[quote You are even worse than uour so called girlfriend. She beat a child and you hit a woman. You get luck saynamumu weu leave her father's house come dey do ashawo for your house unto say fiance level you beat. If na person wey her way pure, her family will show you shege. Nonsense and woman beater!author=Anigreat post=92474701]I'm sorry to bother you all this early morning with this my story.

Apologies for any blunders spotted, and sorry for the lengthy post.

I have a niece who unfortunately the mother died when she was barely a month old, and her mother was my only sibling as my mother gave birth to two of us, remaining only me now. Her death was really painful to us, but i thank God for consoling us especially my mother.

During her pregnancy, she never made mentioned of the person responsible for her pregnancy inspite of my mother's threat. When the inevitable happened we had no other option than to adopt the child. We were praying earnestly that the child survive, glory to God she did survive though it wasn't easy, as at now she's 14years old and currently in SSS1.

Last week my mum called me that my niece says she's coming to Uyo were i am staying to stay with me since there's no school for now, which i obliged to it immediately. Prior before this call, my girlfriend whom i intended to marry was staying with me. I informed her immediately that my niece is coming to stay with us for a short period of time, immediately i told her this, her countenance change through out that day. I keep on asking her what the matter was but she keep on saying nothing.

Monday last weekmy niece arrived my place.

My dears ever since my niece set her foot in my house, this girlfriend of mine whom i intended to marry turned to something else. She stop cooking, washing and sweeping, all she does is to ordered my niece around as her house help. I was so hurt seeing this that i confronted her thinking that she will change, but she went from bad to worst.

Yesterday morning i overheard her telling my niece to wash the toilet and mop the floor before thinking of eating. My niece replied that she's too tired that she won't be able to do it(I was actually happy inside when i hear this)

What follows next was a sounding knocked she gave to my niece and the poor girl screamed and started crying.

Truth be said, i was so furious that came out of the room. I didn't asked her anything i just told her your cup is full today. I dealt with her seriously. The beating i gave to her was out of this world, that she was bleeding, though later in the day i took her to a nearby clinic for treatment.

I have learnt alot this few days. Men should be careful of the type of women they intend to settle down with.

As some of them will manipulate you that you start hating your family members or stop them from coming to your house for no reasons if you're not strong.

I want her to get well after that i will put an end to the relationship, all marriage plan cancel, and no going back and no regret.

Imagine if I've gone ahead to marry her. Is this how she will be maltreating my niece? obviously i will forever leave in regrets.

If you ask me if i feel sorry for beating her, truth is, there's no atom of regret in me, and i will never feel sorry for her. If she has the mind to maltreat a poor girl whose mother is late, she's capable of anything.

Insults are welcome.[/quote]

Juliearth:





Your hormones (gonadal hormones) determine your mood; your mood should not determine your action. Ever wondered why you are advised not to speak/act/react when angry and even when happy?

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Juli you won.
You are advised simply because their is a natural tendency to be human in reacting. Some have low gonadal hormones ,some have high. All it needs is a trigger.

solonubinho:
Lmao. You will not feel sorry until she surprises you with assault charges. Na that time your eyes go clear. Well, let me assume she is not that learned. One day you will lay your hands on someone and na jail you go go straight. And oh, lest I forget, dem go burst your nyash for there

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What of the niece suing too

Anigreat:
I'm sorry to bother you all this early morning with this my story.

Apologies for any blunders spotted, and sorry for the lengthy post.

I have a niece who unfortunately the mother died when she was barely a month old, and her mother was my only sibling as my mother gave birth to two of us, remaining only me now. Her death was really painful to us, but i thank God for consoling us especially my mother.

During her pregnancy, she never made mentioned of the person responsible for her pregnancy inspite of my mother's threat. When the inevitable happened we had no other option than to adopt the child. We were praying earnestly that the child survive, glory to God she did survive though it wasn't easy, as at now she's 14years old and currently in SSS1.

Last week my mum called me that my niece says she's coming to Uyo were i am staying to stay with me since there's no school for now, which i obliged to it immediately. Prior before this call, my girlfriend whom i intended to marry was staying with me. I informed her immediately that my niece is coming to stay with us for a short period of time, immediately i told her this, her countenance change through out that day. I keep on asking her what the matter was but she keep on saying nothing.

Monday last weekmy niece arrived my place.

My dears ever since my niece set her foot in my house, this girlfriend of mine whom i intended to marry turned to something else. She stop cooking, washing and sweeping, all she does is to ordered my niece around as her house help. I was so hurt seeing this that i confronted her thinking that she will change, but she went from bad to worst.

Yesterday morning i overheard her telling my niece to wash the toilet and mop the floor before thinking of eating. My niece replied that she's too tired that she won't be able to do it(I was actually happy inside when i hear this)

What follows next was a sounding knocked she gave to my niece and the poor girl screamed and started crying.

Truth be said, i was so furious that came out of the room. I didn't asked her anything i just told her your cup is full today. I dealt with her seriously. The beating i gave to her was out of this world, that she was bleeding, though later in the day i took her to a nearby clinic for treatment.

I have learnt alot this few days. Men should be careful of the type of women they intend to settle down with.

As some of them will manipulate you that you start hating your family members or stop them from coming to your house for no reasons if you're not strong.

I want her to get well after that i will put an end to the relationship, all marriage plan cancel, and no going back and no regret.

Imagine if I've gone ahead to marry her. Is this how she will be maltreating my niece? obviously i will forever leave in regrets.

If you ask me if i feel sorry for beating her, truth is, there's no atom of regret in me, and i will never feel sorry for her. If she has the mind to maltreat a poor girl whose mother is late, she's capable of anything.

Insults are welcome.

I have no insults. Apart from the physical beating you gave her, I support your decision 1000 percent.

Anigreat:
I'm sorry to bother you all this early morning with this my story.

Apologies for any blunders spotted, and sorry for the lengthy post.

I have a niece who unfortunately the mother died when she was barely a month old, and her mother was my only sibling as my mother gave birth to two of us, remaining only me now. Her death was really painful to us, but i thank God for consoling us especially my mother.

During her pregnancy, she never made mentioned of the person responsible for her pregnancy inspite of my mother's threat. When the inevitable happened we had no other option than to adopt the child. We were praying earnestly that the child survive, glory to God she did survive though it wasn't easy, as at now she's 14years old and currently in SSS1.

Last week my mum called me that my niece says she's coming to Uyo were i am staying to stay with me since there's no school for now, which i obliged to it immediately. Prior before this call, my girlfriend whom i intended to marry was staying with me. I informed her immediately that my niece is coming to stay with us for a short period of time, immediately i told her this, her countenance change through out that day. I keep on asking her what the matter was but she keep on saying nothing.

Monday last weekmy niece arrived my place.

My dears ever since my niece set her foot in my house, this girlfriend of mine whom i intended to marry turned to something else. She stop cooking, washing and sweeping, all she does is to ordered my niece around as her house help. I was so hurt seeing this that i confronted her thinking that she will change, but she went from bad to worst.

Yesterday morning i overheard her telling my niece to wash the toilet and mop the floor before thinking of eating. My niece replied that she's too tired that she won't be able to do it(I was actually happy inside when i hear this)

What follows next was a sounding knocked she gave to my niece and the poor girl screamed and started crying.

Truth be said, i was so furious that came out of the room. I didn't asked her anything i just told her your cup is full today. I dealt with her seriously. The beating i gave to her was out of this world, that she was bleeding, though later in the day i took her to a nearby clinic for treatment.

I have learnt alot this few days. Men should be careful of the type of women they intend to settle down with.

As some of them will manipulate you that you start hating your family members or stop them from coming to your house for no reasons if you're not strong.

I want her to get well after that i will put an end to the relationship, all marriage plan cancel, and no going back and no regret.

Imagine if I've gone ahead to marry her. Is this how she will be maltreating my niece? obviously i will forever leave in regrets.

If you ask me if i feel sorry for beating her, truth is, there's no atom of regret in me, and i will never feel sorry for her. If she has the mind to maltreat a poor girl whose mother is late, she's capable of anything.

Insults are welcome.

She is not a wife tool if you ask me. She lacks care & love for others. Be careful my dear.

Lazycyndy:
Your ex-fiancee beat your niece, you beat her in return. Now tell me, what's the difference between the both of you.

And why pray tell are you co-habiting with a woman who is not yet your wife and making her do wifely duties?

This story could be fake but not uncommon to the behavior of most Nigerian men.

There are more co-habitation in any other part of the world than Nigeria. How can he even find out this attitude without living together? You are correct, why beat someone. It could have caused significant damage. In western world, the nurse is mandated to report to the police for his arrest

You see as I dey shine teeth, na so the story take sweet me.

Dear Op, I'm against raising hands on a woman but is upport it so she can experience how it feels.

Your God loves you oo. THAT woman would have dealt with your family terribly after marriage.

To hell with her. You love your husband but you don't like his family members.

She should carry her nzuzu to the weak men who turn their face away when a help is being maltreated in their homes.

Anigreat:



What baffles me is that most of you ladies do not see the ill treatment she meted to my niece.

what if my niece have collapse and die too with the knock she gave her?

Don't mind the woke ppl.

(1) she's not one that will accommodate your family please send her back to her family.
(2) it was wrong for you to beat her no matter what happened #PLEASESAYNOTODOMESTICVIOLENT

SmartKitty:

That's why NO Western woman shouldn't ever marry a Nigerian man. Beating a woman it's being NOT a man. If in his eyes she did anything wrong, or talk and fix it as adults, or go out of this relationship.

Hardly will you find a western woman maltreating anyone. They are naturally made of love and show love to those beyond bf/husband. I agree that the boy shouldn’t even think of laying hand on her. In fact, he ought to be arrested for his crime.

The relationship between Nigerian men and western women are very different from the typical relationship in Nigeria. The men are mostly loyal, don’t mind if the woman cook and show her respect. On the other hand, western women understand needs and emotions of their men

ImaIma1:


It is not a manipulative statement. It takes more strength to resist that urge to use violence. It is much more easier to beat when you are consumed with anger and strong emotions than to walk away.

There's nothing manipulative about this statement.

Ok, what are you now trying to say? the girlfriend wasn't consumed with anger & strong emotions or what? You think you can just go all nonsensical & stupid on men & still go ahead to blame them for your stupidity & carelessness? I don't think so. A man should use his strenght to care for & protect you but since you have the right to be shitty & irresponsible cos men could naturally come for you, that strength would be used to fight & destroy you.

chatinent:

Moreover, it wasn't how it's originally designed. Cohabitation before marriage was never a to-do.

Like you said earlier, that's your personal religious conviction, it has nothing to do with design.

Different cultures, convictions and eras embrace cohabitation. Most important of all in our modern world marrying without cohabiting to know each other on compatibility levels can be quite risky. In the olden days, wives were chosen among close family or social groupings, so the character and compatibility of the couples can be ascertained to a degree. But now, that you virtually pick a stranger from the market place (now it's even online market place ), cohabitation is essential to test run the marriage.

wirinet:

Like you said earlier, that's your personal religious conviction, it has nothing to do with design.

Different cultures, convictions and eras embrace cohabitation. Most important of all in our modern world marrying without cohabiting to know each other on compatibility levels can be quite risky. In the olden days, wives are chosen among close family or social groupings, so the character and compatibility of the couples can be ascertained to a degree. But now, that you virtually pick a stranger from the market place (now it's even online market place ), cohabitation is essential to test run the marriage.

Thanks for your inputs. I'll rather I stick to my beliefs.

U are a real man,bro,thumbs up,I dey ur side bro

chatinent:

Thanks for your inputs. I'll rather I stick to my beliefs.

You are welcome. I hope you find a compatible husband after fasting and prayers, and revelations from your pastor.

You are a man. I wish I could buy you beer, but country hard my brother.

wirinet:

You are welcome. I hope you find a compatible husband after fasting and prayers, and revelations from your pastor.

Husband ke? Is that not a guy

This Op is a hero. Unlike so many pussified men out there who swallow the wickedness their wives dish out to their relatives.

wirinet:

You are welcome. I hope you find a compatible husband after fasting and prayers, and revelations from your pastor.

Sorry, I'm a Witness and marriage is never our problems.
You are welcome.

SweetCunt97:
Husband ke? Is that not a guy

Apologies. I didn't look at the gender. It's women that usually hold such conviction. Most men prefer testing before paying the bride price.

U must be a critical thinker mhen, noticing the obsure pattern

OP has to get his life in order, u just showed ur niece something ill ( beating gf is very right) in the future, she myt just remain in an abusive relationship, coz she has noticed one first-hand.
I'm not in support of ur gf being abusive though, bit u should be matured enough to handle such conflict without getting into physical fist.

I remain with my notion dat it's only coward dat resort to fighting in stuffs like diz, ND look how arrogant u r sef...just thank ur God ur gf doesn't hav big brothers, wey for con deal with u... mtcchewwww

Acidosis:
My observations:

1. You're a bad example to your niece. Cohabiting under the same roof with your 14 year old niece is wrong. Domestic violence in her presence is also wrong.

2. You should regret beating a woman so much that you had to take her to the clinic.

3. Your decision to call off your marriage plans is well thought-out.

4. Walking away doesn't mean your next relationship would be better. I mean, your late sister couldn't even tell you guys the man that got her pregnant. There was no mention about your dad in your write-up, so your mom is probably a single mother, and here you are, writing the same old story by cohabiting with a woman.

5. Think about it.

Apologies for beating her and run for your life; that is y they say if you engage a woman don’t rush into marriage, watch her first, her true color will start coming out because she thinks you are taking already.

Guy,you be man....family first...she show her true colors...she has no right to beat someone else's child,,she deserve that beating... God use your neice expose her...although its not good to be too hard on women(women can push you to far @tyms(there are other ways you can discard her,not by beating.. its just that your emotions got the best of you. pls control your emotions next time..any woman who doesn't accept and respect your family is not fit to be your wife...Ask God to direct you..God is the giver of good wife..,pay her medical bills, settle her,so that she can go...safe..

Michelle55:
You literally do not have any rights whatsoever to lay your hands on a woman.. She maliciously punished your niece and you did same to her, now tell me, what's the difference between you two?
You could have simply walk away from the relationship seeing the red flags already.

Cohabiting is a big NO and shouldn't have happened, then your niece coming into the picture wasn't advisable at all. You are only teaching her that cohabiting with a man who isn't her husband yet is acceptable and good.

Well, cancelling the wedding is the right thing to do.. You both don't deserve each other because from the look of things you're a man who finds it easy to beat a woman when provoked and not feel remorseful about it and she's a woman who doesn't know the value of one's family and a trouble personified woman.

Both of you should go your separate ways to avoid reading on social medias how a man either ended up in jail for beating his wife to death or how a woman poisoned her husband's niece.

But the fiancee has every right to beat up his neice abi. I have clearly noticed that in any issue involving a man and a woman, women are always said to be right. I am also sure most women here will say the guy should kneel and apologize to the fiancee

alramon:
I love the fact that u said insults are welcome because u urself know that u need to be insulted....

how old are u self in the first place

let me just point out some things for u here:


1.u are not married yet and u are already living together and she has been doing house chores, u have been doing the other night play together. U need to be flogged urself on this.

2. there are ways of resolving things when things go wrong in marriage (u are even cohabiting self) rather than beating. u have started beating her, so when u marry her u will kuku kill her if she does something worse than that.

3. don't marry that woman as it is obvious that she is a lazy woman(girl). You are seeing her true colors gradually

4. In case u see another responsible lady and u finally marry, don't give that ur niece audacity to think she can do anything in ur house because of the bonding.

5. the truth is just that, not all woman like a third-party in their house, so know how to handle things easily with them...


shikena!

Nice words brother, but for ur number 5, women lovee third party when is from there side.

alexsoftwork:


Nice words brother, but for ur number 5, women lovee third party when is from there side.

hmmm, haven't u seen a wife not wanting her own blood sister(way younger than her o but a bit matured) in their home because of the fear that she might snatch d husband from her?

Angelacruz:
you are indeed a real man.Send her packing immediately. If to say her family member come,she for happy

your stance in this issue have earn my respect. Uyai abadie

sylve11:


I been think sey na until you don marry before she supposed live with you.... Abi nor be so e supposed be?





It's good. Your family first. When you're in trouble that's when you come to value your own family. Wife fit run, husband fit run but your family will have your back. I am not saying you shouldn't build your own family so you can rely on your wife or husband o.

In this case, If what you're saying is the truth, then this your wife to be is just being wicked.




I have this habit of strolling away from toxic relationships. I keep on warning you till I stroll away. I don't beat women, I walk away and never return. I'm a quiet and happy person, I don't need anything to spoil my mood. How many years person wan live on earth to go woman stress?

But trust me, there are marriages made in heaven. If you see that person you go know if you're not carried away by looks on either party.

Next time, careful, tell her to leave your house instead of you beating her. What if she dies in the process of you beating her?

That's nice of u, the best advice. The girlfriend herself is a failure,she could have been nice to that little girl just bc her mum left her untimely. The poster also went toooooooo far by committing domestic violence

rafindo:
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What of the niece suing too

She's unlikely to. She's 17. Moreover she was given a knock, not brutalized till she bled.

Jemmysax:
The only thing you did that was bad was "beating" her. You could have just spoken to her to leave ur house immediately, cos I'll do same. But I won't lay my hands on her. NEVER

Beautiful post!

snipernigga:
since insults are welcome, you are the biggest idiot I ever seen. Don't bother to thank me.

I'm laughing!