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Cchuks27:
Funny enough, I have both apps on my phone. I use them simultaneously. However, I guess I prefer Quora only because of their algorithm.

lordweezy:
Chai inside life

QuinModah:
People will betray you, you can't escape it. What is more important is that you come out Better

Have you being betrayed before? Share your story, you might heal

Use share so others can learn


While I was working for a company. I got diagnosed of a kidney infection and was admitted in the hospital for two weeks. I was staying with my father’s elder sister at the time because my parents were here in Abuja

Two weeks of constant drugs,drips and injections on my *you know* and guess what, my aunt and her family never came to visit for one day. My friends(even tho I didn’t have a lot of them) were to busy to come see me. No company representative to pay me a visit.

Everyday I would walk to the little store close to the hospital to buy biscuits and yoghurt because no one would bring them to me.


Betrayal hurts so bad because it never comes from strangers but those of your household.

This is why I recommend people live like they are alone on this planet. Have zero expectations. Any human can become anything at anytime.When u expect so much from people, betrayal is inevitable. Live ur life without expectations.

Olamsoh:
When my dad retired from his regional managerial position in an oil company in 2007, things were super rosy for a bit and everyone (family & friends) were swarming around like bees to honey.

Fast forward 3 years later when Dad was duped in tens of millions, things started to wane and then we saw the harsh reality of life roared it's ugly head. Friends turned foes, family turned it's back.

My dad went for a major hip replacement surgery and was stranded in the hospital. Several calls to ex colleagues of his, friends etc seemed mission impossible and it was really surprising seeing these same people that flocked around and requested numerous favors from my dad act like they couldn't even recognize his name. My mum cried, my dad was bitter and there was this huge cloud of disappointment, disbelief and betrayal hanging over my family.

We felt Betrayed but better enough to use that as the fuel/energy for our comeback

Pascopele:
Immediately after the burial, a friend of mine that I trust so much on nairaland came to me that he needed help.

He needed 600K to tie up a business deal that his life and future depends on it. He promised to bring back the money in 2 months. I explained my financial situation to him and how its expensive to do burial in our tradition and all that.

But being who I am, I wouldn't want a friend to pass up an opportunity so I approached my elder brother who in turn called a friend to lend me the money because my elder. My elder bro trust me with all he is got.

While collecting the 600K, I told them I will repay in two months time instead of the one month my friend told me.

One month elapsed and he didn't bring the money, I gave him grace of another two weeks hoping I will meet up with. The time I gave my elder bro and his friend.

One month elapsed and my dear friend behaved as if I am putting unnecessary pressure on him, saying ," Pasco, you chill na, I go arrange the bar give you, just exercise some patient a little longer", I don't like reneging on my words so I looked for someone on nairaland who borrowed me 600K in exchange for my 8 months salary starting from August last year to March

Those 8 months are the toughest period of my life. I was grieving my dad and couldn't support my mom the way I wanted to and couldn't explain it to anyone. Not even my elder bro knew what happened.

I swallowed it like man and was barely surviving for those 8 months.

I was Betrayed and he is still owing me.

I no swear o! But e go hard for me to stick my neck out for another like that and I learnt.

Lesson: Love all trust none. I don't borrow people money again. I give up on helping people. I swear but we move ✌️

Leezah:
Reading the stories on the trend, I learnt the following:
� The people who can hurt us the most are those we call friends because they have every detailed information about us.
� In a relationship, whatever that's going on is between you and your partner. There should be no third parties involved. Do not get your friends too close to your partner.
� Curtail information you feed to friends and some family members too because people are not what we think they are.
� Learn to give your trust to those who have earned it.



2012 was a learning seasons for me. I housed a friend in UAE not knowing he does drugs until the day he was caught. He dribbled the police to call and send signal to my very good friend and next door neighbor to ask him to dispose of the stuffs in the house & ask me and everyone there to leave as well. But reason best known to him, he came and took some bags away, informed the people in the other room of the situation and left me and my boyfriend as we were watching a movie


For all we know, he went down to buy some groceries. Angry that he had wasted time and that he sent someone to carry his bag without telling me. Angry to myself too for even letting him carry the bag out. Weird as it was but I kept quiet.

After some time this friend and next door neighbor called me to his room where he sat with his wife both scooping beans into their mouths, told me that I should stay calm as my friend has been arrested & will be coming with police for questioning but I shouldn’t fret but answer them, not seeing anything wrong in answering police questions, I went back to my crib.

Some minutes later, we got a bang and it was hefty CID personnels with my friend in chains. He almost ran back on seeing us (he did not expect to see us after his warnings) but they pushed him in asked if we knew him & I said yes. Asked for his bag and I showed them his portion of the wardrobe but as they flipped his cloths what they found gave me shivers. My friend called them to whisper what I later knew he asked them to take him & leave every other person

Truth is, I have seen many drug movies. Men brought packages out and the stupid me was asking them what it was. They said calmly that it’s ashish. All the calmness left when they opened his bag under the bed and found the main thing, different kinds and packages. We were bundled, for the first time in my life I was handcuffed but also chained with the drug cocaine lord in my house.

bestabigaelever:
Most of the betrayals here are girls related And the food own is funny... Lol

Frankicent:
Even till day he still hasn't paid?

Pascopele:
Yes

Frankicent:
what happened next?

Ogalanyaidi:
He did nothing to you...
U too will do the same thing or more..
You better forgive yourself

Frankicent:
lol 600k and you over looked that.

Pascopele:
can you help me?

zcee:
Even some of us telling our stories must have betrayed someone else....

MYHUBBY:
there was this lady I met when she came for post utme in my school, we exchange line and we started dating along the line, I helped her with her admission but after she gained admission her parents divorce during that period and her dad pay no attention to her and her siblings again, their mom too wasn't financially buoyant.


she was at the edge of losing the admission but as a committed lover I tried all could to rescue her from the admission but all efforts to no avail, so I used my 400l tuition fee for her since my sch don't disturb for tuition fee until during final clearance, I risk it but this bitch had to played me out, she was double dating with me after she resumed, she was pregnant for the guy before she could even tell me that she can't move on with me again


I was traumatized, I felt used, deceived and ridicule after her friends told me she was pregnant and her traditional marriage was days ahead. it was a sad experience since then I change my principles of choosing



my advice for men, don't attempt to marry a lady from a broken home, they're always emotionally and psychologically traumatize forever

Noloss:
Hmmm, where do I even start from. I was 7months pregnant in 2011 when my husband lost his banking Job. He decided not to tell his mum(FIL is late) so she wouldn't be devastated because he's being supporting the family as the firstborn.

Few weeks after, MIL called to request for money, hubby declined for the first time and was forced to tell her that he lost his job.

You know what, MIL did not call again till the following year April(close to 9months after, not even when I put to bed and we informed her) to ask how we've been faring.

I can't even count many sacrifices we've made for her and the family. Our house was always full when things were rosy.

Lighthammer:
The one that affects me most and turned my life upside down
turning me into someone who now begs,cnt boast of ordinary 1 k again
a friend that i brought from my town in osun state to kwara here,housed him,fed him and clothed him fr almost 6 month last year,got a job paying almost 50 k fr him,while am earning 35 k myself,
so i took a huge loan of almost close to 500 k to start a business but my so called friend joined league with some people and defrauded me,then shit hit the fan,i lost my job,got arrested many times,almost commit suicide because i was overwhelmed....
i was evicted from where i was paying close to 100 k as rent,my other friends and people i have helped in the past turned their back on me...
i lived in an uncompleted building fr two month...till nw am nt balanced financially,emotionally and psychologically....
as am typing now,been surviving on water and mangoe fr d past one week....
fear people......fear people and limit who you help.

skyplustk:
how many will I mention but the most painful was that of my neighbor she knew something about me she later used it against me all in the name of she's trying to help me

TheCongo2:
Did you stop inviting people? Or they just stop visiting

Noloss:
They stopped automatically when there was no rosy delicacies, no money to throw around anylonger.

For example, my hubby must on generator even in d afternoon for MIL to watch video then but we couldn't even afford it at night.

We couldn't meet up with their demands like formal.

TheCongo2:
So sorry.
I have always read about stories like that. Someone going from grace to grass and then friends cut him off. Always wonder how this could happen.
So sorry it had happened to you.

Collinsaik:
we ve been frnds for like 6yrs, we were so close that even his family knew me and accepted me vry well peharps becos i was the nice guy type of person. i recall assisting him financialy on numerous occasion without getting a refund nt because i was financialy stable but because naturaly generous prson n was more oppurtuned than him at dat moment becs i work as a local building contractor and he dosnt hav any skills so ech time i get a job i mst cary him along so dat he can do smtin n get paid. years pased and he luckily landed a job in an oil company to work as a helper throuh the hlp of his elder broda hu wrks there. he wast edcatd bt manage to land d job payin 145 k monthly. (i got to knw hw mch he earned much later 2ru hs pay slip dcumnt because he began keepn secrt.) my becm vry arogant and insulting in no time distanc me and made new frnd dat were of his clas while lavisin money on women on clubing. i rily felt betrayd cos of his attitud n insut. i ges u can predict his fate afta he lost d job 4yrs la8r

bigcee:
Fear of God? You Kissed and suck her breast and you're still talking about "fear of God"...Are you normal?

TheCongo2:
Are you in touch now?

Collinsaik:
. of course we stil relate wel although vital lessons hav been learnt.

Collinsaik:
. of course we stil relate wel although vital lessons hav been learnt.

Frankicent:
You don't have a bf or what?

TheCongo2:
By the way, is there any indication she regret her action?

QuinModah:
Hi I got your pm cant access it. Kindly reach me on the number on my profile.