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Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by BrownCookie(f): 2:02pm On Jul 18, 2020
Marriage must be triangular if it must be successful ie God, husband,wife. Let your wife be your best friend & vice versa.

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Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by authority2006(m): 2:04pm On Jul 18, 2020
dodelight:
It's more of what works for you as a couple. My wife has male colleagues who are close friends with her and I don't feel threatened by them; she knows her limit. When our first child was delivered through CS, the first pap she would take was brought by my own close female friend (someone I intended to marry years back) who now happened to be a nurse in the ward, and she was there for my wife till discharge. When there was a problem at the early stage of the pregnancy, it was that same friend of mine that made sure my wife was attended to on time by calling the doctor at the emergency (UCH, Ibadan) and claiming my wife is her inlaw. I don't like to be caged, so I don't cage my wife. We know how far we can go, and we live our lives with God's grace.

No for me.
Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by FullBlastLight: 2:05pm On Jul 18, 2020
If both partners hv sufficiently buil trust 4 each other, it really won't be a big deal after all!

However, don't u ever carelessly place urself in a tempting situation, because it's easier 2 stay outta trouble than 2 gerrout of it!
Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by Nobody: 2:05pm On Jul 18, 2020
Thane:
No

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Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by Nobody: 2:08pm On Jul 18, 2020
In a land where trust is almost non existent how do you expect couples to trust each other

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Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by Nobody: 2:08pm On Jul 18, 2020
dodelight:
It's more of what works for you as a couple. My wife has male colleagues who are close friends with her and I don't feel threatened by them; she knows her limit. When our first child was delivered through CS, the first pap she would take was brought by my own close female friend (someone I intended to marry years back) who now happened to be a nurse in the ward, and she was there for my wife till discharge. When there was a problem at the early stage of the pregnancy, it was that same friend of mine that made sure my wife was attended to on time by calling the doctor at the emergency (UCH, Ibadan) and claiming my wife is her inlaw. I don't like to be caged, so I don't cage my wife. We know how far we can go, and we live our lives with God's grace.
you have just said my mind brother. Exactly the same way I live with my husband, and we understood it very well. We all know our boundaries. One should not be caged in the name of marriage, so far you know your limit.

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Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by Nobody: 2:08pm On Jul 18, 2020
Big No
Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by Nobody: 2:09pm On Jul 18, 2020
No they are not okay.
Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by kokomilala(m): 2:11pm On Jul 18, 2020
Emphatic no.The temptations will be too alluring. A married woman once told me her male friend said he loved her. Can you explain that away?

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Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by emerged01(m): 2:12pm On Jul 18, 2020
Though I’m not against it but I believe as one is growing in marriage there is a stage you will get to you won’t have single ones as friends. I believe this is just a matter of time.

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Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by maak400: 2:12pm On Jul 18, 2020
Digitalstarlite:
It depends on type of relationship, maybe is church ppl, Evangelist, neighbor, office colleague...


In dis part of the world we are, it drpends on d type orientation and upbringing that your partner is might not support it cos any day that ur partner travels, anytin can happen...


Some Women might not hold it dan to confess to d partner DAT was a mistake, jus like d Augustina and jaden issue


For me, I don't support it except in d office but not to start paying me a visit at home....
This your English na wa! tongue
Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by ednut1(m): 2:12pm On Jul 18, 2020
If both know their boundaries fine. If not hell no.
Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by seanwilliam(m): 2:12pm On Jul 18, 2020
If you can define the term "friendship " then you will find your answer...



Nonsense

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Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by mac699: 2:13pm On Jul 18, 2020
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Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by Damsolad: 2:14pm On Jul 18, 2020
Thane:
No
If you will prefer alagbado or ota... 18hrs light daily is constant... 200k mini flat
nawao
please can people quote this comment with places on the Lagos mainland with steady power supply. I'm planning to relocate but power is important to my decision. Cost is also a factor
Also, if you are looking for a flat to stay in Ibafo, I have an empty room in a 3-bed. flatmate needed 70k
Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by gift2xl: 2:14pm On Jul 18, 2020
Not Good
Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by Karlifate: 2:14pm On Jul 18, 2020
PHIPEX:
They can be familiar or close colleagues but not friends. There is a difference between a colleague, acquaintance and a friend. Friendship runs deep and I can't allow that for my wife neither will I keep one.

A friend is someone you can easily run to at your moment of happiness or weakness which are the most vulnerable moments, why should it be an opposite sex whose intentions can change any moment?

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Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by mac699: 2:15pm On Jul 18, 2020
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Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by Chidex50(m): 2:15pm On Jul 18, 2020
dodelight:
It's more of what works for you as a couple. My wife has male colleagues who are close friends with her and I don't feel threatened by them; she knows her limit. When our first child was delivered through CS, the first pap she would take was brought by my own close female friend (someone I intended to marry years back) who now happened to be a nurse in the ward, and she was there for my wife till discharge. When there was a problem at the early stage of the pregnancy, it was that same friend of mine that made sure my wife was attended to on time by calling the doctor at the emergency (UCH, Ibadan) and claiming my wife is her inlaw. I don't like to be caged, so I don't cage my wife. We know how far we can go, and we live our lives with God's grace.
IT'S WORKING FOR YOU NOW,BUT PLEASE THREAD WITH CAUTION.THAT'S HOW IT STARTS!

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Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by mcdokwe(m): 2:15pm On Jul 18, 2020
paulolee:
not even alllwed for my girl to try that when we are dating not to talk of courtship or marriage..
the only male friends that my girl or wife is allowed to have are my brothers and her blood brothers and also her cousins aint allowed too..
Reasons- girls having male friends and besties have done more harm than good in relationship...thats my opinion, thank u
them having girlfriends can negatively affect your relationship more than a male friend.

I had this girl, we were even intimate and the man that married her knew as much, of course he was jealous and wanted her to end it with me but she made it clear she won't do that and stood on her grounds that he should call off the wedding if he was going to make the request again.

We are still friends and she knows she's married and set her borders with me (e pain me sha) to the point we had spent nights on various occasions but still respected our new borders. By far the best of friends I've had not minding the gender.

I agree that I might not be comfortable with the idea myself, but it depends on who you're with, how trustworthy they're.

A woman who hardly kept male friends may still have multiple extramarital affairs even right under your nose without you suspecting it.
Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by Karlifate: 2:17pm On Jul 18, 2020
seanwilliam:
If you can define the term "friendship " then you will find your answer...



Nonsense
Some people are confusing an acquaintance with a friend.
Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by tunize(m): 2:18pm On Jul 18, 2020
O.p apart from mayb male colleague at work or family member i know of, friendship with co-worker should end in da office. any other friend wit opposite sex is not allowed she jst better be friend with "Jesus" after all Jesus is opposite sex. Temptation nor know trust if e don happen finish na waitn we dey hear since 1900Ac we go here it was a 'Mistake" is bttr she knows wat comes over her now than not knowing later.

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Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by Brushstrokes20: 2:19pm On Jul 18, 2020
CAPITAL NO!.... end is always disastrous


# from experience
# a word is enough

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Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by TOPCRUISE(m): 2:20pm On Jul 18, 2020
Only an unfaithful partner who have slept with people's wives or husband when he or she was single will find something wrong with it. They are insecured
Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by TwentyOnePilots(m): 2:20pm On Jul 18, 2020
pappilo:


Never! It is never okay if one of the 'friends' is in any sort of relationship.

My ex-wife started off as friends with a colleague. But once she started hiding to take calls from him, it was obvious this was more than friendship.

Like a bad Nollywood movie, I ended up out of my own home, sleeping in a freaking cold garage that had been converted to a single room while her friend ended up in my warm bed and became the de facto dad to my kids.

Fear women o!

That's sad and hurting.... Hope you are good now Bro!?

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Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by Nobody: 2:20pm On Jul 18, 2020
mcdokwe:
them having girlfriends can negatively affect your relationship more than a male friend.

I had this girl, we were even intimate and the man that married her knew as much, of course he was jealous and wanted her to end it with me but she made it clear she won't do that and stood on her grounds that he should call off the wedding if he was going to make the request again.

We are still friends and she knows she's married and set her borders with me (e pain me sha) to the point we had spent nights on various occasions but still respected our new borders. By far the best of friends I've had not minding the gender.

I agree that I might not be comfortable with the idea myself, but it depends on who you're with, how trustworthy they're.

A woman who hardly kept male friends may still have multiple extramarital affairs even right under your nose without you suspecting it.
The man is a weakling

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Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by IamDavid(m): 2:21pm On Jul 18, 2020
This is a tricky question to reply but the quick answer is "no". Such behavior/desires to have friends of the opposite sex are borne out of adultery/fornication tendencies. However, where trust is great, and the partners have clean records, it can be allowed with very reasonable boundaries.

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Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by Nobody: 2:21pm On Jul 18, 2020
Friends................okay
Close friends.........hell no.

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