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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Nobody: 6:55pm On Jul 26, 2020
owoshuyi:
Guy small small na grin grin. I'm not even in support of be it feminism and malenism, I'm just saying maybe things wouldn't have escalated to that extent if the OP simply said something to avoid what happened.




She should av glued herself to the chair na!! Nonsense!
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by GindoX(m): 6:55pm On Jul 26, 2020
NerdyRudeGyal:
The girls were at fault. I'm not going to take their side b/c they're females. They were 100% in the wrong.

1. Them leaving their seats made them available to anyone else, which is what happens in public settings involving seatings. Unless their names were on the chairs, they should've accepted that the seats were no longer theirs once they got up.

2. The physical assault [which is what it is] was started by one of them who threw juice on his face. I don't blame him for retaliating by pouring a can of whatever on her b/c anyone would've done the same thing in that moment. In fact, another dude would've likely hit her after this but he simply did the same thing she did to him, which I'm not going to blame him for at all.

3. The physical assault was further continued by her when she grabbed him and tore his skin w/ her nails, which again, made him retaliate and which I can't blame him for b/c she had gone too far.


Clearly, the girls felt somewhat entitled and Idk why. They were wrong on all three counts.



Analyzer. Well-done...you care for a roasted pie? grin

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by NumbEmotions(m): 6:56pm On Jul 26, 2020
Best thing I read all day ...OP, Nwanne chop knuckle. E pain me say I see this thread late, very late.
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Elvis778(m): 6:56pm On Jul 26, 2020
obowunmi:


You my friend are a MAD person. how can you advocate that a man beat up a woman ? the men should have been gentlemen and given up their seats for the women. Its only polite.
Not being polite is not a sin....not being a gentle man is not a sin either.....
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Nobody: 7:03pm On Jul 26, 2020
About 30 minutes later, the two girls came back inside, I noticed that one of them has had a change of cloths. So obviously they went home and returned.

The girls demanded that the guys should leave the seat, because they got there first. It is their seat. As expected the guys bluntly refused. [/b]The girls started raising their voice and cursing. No one really cared to listen to them, the boys were busy consuming the drinks on the table.

[b] As expected the guys bluntly refused


So while the girls asked them to leave they simply ignored them. If it was you would you take being ignored like that lightly? The guys could have said anything even madam we did not see anyone here so we sat down. Ignoring them and sipping drinks would make ANYONE mad and so thats what started the whole fracas.

MahatmaGhandi:


This is unfair. Unless otherwise stated public seats don't usually come with name tags. If I leave my seat without informing anyone about it and fail to leave a sign that my exit is temporary, anyone can take the seat and I would lose my right to that seat.
Most times people just want to be manipulative. I have been in situations where I sat on a lady's unmarked seat and was asked to leave the seat and I did, i have also had a lady occupy my seat and promised to get up when I came back, this lady refused to get up and dared me to do my worst. I walked away and got another seat (there is nothing gentlemanly about leaving the seat for her, on a good day i would drag her from the seat) In truth i have experienced this position with men and women, a trouble maker is a trouble maker wether man or woman.
My point here is that the goal posts of fairness and justice must remain fixed and should not be shifted irrespective of gender.

On the aspect of hitting people, my principle is simple, lay hands on anyone that lays hand on you. No gender has the monopoly of violence.
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Gavrelino123: 7:05pm On Jul 26, 2020
ademasta:
Hmmm undecided

Just consider yourself fighting with Yusuf Buhari, whether you are right or not, you will be dealt with by strong forces. That's how it plays out usually.

However, women are weaker vessels, no matter what transpires between you both, it will be perceived as if you are intentionally using naked powers on them. They will surely be listened to.

Have you considered great men that were thoroughly dealt with by women? Just because the man has bluntly refused her sex, probably in the office, and the next thing the woman would do is tear her own clothes to project rape. On this, never expect the man to be listened to. Both men and women will gather to condemn him.

The point is, women are stronger. Take it and be a man, or you leave it and be dealt with.

Women are stronger?

what a weak and stupid quote you have up there...

If you are a wise and intelligent man,you will know how to deal decisively with every woman.
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Nobody: 7:05pm On Jul 26, 2020
About 30 minutes later, the two girls came back inside, I noticed that one of them has had a change of cloths. So obviously they went home and returned.

The girls demanded that the guys should leave the seat, because they got there first. It is their seat. As expected the guys bluntly refused. [/b]The girls started raising their voice and cursing. No one really cared to listen to them, the boys were busy consuming the drinks on the table.

[b] As expected the guys bluntly refused


So while the girls asked them to leave they simply ignored them. If it was you would you take being ignored like that lightly? The guys could have said anything even madam we did not see anyone here so we sat down. Ignoring them and sipping drinks would make ANYONE mad and so thats what started the whole fracas.

MrColdsweat:


Women are bad at consequential thinking. They don't think or care about consequences. They just act as animals unlike men who are logical and think things thoroughly before they act.

Look at how men, through thinking, created partriachy, how they structured society and created a system where men have to sacrifice their own lives to protect and be responsible for women.

Now that women have their voices heard run society alongside men, do they look like they care about men even though it is the same men who protects women?
If men pulled out of the police, army, Do women look like they can protect themselves from goats, dogs and monkeys?

No, they don't care about consequences.

When a woman hits a man, the man owes it to humanity to correct her thinking. By beating her so hard to the point that next time she wants to hit a man, She'll think of the consequences.


That is how I treat women. This is not about hating women. This is about forcing them to start thinking of consequences.
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by v2: 7:13pm On Jul 26, 2020
NockMedia:

Whenever a lady tries to get violent with you as a guy, the best thing to do is to walk away from the heat of the moment.

It is easy to say but it takes the grace of God. I witness a confrontation yesterday between a guy and a girl. While there was an exchange of words between them, the girl poured water on the face of the guy twice from the bottled water she was holding. The guy was then walking away when the girl threw a slap that narrowly missed the guy. It was then another guy at the scene quickly held the girl.

So walking away may not have done the trick if the slap didn't miss the guy.

Women walking around these days, majority of them have terrible character. Pray they don't come your way.
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Liposure: 7:19pm On Jul 26, 2020
LaReinaa:
This story is very fake na

Where is the video of the fight
Not even a single person took out his/her phone to cover the entire fight in a crowded wedding
Even instablog9ja would have carried it if it actually happened..

Another cooked up story just to attack ladies as usual..
Is being female In Nigeria a crime to Nigerian men

So much hate on the female gender on this forum..

So sad angry
my dear, nobody is hating on the female gender. Things like this happens often. Men are facing a lot out there. The earlier we correct the mistake the better

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Murketeer: 7:22pm On Jul 26, 2020
SweetCunt97:
Yea I doubt such equality you dreaming of will ever be ingrained into the society any time soon. Even abroad, women gather sympathy easily than men. There will b no true equality among the gender.... Men are stronger than women.
Women gather sympathy in almost everything ...even in Jobs

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Samfloxin(m): 7:24pm On Jul 26, 2020
NockMedia:

I am not trying to justify what the lady did, but never raise your hand on a lady as a man. Don't.
If a lady raises her hand and slap me, I will give her a very heavy slap and embrace the consequences. U can't use the guise of weaker vessel and humiliate me and go scot-free. I will teach her a lesson that she will never have the morale to raise her hand and beat a man in the public.Besides ,those seats were not meant for them alone during the wedding.
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by djon78(m): 7:25pm On Jul 26, 2020
NockMedia:


Walkaway from any and every potential confrontation with a lady.


Exactly
Why will a man engage in confrontation with a lady. Talkless a toxic one.
It's like rubbing mud on yourself.

Toxic women are a no no.
If you want to live long and peaceful
Try and avoid them.

There are still wonderful, cool calm ladies that cannot hurt a fly
That has not been corrupted by this age

But the young men are kids sha
They aren't matured at all.
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by bummyla(m): 7:27pm On Jul 26, 2020
Both of them are disgraceful human beings! How would they want people to fight on their own wedding reception! Out of respect for the celebrants! Both of them would have cautioned themselves! They are lucky the celebrants do not have crazy friends and relatives, that would have beaten the living day light out of the two of them. And I would not be surprised if they later do that! Are they agents of darkness to ruin the couples happiness! https://www.God.bingo

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Sarang(f): 7:28pm On Jul 26, 2020
30naira:


But ladies can raise their hands on a man?

Why didn’t they leave their seats for them
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Sarang(f): 7:29pm On Jul 26, 2020
purpinkx:


Don't mind them.

And NockMedia is here saying he should have walked away, with juice in his clothes.

And when the same guy meets another woman at the ATM claiming she came before him, he should make way.

And then at the filling station, the supermarket.

Men should always walk away.

Untill women start feeling entitled, every “Good’ man should walk away when a woman start nonsense




He should have walked away when they told him it was their seat

That’s gentleman
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by JIREN01: 7:31pm On Jul 26, 2020
NockMedia:

You care too much about what others think of you. It is okay to be self-aware but the right thing to do is to avoid a retaliation or an escalation of the drama, and report her to a higher authority. You can go to the police station and make a complaint.
grin grin The simp of the year award goes to you.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Sarang(f): 7:31pm On Jul 26, 2020
traware:

If any of the ladies in the OPs story ever behaves towards me the way the OP described,Insha Allah I shall beat her to death cool

You never beat someone to death and they arrest you and your entire family..

You think if you beat someone to death you will just go scot free..?

Dumba**
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Walk(f): 7:33pm On Jul 26, 2020
Sarang:


He should have walked away when they told him it was their seat

That’s gentleman
No that's weakness. If that happened and i was with my man, i'll lose my respect for him if he stands up to wal.k away.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Sarang(f): 7:34pm On Jul 26, 2020
Samfloxin:

If a lady raises her hand and slap me, I will give her a very heavy slap and embrace the consequences. U can't use the guise of weaker vessel and humiliate me and go scot-free. I will teach her a lesson that she will never have the morale to raise her hand and beat a man in the public.Besides ,those seats were not meant for them alone during the wedding.

Pray the ladies does not have brothers with her cause they will beat you sotee blood will be oozing everywhere NO MATTER what their sister did

Cause you will do the SAME.
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Sarang(f): 7:35pm On Jul 26, 2020
Walk:
No that's weakness. If that happened and i was with my man, i'll lose my respect for him if he stands up to wal.k away.


Nigerian mentality!
Violence everywhere!

Wait till he go slap somebody wey never shop and kill her
Na that time you go see respect.
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by UKBobo(m): 7:36pm On Jul 26, 2020
Nyamuriflathead:


Oga you're not the bench mark for societal duties.. it is not a must

You no dey hear word. We (not I) can choose to live how we want. if we choose to continue like dumb ni55ers which some seem happy to continue with, then more foolishness like this will occur daily. Judging by your foolish moniker, you may be in the latter camp.
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Walk(f): 7:40pm On Jul 26, 2020
Sarang:



Nigerian mentality!
Violence everywhere!

Wait till he go slap somebody wey never shop and kill her
Na that time you go see respect.

I won't wait till he slaps her, i'll do it myself. That's really disrespectful to my man. Most girls never respect themselves in public. No girl will disrespect my man.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by stanliwise(m): 7:49pm On Jul 26, 2020
emmnprince:


I have been thinking on how to balance the equation & you have balanced it for me!
I am glad
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Funkybabee(f): 7:54pm On Jul 26, 2020
This post show who you really are, I hope your future wife is seeing this.

Because u used your mouth to say they were siting there before they went out and when the issues start as a human and sensible being who you will aim to become a head of home one day cannot stand to resolve the issue between them till it got to the extent of beating each other.

I fear for your wife
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Pierce008: 7:54pm On Jul 26, 2020
Angelfrost:


Case closed!!!... Those shouting this upandan don't even know the far-reaching consequences or fallout of such agitation! Most of them are not truly ready for the real equality situation!!!

I feel everyone should know his limits. Respect is supposed to be reciprocal (Whether same or opposite genders). If everyone respects himself/herself at all times, and in all situations, we won't even be in a position to fight or bicker over such pettiness.

Bottom line, if a woman wants or demands equality or equity, she must be ready to step up in all ramifications.

Fantastic input....
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Stmiceel(m): 7:58pm On Jul 26, 2020
On this I stand: To the cup you measured for me to which I'll serve you.
Male ooo
Female ooo
Women! Learn to behave as and when due.
Man! Don't walk away if any woman humiliate you.
Your self worth is at stake!

Note:
The case of wife is different oooo!
You should never ever touch your wife ooo!
With wify, there is a code!
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Walk(f): 8:00pm On Jul 26, 2020
Stmiceel:
On this I stand: To the cup you measured for me to which I'll serve you.
Male ooo
Female ooo
Women! Learn to behave as and when due.
Man! Don't walk away if any woman humiliate you.
Your self worth is at stake!
Please stop mentioning me.
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by femmyapson(m): 8:00pm On Jul 26, 2020
Iyajelili:
I don't care about stupid gender equality but you're bitter towards women and your write up reeks of hate and disgust to the female gender. You should face the lady that turned you to a bitter soul at OP.
@ 30naira
Ignore her please, her username says it all. Ignore the poppycock she said up there
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Minemrys: 8:02pm On Jul 26, 2020
benicta:


If only they had asked politely, the guys might have let them have the seat.
ofcos, and even the guys effed up. Atimes, u just have to be humble when pers0n bring matter wey dy stupid c0me ur fr0nt. U walk away. Both sides are at fault. Every0ne wants to claim right.
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Stmiceel(m): 8:04pm On Jul 26, 2020
Walk:
Please stop mentioning me.

Aunty, how far!
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by owoshuyi(m): 8:09pm On Jul 26, 2020
grin grin abi
Heathrow44:




She should av glued herself to the chair na!! Nonsense!
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by LaReinaa(f): 8:13pm On Jul 26, 2020
Liposure:
my dear, nobody is hating on the female gender. Things like this happens often. Men are facing a lot out there. The earlier we correct the mistake the better
It isn’t a hidden fact that 95.5% of male NLs are misogynists..

It’s also not too difficult to realize that the strory the Op posted up there never happened.

Some female commenters here are even afraid to express their opinions because of the fear of being attacked.. this is also a very serious problem that needs to be addressed.. sometimes, I read comments here and wonder if these guys actually have sisters.

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