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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by cchikkyy: 11:47am On Jul 29, 2020
Leave feelings, say yes to d guyman

That's how African women do
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by BigJoe19: 12:11pm On Jul 29, 2020
OP I don't blame you, na the simp of a man I blame.

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Chinkos99(m): 12:30pm On Jul 29, 2020
Amb1045:
Not really. so he can becomes better in relationship aspect. not to continuing been a simp.lol
Thanks
But I need to give it a second thought
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by iInjureHerYansh: 1:32pm On Jul 29, 2020
Even the moniker says it all.. "Chink Ho" angry

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Angelacruz: 3:23pm On Jul 29, 2020
Lambarry1:
When he inserts his pencil into your sharpener....it is then you will know you feel something for him
haahha...funny you

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Centcanada: 5:16pm On Jul 29, 2020
Important news please
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Royalfurnitures: 5:18pm On Jul 29, 2020
You are already in love with him without knowing


Your home is incomplete without good quality furniture, that's why we are here for you

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by hopexter(m): 5:20pm On Jul 29, 2020
Nairaland needs a summary Technician, when a story gets too long amidst other stories, it becomes boring and useless like an unread message. Can something be done about it?
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Nobody: 5:24pm On Jul 29, 2020
Fake story
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Ghostmode2two(m): 5:24pm On Jul 29, 2020
That man could leave you with bruises. in your heart and in bed of very sharp nails as bed spread. Why are you not in relationship?
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Farki: 5:24pm On Jul 29, 2020
This is sexual harrassment in the workplace, I suggest that you desist from this behaviour immediately and leave the poor man alone. angry

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by CorperKola: 5:25pm On Jul 29, 2020
Blackpearlous:
Don't feel pressured, if you don't feel anything don't force it.


You can wait awhile to get to know him in that light, if you still don't feel anything other than the idea of a new guys and someone liking you ( I can sense it) don't push it or else you will waste his time.

I'm sure you know the kind of man you want.
i hope hes lying to you and just wants to fuc
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Jbleenk: 5:25pm On Jul 29, 2020
Chinkos99:
Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.

I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.

When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.

I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.

On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.

Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.

So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.

After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so i told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner, i close late, im a workaholic, so most times i will agree but i will work till 9pm and he would have waited and get tired and left.

Finally i get to have a dinner date with him and he ask if we could do this more often, i said why not boyfriend jokingly, the next time we were having dinner, I said boyfriend let me greet that guy there, i really needed to meet him, he has a contact i need for work, he held me and said you call me boyfriend jokingly, i want you to mean it lol.

After i met with the guy, he started telling me how he loved me and how he will really love us to be in a relationship, he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong on all level because we work in the same place, but i can think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision i make.

I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, i can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting.

Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me

Last night we were together, i told him i am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that i believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol. He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, yes i am old enough to have been married and i had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things i neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time - MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.

Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise.

Girl I tell u this with all certainty, if that dude start caring less and stop giving u all the attention u get from him, then u will realize how cool and nice he was to u all along and how much u truely actually love him. This is the psychology of love. So I’d say don’t force it until u truly realize u do love him after all.

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Dididrumz(m): 5:27pm On Jul 29, 2020
Chinkos99:


Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise.

Most great relationships did not start with a love at first sight.

Liking him is enough to give him a chance if You think he's worth it. At some point the feelings would come if you both are honest to yourselves.

It's not a must that You must feel that thing called love before a relationship.

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by MrColdsweat: 5:27pm On Jul 29, 2020
It's very clear that you don't need advice.


I feel you are just here for attention.

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Richdad50(m): 5:27pm On Jul 29, 2020
You will end up with an enemy.
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by gahdfrey(m): 5:28pm On Jul 29, 2020
Are you single?
If yes,if he makes you feel good and you like him,why not?
uruba23:
I can't stop laughing but really what do you want to feel.I am even surprise given that you both bonded well. I think the fact you both work in the same environment is creating the limitation,because you need to seperate having a good work ethics and been in a relationship. So you either set boundaries or take the bulls by the horns and find that feeling.
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Farki: 5:28pm On Jul 29, 2020
hopexter:
Nairaland needs a summary Technician, when a story gets too long amidst other stories, it becomes boring and useless like an unread message. Can something be done about it?

Summary: My old coworker is with me in my new place. I formed familiarity and got his hopes high by "playfully" flirting and calling him sweet nothings.

The man tried to take me out on dinner dates and buy me gifts but I did shakara so after all that he still had to confess his love and obvious interest in dating me, but I don't love him because he is 40, well established and hasn't been married yet so I assume he is a player.

What should I do?

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Nobody: 5:28pm On Jul 29, 2020
Chinkos99:
Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.

I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.

When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.

I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.

On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.

Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.

So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.

After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so i told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner, i close late, im a workaholic, so most times i will agree but i will work till 9pm and he would have waited and get tired and left.

Finally i get to have a dinner date with him and he ask if we could do this more often, i said why not boyfriend jokingly, the next time we were having dinner, I said boyfriend let me greet that guy there, i really needed to meet him, he has a contact i need for work, he held me and said you call me boyfriend jokingly, i want you to mean it lol.

After i met with the guy, he started telling me how he loved me and how he will really love us to be in a relationship, he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong on all level because we work in the same place, but i can think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision i make.

I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, i can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting.

Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me

Last night we were together, i told him i am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that i believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol. He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, yes i am old enough to have been married and i had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things i neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time - MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.

Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise.


Just copy this thing , edit it and send to him as WhatsApp message.

This is straight from the heart. You don't force love, so I will advice you take it slow.

Love might grow from taking it slow and you might actually start missing him.

There is also a possibility you love him dearly, but you are living in self denial because you are not even sure of what you want in a man.

You didn't say no to his request, you only don't feel that butterfly. You may not feel it until you stop seeing him regularly, and then you start missing him.

You can actually do that to test your feelings for him.

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Nobody: 5:30pm On Jul 29, 2020
ethicallyright:
"A strong man doesn't have to be dominant toward a woman. He doesn't match his strength against a woman weak with love for him. He matches it against the world." - Marilyn Monroe.





Norma Jean, also Marilyn Monroe , was the Kardashian of the 60s. A sex figure she was - an innocent fine face, endowed with curly blonde hair and the slim figure 8 which were in Vogue few decades past. Many men who we would later define as simps ,fell at her feet and wished they could have just a night with the late thespian.

The quote above suggests that women do not love men who beg them for love. If he walked your flat ass out of his office and saw you as the flirt you are, you'd fall for him. If he didn't convert his job hours at the mall to a honey moon, the title of this thread could have been :

"I love my boss but he doesn't care"

or
" My boss is rich but doesn't love women. How do I make him notice and fall in love with me?"

We've warned these weak men consistently but they care little. Tell him to give you 5 million naira and thereafter tell him that he is " emotionally assaulting" you. Maybe he will learn this precious lesson the hard way.

Lucky lady, I give you my blessings!



God bless you! Especially for the bolded.

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by majormofor(m): 5:30pm On Jul 29, 2020
Chinkos99:
Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.

I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.

When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.

I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.

On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.

Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.

So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.

After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so i told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner, i close late, im a workaholic, so most times i will agree but i will work till 9pm and he would have waited and get tired and left.

Finally i get to have a dinner date with him and he ask if we could do this more often, i said why not boyfriend jokingly, the next time we were having dinner, I said boyfriend let me greet that guy there, i really needed to meet him, he has a contact i need for work, he held me and said you call me boyfriend jokingly, i want you to mean it lol.

After i met with the guy, he started telling me how he loved me and how he will really love us to be in a relationship, he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong on all level because we work in the same place, but i can think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision i make.

I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, i can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting.

Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me

Last night we were together, i told him i am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that i believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol. He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, yes i am old enough to have been married and i had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things i neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time - MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.

Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise.

What is easy to get you can't love, but what is hard to get, you will love.... Take ur man b4 someone else takes him...
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by JaffyJoe(m): 5:31pm On Jul 29, 2020
dairykidd:
Just imagine.. after setting him up to fall u want let am knack face fo tarred road. Teasing and playing with a grown man's emotions just for fun. Now him done finally fall u dey ask advise undecided

Is this not harassment... non physical harassment in a place of work. That guy should sue for damages

The thing just dey irritate me as I was reading it. She knew what she had in plan and is yarning crap here. She basically seduced him into falling. Men often fall when a lady is genuinely nice to them so it was bound to happen.

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by arowz56(m): 5:31pm On Jul 29, 2020
*but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time* *MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.****

Director Setting the pussy already



Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight


Director must Bleep this one �



Chinkos99:
Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.

I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.

When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.

I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.

On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.

Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.

So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.

After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so i told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner, i close late, im a workaholic, so most times i will agree but i will work till 9pm and he would have waited and get tired and left.

Finally i get to have a dinner date with him and he ask if we could do this more often, i said why not boyfriend jokingly, the next time we were having dinner, I said boyfriend let me greet that guy there, i really needed to meet him, he has a contact i need for work, he held me and said you call me boyfriend jokingly, i want you to mean it lol.

After i met with the guy, he started telling me how he loved me and how he will really love us to be in a relationship, he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong on all level because we work in the same place, but i can think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision i make.

I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, i can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting.

Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me

Last night we were together, i told him i am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that i believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol. He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, yes i am old enough to have been married and i had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things i neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time - MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.

Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise.

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by AsawanaDgreat: 5:32pm On Jul 29, 2020
Follow your mind
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Nobody: 5:33pm On Jul 29, 2020
Chinkos99:


Hey I didn't set him up
Just took him as a workmate/ bestie
Was the bolded a mutual agreement? Sis! You led that man on. Intentionally or not you led him on.

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Goldenheart(m): 5:33pm On Jul 29, 2020
Chinkos99:
Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.

I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.

When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.

I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.

On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.

Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.

So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.

After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so i told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner, i close late, im a workaholic, so most times i will agree but i will work till 9pm and he would have waited and get tired and left.

Finally i get to have a dinner date with him and he ask if we could do this more often, i said why not boyfriend jokingly, the next time we were having dinner, I said boyfriend let me greet that guy there, i really needed to meet him, he has a contact i need for work, he held me and said you call me boyfriend jokingly, i want you to mean it lol.

After i met with the guy, he started telling me how he loved me and how he will really love us to be in a relationship, he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong on all level because we work in the same place, but i can think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision i make.

I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, i can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting.

Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me

Last night we were together, i told him i am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that i believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol. He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, yes i am old enough to have been married and i had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things i neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time - MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.

Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise.


Young lady, you are having quite alot of fun wink ain't you grin

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Nwaonyishi69: 5:34pm On Jul 29, 2020
Chinkos99:
Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.

I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.

When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.

I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.

On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.

Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.

So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.

After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so i told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner, i close late, im a workaholic, so most times i will agree but i will work till 9pm and he would have waited and get tired and left.

Finally i get to have a dinner date with him and he ask if we could do this more often, i said why not boyfriend jokingly, the next time we were having dinner, I said boyfriend let me greet that guy there, i really needed to meet him, he has a contact i need for work, he held me and said you call me boyfriend jokingly, i want you to mean it lol.

After i met with the guy, he started telling me how he loved me and how he will really love us to be in a relationship, he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong on all level because we work in the same place, but i can think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision i make.

I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, i can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting.

Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me

Last night we were together, i told him i am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that i believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol. He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, yes i am old enough to have been married and i had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things i neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time - MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.

Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise.
If you want to know, this script will be wonderful, for supper story, I swear
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by hopexter(m): 5:34pm On Jul 29, 2020
Farki:


Summary: My old coworker is with me in my new place. I formed familiarity and got his hopes high by "playfully" flirting and calling him sweet nothings.

The man tried to take me out on dinner dates and buy me gifts but I did shakara so after all that he still had to confess his love and obvious interest in dating me, but I don't love him because he is 40, well a established and hasn't been married yet so I assume he is a player.

What should I do?


It's called ignition of old sparks. If he's a player, play along if it's beneficial but don't put all your eggs in one basket just in case you later fall in love with him. Players don't quit, dey take break while you think the quit then resume later. lipsrsealed
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by mamaafrik(m): 5:34pm On Jul 29, 2020
I only have one prayer for you,the exact way you handled this guy may the lord God give you a man that will do the same when you desire MARRIAGE,let the audience say AMEN!!!

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by SmartPolician: 5:35pm On Jul 29, 2020
Chinkos99

Your story is interesting

You led the innocent man on and now you are not interested

You must be interested oh

Whether you like it or not grin grin

The dude is already head over heels in love with you

And his biological clock is ticking!

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Yxxx: 5:35pm On Jul 29, 2020
You don't like him but you like the hangouts,
You enjoy his company.
If a man does this to you and says he doesn't want commitment but he feels entangled with you. Shee you will start crying River Niger .
Give me his number biko...I admire his type.

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by t00dugged(f): 5:35pm On Jul 29, 2020
Chinkos99:


Hey I didn't set him up
Just took him as a workmate/ bestie
bestie or potential. undecided undecided undecided. Anyway,shey they always say "marry your best friend and marriage will be easy", well girl I think you are on the right track.congrats in advance.

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