Tadeknkeepcalm:
This is as a result of polygamy being obsolete in the society.

It's the only responsible alternative and would surely correct all these nonsense.

u are making alot of senses bro

4ckz:
I will really need the input of married men and women on this thread.

So yesterday at the bar, you know, ashawo bar, I sat in the same table with a married man, looked early 40's to me. He got drunk and got all chit chat with me.

He told me that he actually picked up ashawo life style after marriage, told me his wife always used sex as a bargaining chip early in their marriage, and often looked for the slightest reason not to have sex.

He said his first time cheating was after his first child, that his wife refused his touch for more than 3 months, he got to cheat with one of his colleagues at work (lest I forget, the man is well learned and rich too, I could get this from his fluency in English and his car).

The affair almost cost him his marriage. When mata cast, everyone blamed him, but he couldn't tell them how his wife deprived him of sex. He was later forgiven by the wife and the marriage continued.
According to him, before long the wife went back to her style of sexual deprivation, was only active when they wanted children. He did mention that he doesn't think the wife cheated, he has monitored her, and as far as he could tell, the wife was an always at home type of woman, and according to him was a good woman apart from the sex thing.
Before long he went back to cheating again, and that was when he started ashawo life style, he choose not to have a relationship with anyone again because of the threat it posed to his marriage.
He said he is sure his wife knows of his ashawo life style, but never talked about it for the sake of peace, and he has been living like that for more than 10 yrs, and their sex life though not dead comes once in a while, few times in a year.
He advised me that if I should cheat, that I should never keep a relationship with anyone, that I should try as much as possible to make it just about sex. Me that's planning to never cheat on my wife.
So married men, do your wives ever keep you for months without sex?
Also do husbands deprive their wives of sex?
I don't think I can even bear 1 month without, like, I must be lashing my wife like thrice a week to say the least. I am much more scared that since my life is like this now, maybe cheating would be inevitable for me.
So married people, how do you deal with sexual deprivation from your spouse, and is it even possible not to cheat?
What of the health threat to your spouse that comes with it?

Your eyes go clear when you enter am!

Tadeknkeepcalm:
This is as a result of polygamy being obsolete in the society.

It's the only responsible alternative and would surely correct all these nonsense.

I concur!

0rion:


THERE IS BIG LESSON FOR YOU TO LEARN FROM THAT NAUGHTY DISCUSSION.

MY ADVICE FOR YOU IS TO START DISCUSSING ABOUT SEX WITH YOUR FUTURE WIFE. THIS IS TO KNOW ABOUT HER SEX LIFE. IF SHES A VIRGIN DEFINITELY NOT GONNA HAVE ANY EXPERIENCE.

BUT ALWAYS ASK HER WHAT SHE LIKES TO DO AND TO BE DONE TO HER. DONT LET HER BE SHY. MAKE IT A SERIOUS DISCUSSION IF YOU DONT WANT TO CHEAT ON HER.

WE MEN JUST ALWAYS LIKE TO GO IN AND OUT . WOWEN ARE NOT LIKE THAT. EXCEPT ASHAWO

u get sense oga, i dey feel u

Ogbuu101:

False.
Sex is exercise too.
But if you are above 50 and have a cardiac condition(Hypertension,Heart failure etc),you are advised to take it easy.

Roger that

If she deprives u sex don't ask her again.. Go outside n get it.. no be by force na.. The marriage don tire her be that..

What would you have them do?
Truth is if a man cheats or a woman cheats due to lack of sex the blame is on the other spouse. For he or she pushed and denied. I know a guy na anytime he buy something for house him wife dey open. Grown man knacking soapy. As I speak he just one day left the lady . No fight nothing he just left.

It won't stop me from getting married sha. Upon as I like the punna reach e scarce for me. This life no balance

4ckz:
I will really need the input of married men and women on this thread.

So yesterday at the bar, you know, ashawo bar, I sat in the same table with a married man, looked early 40's to me. He got drunk and got all chit chat with me.

He told me that he actually picked up ashawo life style after marriage, told me his wife always used sex as a bargaining chip early in their marriage, and often looked for the slightest reason not to have sex.

He said his first time cheating was after his first child, that his wife refused his touch for more than 3 months, he got to cheat with one of his colleagues at work (lest I forget, the man is well learned and rich too, I could get this from his fluency in English and his car).

The affair almost cost him his marriage. When mata cast, everyone blamed him, but he couldn't tell them how his wife deprived him of sex. He was later forgiven by the wife and the marriage continued.

According to him, before long the wife went back to her style of sexual deprivation, was only active when they wanted children. He did mention that he doesn't think the wife cheated, he has monitored her, and as far as he could tell, the wife was an always at home type of woman, and according to him was a good woman apart from the sex thing.

Before long he went back to cheating again, and that was when he started ashawo life style, he choose not to have a relationship with anyone again because of the threat it posed to his marriage.

He said he is sure his wife knows of his ashawo life style, but never talked about it for the sake of peace, and he has been living like that for more than 10 yrs, and their sex life though not dead comes once in a while, few times in a year.

He advised me that if I should cheat, that I should never keep a relationship with anyone, that I should try as much as possible to make it just about sex. Me that's planning to never cheat on my wife.

So married men, do your wives ever keep you for months without sex?

Also do husbands deprive their wives of sex?

I don't think I can even bear 1 month without, like, I must be lashing my wife like thrice a week to say the least. I am much more scared that since my life is like this now, maybe cheating would be inevitable for me.

So married people, how do you deal with sexual deprivation from your spouse, and is it even possible not to cheat?

What of the health threat to your spouse that comes with it?

When you get married and start building a home and facing the challenges in marriage, you'd then realise that there's more to marriage than everyday sex. When the pressures of bring up children and making a good role model to your kids, sex becomes one of the least things on your mind. I speak from experience.

louiziana:



Sorry who proved it? I used to bleep my ex like 4 times in a day. And I know that millions of sperm-cells are being produced in the testes within a couple of hours.

Now u know why u haven’t achieved shishi

Asadujames202:
Why won't a married man cheat!


Can't imagine me clinging to one pu**sy
For the rest of my life.


Even Ned Nwoko

Knew how traumatizing it's for a man.e


Women should understand that it's not possible for a man to stay with one woman for the rest of his life

I've stayed for marriage for 10 years now without cheating but my inner mind keeps telling me that one day I go cheat

thesicilian:
If I start to talk, we won't leave here today.

Wet in be that thing wey you want talk .wey our ears never hear before?
Talk am make we hear you jari

The worst thing is that we that married from Born again church suffers the most..... no sex before marriage and no cheating after marriage BUT most of these born again wives use this sex tool as punishment to the men..... Bros what can you do in such instance? always prayers.... Bros i cant say much now it will affect my brain.

Isn't it fascinating how someone calls another selfish while simultaneously revealing how selfish she is. "Once we have our kids... "

If only you could take care of these kids without a man like the African-Americans but we know you can't. It's still a man that will pay school fees, pay for medicals and buy their clothes etc.

Girls like you have little value outside childbirth.

Geminita1:
The guys on this forum are so dumb mehnn.

Guess what? Women don't care about you lots anymore. You are so bigoted, selfish and sexists. Once we have our kids, we are okay, we don't care about you, we don't care.

Zee world and Nigerian movie has changed some women mindset about marriage... Hence, see sex as bargaining chip..... I bet u if my woman deny me sex for a week for the reason, I will cheat on her straight....she knows

harmony940:
What are you doing in an ashawo joint,.........

I went to sell airtime

misreal:
Well.ayam not yet married, but i have warned my babe that she must never deny me of it oh

Prepare to help your wife especially if she's a working woman. After a full day's work, traffic issues ( Lagos especially), baby nursing matters and house chores, many women are extremely tired. All they want to do is sleep ...if a baby is not in the picture to disrupt her rest.

Men only need to communicate better with their wives in most cases. Know her problems, see how you can be of assistance to make things work.

Also from what we're seeing now, many women have had terrible experiences which rendered them frigid or nonchalant about sex. It's good to know who you're dealing with so you can determine the best way to handle any issue that may arise.

In a country that is the poverty capital of the world, this your example has no value.

We need examples of how people who are financially challenged are able to maintain sexual harmony despite having a very busy and chaotic life. For example, in lagos where some people leave home by 4am(pre-corona) and return by 10pm there must be a way around this problem.

lozanni:

Most married men feel sex deprived because after marriage and childbirth, the wife's focus changes to the children, her Job and other things like domestic activities which often leads the husband to feel neglected.
I know a very wealthy man who told the wife to remain a housewife, provides her with all the luxury she needs, she has a Special Assistant who changes her slippers to shoes for her before she gets down from her Jeep!
Also there is a cook, steward and other domestic staff to cater to the family needs as the wealthy man does not want the wife to be worn out by domestic activities; you can guess where the wealthy man reaps the benefits for the care he shows to his wife

Tadeknkeepcalm:

So, are you saying polygamy is an uneducated thing to do?
Well, in truth more civilization support the idea of polygamy and practice it than those who don't, would you say they are all not educated?
the exposure you refer to is the Western exposure and influence and not from other cultures, it's what led to the abandonment of our own culture itself. Not that some of them shouldn't be abandoned though.

Under polygamy, how many children do u think each of ur wives would want to have?
How many children can u take care of?
Many of our forefathers didn't pay school fees, remember ọ.
Or are u OK with raising illiterates as children in today's world?
That would be disastrous.

Ogbuu101:

That's good for you.
If your wife is around and needs the diick,will you deny her of it?
If you deny her of it,doesn't she have a cause to complain or be unhappy?

Why ll i deny her of her rights? Though there are times someone ll be stressed from work...but there are balance to things... Understanding lo matter

Suky01:
mine is 6 month going no sex nothing been married for 14 years

Blitzerz:

Under polygamy, how many children do u think each of ur wives would want to have?
How many children can u take care of?
Many of our forefathers didn't pay school fees, remember ọ.
Or are u OK with raising illiterates as children in today's world?
That would be disastrous.

Try and do research about polygamy—countries it is practiced, wealth, and anything you can find.

Do you really think those who are from polygamous homes are uneducated, do not be quick to equate the lack of "Western education" a few generations back as a result of polygamy. That's logical fallacy. Education, be it from a monogamous home or polygamous home, was hindered by a lot of factors at the time, an example is accessibility. So do you think a man who practiced polygamy in this time wouldn't educate his children??


You've bought into the left/liberalism narrative that child birth breeds poverty.


PS: I am not saying everyone should practice polygamy. Only those who are responsible, capable and willing to do so.

Hathor5:
They will become professional script writers when they want to find an excuse to cheat.

why I have no pity for them when they come online to complain about women.

ibnyusuf71:
u get sense oga, i dey feel u

Bros no be sense na talking from experience

pocohantas:
Men, professional victim players and experts at shifting blames.

Very soon I will go to a salon and come back with a thread on how some woman started ashewo lifestyle. Story for the gods...

And instead of them praising the wife like they are all doing on this thread to the husband, they’ll start tearing their pants and shedding sweet tears. Sweet sweet tears

Geminita1:
The guys on this forum are so dumb mehnn.

Guess what? Women don't care about you lots anymore. You are so bigoted, selfish and sexists. Once we have our kids, we are okay, we don't care about you, we don't care.

Oh please, like that is even possible

Marry women who have same sex drive as you .
Marry women that loves you not desperados.
Leave over religious women for their types.







Don't start what you can't finish

Funkyswagzz:
Look b4 u leap my friend before u say I made a mistake getting married to her.. there are loads of women out there who are willing to give u sex anytime any day as far u keep her happy. Don't mind that guy he is the one who put himself in that mess.

Are you married?

cococandy:


And instead of them praising the wife like they are all doing on this thread to the husband, they’ll start tearing their pants and shedding sweet tears. Sweet sweet tears

Lol. To think the sidechick might be one of their gfs. When they find out, they won’t pat her on the back for helping a fellow brother out o.

They will come online to open thread and disturb us. Confused creatures...

sleemoon:



Why ll i deny her of her rights? Though there are times someone ll be stressed from work...but there are balance to things... Understanding lo matter

Good.
Same way a wife should oblige d husband when he needs.
We're talking of sex deprivation by most wives not neccessary that d man wants to do it everyday.

Tadeknkeepcalm:

Try and do research about polygamy—countries it is practiced, wealth, and anything you can find.

Do you really think those who are from polygamous homes are uneducated, do not be quick to equate the lack of "Western education" a few generations back as a result of polygamy. That's logical fallacy. Education, be it from a monogamous home or polygamous home, was hindered by a lot of factors at the time, an example is accessibility. So do you think a man who practiced polygamy in this time wouldn't educate his children??


You've bought into the left/liberalism narrative that child birth breeds poverty.


PS: I am not saying everyone should practice polygamy. Only those who are responsible, capable and willing to do so.

Ok

Sarah20A:
Marry women who have same sex drive as you .
Marry women that loves you not desperados.
Leave over religious women for their types.







Don't start what you can't finish

Problem is most women will pretend to love doing it during courtship but bring out their default mode during marriage.