I have this problem, 90% of people that come close to me get infatuated with me, not sexually or romantically I think. But this extreme intense feeling of likeness and uncontrollable interest in me that makes absolute no sense to me. Humans get extremely wowed with me, wants to know my in and out in an impatiently funny way, they would want to start an intense friendship/relationship with me, in a very fast funny way. I wont call myself beautiful though, but I'm indeed an Angel in Human form, what I mean is that not like I'm intensely beautiful, but I know I have this Uniqueness, an Angelic presence that is binding, inviting and mouth opening. Also, I do not think I have any features that would be immodestly inviting because many atimes I wear Abaya. I wear only jalamias with big arms and extremely long ones, I don't use make ups either nor do I use powders as I'm fond of rushing out of my house. Of course, I want to be loved,I cherish those that like me, but not in a toxic, weird manner, a healthy one.

I have tried both ways of accepting and rejecting these people, but they all usually end sour. Infact, in a particular case, I almost got my defense paper thrown away by one of these people (a Prof) that got infatuated with me.

It has lead to many haters, sometimes I feel its because I could not return same energy of love and likeness, that's why they end hating me in return, but each time I try to accept these people, it still doesn't end well. But my love/likeness for people actually grows in a healthy way, I don't get wowed at first, or extremely excited like people do to me

It's emotionally draining because I'm naturally a nice person and of course act friendly, and thus it's difficult to manage these people that get infatuated with me

This has nothing to do with dating me please, it happens with both males and females. The females end up doing all sorts of crazy things. Its painful because I don't feel infatuated about anyone, I don't know why people do that to me. I also like people, but usually in a healthy way, and it would definitely be respectful and would end very nicely and the people would always be glad I met them.
Some would say I'm proud, some would say I don't like them, some would just go funnily mute, some would become obsessive,some would want to be controlling, etc.

It makes me to avoid people, when I'm supposed to be happy that I get liked easily by people, I'm usually sad about it, because I know where it would end. It makes me not to want to associate the more, or talk where I am supposed to, or be real me in public
Please share with me how you are able to solve this problem if you have ever been in my shoes, or if you know any way I could stop this from re occurring.

Note** This has nothing to do with dating, or people asking me out, I get healthy people in that region, and no problem there at all
Also, I don't fit in the definition of ''beautiful'' with so many people, it would only take another Angel to see those beauty, so no need dropping any pic
I'm not weird either, I'm a normal human being

Makes me feel like many people are not Healthy
I guess you all think infatuation is real love or a good thing. Its fake love, something that doesn't last and would later turn to hatred, malice, etc

People believe I'm amazingly weird!
Anyways, maybe dropping your picture would help sha.

UndauntedYOCA:
People believe I'm amazingly weird!
Anyways, maybe dropping your picture would help sha.

I don't think I'm weird

I'm not a weird person, just a Normal lady

ModestGal:

I don't think I'm weird

That's not what I meant sis, I only asked you to drop a picture so we can know maybe it's your face that gets them infatuated.

ModestGal:
I'm not a weird person, just a Normal lady

Are you a IndecentStar?

UndauntedYOCA:

That's not what I meant sis, I only asked you to drop a picture so we can know maybe it's your face that gets them infatuated.

Ma, I'm not sure its my face ma, because I get same thing in many faceless forums. Plus, I do not see myself to be beautifully beautiful. I'm just gorgeous both in and out

Bonatheripper:


Are you a IndecentStar?

I'm an entrepreneur sir, nothing like that sir

I suggest u enjoy it why it last sis....


A lot of people will pay a lot of money in dubai to get what u have

Vyzz:




I suggest u enjoy it why it last sis....



A lot of people will pay a lot of money in dubai to get what u have

It's draining for me that's why I'm worried, and would need to pray against someone having such likeness for me in a place where I should be praying to be loved. Also, why in Dubai?

ModestGal:

It's draining for me that's why I'm worried, and would need to pray against someone having such likeness for me in a place where I should be praying to be loved. Also, why in Dubai?

Are u saying that u don't know that some celebrities go to dubai to add plastic to their bodies....

Vyzz:







Are u saying that u don't know that some celebrities go to dubai to add plastic to their bodies....

Lol, I never said people get attracted to me due to my gorgeous shape. The clothes I wear do not reveal my shape at all

I can reminisce the last time u posted here, u describe how extremely good at everything u fix your hands with. today is how beautiful u are as well as attracting people to yourself.
this your notice me and egoistic attitude is now becoming so intense that one day u'll make a statue of yourself then force this so call people to worship.
dont get me wrong, extremely good people dont wail, productive result hype their status and not noise
ARIWO KAN NI MUSIC O..EMTY BARREL LO MA GBARI'WO

You must be a sweet bisexual lady. 90% of people (men & women) are not romantically infatuated with you but they just want to fvck you.

ModestGal:

I'm an entrepreneur sir, nothing like that sir

Coded runs girls are also entrepreneurs

I think I also like you because you are good in everything. You do always praise yourself! You no get anywhere or anything you lack?

If all what you've been saying about yourself is true, I think I also like you.

But, if you can't show us your pics, keep everything to yourself again. You will post, you will not have a problem ( because everything is balanced) you will not a have a solution ( because you do not have a problem).

Your pics can tell us more about you next time.

Ugaboy:
I can reminisce the last time u posted here, u describe how extremely good at everything u fix your hands with. today is how beautiful u are as well as attracting people to yourself.
this your notice me and egoistic attitude is now becoming so intense that one day u'll make a statue of yourself then force this so call people to worship.
dont get me wrong, extremely good people dont wail, productive result hype their status and not noise
ARIWO KAN NI MUSIC O..EMTY BARREL LO MA GBARI'WO

it's rather arrogance...makes you think yourself more special when treated same as normal

@ModestGal, just be like me.

Send nobody
Hate nobody
Love nobody

Be arrogant when needed
Be humble when needed
Be funny when needed
Be silent when needed
Be an introvert when necessary
Be an extrovert when necessary

And finally, make your money from home and invest.

Haters will hate and lovers will love. I have been there, I'm still there, and I love being there. Life goes on.

Oh, lest I forget, let the love grow naturally if you finally want to love. And when it clicks, ride him like a dirty little bîtch. We men love good girls in the open, bad girls in za oza room. That's all for now.

For more, you have to pay for mentorship.

ModestGal:

Ma, I'm not sure its my face ma, because I get same thing in many faceless forums. Plus, I do not see myself to be beautifully beautiful. I'm just gorgeous both in and out

U are gorgeous in and out, ain't that enough reason for ppl to be attracted to u? I read ur post once and i started following u because i was amazed by the write up, i've seen ur views on many topics here on NL and i always imagine the brain behind the post. it's only natural for people to be attracted to smart or intelligent ppl.
i would still like to see ur face tho.

Prof0fficial:
it's rather arrogance...makes you think yourself more special when treated same as normal

Is it arrogance that makes people do that to me? How can I be arrogant to strangers or people that are very higher than myself in status? It doesn't make sense now. They can also be richer and have everything more than myself. Nah, even if I'm arrogant, it's not a reason for them to be trying to get intensely close with me and infatuated, doesn't match jare. I'm a humble person

Ugaboy:
I can reminisce the last time u posted here, u describe how extremely good at everything u fix your hands with. today is how beautiful u are as well as attracting people to yourself.
this your notice me and egoistic attitude is now becoming so intense that one day u'll make a statue of yourself then force this so call people to worship.
dont get me wrong, extremely good people dont wail, productive result hype their status and not noise
ARIWO KAN NI MUSIC O..EMTY BARREL LO MA GBARI'WO

Lol, see you. If you read well, you would see this is a problem, and not a good thing, it's a very toxic thing for me, nothing enjoyable in getting people do that with me, and the post you were referring to was also a complaints not a good thing either. Well, that's one of the things that is not always true, things are not always either black or white, check Instagram and you will see so many full barrels making noise and this post has nothing to do with noise but a problem that needs to be solved

Razzness:

U are gorgeous in and out, ain't that enough reason for ppl to be attracted to u? I read ur post once and i started following u because i was amazed by the write up, i've seen ur views on many topics here on NL and i always imagine the brain behind the post. it's only natural for people to be attracted to smart or intelligent ppl.
i would still like to see ur face tho.

But sir, I said I'm not beautifully beautiful, just gorgeous in and out. Maybe you didn't understand, it's not the common definition of ccbeautiful'', so it means I am not but a gorgeousness that would take only Angels to see and feel.

Harllaby:
Be like say this girl never get boyfriend before for her life. See how she dey feel herself. If you're lonely just talk let help keep your ministry moving .

I understand that infatuation is usually attributed to dating and romantic relationships, but this is quite different, I don't think any of the man in this picture actually want to have a relationship with me, has nothing to do with love please. This is not feeling myself, it's a problem I'm humbly seeking your advice and that of people in this beautiful forum to solve

iClef:
@ModestGal, just be like me.

Send nobody
Hate nobody
Love nobody

Be arrogant when needed
Be humble when needed
Be funny when needed
Be silent when needed
Be an introvert when necessary
Be an extrovert when necessary

And finally, make your money from home and invest.

Haters will hate and lovers will love. I have been there, I'm still there, and I love being there. Life goes on.

Oh, lest I forget, let the love grow naturally if you finally want to love. And when it clicks, ride him like a dirty little bîtch. We men love good girls in the open, bad girls in za oza room. That's all for now.

For more, you have to pay for mentorship.

If you get this toxic vibe from people, then I'm intrested in your mentorship. It's good to get mentored by people who were in thesame shoes with one

ModestGal:
I have this problem, 90% of people get infatuated with me, not sexually or romantically I think. But this extreme intense feeling of likeness and uncontrollable interest in me that makes absolute no sense to me. Humans get extremely wowed with me, wants to know my in and out in an impatiently funny way, they would want to start an intense friendship/relationship with me, in a very fast funny way. I wont call myself beautiful though, but I'm indeed an Angel in Human form, what I mean is that not like I'm intensely beautiful, but I know I have this Uniqueness, an Angelic presence that is binding, inviting and mouth opening. Also, I do not think I have any features that would be immodestly inviting because many atimes I wear Abaya. I wear only jalamias with big arms and extremely long ones, I don't use make ups either nor do I use powders as I'm fond of rushing out of my house. Of course, I want to be loved,I cherish those that like me, but not in a toxic, weird manner, a healthy one.

I have tried both ways of accepting and rejecting these people, but they all usually end sour. Infact, in a particular case, I almost got my defense paper thrown away by one of these people (a Prof) that got infatuated with me.

It has lead to many haters, sometimes I feel its because I could not return same energy of love and likeness, that's why they end hating me in return, but each time I try to accept these people, it still doesn't end well. But my love/likeness for people actually grows in a healthy way, I don't get wowed at first, or extremely excited like people do to me

It's emotionally draining because I'm naturally a nice person and of course act friendly, and thus it's difficult to manage these people that get infatuated with me

This has nothing to do with dating me please, it happens with both males and females. The females end up doing all sorts of crazy things. Its painful because I don't feel infatuated about anyone, I don't know why people do that to me. I also like people, but usually in a healthy way, and it would definitely be respectful and would end very nicely and the people would always be glad I met them.
Some would say I'm proud, some would say I don't like them, some would just go funnily mute, some would become obsessive,some would want to be controlling, etc.

It makes me to avoid people, when I'm supposed to be happy that I get liked easily by people, I'm usually sad about it, because I know where it would end. It makes me not to want to associate the more, or talk where I am supposed to, or be real me in public
Please share with me how you are able to solve this problem if you have ever been in my shoes, or if you know any way I could stop this from re occurring.

Note** This has nothing to do with dating, or people asking me out, I get healthy people in that region, and no problem there at all
Also, I don't fit in the definition of ''beautiful'' with so many people, it would only take another Angel to see those beauty, so no need dropping any pic
I'm not weird either, I'm a normal human being

i am a guy and i am facing this same issue too

Nuthin remotely "modest" about the modest goat of a girl. Shalom.

Lekan239:
i am a guy and i am facing this same issue too

What do you think we can do about it?

ModestGal:

What do you think we can do about it?

Go and marry yourselves

ModestGal:

Is it arrogance that makes people do that to me? How can I be arrogant to strangers or people that are very higher than myself in status? It doesn't make sense now. They can also be richer and have everything more than myself. Nah, even if I'm arrogant, it's not a reason for them to be trying to get intensely close with me and infatuated, doesn't match jare. I'm a humble person

YOU'RE EASY GOING AND INVITING.
(nice but raise little guards to ward off irrelevant company)