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| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by valo25: 4:19pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
some women are very wicked oooo,when my elder brother wife is calling me her 2nd husband, |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by seanwilliam(m): 4:20pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
saajus:though this advice sounds simpish, but I will still advice championxxx to follow this... The bitter truth is that he can't win the 3 ladies.. see, if they see you as a threat, at the end of the day, they might rope you with worst allegations ( like rape e.tc) and our society mostly believe ladies than men...and also you cant be an alpha male where you dont have power ( control).. your brother is in captivity, worst thing is that he is not ready to be saved.. so find your feet first .. So in addition to the advice of this guy I quoted. I will say 1. start playing reverse psychology 2. Do everything possible to avoid physical combat with them 3. Stop eating in the house.. 4. Reduce the hours you spend with them .... go to shop earlier, come back late... 5.dont complain to anyone again even to your brother 6. Activate ignore mode.. but dont let it show in your countenance 7. Find a way to make money on your own aside your brother's shop.. so as soon as you gather money that can pay your house rent( even if na single room) and still get extra that can keep u for 6 months till you find your feat, LEAVE! 8. The truth is your brother is SIMPified , they have his mumu button so you cant help him when you yourself have not helped yourself.. 9. Greet them normally ( use political tactics) 10.. have it in mind and husle well to leave that place.. cos all the above would only work for the main time.. Also put the "settlement agreement" in 50/50.... so that e no go hit you much if your brother fails to settle. At the end of the day, if care is not taken( by following above rules) ,, they will surely win you and ruin both you and your brother. I feel for u and 100% know what you going through.. |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by authority2006(m): 4:20pm On Jul 18, 2020*. Modified: 9:06pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
XX01:I'm not even sure he's going to get any settlement at the end of the day. The wife can easily manipulate that weak brother not to settle him. It's possible |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by BananaPeel(m): 4:20pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
If you leave that house, your brother won't last to enjoy his money. Na HBP from the wife and sisters. Their plan is to make you leave the house so they can bottle your brother. Your presence in that house is helping your brother alot more than he even understands. Stick to your guns, respect your brother's wife as you do your brother. Ignore those two nitwits but any time they need some real brain setting,give it to them. Tell your brother say only his wife will get maximum respect from you but those two girls should give you chance if not you blind their eyes with blow. Tell am say blood is thicker than water and you no go leave the house because of those two riffraffs |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by mabea: 4:21pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
Championxxx:Nwanna biko don't leave that house, just ignore them until you are settled you. I was in a similar situation during my secondary school days, in fact I almost left the house just before my SSCE but thanks to my elder sis who helped me with good counsels. |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by Lush100(m): 4:21pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
Words on marble Success comes from the capacity to take pain. Words from people with experience. I can say you are 100% correct. I have stories to share. Dear op, Take this advice sir. mark2sunny: |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by Dalil8: 4:21pm On Jul 18, 2020*. Modified: 4:38pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
chii8:What does getting them gifts got to do with this? It's his brother's house, they should be the ones looking for ways to appease him so as to make his brother happy. @Championxxx I'm very sorry to say but your brother is a weakling. Nothing comes before family (blood), i mean nothing... not even Wives. |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by Sammiel: 4:21pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
TheArchangel:You want to lead the young man to his early grave.? Women are very dangerous and would do anything to protect their home against someone they consider an intruder. Heeding to your advice could make the woman poison the young man or even arrange for his murder. The best you can advice him is to exercise patience while making arrangements with his brother for his own place. |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by Nobody: 4:22pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
Pally. Very difficult something. I would advice stoop to conquer mode. Just like u if u lived abroad and had a canterkerous wife who is doing everything to get to to react violently. Ignore, ignore,ignore. Leave very early and come back very late. Find mat sleep. It is even good for your back. Never loose sight of the end goal. Its unfortunate but that is what it will take to succeed. Respect the wife as much as u can and never ever put yourself in a position for them to put u in the line of fire. Ignore the sisters entirely and be cordial with the nice one. Keep the relationship with your brother way from this mess. Except he is a bastard, he will know exactly what it is costing you to keep everything intact and will silently be eternally grateful. Do not speak about this to anybody, not friends, not family not parents. Also do not go to the village. You will leave soon enough. He will be forced to face whoever he married then. But do not be the reason. It is also possible that you had a beef with her bringing her sisters to kick you out and consciously or unconsciously your actions were a bit antagonistic. Despite what you think, try to do for the wife what you would have done for your brother. That was how I handled this kind of situation though it was not really exact. We are all good friends now. Life and time happens. Never take these kind of things personal. It will impede your own personal growth. PS: I am an alpha male and a badass on how to deal with women. I am also currently very successful so I think I am qualified to dish out this. |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by tunize(m): 4:22pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
TheArchangel:O.p run from this advice. if u want to go far in life, be patient and ignore it doesn't mean you are stupid. i will only advice you to jst be a man that u are as u stated earlier u don't stay at home abi then do ur own and lock up. do ur normal duty in the house, respect ur brothers wife if they try to get u upset ignore them and stroll out till u brother is around. Silent treatment pays alot even who dey do u bad self go dey fear cos e nor know waitn u dey plan.Everytn for life is an experience in shapening you. Never raise your hand on any woman no matter the anger its hard learn to walk away it saves situation. ONE LOVE GUY |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by trutht828: 4:22pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
veave:This your idea of don't touch a woman is stupid. If a woman behaves like a goats, treat her like a goat. |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by petitejolie(f): 4:22pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
Championxxx:your brother is selfish. He is use to you and trust you with his business so he doesn't want u to leave yet he can't defend you. U won't grow if u continue to stay there. For 8years of service this is when he should settle you more than ever. Just to rent a house for you is a problem. What is happening is a sign that you have overstayed your welcome. You love your brother, wait there and see wat DAT woman will use your eyes to see and d same brother won't do anything. Look for someone u can stay with and still b going to shop. If your brother chases u away from d shop cos ure not staying with him den fine. If u dont av where to go den just stay back while making plans secretly. Don't feel comfortable in that house whether your bro likes it or not. Stop complaining of anything |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by Pat081: 4:22pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
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| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by nokatakata: 4:23pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
You self for don try gather some things since you have been living with your brother. You need to be extremely patient while living with him and his wife and also learn from the experience. Your brother wouldn't have allowed his wife bring her sisters to his house but i guess he did to avoid wahala since you he allowed you to stay with him. Your brother is only trying to be careful. You work hard and endure so you can get some money to rent a small place to stay while you still assist him in his shop. At least one of the girls still respects you. If I were you, I'll be spending more time in the shop eat whatever I want to eat outside and come home to just sleep. Your brother and him wife or even reason say you and her sisters fit dey nack. Na very risky venture dem attempt so. Imagine getting both of them pregnant sweet oyoyo |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by RealEzee(m): 4:23pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
ikdaddy01:did you even read ni, or you just felt you should open ur mouth waaaaaaa Did he say he's brother is babysitting him abi is he not the guy still helping his bro in his business ni? Na wa for some pple sef for NL |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by Nobody: 4:25pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
This is what I keep shouting and screaming on NAIRALAND everyday. Never MARRY a Burden. GUYS, don't waste your MARRIAGES. If you must marry, marry a LADY with huge dreams of Independence. Don't marry a TRUCKLOAD of Problems. I didn't do it. I avoided such. I saw LADIES who were good in character but were first daughters in their families with enormous junior siblings but I ran away. I Left them. I knew what I was avoiding. MARRY LADIES who stay alone. LADIES who have rented apartments themselves and nurture the dreams of staying alone. Since I got married, none of my WIFE'S relatives nurses the ambition of relocating to our apartment because they are all comfortable and my Wife who happens to be an Independent Lady frowns at such imperatively. MEMORY VERSE: Don't TRAIN any LADY for her parents. MARRY the already trained ones. MARRIAGE can be a curse too. |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by Amdoyin(m): 4:25pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
veave:nice piece from a sensible and understanding woman. O boy! You get patience nio plenty one sef |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by Xmen149(m): 4:25pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
vingeophysicist:my tales very close with my eldest brother that is with fed job,bcs of the closeness the girlfriend thinks anytime she dsnt get money request it's bcs it's been coming my way, though i have cought my bro laying on that b4 meanwhile i no see sgishi collect. trouble came when she visited the family house just b4 marriage,i was sick but she insisted I go Shop (Sun was mad) so she cook for the house after making her hair.i told her am not going anywhere till that Sun is out if she is not getting it then we will try in evening if market still open or she make another thing. went to where she was making hair to drop off her phone she forgot in evening after the sun was out she raised hell by the road side...Omo,.Na there she open her mind up. but the words hurt me bad. The mistake they made is nothing from my bro even comes from my side like. Reported to pops he kept mute,reported to his husband whom now asked her she said am accusing her. it led to a feud btw all members of the house naso I begin mind my business. Today they are seeing as if am keeping malice with them mostly bro bcs I now mind my business. She believed if she cut my bro off all of us go get problem. I even visited them after the first child to prove am no longer angry . but truth is I have to face my own days. This kind of things happen when you have weak man as the husband. |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by eROCK247(m): 4:25pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
Without having to apportion blames, I'd advise you decide want you want to achieve from your brother and use that goal as a propeller. It is not fair what you're going through but from what you've said already, your brother will not side with you so you're obviously fighting a losing battle. It'll be difficult but just endure till you complete your service. Apologize to your brother for causing trouble...then eat in the house. Ensure you eat. You are contributing to the income so the least you deserve is food and shelter. Aside that, consciously avoid any confrontations with your in-laws. Your hustle go pay. |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by belloboy: 4:26pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
Championxxx:Op learn how to live with them in peace, and stop all this entitlements mentality. Do you know that both you and those girls have equal rights in that house? What you should be thinking now at your age is how to be focused in achieving your goals in life and not dragging space with your in-laws in your brother house. Don't you know you are man? Raising your hands on a woman. Thank God nothing bad resulted from the beating , what would you have said happened. That you are claiming your right in your brothers house? Be wise my friend and stop acting childish. Two wrongs can never make a right. |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by Alberttahir: 4:27pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
For your brother's wife to put your mattress in the rain shows her depth of hatred for you. And your brother too is not man enough to his responsibility as the head of the home. Do not fight or try to retaliate, it'll only compound the issue. Leave that house peacefully before she poison or set you up, remember 'health is wealth. When there's life, there's always plan 'B'. Your life and safety is more important than your brother disowning you. |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by Humanoid01(m): 4:27pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
veave:God, please give me this kind of wisdom. |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by turbo3disc: 4:28pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
veave:The bitter truth. My if u can follow it and set ur ambition... hustle tight |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by Cocao(f): 4:28pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
Explain to me, explain to me how you get married and become a dummyy! How do you go ahead to marry women that have zero regard for your family? How do you marry someone and all of a sudden all the other people that were there for you since your birth cannot even be comfortable in your home. My fellow women, you can welcome your husband's people without making them feel somehow. You can be kind, you can be patient and you can be human! |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by mailemy(m): 4:30pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
veave:Best advice. |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by melaninpop: 4:30pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
Championxxx:You better start paving your own way in life. Believe me, one day one of those girls will accuse you of rape then your brother will throw you out of his house. Start finding your own way oooo.... 5k, 3k, clothes, food and rubbish ![]() |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by akmath: 4:30pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
TheArchangel:Archangel trouble I hail o |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by Reference(m): 4:30pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
As long as men and women continue to marry partners who are substantially socio-economically and educationally discordant with them, this will be the result. If one is hard working and self motivated, why marry from people completely the opposite. Surely whatever they contribute to the union cannot be the purpose of marraige. You see hardworking men marrying couch potatoes.... how can this be?. ..you see upwardly mobile and enterprising women getting hitched to toyboys or so called 'bad boys' expecting such unions to work. How can? |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by gamechanger1: 4:30pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
LadySarah:You are a brilliant woman |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by Lorenzop: 4:30pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
Championxxx:Bro... it's better to be a free man than to be in jail, if you can't handle your temperament, please leave that house while you still can. Consult with elders of your family or your mum or someone your brother listens to, to talk with your brother. Your brother is a weakling obviously, he too needs to be saved from the Jezebel he married, you gotta be smart in all these....next thing that woman might resort to jazz....women are desperately wicked when they are determined to do anything, one of the girls will wake up one day and accuse you of rape then your eye go clear. I strongly suggest you fight that battle from a distant. Your life and sanity first. |
| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by princetemitee(f): 4:31pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
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| Re: I Am Having Issues With My Brother’s Wife And Her Two Sisters by crazycrypto710: 4:31pm On Jul 18, 2020 |
Some men are married to witches |
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