cuteFAM:
Before I divorce my wife, she see me finish reach the level wey if I catch her sex chatting with a guy, she go still insult me on top. She go even talk say na only sex chat I see, when I catch them fucking her, wetin I wan do? Guys do not marrry, all you will loose is your peace of mind, money, years and your sanity!

olboy you suffer o....

Johntemmy:
On top the matter can you take your wife back after you caught her cheating on you?

Please I need advice and sincere reply thanks everyone.

For me, no. I will never take back a cheating wife. If caught, it is completely over. No family meeting will be able to change my mind.


I can't take a cheating hoe back. A wife for that matter.

Amanee:
On the internet: No

In reality: Yes

Very funny

tfash96:
Happy Taking.. Only 1 thing I do tell my girlfriend that I want to marry for real.. You can do any other thing I'll forgive you and continue our relationship but once you cheat I'm gone for good

You indirectly told her she can cheat as long as she is not caught...

Missyajoke:


That's why most marriages end in divorce so a man has all the rights to cheat why the woman can't? what applies to a man certainly applies to a woman. That's why most women are emotionally stabbed by their husbands and men emotionally stabbed by their women. she may allow you but do you think she will be happy. Most women are just staying in a dead marriage because of their children. Some marriages ended before it started. Men will say "because i pay her bride price i have full control over her" thrash. That's why it's better to be unmarried than to marry the wrong person cause i don't think i can stand a man cheating on me, you either pick me or your hoes. It's only in Nigeria a man will feel he did a lady favour by marrying her, wake up the world is changing. If a man cheats on me i won't leave that house i'll stay and i'll make the house unbearable for the man and see if he is going to change if not am out. A family meeting will be held on both sides i don't have time for rubbish.

On point!

But that statement in bold, me no understand you clearly. All the same, na wetin u decide to do!

If she can take u back after cheating on her on several occasions, yet she 4gives u and still move on as if nothing happened.
Why wouldn't u do the same? The most important thing is that at she repented and will never go back to that again.

Reference:
Even the Bible doesn't give a clear cut answer because it is such a complex scenario, one size just doesn't fit all.

How can you say this?

Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (KJV)

1 When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house.

Matthew 19:9 KJV

“And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.”

I keep telling people man and woman are not equals, they were not built the same way and most certainly will not react the same way. The issue of forgiveness is different from forgetting and most times it depends on who has the most to LOSE! Think about it:

1. Who is more financially dependent?
2. Who is more attractive?
3. Age?
4. Kids involved?
5. Location? If na USA, man must think twice before divorcing(child support, splitting of assets), if na 9ja it is very easy to let her go!
6. TRUST? Can you trust such a person again? Men cheat mostly for physical satisfaction, women cheat mostly for emotional satisfaction. A woman that is emotionally invested in another man, what would it take for her to poison her husband or send hired killers after him?

THINK AM WELL MY PEOPLE...THINK AM WELL WELL

olmoRoc:
No, because she's never going to stop cheating on you. She's only going to get smarter at it.

True

I'll take her back if I didn't know it happened.

This means, if it comes to my knowledge, forget about it.

Same reason I remember bro Shaggy, "it wasn't me"

There is nothing deep and intellectual about what he says.

Even in christianity, God admonishes everyone to flee fornication and adultery. God says if you loon at a woman lustfully ,you've already committed adultery in your heart.

Where did the bible men are to commit adultery?

Oluwadare:
you are such a deep intellectual person sir. Unfortunately, only few of these days women realize this.

Excuses:
If ever catch a wife cheating, OP two things are involved..
1.if she has contributed so much to my life as a partner, i mean we've had our kids life is moving on happily,she will stay with me,but i'll not c her as my wife but as a friend,very good friend but, it will b difficult for me to have sex again,it will take long,i mean years before May b one day something sexually can happen.

2.I may also have to cheat on her...The rationale behind point 2 is to pacify ur superior feelings of innocent making it hard for u 2 forgive her thereby holding it against her while feeling like a saint. but if u cheat,the animal side to u will acknowledge that "u do me i do u"..making them equal..

"Forgivness is not for the weak is for the strong"

Hahaha

GboyegaD:


If you choose to neglect her and she complains about it, one might want to think about it.

Yeah its bad to neglect your SO but if they decide to cheat then they need to take responsibility for their actions. Instead of cheating call it quits and be free of the person.

emi1000:
I can't take a cheating husband back because I know I can't cheat on my husband, I can't even cheat on my boyfriend talk more of my husband�

Time will tell. It is actually easier for the women to take the man back than the reverse...

postmann:


The simple answer is no. Because men are not wired to accept that. Once there is coital violation on the part of the woman, then the mariage is mentally, psychologically and romantically over. I deliberately left out the spiritual part in order to stay aligned within the scope of this section.

The woman's sexual organ is sacred and should never be violated by another man in marriage. It is taboo.

So...the men sexual organ is not sacred and can be violated abi? ok o..watin I kn self.

If she won't cheat again.

Missyajoke:


That's why most marriages end in divorce so a man has all the rights to cheat why the woman can't? what applies to a man certainly applies to a woman. That's why most women are emotionally stabbed by their husbands, she may allow you but do you think she will be happy. Most women are just staying in a dead marriage because of their children. Some marriages ended before it started. Men will say "because i pay her bride price i have full control over her" thrash. That's why it's better to be unmarried than to marry the wrong person cause i don't think i can stand a man cheating on me, you either pick me or your hoes. It's only in Nigeria a man will feel he did a lady favour by marrying her, wake up the world is changing. If a man cheats on me i won't leave that house i'll stay and i'll make the house unbearable for the man and see if he is going to change if not am out. A family meeting will be held on both sides i don't have time for rubbish.

Sister, please read carefully. I don't buy the gender equality crap when it comes to sexual immorality. If a man sleeps around, he is not looked down upon as a woman would. Women fail to understand one basic thing. They are actually created to be stronger than men emotionally, spiritually and psychically. So when a woman starts comparing herself with a man, she's reducing herself and it would affect her respect. Men are generally more animalistic and are wired to prey while women are finer and more subtle. In the Bible, it was common for men to have concubines, e.g., Oga Solo and King David. But the women that had several husbands were not so valued. The Son of God had to ask the one who was brought to Him for stoning approval to go and sin no more. There is no where in the Bible the women are told to put away their husbands if they stray. So I will explain to you from experience and observations.

But before I say anything, a woman who cheats on her husband debases herself, devalues herself and makes herself irritating to her husband. A cheating wife is worse than cancer and destroys the self-esteem of her husband. A lot of men divorce their wives for infidelity but are quiet about it because they don't want to lose the respect of their peers. If you as a woman cannot put up with a cheating husband, it is not a sin if you ask him for a divorce but it is a sin if you don't and you hate each other in the union.

A friend of mine had a spouse and they had challenges in their union. She left to take a break from the union for them to get their acts together. She rebuffed advances from men and focused on her career. When she got back after a year, she discovered baba was bonking another babe. They tried to fix it, but the babe felt she had rights and started disrespecting madam. Oga failed to do anything about it because he was still bonking her and madam took her daughter to her parents and left him.

Sometimes, the best gift you can give to certain people in life is to forgive them and leave them. I won't cheat on my wife, but I have told her the day I cheat on her, if she doesn't divorce me, I would divorce her because she is telling me it is okay for me to disrespect her.

It's a total NO for me except...

Fankly lots of factors come to play in arriving at a decision...

1. Do you guys have kids together and how old are the kids?
2. Do you see true repentance or remorse?
3. Do people know about it?
4. Will she be able to forgive herself staying under the same roof, knowing that you know?

when I'm not mad!... The cheating BITCH and I ain't crossing paths till kingdom come.

emkz:


Sister, please read carefully. I don't buy the gender equality crap when it comes to sexual immorality. If a man sleeps around, he is not looked down upon as a woman would. Women fail to understand one basic thing. They are actually created to be stronger than men emotionally, spiritually and psychically. So when a woman starts comparing herself with a man, she's reducing herself and it would affect her respect. Men are generally more animalistic and are wired to prey while women are finer and more subtle. In the Bible, it was common for men to have concubines, e.g., Oga Solo and King David. But the women that had several husbands were not so valued. The Son of God had to ask the one who was brought to Him for stoning approval to go and sin no more. There is no where in the Bible the women are told to put away their husbands if they stray. So I will explain to you from experience and observations.

But before I say anything, a woman who cheats on her husband debases herself, devalues herself and makes herself irritating to her husband. A cheating wife is worse than cancer and destroys the self-esteem of her husband. A lot of men divorce their wives for infidelity but are quiet about it because they don't want to lose the respect of their peers. If you as a woman cannot put up with a cheating husband, it is not a sin if you ask him for a divorce but it is a sin if you don't and you hate each other in the union.

A friend of mine had a spouse and they had challenges in their union. She left to take a break from the union for them to get their acts together. She rebuffed advances from men and focused on her career. When she got back after a year, she discovered baba was bonking another babe. They tried to fix it, but the babe felt she had rights and started disrespecting madam. Oga failed to do anything about it because he was still bonking her and madam took her daughter to her parents and left him.

Sometimes, the best gift you can give to certain people in life is to forgive them and leave them. I won't cheat on my wife, but I have told her the day I cheat on her, if she doesn't divorce me, I would divorce her because she is telling me it is okay for me to disrespect her.

Hmmm really deep!

adanny01:
I'll take her back if I didn't know it happened.

This means, if it comes to my knowledge, forget about it.

Same reason I remember bro Shaggy, "it wasn't me"

If you didnt know she will not be out of your house So taking her back will not even arise!

If I forgive her I will later die and my death will come from her,so the answer is NO!!!!!!
Cause gradually she start to enjoy the other man's company and the man will advise her to do that wetin women no fit do

Righteousness89:
Personally, it may be Difficult but if she Genuinely repents, I have no Choice than to take Here back!





I don't see myself having that anyway! I have got a Heavenly Virtuous Wife...

I am so Privileged to have such a woman..

Wow, so Righteousness89 is married

Being lied to and being cheated upon are two things I can't put up with. I can overlook the former, but for the latter, capital NO. No matter how much I love(d) her.

Righteousness89:
Personally, it may be Difficult but if she Genuinely repents, I have no Choice than to take Here back!





I don't see myself having that anyway! I have got a Heavenly Virtuous Wife...

I am so Privileged to have such a woman..

until she shock you like raiden..!!

Obingene:
Hmmm OP you made a post about your suspicion of the activities between your wife and your brother, did you later catch them?

Did she cheat on you? How did you find out?

Johntemmy

An answer is needed sir

emmnprince:


What of if a man cheats, should the woman accept and take him back?

Is it only a wise woman that would retake a cheat?

That is left for the woman to decide...

MartinsD12:

The question is can you take ur wife back if she cheat not me cheat

I am asking this time in response to your answer to the original question.

Y?
I won't take the woman back!

Amanee:
On the internet: No

In reality: Yes

I think say you be a babe and half....bros.

Very true though, I used to say that until my ex cheated on me, I didn't even know what to do, I was just looking at him without feeling anything, but las las the relationship didn't continue

Time will tell. It is actually easier for the women to take the man back than the reverse...[/quote]