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How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by uninspired07: 1:27pm On Dec 28, 2019
I know this my thread might get some people angry but it’s a subject that surprises me whenever I think of it. How do normal Nigerians who are educated have more than 2 children in a country like Nigeria with all the poverty & hopelessness? I am still single but I have it in mind to lay a ground rule that whichever woman I marry must agree to family planing methods after the birth of the 1st child whether male or female. And if the 1st baby is male, we can as well wait for another 5 years before having a baby of either sex as the last.

But I wonder when I see Nigerians that are not so wealthy giving birth to 4 - 5 kids in the midst of grinding economic depression and in a nation that has clearly failed. Don’t these Nigerians know that the country can descend into war anytime due to the instability that is so palpable? I get afraid when I see couples who have 4 children in this day & age so I always wonder how they are coping with the stress & the bills. I also wonder why they are not afraid of Nigeria.

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by olumide3367(m): 1:29pm On Dec 28, 2019
Nigeria is just like animal kingdom where people born like duck

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by James39: 1:38pm On Dec 28, 2019
See the minimum and maximum should be 4.

I can't give birth to 1 boy and 1 gal.

That's my take. I don't care what others think.

if your parent were so careful not to go beyond 2 kids you won't be here typing this. I'm sure you are not the 1st neither the 2nd.

we are 10 in numbers and we are doing fine.

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by uninspired07: 1:41pm On Dec 28, 2019
James39:
See the minimum and maximum should be 4.

I can't give birth to 1 boy and 1 gal.

That's my take. I don't care what others think.

if your parent were so careful not to go beyond 2 kids you won't be here typing this. I'm sure you are not the 1st neither the 2nd.

we are 10 in numbers and we are doing fine.

Why can’t you stop at 2? Nigeria has changed radically from the time of our parents?

How do you know that I am not among the 1st two children of my parents?

Nigeria is just too failed a country to burden with overpopulation. I observe that people who give birth to many Children are always illiterate & stark poor. And they are not afraid of poverty do they hug it with gusto by having many children they can’t cater for.

NB: 10 Childern? That’s fantastic. I am sure your pops was doing fine back in the days to have been able to shoulder the responsibility.

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by erifeoluwasimi(f): 1:45pm On Dec 28, 2019
That one no vex me at all. The one way vex me pass be say they will see me and tease me"madam this your boy suppose don get younger one o" and evening time they will come and be begging me for cup of rice.
One was telling me that why will I go for family planning if I am not cheating on my husband.
Nigerians women especially need reorientation

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by Kalashnikov102(m): 1:46pm On Dec 28, 2019
Make I park here first grin

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by uninspired07: 1:50pm On Dec 28, 2019
Kalashnikov102:
Make I park here first grin

My broda, no be small thing ooo. The thing dey always wonder me. If na America now, it’s ok. But Nigeria? With its problem with a domineering North bristling with millions of Islamic terrorists? Why would any southerner want to have so many children in this kind of country? 1 or 2 kids is enough with a comprehensive plan to emigrate at the earliest opportunity.

Naija doesn’t have a future & it has failed already. She is just yet to slip into internecine war.

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by uninspired07: 1:51pm On Dec 28, 2019
erifeoluwasimi:
That one no vex me at all. The one way vex me pass be say they will see me and tease me"madam this your boy suppose don get younger one o" and evening time they will come and be begging me for cup of rice.
One was telling me that why will I go for family planning if I am not cheating on my husband.
Nigerians women especially need reorientation

They are mostly the poor & uneducated ones. But I see some enlightened Nigerians too having many Children ooo. They are fearless & committed Nigerians then.

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by uninspired07: 1:52pm On Dec 28, 2019
uninspired07:


My broda, no be small thing ooo. The thing dey always wonder me. If na America now, it’s ok. But Nigeria? With its problem with a domineering North bristling with millions of Islamic terrorists? Why will any southerner want to have so many children in this kind of country? 1 or 2 kids is enough with a comprehensive plan to emigrate at the earliest opportunity.

Naija doesn’t have a future & it has failed already. She is just yet to slip into internecine war.
Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by Nobody: 1:52pm On Dec 28, 2019
@uninspired07 na your type wife go end up giving birth to quadruplets.

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by johnkey: 1:52pm On Dec 28, 2019
Poor people shouldn't even have kids, bringing innocent souls into the world to suffer them.

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 1:55pm On Dec 28, 2019
My brother, I am also wondering.

I only desire 2-3 kids.

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by James39: 1:58pm On Dec 28, 2019
uninspired07:


Why can’t you stop at 2? Nigeria has changed radically from the time of our parents?

How do you know that I am not among the 1st two children of my parents?

Nigeria is just too failed a country to burden with overpopulation. I observe that people who give birth to many Children are always illiterate & stark poor. And they are not afraid of poverty do they hug it with gusto by having many children they can’t cater for.

NB: 10 Childern? That’s fantastic. I am sure your pops was doing fine back in the days to have been able to shoulder the responsibility.
do you think having 2kids keeps you away from the harsh economy? Or do you thinks its everyone with many kids that's poor? Me I just can't takeb2 children. Call me whatever you like. Its my life and my decision

Like I said as for me ooo either maximum or minimum its 4kids.

When you know how to play your cards well. You will understand my own point

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by CopyJoe: 1:58pm On Dec 28, 2019
It's one of the major reasons there's so much poverty in the land.

People give birth to children they can't take care of. Instead, they should use the little resources they have to take adequate care of the ones they have already given birth to.

Rich people, with all the money they have, limit the number of children they give birth to.

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by uninspired07: 2:00pm On Dec 28, 2019
justnock:
@uninspired07 na your type wife go end up giving birth to quadruplets.

How? If you know how I dislike plenty children ehn, you want talk like this at all. 2 children at most with the best of education I can afford.

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by uninspired07: 2:01pm On Dec 28, 2019
TonyeBarcanista:
My brother, I am also wondering.

I only desire 2-3 kids.

I guess it’s lack of fear. I wouldn’t have been afraid were Nigeria a good & stable nation.

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by uninspired07: 2:02pm On Dec 28, 2019
As a couple, you can have explosive sex in marriage with a good family planning method.

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by uninspired07: 2:02pm On Dec 28, 2019
James39:
do you think having 2kids keeps you away from the harsh economy? Or do you thinks its everyone with many kids that's poor? Me I just can't takeb2 children. Call me whatever you like. Its my life and my decision

Like I said as for me ooo either maximum or minimum its 4kids.

When you know how to play your cards well. You will understand my own point

It’s your choice sha.

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by James39: 2:20pm On Dec 28, 2019
uninspired07:


It’s your choice sha.
those poor parents with children everywhere like rats opted for it unknowingly it was ignorance at it peak.

In this information age, I have been enlightened.

but thanks man

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by uninspired07: 2:27pm On Dec 28, 2019
James39:
those poor parents with children everywhere like rats opted for it unknowingly it was ignorance at it peak.

In this information age, I have been enlightened.

but thanks man

Uw.
Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by OJODEL10(m): 2:38pm On Dec 28, 2019
the best thing is have the number of children you can care for . even caring for two children in this country of ours where a rubber of rice cost roughly N1000 . but come to think of it having many children is not a crime my parent gave birth to 6 of and we are doin fine does not mean you should do the same please think b4 you do.

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by uninspired07: 3:12pm On Dec 28, 2019
OJODEL10:
the best thing is have the number of children you can care for . even caring for two children in this country of ours where a rubber of rice cost roughly N1000 . but come to think of it having many children is not a crime my parent gave birth to 6 of and we are doin fine does not mean you should do the same please think b4 you do.

Your parents’ Nigeria is different from our Nigeria.

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by KevinDein: 4:13pm On Dec 28, 2019
I really can't wrap my head around how people that can barely get by are having more than 3 children.

They keep saying it's God that gives children and that God would take care of them but they then hand over these children to relatives who abuse them at any chance they get. Like that woman who WWEed a ten year old girl.

It really really breaks my heart to see children not having the basic necessities of life because of the dumb decisions of their parents.

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by ezugegere(m): 5:48pm On Dec 28, 2019
Some people end up having more children than they planned for. So many children are conceived by mistake. If you have not had a child by mistake, don't just think you have stopped having kids. Family planning fails a lot in Nigeria, I don't know why.
For me, I've had my 3, and I'm praying seriously not to have more. Nigeria is one of the most difficult places in the world to be a parent

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by Nobody: 6:11pm On Dec 28, 2019
They say children are gift from God and hope unto him to provide

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by meobizy(m): 6:15pm On Dec 28, 2019
Most of the families I see from parents forty five years old and younger consist of two children, three at most. It is only one exception I’ve seen of which both parents are from well to do backgrounds where they have four children. It is only the illiterate and unexposed who see children as gifts from God which if he provides will still take care of with the least human intervention.

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by yvelchstores(f): 6:33pm On Dec 28, 2019
This topic is very important. In all honesty, people should think more in this country. Truth is people don't think, they don't plan either, they just fall pregnant repeatedly and some regret but if you had no preventive measure on ground, what did you expect? If not for anything, for the sake of the quality of life those children will have to live with. Nigerians, be Pro thoughtful, think ahead and don't just fall into mistakes. Anyone who has too many children, I can't pity you. You made your bed, lie down well on it.

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by fatymore(f): 7:28pm On Dec 28, 2019
It depends on your choice. Some are wealthy and likes a full house while some are struggling and would prefer 2 with lot of spacing.

Sometimes it isn't even about the money


The stress is usually when they are still young but believe me when they start working and of age, and they start calling you iya professionals and your children are doing well, you will be fulfilled and happy and forget all the stress.

Either 2 or 6 may God give us the strength to take care of them and reap from our work

I like a full house, so I am going for 3 at least and four at most.


But hubby says 2 tongue

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by culf: 7:56pm On Dec 28, 2019
this is Africa, aside that, personally I luv children and I will have more than 2 by God's grace.

If one plan well, you can still have more than 2kids and still take good care of them.

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by uninspired07: 8:02pm On Dec 28, 2019
yvelchstores:
This topic is very important. In all honesty, people should think more in this country. Truth is people don't think, they don't plan either, they just fall pregnant repeatedly and some regret but if you had no preventive measure on ground, what did you expect? If not for anything, for the sake of the quality of life those children will have to live with. Nigerians, be Pro thoughtful, think ahead and don't just fall into mistakes. Anyone who has too many children, I can't pity you. You made your bed, lie down well on it.

The issue is not even having many children, but having them in a failed country like naija, which makes it harder to evacuate them in a crisis situation or when the country descends into a civil war. I talk like this because I am very observant & I pay attention to the political happenings in Nigeria & I know the country is on a very precarious state & will not get better any time soon.

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by uninspired07: 8:04pm On Dec 28, 2019
AwkaetitiBabe:
They say children are gift from God and hope unto him to provide

Hope unto God to tend to my fvck ups?

This is how millions have descended into poverty in Nigeria.

It’s better to control child bearing & child spacing for ease of care & management.

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Re: How Do Average Nigerian Couples Have More Than 2 Children? by uninspired07: 8:06pm On Dec 28, 2019
ezugegere:
Some people end up having more children than they planned for. So many children are conceived by mistake. If you have not had a child by mistake, don't just think you have stopped having kids. Family planning fails a lot in Nigeria, I don't know why.
For me, I've had my 3, and I'm praying seriously not to have more. Nigeria is one of the most difficult places in the world to be a parent

If family planning fails, we abort.

We would not get into trouble as couple because we fvcked as a couple.

I fear Nigerian poverty a lot & all must be done to avoid it.

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