially now when commitment scares a lot of guys

rowland545:
Lols...would have loved to share mine...but while we were dating I introduced her to nairaland...so I won't....b4 someone calls me now and starts to abuse me...but if she is reading this...u are a very nice girl and u need Patience in your life....


Breaking up with u was the best thing I did for myself...the pressure was too much...and lemme advice u...I don't think u will get married any time soon with that attitude.


I feel relieve a bit saying all this...because I don't think I can say it to her face...peace out

Hope say u no Dey refer to me sha?
Lol
Very funny

Eileene:
why will a 21yr old gal be desperate for marriage

I was in amusement when I notice her urge for marriage, am just woundering Sir

gaius01:
I was in amusement when I notice her urge for marriage, am just woundering Sir

pls oh don't turn me to a male

rowland545:
Lols...would have loved to share mine...but while we were dating I introduced her to nairaland...so I won't....b4 someone calls me now and starts to abuse me...but if she is reading this...u are a very nice girl and u need Patience in your life....


Breaking up with u was the best thing I did for myself...the pressure was too much...and lemme advice u...I don't think u will get married any time soon with that attitude.


I feel relieve a bit saying all this...because I don't think I can say it to her face...peace out

Coward!

Eileene:
pls oh don't turn me to a male

am so sorry please accept my apologies I didn't know

sassysure:
What I'm reading here make it look like ladies are the only desperate ones.


Have u ever seen a desperate guy who want to marry a lady by fire by force?
He is that lady's everyday nightmare.
Sometimes, u have to involve the elders to stop him from harassing you.

The worst is that they are very manipulative.

If they happen to be from the same village with you, all worst.

They will try to manipulate your parents through their family and friends, when they see that your family is the struggling type, they will introduce money.
Some are so arrogant they will go straight to your people with their elders without consulting you or even proposing first not to talk of u accepting their proposal.

As a young maiden, I saw it all. Some came to my school, sometimes especially during Christmas when u go home, u will wonder if father Christmas visited your house.
Is it gifts, they don't take rejection easily.

I had lots of suitors. If they were 10( trust me, I got more than that), 7 were very shocked I said no, then 5 started aggressive wooing using all manner of manipulations.

Most babes around me experience the same thing. It's worst when you enter higher institution. Get admission to study medicine, pharmacy or nursing and they will break your father's gate. U will get call from abroad( both genuine and fake abroaders )tire.

Most well to do men from my tribe don't accept rejection easily. It is a knockout on his image and they have this huge ego. And if you are wooing a girl for marriage, most times, your peers and family are aware of that.
So its a kind of challange and a hurdle they must cross by any means possible. What ladies dont know is that when such men finally nail you, you are simply a trophy at that particular moment to be discarded for another one.
When you say no,mean it and move on.

i know the tribe

9ise:
Coward!

dolapo..... So it's you

I met this girl through one of my fwb, she liked me and asked my fwb to tell me. As a sharp guy, I grab the offer. Things were smooth not until she asked me to give her a ring just few months into the relationship. She was always talking about marriage, family, kids etc. I quickly borrow my sef brain!! I take off, discharge am. E no reach 2weeks I hear say she don dey date one guy for my area.

9ise:
Coward!

being a coward is sometimes good

Temhellen:
Hope say u no Dey refer to me sha?
Lol
Very funny

lols...u r not my Jane... If that's u on ur dp...u really do look cute

Davicl:
Which wife material and they're introducing you like website?

Lol . I was the hotcake

gaius01:
am so sorry please accept my apologies I didn't know

No problem

NockMedia:
Ma'am, you must be pretty, intelligent and well brought up. It's a shame that we can't see your picture on this forum.

...

Do the math... Early twenties in final year with a desperate lecturer, let's say 23... ND den ten years on.. D said lecturer isn't married..that mean shld shld b 33 by now...

Well, with a very disctint beauty ND good behavior, especially her very rare level of intelligence ND hard work, sh should b with two kids by now with a very d doting hubby..........

Happy married life uluuma

Ulunne777:
Lol . I was the hotcake

Indeed

fatymore:
Lol


All your brothers wet dey lie for this thread nko.


I am serious thou

It's prevalent in ladies . I even have a lady of 35 disturbing me for marriage and I'm just 28 oo. I can't narrate all the story .

rowland545:
lols...u r not my Jane... If that's u on ur dp...u really do look cute

Hmmm... Mr Rowland, now i see who really dodged the bullet huh

evwodere:
Ewoooo.. Yes. I met this bae. We start to get along. I tell her say I get bae b4 now. She agreed oo... My fellow nairalanders, every single second she talk abt marriage. Wetin cum pain me pass sef say, one day she call me sit down, come tell me say she give me from now till 2 months to break up with bae and marry her. D gal get anger problem. That day as we dy discuss en, b4 I know she Don dy rise lyk kpomo.. Guy as she rise, she dy luk my TV. Chai I say if u touch Dat TV en we die here. She cum dy beg me mk I jst discharge Dat bae mk I marry her. My dear, I ran 4 my life oo. Desperation? Na author of wahala ooo

Why she dey look your TV?


She dey plan spoil am?

KevinDein:
He did the right thing. You rather stay single than be with him. Not everyone will like us, you included, he understands that, he avoids you, I don't see any issue here.

i included he avoided me cuz we were still talking even after he got married.

sassysure:
What I'm reading here make it look like ladies are the only desperate ones.


Have u ever seen a desperate guy who want to marry a lady by fire by force?
He is that lady's everyday nightmare.
Sometimes, u have to involve the elders to stop him from harassing you.

The worst is that they are very manipulative.

If they happen to be from the same village with you, all worst.

They will try to manipulate your parents through their family and friends, when they see that your family is the struggling type, they will introduce money.
Some are so arrogant they will go straight to your people with their elders without consulting you or even proposing first not to talk of u accepting their proposal.

As a young maiden, I saw it all. Some came to my school, sometimes especially during Christmas when u go home, u will wonder if father Christmas visited your house.
Is it gifts, they don't take rejection easily.

I had lots of suitors. If they were 10( trust me, I got more than that), 7 were very shocked I said no, then 5 started aggressive wooing using all manner of manipulations.

Most babes around me experience the same thing. It's worst when you enter higher institution. Get admission to study medicine, pharmacy or nursing and they will break your father's gate. U will get call from abroad( both genuine and fake abroaders )tire.

Most well to do men from my tribe don't accept rejection easily. It is a knockout on his image and they have this huge ego. And if you are wooing a girl for marriage, most times, your peers and family are aware of that.
So its a kind of challange and a hurdle they must cross by any means possible. What ladies dont know is that when such men finally nail you, you are simply a trophy at that particular moment to be discarded for another one.
When you say no,mean it and move on.

You are very correct abt your narrative, but you just goofed towards the end.. "and when they nail it, you get discarded ND they look for another".. All lies, cuz there are less Than 0.05%polygamy in igbo land cuz I know that's where ur from.......

And most aggressive wooing Av experienced who later got their trophy are worshiped by the hubby till date.. ND the wives tell their kids how very valuable sh was ND how their dad chased her up ND down with nolstalga........


Plz say only the truth ND remove the onions we d elders of communities across naija are reading

Blackmoran:
Yea my ex..... She came all the way from benue to leave with me, every day she keeps bombarding me with pictures of people wedding, fantasising on babies and us having kid together... Though this girl was cool she is homely can cook clean and kind of intelligent to spice it up my family loves her so much especially my dad, she has this free spirit personality.. But my instinct wasn't good with the idea it was too good to be true.. And secondly I wasn't ready financially to take on the burden of marriage but this girl never mind.... During December she travelled with my junior sister to his home town, to cut the story short I followed my instinct and today am a surviver of what would have given me heart attack....... During the thick of the moment she started showing are true colour, that homely girl started showing arrogant trait, the change was fast that I thought this can't be true... I did the right thing I broke up with her... Though my dad was sad about it but I let him know I know her more Than Them and what she portray is not who she is... A week after we brokeup my junior sister gave me the shocking news of my life.... That my ex was pregnant. . I didn't believe her cause We haven't had sex up to 4 months meaning when she was with me she was banging another dick... I waited till eight month later to find out she gave birth to a baby boy...and here let me burst your brain the father of the baby was my best friend who I trust so much...na that one pain me pass ... Lesson when a girl is trying to rush you into marraige run for your life.... If you want to get married do it at your convenient time... All girls would be at there good behavior during courtship, this one even take it to the extreme she even dey cut grass for compound... Na after marriage woman go show you are real colour....

this one is strong oooo

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Well have move on

musa234:
Maybe she get another bobo

I will rather fight for love other than beg for love

Mykel51:
NEVER BEG FOR LOVE, IT WOULD ALWAYS END IN TEARS !!!

Dicktion:
Cut grass? Mogbe
These hoes can act to the extent that even Hollywood would marvel at their artistry and award them


Asin ehn. I got a bro whose life's fvcked by the type of lady you just described. They are angels during courtship and worse than the devil when married. They have this believe that I'm married now so I can doing anything I like not forgetting that they can still be thrown out if their nonsensical nonsense can't be taken no more

Do guys not also pretend until dey get wat dey want?

Ulunne777:
First arrangee. Came back for Xmas and we finally met. He said if I agree before the end of the week we will marry. I refused, Oga wedded another woman end of the week. I marvel at women . You marry someone you are meeting for the first time in less than 3 days.

2nd Arrangee. Suddenly realized he was getting old. I was 19 and just got admission he was 34.There was nothing he didn't promise me even a car. My plans in life didn't have him in it. Will be disturbing me with midnight calls. #1 of his money I didn't see, an importer at that with so many shops. He doesn't give girls money lyk he said.His mum on meeting me for the first time told me if I won't marry him I shouldn't waste his time and money. I left him quick quick.
When I refused and left for school, he dated another girl that he paid for her school fee for 4 yrs including project and clearance then the girl absconded. I was on my way home from school when he met me on the road after 5 yrs to narrate the whole story and started begging me again.you and your mother should Eat your money. Nonsense

3rd was hellish. My lecturer. This man begged me at every opportunity until my course mates started laughing at us. He informed even his colleagues and they joined in begging me. He was in his 40s while I was in my early 20s.

After I went out with him on a lecturers insistence, he was gulping okra soup ND telling me he can't stay a day without eating it. We drove over to his house where he claimed he wanted to pick something. This man inserted porn for meoo and started caressing me as his gbola has risen. God saved me that day. Anuofia..

One week later he called me that our wedding cards was out. See me see wahala, I had to inform my bf and parents. It was war. Laslas he started threatening me with my results in final yr. My lecturer friends had to warn him.

Almost a decade later, he isn't married yet which is his business anyway.

4th one that I was recommended to. On our first meeting the fool was squirming in his seat and when he could finally muster courage to talk had the guts to ask me if I was ready to bear children. I then asked him if that was all a wife means to him. Idiot. No introductions whatsoever.

They are plenty oo. Ulunne is a wife material oo. E NO get wetin I no see

Ulunne name follows pple, it is because of ur name datz y diz pple u listed and many more chased u to U.S.A and back.....ulunne..nice name...