Imagine a single mother wanting to dictate to a man how it should be. Na Thunder go fire that ur sister.

Someone the man is having pity on - by wanting to marry her

OluwaLina1:
Is My Sister Doing The Right Thing? Please Your Advice Is Needed

Advice needed
Don't mind my typo errors.

My sister cancel her wedding plans all because her husband to~be insists they are going to be living with his mum after the wedding before they will build their own house.

Now,my sister said she won't go on with the wedding plans if he didn't rent an appartment, even if it's face-me-i-slap-you room,she will be okay with it,she won't even mind if the mother come to spend days with them.

Is my sister doing the right thing?

Your sister did the right thing

UDUJ:


Bro I always stand by the fact that a man should never get married until he is financially secure.

That was why I mentioned in the previous post that it may be the lady hurrying the guy up in the first place. No man wants to settle down without money bro. We're saying the same thing. Just that these ladies wanna eat their cake and have it. If you can't bear with a man that's struggling, don't pressure him to marry you, but ladies won't hear.

Baleeson:
Premium tears loading!!! To u op.... that sister is you ..if you knw wat you re doing ..u better not Post pond the wedding... that's the kind of guys women are dieying to have...never throw stone if you live in a Glass House... women are praying for husband's...come to abuja and see...even here on NL..

i look like person wey won do wedding?
people go just dey type rubbish upandan

I can't believe the men commenting on this thread.

@OP, your sister's fiancé is far from ready for marriage.

prekumohtim:




....For this cause shall a man LEAVE HIS FATHER'S HOUSE...

not the building but the family bond

Incandescent:

Broke idiot

Dat's What U Are.

Your sister is doing HER right thing.

And frankly, I fully support her. I've told my gf that my opinion is no family visit (where they sleep) for the first 6 months minimum.

OluwaLina1:
Is My Sister Doing The Right Thing? Please Your Advice Is Needed

Advice needed
Don't mind my typo errors.

My sister cancel her wedding plans all because her husband to~be insists they are going to be living with his mum after the wedding before they will build their own house.

Now,my sister said she won't go on with the wedding plans if he didn't rent an appartment, even if it's face-me-i-slap-you room,she will be okay with it,she won't even mind if the mother come to spend days with them.

Is my sister doing the right thing?

Check well, the idiot behind this moniker may be married with kids. Don't follow this crazy 'advice'.

Timbers:
The man shouldn't be a SIMP and do what the entitled old hag wants he should dump her ass as quickly as possible

Don't know why SIMPs still view marriage as something important when it clearly favors women

MAY THE PATRIARCHY RULE

OluwaLina1:
Is My Sister Doing The Right Thing? Please Your Advice Is Needed

Advice needed
Don't mind my typo errors.

My sister cancel her wedding plans all because her husband to~be insists they are going to be living with his mum after the wedding before they will build their own house.

Now,my sister said she won't go on with the wedding plans if he didn't rent an appartment, even if it's face-me-i-slap-you room,she will be okay with it,she won't even mind if the mother come to spend days with them.

Is my sister doing the right thing?

The man got a reason for that decision, i think your sister was too quick on her decision.

She could have waited to see how things unfold and probably later, the man would see reasons why they have to get their own apartment.

There's nothing bad living with the mother in law if she's not the type that will make life miserable for her.

I feel she should have exercise patience and see how things unfold while living under the same roof with the mother in law and I'm sure if living with her isn't comfortable, the husband would see it and probably get separate apartment for them.

Which is WHY he should leave his mother and cleave to his wife.

It is in the Bible sef for all those Bible followers.

sexy74:
Your sister never ready marry.
She should try and know the reason why the guy wants it that way and try to reach a compromise.
The guy has known his mother all his life and there might be a strong bond between both of them., she cannot just come and destroy it because he wants to marry her.
That your sister will chase the guys family from him.

Your sister has pride let her keep it to herself .

Ok then continue deceiving urself... like I said premium tears loading..!!..she don't wanna stay with the guy mom. ..so five months after wedding she will bring her family members to come am be staying with her abi?... madness give me dat guy contact let me connect him with one correct Yoruba girl for my area.. if say he go like my sister's hausa Fulani ...I for willingly dash am one... smiles!

My guy should rent a small apt. His mom should assist unless she wants to be controlling him like remote.

Truvel:
Ur Sister Is A Fool. I Would Advise Dat U Advise Her 2 Accept D Marriage Proposal. She Should Excercise Patience, Otherwise She Would Regret.

Test of faith after the marriage?

Nuttella:
Nothing beats privacy but cancelling wedding plans is her going too far.


My cousin lived with her mother in law and father in law for one year+, till they finally decided to gift them their own house, it could be a test of faith.

I see some people foaming at the mouth
Let go of the hate bro, it will destroy your entire system.

Simp here, simp there.
Ndi redpill, your father was a simp, a big one at that.
For choosing to do a favour to your hag of a mother by marrying her, he was a simp.

Do you like the sound of that?
You don't? Well you have no choice, your father was a simp, you are a bigger simp and your son will be the biggest simp.

Op, I don't know if his reason was strong enough to have warranted calling it off.
That's why one must talk about a lot of things at the initial stage. Personally, I won't like to be married to someone with that kind of mindset. What happens to renting a house in a town close to where the mother lives?

I guess it depends on the angle the mother is coming from that will determine if she wants what is best for the new family to be. I dislike mothers who are insensitive to their daughters or sons having a family of their own. To the mothers in the house, please get this that when your son or daughter marries. He/She now has a family to care and be responsible for which is now higher priority to you. The best you can do is wish them success in their new endeavours and not try to be the center of attention in their life no matter how you claim to love them. Though your sister is too hasty in cancelling the marriage plans..haba.

She escaped being a housemaid. The guy is a fool

If Linda ikeji was the mother will she still cancel the wedding?

OluwaLina1:
Is My Sister Doing The Right Thing? Please Your Advice Is Needed

Advice needed
Don't mind my typo errors.

My sister cancel her wedding plans all because her husband to~be insists they are going to be living with his mum after the wedding before they will build their own house.

Now,my sister said she won't go on with the wedding plans if he didn't rent an appartment, even if it's face-me-i-slap-you room,she will be okay with it,she won't even mind if the mother come to spend days with them.

Is my sister doing the right thing?

It is really up to her

cooooooks:
Which is WHY he should leave his mother and cleave to his wife.

It is in the Bible sef for all those Bible followers.

You dey mind all these alpha males?
The op sister's ex is a mummy's boy. We've seen it here in nairaland. Lady move into husband's parents house, they make her life miserable (even if they don't, no privacy). Husband promises to rent an apartment months after wedding. Years after, two, three children later, still living with parents.
It is not good. If he loves his mom so much, he can rent a house a stone's throw from hers.

sexy74:
Your sister never ready marry.
She should try and know the reason why the guy wants it that way and try to reach a compromise.
The guy has known his mother all his life and there might be a strong bond between both of them., she cannot just come and destroy it because he wants to marry her.
That your sister will chase the guys family from him.

Your sister has pride let her keep it to herself .

He should marry his mother then! Its not so hrd my dear, its a simple matter

PrimadonnaO:
I can't believe the men commenting on this thread.

@OP, your sister's fiancé is far from ready for marriage.

Believe it o. A lot of toxic masculinity on display. I can only pity the wives or gf of these kind of individuals.

That's quite amazing

OluwaLina1:
Is My Sister Doing The Right Thing? Please Your Advice Is Needed

Advice needed
Don't mind my typo errors.

My sister cancel her wedding plans all because her husband to~be insists they are going to be living with his mum after the wedding before they will build their own house.

Now,my sister said she won't go on with the wedding plans if he didn't rent an appartment, even if it's face-me-i-slap-you room,she will be okay with it,she won't even mind if the mother come to spend days with them.

Is my sister doing the right thing?

What kind of house is the woman living. To you, what is the character of the woman.

Your sister is old enough to decide what's right and wrong.

If his mom loves him, she will be the one to push him out.

When she married her own husband, would she have wanted to move into his parents house. Lol.

Chii59:

You dey mind all these alpha males?
The op sister's ex is a mummy's boy. We've seen it here in nairaland. Lady move into husband's parents house, they make her life miserable (even if they don't, no privacy). Husband promises to rent an apartment months after wedding. Years after, two, three children later, still living with parents.
It is not good. If he loves his mom so much, he can rent a house a stone's throw from hers.

OluwaLina1:
Is My Sister Doing The Right Thing? Please Your Advice Is Needed

Advice needed
Don't mind my typo errors.

My sister cancel her wedding plans all because her husband to~be insists they are going to be living with his mum after the wedding before they will build their own house.

Now,my sister said she won't go on with the wedding plans if he didn't rent an appartment, even if it's face-me-i-slap-you room,she will be okay with it,she won't even mind if the mother come to spend days with them.

Is my sister doing the right thing?

Yes, shes doing the right thing.
Let him find the woman that agree to his terms.

Case closed.

cooooooks:
If his mom loves him, she will be the one to push him out.

When she married her own husband, would she have wanted to move into his parents house. Lol.

Exactly. Please help me ask these nairaland boys foaming at the mouth if their mothers gave birth to them in her in laws house.
The hatred on display on nairaland these days.
I'm happy you understand the picture perfectly.

OluwaLina1:

He said he don't want his mum to feel lonely and his mum won't be free if she comes to stay in his appartment

The male man is not yet a full man...

OluwaLina1:

He said he don't want his mum to feel lonely and his mum won't be free if she comes to stay in his appartment

It clearly shows his mum is a control freak. Why won't she be free?

Of course she's in another woman's territory.

She should be the visitor or does she want the wife to be and act as a maid?

She has enjoyed her marriage. Let another woman enjoy hers too.

He could get his mum a maid while she also visits sometimes.

Mgtowmonk:
can't your sister rent an apartment with her own money?
The guy is doing her a favor by marrying her yet she still dictating how he should live his life

You have very low brain cells.

Abso1uteZero:
Husband no easy to find o.

She should weigh her options carefully.

Men plenty everywhere for Nigeria but 80% are complete liabilities and a waste of space. Real men are what’s scarce, and that’s who ladies go for