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tai2:
I used to be like many of the whiners here on Nairaland, “Oh I'm so in love with this babe but she's treating me badly, what do I do? what do I do?”. That was a long time ago and now I am wise and believe me I learnt from the school of hard knocks, this women dealt with me mercilessly until I actually sat down to analyze them and their ways and figured out the language they speak. If you think maintaining a woman is about excess love, showing affection, kindness, forgiveness, religion and all that bullsh*t, you're dead wrong, treat a woman too good, she will find an excuse to leave ( “I was once dumped by a chick who later told her friend, I was 'too nice'.”). But they will stay with an “omo rapala” that mistreats them day after day after day.


Even fellowship girls are still tempted by young men of the world and leave their fellow fellowship brothers to look for bad boys to convert. They are never satisfied with a squeaky clean good man. To them every guy that is too good is a nuisance. Even the ones that are married have only calmed down and become good in order to trap a husband that offers them security or at least a husband that has managed to figure out their buttons. Be wise, young men, be wise.

Maintaining women of all shapes ages and sizes is all about control and remaining in control. The moment you lose control, you lose yourself and a woman will ride you till the very end. Some people say all sorts of rubbish, “Oh my woman is not like that, she's different”, all that one na story, Eve betrayed Adam, Delilah betrayed Samson, so who on earth is your woman that she won't act like those that came before her?

There are different levels of control, there is no control, artificial control and true control. No control is the default situation most guys fall into. They love a woman and believe everything she says in the heat of passion ”I'll never ever leave you”, “I can't wait to marry you” etc etc, and deceive themselves into overconfidence and over love. A no control guy does not know how to tell his babe no and is always apologizing even when it is not his fault. When they start exhibiting too much attention and love, the chick gets bored and starts looking for “rude boys” somewhere. Then her mind starts wavering and she starts telling you “I need space”, “I'm confused”. When you hear these words you're in trouble.

Unfortunately most young guy today no dey hear word and they will start reminiscing about the sweet nothings the babe told them when the going was good and continue to misbehave and show over love and over affection. Meanwhile one bad guy fit dey comb the babe for corner somewhere. In the end the chick leaves and the guy is in a wreck, crying, complaining to his friends begging etc and at that point the girl no go wan hear again, anything you're saying is a waste of time. A chick will bring up some of the dumbest excuses when she wants to dump you. She might regret leaving you later but all that one na Tales By Moonlight what matters is the wrecked condition she will leave you in at that moment.


The next level of control is artificial control. Artificial control works a lot in Nigeria today, and people exercise this level of control primarily by having money. This is what the so called big boys and sugar daddies use to maintain their babes. Some poor guys starving on their pocket money and University allowances even try to maintain this level of control to their own downfall. With artificial control a girl might screw around but will not really leave you until she finds another guy with better control than you. The best way to use artificial control is ruthlessly, if you have money and control them with money make sure you take no crap from them or else they will turn you to a MUGU and you fall into the no control category even though you have money.

Remember money is relative. Some guy has more than you somewhere. Some guys exercise artificial control through other means as well, such as being older, being in a bigger office, better school, living in a bigger house etc. Until the chick meets someone with better control she will not leave but always remember you are in control and use it to your advantage. Don't boast about it though as they really hate it when you point out that the reason they are with you is because of artificial control ( even though we know its true). All those threads written by sacked bankers on Nairaland who have lost their babes are a result of the artificial control category. Control go, babe go.

Guys without money should remember this ( University boys open your eyes) the moment you start spending to maintain control, you will never stop and this is a problem when you do not have money so students, graduate trainees and people without money should avoid money artificial control as much as possible. You will only wreck yourself financially, because they will only get greedier and you will find out you cannot keep up and she will use the money you have used to better her looks, wardrobe and her life to find a replacement for you. They always want to upgrade. If you have money to spend it is okay to use artificial control just make sure you do it in a responsible way, not in a way chicks will use “MUGU” to replace your name on their phones.


The last control category is true control. Maintain this level of control and you are the true guru. You are the Don Juan, the guy women trip and fall down for regardless of whether or whether not. The true control man is in control of EVERYTHING. He will not chase a babe he cannot control or who he knows will want to lord over him. Before he spends his money on a woman he makes sure that she knows who is in control and spends his money sparingly, in fact she might spend more than him. If she tells him she is in her male corpers friends house sleeping because she does not have light he laughs and tells her “I hope he knows how to screw well, I know you're probably lonely”. It might pain him inside but you will never see it, because he knows that if she finds out he is jealous he is finished, if she feels he is not jealous, she will correct herself and find call him 20 times a day to make sure he truly loves her.


The guy who shouts at his babe and tells her what sort of nonsense is that ( why should she sleep in Mr Corper-With-Generator's house) is maintaining artificial control, she will tell him she won't do it again and do it the next day and for the next 10 months, and get combed mercilessly by Mr. Corper-With-Generator and his colleagues. It takes 10 minutes for a quickie and that place does not have a gauge you will use to measure who did and did not do when she comes back. Artificial control men and no control men should take note.

In fact most of the accomplished true control guys have barricaded their hearts a long time ago. They show affection strategically and when a chick leasts expects it. They are not always complete bast@rds, they will send flowers and call a babe to check on how she is doing but they do it strategically and sparingly. Too much of ice cream and chocolate is not good. Too much visiting of woman is not good. Calling her more than she calls you is an equally stupid idea. If she calls twice call once. What bothers other guys does not bother men of true control. Even if they love a chick they will never show it more than the chick shows it. They say I love you three times a year. This sort of guy might love a chick but still screw one or two around to ensure that he remains in control of his senses.

Sex is sex, love is a different kettle of fish. Sex helps you keep things in perspective. Screw one woman too much, you might become stupid and lose control. Fidelity is over rated my brothers, you can love a woman but don't confuse it with being faithful. If she suspects you are screwing outside, thats okay for them, just make sure you're never caught and she only suspects, suspicion is good, it keeps her on her feet, she knows she can be replaced. When she sees that text message on your phone, tell her “you are the only one for me “ and buy enough “ chocolate and flowers” and then leave her to think. But NEVER keep two chicks, you should have one chick and the occasional ones you are chopping outside to maintain perspective and self-control, that way you won't create unnecessary problems for yourself. If you are not on the financial capability of Atiku Abubakar, polygamy is a bad idea. If you can retain control without screwing outside, fine for you. But the day your woman is caught screwing outside, you will feel seriously cuckolded and feel like a fool.

A true control guy will NEVER date a woman he cannot control. A woman who does not respect you is one you have no control over, these women do not understand equality, look at the divorce rate in America ! A true control guy has ALL control but he never uses money to control too much. He never makes it about money or how much he has. Most true control guys have more money than the women they control, other much more skilled true control guys may have less money but always make sure that she knows who is boss. Because once you let a women who's money is longer than yours gain control, you are finished. A true control guy also has koboko control ( meaning he knows how to give it to her in bed, if you do not know better learn by hiring a skilled Pay As You Go or else she will leave you for the first Mr. Magic Stick). In fact koboko control is way better than money control. Look at Kimora Lee Simmons and Djimon Honsou, you go no say na koboko dey at work, no be by fine face or too much money. ( No offense to Russel Simmons but he had artificial control).

A true control guy also has fashion control, he knows how to dress and be neat ( it might not be the most expensive stuff he wears but he looks smart and neat always, he has fashion sense). A true control guy also knows how to tell his babe no and stick to his no. They rarely say “I'm sorry” and always make a chick laugh or some other tactic to avoid using those words. A chicks friends will beef this sort of guy in public and on forums like Nairaland and berate their friends for dating him but will secretly dream of screwing him. It even helps when the guy acts nice to the chicks friends, but not too nice (as in we are all age-mates level, respect must be maintained at all costs, chicks know how to disrespect a guy who plays with them too much). All men should strive to attain true control. True control will give you peace of mind and undying attention.

Be wise, my brothers be wise, enough of these tears on Nairaland. These days more men come here to complain than women. This is a war we have to win at all costs. For the sake of the male reputation. For more advice, I am here all week. Remember I have been beaten before but I am now wise, I exercise true control now and take no nonsense from them. If you let them bring you down they will finish you and your village people will say it is the work of juju and your uncles and aunties.

Please don’t listen to this man. Take it from a woman who makes 40 million a year. Women are simple. The only things we want let me tell you. Women want a man who is genuine and trustworthy. We want a man who will pray with us and prioritize us. I’m sorry to the men who were once duped or taken for granted however when a woman loves you, you need to return this love. Prioritize me, be willing to communicate and defend me. Caution me when I’m wrong But also caution the other party in your life(family and friends) stand for what is right. Support me mentally and physically. No matter how much I make as a woman I want my husband to be the provider. Go out of your way with small gestures to fulfil your role as a bread winner. Don’t lash out at me because you feel inferior and in turn I will do my role and submit as your woman . I promise you any man who is faithful, loving, patient and provides no woman will resist.

You can take advice from the man above and never be in a committed and satisfying relationship or do your role. As the saying goes “ happy wife/girlfriend happy life. Just advising men. When you have a good woman. Don’t take her for granted. You might never get the same opportunity again. Love & Light

HeavenlyCherub:
Please don’t listen to this man. Take it from a woman who makes 40 million a year. Women are simple. The only things we want let me tell you. Women want a man who is genuine and trustworthy. We want a man who will pray with us and prioritize us. I’m sorry to the men who were once duped or taken for granted however when a woman loves you, you need to return this love. Prioritize me, be willing to communicate and defend me. Caution me when I’m wrong But also caution the other party in your life(family and friends) stand for what is right. Support me mentally and physically. No matter how much I make as a woman I want my husband to be the provider. Go out of your way with small gestures to fulfil your role as a bread winner. Don’t lash out at me because you feel inferior and in turn I will do my role and submit as your woman . I promise you any man who is faithful, loving, patient and provides no woman will resist.

You can take advice from the man above and never be in a committed and satisfying relationship or do your role. As the saying goes “ happy wife/girlfriend happy life. Just advising men. When you have a good woman. Don’t take her for granted. You might never get the same opportunity again. Love & Light

40 million
Awesome!

Thanks for your contribution. You made some good point

HeavenlyCherub:
Please don’t listen to this man. Take it from a woman who makes 40 million a year. Women are simple. The only things we want let me tell you. Women want a man who is genuine and trustworthy. We want a man who will pray with us and prioritize us. I’m sorry to the men who were once duped or taken for granted however when a woman loves you, you need to return this love. Prioritize me, be willing to communicate and defend me. Caution me when I’m wrong But also caution the other party in your life(family and friends) stand for what is right. Support me mentally and physically. No matter how much I make as a woman I want my husband to be the provider. Go out of your way with small gestures to fulfil your role as a bread winner. Don’t lash out at me because you feel inferior and in turn I will do my role and submit as your woman . I promise you any man who is faithful, loving, patient and provides no woman will resist.

You can take advice from the man above and never be in a committed and satisfying relationship or do your role. As the saying goes “ happy wife/girlfriend happy life. Just advising men. When you have a good woman. Don’t take her for granted. You might never get the same opportunity again. Love & Light

I discovered your DM is slippery, can I slide in?

HeavenlyCherub:
Please don’t listen to this man. Take it from a woman who makes 40 million a year. Women are simple. The only things we want let me tell you. Women want a man who is genuine and trustworthy. We want a man who will pray with us and prioritize us. I’m sorry to the men who were once duped or taken for granted however when a woman loves you, you need to return this love. Prioritize me, be willing to communicate and defend me. Caution me when I’m wrong But also caution the other party in your life(family and friends) stand for what is right. Support me mentally and physically. No matter how much I make as a woman I want my husband to be the provider. Go out of your way with small gestures to fulfil your role as a bread winner. Don’t lash out at me because you feel inferior and in turn I will do my role and submit as your woman . I promise you any man who is faithful, loving, patient and provides no woman will resist.

You can take advice from the man above and never be in a committed and satisfying relationship or do your role. As the saying goes “ happy wife/girlfriend happy life. Just advising men. When you have a good woman. Don’t take her for granted. You might never get the same opportunity again. Love & Light

OMG!! 40 million a year!
Someone should connect me naaa. Wow!!
Congratulations Ma.

Bumb

HeavenlyCherub:
Please don’t listen to this man. Take it from a woman who makes 40 million a year. Women are simple. The only things we want let me tell you. Women want a man who is genuine and trustworthy. We want a man who will pray with us and prioritize us. I’m sorry to the men who were once duped or taken for granted however when a woman loves you, you need to return this love. Prioritize me, be willing to communicate and defend me. Caution me when I’m wrong But also caution the other party in your life(family and friends) stand for what is right. Support me mentally and physically. No matter how much I make as a woman I want my husband to be the provider. Go out of your way with small gestures to fulfil your role as a bread winner. Don’t lash out at me because you feel inferior and in turn I will do my role and submit as your woman . I promise you any man who is faithful, loving, patient and provides no woman will resist.

You can take advice from the man above and never be in a committed and satisfying relationship or do your role. As the saying goes “ happy wife/girlfriend happy life. Just advising men. When you have a good woman. Don’t take her for granted. You might never get the same opportunity again. Love & Light

You make 40 million a year that means that you have enough to provide for any man yet you still want a man to provide for you. There is a primordial instinct in you that makes you want a man that provides even when you make a hell of a lot of money. No man making that kind of money will make those same demands from a woman.

Will you even consider or date a man that earns less than you do? You can open your mouth now and say that you will but we know that your actions will say otherwise.

Wanting a man that provides is just one of the primordial instincts in women.

Women have many of these instincts and inclinations but a Majority of women are not even aware of them.
One of these is Hypergamy, the desire for a man that is above them in wealth and status and sexual appeal.

The majority of them are not aware of these instincts and even more of them will never admit them openly. If they do, they will lose the men they want because it will be an exposure of what they are like and what they want.

A lot of men already see the discrepancies especially when they hear what a woman says she wants in a man and when they observe with their eyes, they kind of man she goes for.

Women are contradictory and that is why it is bad to take advice from a woman. They will mislead you so that you can act in ways that will benefit them the most and not you.

HeavenlyCherub:
I promise you any man who is faithful, loving, patient and provides no woman will resist.

Take what you have written up here for example. It is so far and removed from the truth because many men have been patient loving and providing and they still get cheated on every day with guys who are none of those things and are simply just exciting and unpredictable.

You say this because it is the same advice that benefits women in the long run. Women want a man that can provide for them after they have finished jumping around with the bad boys that excite them.

If a man that is faithful, patient, and providing comes and says that he has been cheated on, you will still find some way to blame the man by bringing up some quality like "Attention" that he failed in.

Women are hypocritical, dishing advice that they simply do not respond to.

I agree that a good woman should be treated right but not all women should be treated right simply because they are women

MagnumXL:
You make 40 million a year that means that you have enough to provide for any man yet you still want a man to provide for you. There is a primordial instinct in you that makes you want a man that provides even when you make a hell of a lot of money. No man making that kind of money will make those same demands from a woman.

Will you even consider or date a man that earns less than you do? You can open your mouth now and say that you will but we know that your actions will say otherwise.

Wanting a man that provides is just one of the primordial instincts in women.

Women have many of these instincts and inclinations but a Majority of women are not even aware of them.
One of these is Hypergamy, the desire for a man that is above them in wealth and status and sexual appeal.

The majority of them are not aware of these instincts and even more of them will never admit them openly. If they do, they will lose the men they want because it will be an exposure of what they are like and what they want.

A lot of men already see the discrepancies especially when they hear what a woman says she wants in a man and when they observe with their eyes, they kind of man she goes for.

Women are contradictory and that is why it is bad to take advice from a woman. They will mislead you so that you can act in ways that will benefit them the most and not you.


Take what you have written up here for example. It is so far and removed from the truth because many men have been patient loving and providing and they still get cheated on every day with guys who are none of those things and are simply just exciting and unpredictable.

You say this because it is the same advice that benefits women in the long run. Women want a man that can provide for them after they have finished jumping around with the bad boys that excite them.

If a man that is faithful, patient, and providing comes and says that he has been cheated on, you will still find some way to blame the man by bringing up some quality like "Attention" that he failed in.

Women are hypocritical, dishing advice that they simply do not respond to.

I agree that a good woman should be treated right but not all women should be treated right simply because they are women

You deserve a very chilled bottle of Heineken, coupled with asu...

HeavenlyCherub:
Please don’t listen to this man. Take it from a woman who makes 40 million a year. Women are simple. The only things we want let me tell you. Women want a man who is genuine and trustworthy. We want a man who will pray with us and prioritize us. I’m sorry to the men who were once duped or taken for granted however when a woman loves you, you need to return this love. Prioritize me, be willing to communicate and defend me. Caution me when I’m wrong But also caution the other party in your life(family and friends) stand for what is right. Support me mentally and physically. No matter how much I make as a woman I want my husband to be the provider. Go out of your way with small gestures to fulfil your role as a bread winner. Don’t lash out at me because you feel inferior and in turn I will do my role and submit as your woman . I promise you any man who is faithful, loving, patient and provides no woman will resist.

You can take advice from the man above and never be in a committed and satisfying relationship or do your role. As the saying goes “ happy wife/girlfriend happy life. Just advising men. When you have a good woman. Don’t take her for granted. You might never get the same opportunity again. Love & Light

Okoto Yan... Sit still

Everything Tai said is 170% true

If I never experienced it I would not reply yoy


DEAR MEN in being or doing anything.. NEVER BE A SIMP have a good day

platinumnk:
I actually like the post, I feel that some women should behave the same way and dont let men run over


In fact most of the accomplished true control guys have barricaded their hearts a long time ago. They show affection strategically and when a chick leasts expects it. They are not always complete bast@rds, they will send flowers and call a babe to check on how she is doing but they do it strategically and sparingly. Too much of ice cream and chocolate is not good. Too much visiting of woman is not good. Calling her more than she calls you is an equally silly idea. If she calls twice call once. What bothers other guys does not bother men of true control. Even if they love a chick they will never show it more than the chick shows it. They say I love you three times a year. This sort of guy might love a chick but still screw one or two around to ensure that he remains in control of his senses.

this sounds like someone I know

LOL One person on NL comes to mind lol

A woman don't need a husband that doesn't cheat

But a woman need a husband that loves her and provide for here

So as a man of you're capable of providing for you wife then you should cheat once in a while

Because she also start cheating or even leave you once you can't provide for here anymore


Always save enough money and take good care of yourself,never spend extravagantly on your wife or any woman you don't marry yet

Instead save up the money and buy asset for yourself,it will be useful for your wife and the children you had together later

But if you spend on her extravagantly and go broke ,she will look for another man that will continue the taking care of her instead of helping your getting back up


They take being love and taken good care of as weakness and take abuse and hurt and wickedness for real love

What an irony WOMAN are

But don't blame the player ,blame the game

Don't blame woman ,but blame woman nature

platinumnk:
of course not, not when she has her own  hurry up with post na



Thanks
Well, would[b] I [/b] reccomend this?  not really

Why? Because everyone is different, and not every guy can be the same as the poster says.
I liked it because I saw myself in the position, i have a bad habit of wanting control , but this could be good for ladies, so they wont be so soft

Too much bagging on a man, he will think you are whipped and think he can mess over you
Always asking for funds for upkeep, he will think he owns you.
Always keep an asset on the side- whether you are buying liquidated properties , or running a salon, make sure u have more than a man to rely on

Have outside friends,( male included) dress sexy, keep him on his toes, because he knows others are creaming for his spot

Thats what I saw in his posts, I dont agree with the cheating. I cant tolerate it for nothing, and I have never cheated.   

The truth is a woman will always see a man that what's her if she is still attractive,so instead of ruining a man financially and emotionally, just leave him ,( I'm always happy for guys if a lady dump them ) because it's a blessing in disguise,but some men are just simps and stupid enough and even begging her if she wants to leave ,maybe because they have spend so much on her which is wrong in the first place


As a man of you always spend mostly all your money on yourself,looks cool and have swag you will be attractive too and and you will get woman more easily ,


Guys always take relationship easy because no matter how many ex a lady have had ,her might still marry one of the richest man around so guard your wallet very well and don't make a woman ruin you or use you to her own advantage and use you as a ladder to climb up

And most importantly always love and flirts with woman ,you don't need to be a player ,but make sure you have abundance mindset

Because your beautiful, innocent looking angel also flirts too and have many guys that helps her financially and might even be cheating

tai2 the master. The most read thread in romance section that year.