Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Omoboy(m): 6:31pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
Nice my own take is if you refuse to go out with him how will you feel if you end up seeing him going out with someone else then I can bet you you will know you have feeling for him. Chinkos99: Our
company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.
I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.
When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.
I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.
On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.
Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.
So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.
After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so i told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner, i close late, im a workaholic, so most times i will agree but i will work till 9pm and he would have waited and get tired and left.
Finally i get to have a dinner date with him and he ask if we could do this more often, i said why not boyfriend jokingly, the next time we were having dinner, I said boyfriend let me greet that guy there, i really needed to meet him, he has a contact i need for work, he held me and said you call me boyfriend jokingly, i want you to mean it lol.
After i met with the guy, he started telling me how he loved me and how he will really love us to be in a relationship, he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong on all level because we work in the same place, but i can think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision i make.
I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, i can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting.
Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me
Last night we were together, i told him i am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that i believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol. He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, yes i am old enough to have been married and i had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things i neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time - MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.
Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise. |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by newmoney133: 6:32pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
Marry a guy that is responsible and has respect for you.i know you are confused because of the absent of butterfly feeling.My dear that butterfly feeling which is called love before marriage cannot sustain a marriage.Most importantly pray very well |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by lichocho(m): 6:32pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
Wolgrace: Hahahaha. Ladies' mastery of cunningness and deception is highly charmful & intoxicating..!
Madam, your first platonic move was a shot and huge rope you tied around his neck, and your aromatic charm is now leading him astray while making us to view you as innocent. You're playing a smart game on him, its quite impressive, but deceptive!!
Analysing your story, you've the mastered the art of deception. Jokes apart, right from genesis, you know this friendship would exceed this level with your permissive love chants, as our society demands a man to ask a lady out.
He finally did after making him drunk by your deceptive intoxication, & you have no feelings for him in other to opt out? Or trapped him as a means to sniff his pocket despite working in same company? Or are you trying to make us think you deserve him? Or waiting for us to give you a go ahead?
Another angle is that you guys might be destined together despite fate allowed to meet the second time, but EVE SYNDROME in you might blind and destroy you. abeg which school u go? Me too wan go dat school... |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by tunjilana: 6:33pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
Just stop with all the lovey Dovey words and actions.
Tell him frankly how u aint feeling him like that...If he is a great guy, he will bounce off to a better woman...just don't act jealous when he does 2 Likes |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by pfadom: 6:37pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
Simply tell him "No thanks". |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Nobody: 6:37pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
lichocho: abeg which school u go? Me too wan go dat school... Lolz.. School of thought sir. |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by NobleDeSage001: 6:39pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
You don't lead someone on just for fun. It's either you get serious or you break it off very early by letting the person know that you are not emotionally available. Now, you have made him develop feelings for you and you are seeking advice to justify your indifference towards him. Just cut it off now. It will surely hurt but that's the only way. End it now. One of you may need to resign and go to another company. Good luck.
You mentioned somewhere that your parents will not accept his background. So, you knew all along that he will not be accepted by your parents and yet you stuck around him? Common! What do women really want? Eh! Haba! |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Nobody: 6:40pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
Tony2k3: You have said it all. Her game is top notch You finally hit the nail on the head. Gbam! 1 Like |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Decryptor(m): 6:40pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
ethicallyright:
"A strong man doesn't have to be dominant toward a woman. He doesn't match his strength against a woman weak with love for him. He matches it against the world." - Marilyn Monroe.
Norma Jean, also Marilyn Monroe , was the Kardashian of the 60s. A sex figure she was - an innocent fine face, endowed with curly blonde hair and the slim figure 8 which were in Vogue few decades past. Many men who we would later define as simps ,fell at her feet and wished they could have just a night with the late thespian.
The quote above suggests that women do not love men who beg them for love. If he walked your flat ass out of his office and saw you as the flirt you are, you'd fall for him. If he didn't convert his job hours at the mall to a honey moon, the title of this thread could have been :
"I love my boss but he doesn't care"
or " My boss is rich but doesn't love women. How do I make him notice and fall in love with me?"
We've warned these weak men consistently but they care little. Tell him to give you 5 million naira and thereafter tell him that he is " emotionally assaulting" you. Maybe he will learn this precious lesson the hard way.
Lucky lady, I give you my blessings!
Your head is the most oiled head of wisdom in Nigeria!The painful thing in Nigeria is that 95% of men population are these simps you talk about! The alpha-males in this country are no longer up to 20! 3 Likes |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by purpinkx(m): 6:40pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1: a French proverb says:" c'est en jouant que Toto a baisé sa mère"... aka its through play-play that Toto bleeped his own mother.
continue this "boyfriend" this and "boyfriend" that... we all know how it will end. I thought you were joking ��� 1 Like |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by incogni2o: 6:41pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
Chinkos99:
Hey I didn't set him up Just took him as a workmate/ bestie na so den dey talk. quontiniu |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Xinox: 6:44pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
Chinkos99: Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.
I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.
When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.
I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.
On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.
Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.
So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.
After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so i told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner, i close late, im a workaholic, so most times i will agree but i will work till 9pm and he would have waited and get tired and left.
Finally i get to have a dinner date with him and he ask if we could do this more often, i said why not boyfriend jokingly, the next time we were having dinner, I said boyfriend let me greet that guy there, i really needed to meet him, he has a contact i need for work, he held me and said you call me boyfriend jokingly, i want you to mean it lol.
After i met with the guy, he started telling me how he loved me and how he will really love us to be in a relationship, he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong on all level because we work in the same place, but i can think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision i make.
I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, i can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting.
Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me
Last night we were together, i told him i am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that i believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol. He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, yes i am old enough to have been married and i had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things i neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time - MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.
Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise. well said dear. I am here but not rich. Bring me to be your personal assistant then the rest will be story and I am damm serious. PM me let's talk |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Chinkos99(m): 6:45pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
Dididrumz:
Most great relationships did not start with a love at first sight.
Liking him is enough to give him a chance if You think he's worth it. At some point the feelings would come if you both are honest to yourselves.
It's not a must that You must feel that thing called love before a relationship. Thank you so much 1 Like |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Chinkos99(m): 6:46pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
Xinox: well said dear. I am here but not rich. Bring me to be your personal assistant then the rest will be story and I am damm serious. PM me let's talk Lol More problems |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by t00dugged(f): 6:46pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
1 Like |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Chinkos99(m): 6:47pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
newmoney133: Marry a guy that is responsible and has respect for you.i know you are confused because of the absent of butterfly feeling.My dear that butterfly feeling which is called love before marriage cannot sustain a marriage.Most importantly pray very well Thanks for your contribution |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by RealAdewole(m): 6:48pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
Chinkos99:
Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise. It's as if you don't know what you want and since you don't know what you want, stop playing with the man emotions, don't hang out, no dinner, don't talk aside work talks and most importantly stop calling him boyfriend... Cause that will be evil of you... It will pain the man but he will move on and be thankful you make your stand early enough... That's how it ended in "I only love you as a friend" for me |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by bukatyne(f): 6:48pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
|
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Chinkos99(m): 6:49pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
ceaser:
(Removing my eyeglasses) Fun kee you there!
Are you, are you, are you normal?! (In Mr Macaroni's voice, packing my agbada) Funny you : |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Nobody: 6:51pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
Imagine the chip on the shoulders of this chick. Anyway I trust my NL bros to put you in your place.
Try pulling that stunt with a guy half as smart as you think you are, and watch him mess you up in ways you never thought possible. Y'all know the sort of men whose brains you could finger like this. Enjoy your ego trip. 2 Likes |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Chinkos99(m): 6:51pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
stagger:
Madam, see the bolded text? Now ask yourself...if you have to stay away from work for a week and you do not see his face or get a call from him, would you be normal or would your body start to do you somehow? Truth be told I won't feel comfortable without talking with him for a day |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Chinkos99(m): 6:52pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
Dididrumz:
Most great relationships did not start with a love at first sight.
Liking him is enough to give him a chance if You think he's worth it. At some point the feelings would come if you both are honest to yourselves.
It's not a must that You must feel that thing called love before a relationship. Thanks 1 Like |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by deltateam: 6:52pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
Chinkos99: Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.
I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.
When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.
I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.
On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.
Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.
So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.
After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so i told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner, i close late, im a workaholic, so most times i will agree but i will work till 9pm and he would have waited and get tired and left.
Finally i get to have a dinner date with him and he ask if we could do this more often, i said why not boyfriend jokingly, the next time we were having dinner, I said boyfriend let me greet that guy there, i really needed to meet him, he has a contact i need for work, he held me and said you call me boyfriend jokingly, i want you to mean it lol.
After i met with the guy, he started telling me how he loved me and how he will really love us to be in a relationship, he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong on all level because we work in the same place, but i can think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision i make.
I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, i can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting.
Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me
Last night we were together, i told him i am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that i believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol. He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, yes i am old enough to have been married and i had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things i neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time - MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.
Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise. I use God beg you. Dear sis, give him a chance. I know and believe with time you will grow to love him. |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by egopersonified(f): 6:52pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
So a man being in love makes him a simp. Op, abeg date this guy make you invite us for wedding. If you both can be into each other like this and the sex is eventually good, abeg make yourself fall in love with him. No dey mind all these nairalanders. Na this kin relationship dey sweet pass. Even if e dey carry ten girls before, if you like travel for one year, e go wait for you. Sometimes you will get tired of him. Don't break up with him oo. Just have other friends you can compare to him and you will always realise he is a gem. If you miss this opportunity, you will always think what ifs. At least if it doesn't work, you can always break up. But don't deny yourself of this happiness. I take God beg you. Even if na only two years the relationship last.
Chinkos99 1 Like |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by t00dugged(f): 6:52pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
|
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Amumaigwe: 6:54pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
Chinkos99: Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.
I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.
When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.
I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.
On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.
Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.
So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.
After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so i told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner, i close late, im a workaholic, so most times i will agree but i will work till 9pm and he would have waited and get tired and left.
Finally i get to have a dinner date with him and he ask if we could do this more often, i said why not boyfriend jokingly, the next time we were having dinner, I said boyfriend let me greet that guy there, i really needed to meet him, he has a contact i need for work, he held me and said you call me boyfriend jokingly, i want you to mean it lol.
After i met with the guy, he started telling me how he loved me and how he will really love us to be in a relationship, he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong on all level because we work in the same place, but i can think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision i make.
I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, i can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting.
Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me
Last night we were together, i told him i am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that i believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol. He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, yes i am old enough to have been married and i had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things i neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time - MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.
Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise. What happened to 'marry your friend' mantra? The dude ticks all the boxes for a good friend. He is jovial, funny and you don't seem to get enough of him each day. He seems to posses the kind of spark that is capable of provoking fond feelings in the opposite sex over time and make the relationship consistently lively. If no other more desirable guy is within rader, It is a yes for me. |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Chinkos99(m): 6:54pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
litigator:
Just copy this thing , edit it and send to him as WhatsApp message.
This is straight from the heart. You don't force love, so I will advice you take it slow.
Love might grow from taking it slow and you might actually start missing him.
There is also a possibility you love him dearly, but you are living in self denial because you are not even sure of what you want in a man.
You didn't say no to his request, you only don't feel that butterfly. You may not feel it until you stop seeing him regularly, and then you start missing him.
You can actually do that to test your feelings for him. I tried but it not working All I see in him is a blood brother, in better words bestie |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Joshmuch: 6:55pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
Babe you self funny, you dey show green light, dey do passes, dey woo by yourself. Dey save face by saying I am joking. What kind of expensive joke is that? Abeg, jokingly seriously yarn d maga on Monday , that you ain't interested. Free d Man, let him try other babes in the office. Cos, the guy must have yarn his friends, then his friends must have told him that you like him, but can't say directly, now he asked you out, you are singing: Jumbo my son....
Some of these babes self are enemy of progress, she will wade off other interested babes, with her jovial way of calling him “boyfriend”, funny enough if this same girl see this guy with another babe in the office in a romantic way, she will start feeling unnecessarily jealous. Confused set of people.
Finally, to my all niggas, Before you woo a girl, show sexual INTENT. Sub communicate what you like about the babe, let her see you checking her out or compliment her shape. Let her know that you are sexually interested, that is more than a friend, without that , a girl will NEVER , and can never view you more than a friend. She is not feeling anything from you and hence she can't date, bang or be in a relationship with someone she FEELS nothing for. As a guy man, where you wanna be with babes is feelings , let her feel comfortable, but more than that, let her feel sexual feelings. Otherwise, your story will be touching.
Peace. |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Chinkos99(m): 6:56pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
Goldenheart:
Young lady, you are having quite alot of fun ain't you Yeah really I wish we can get married to different individual and still maintain our friendship the way it is |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Owodiran1(m): 6:57pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
You actually love him. You just don't want to get convinced you love................... Let him just try not to call you for weeks. You will definitely feel his absence................. You love him unconsciously |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Babaibejii: 6:57pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
Chinkos99: Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.
I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.
When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.
I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.
On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.
Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.
So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.
After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so i told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner, i close late, im a workaholic, so most times i will agree but i will work till 9pm and he would have waited and get tired and left.
Finally i get to have a dinner date with him and he ask if we could do this more often, i said why not boyfriend jokingly, the next time we were having dinner, I said boyfriend let me greet that guy there, i really needed to meet him, he has a contact i need for work, he held me and said you call me boyfriend jokingly, i want you to mean it lol.
After i met with the guy, he started telling me how he loved me and how he will really love us to be in a relationship, he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong on all level because we work in the same place, but i can think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision i make.
I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, i can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting.
Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me
Last night we were together, i told him i am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that i believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol. He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, yes i am old enough to have been married and i had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things i neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time - MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.
Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise. You led him on karashika ...leave him alone..you shld be worried why u not married at 38 than worry why he is not married at 40. Meanwhile i will love to play with you. Contact abeg! |
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Chinkos99(m): 6:58pm On Jul 29, 2020 |
|