OluwaLina1:
Is My Sister Doing The Right Thing? Please Your Advice Is Needed

Advice needed
Don't mind my typo errors.

My sister cancel her wedding plans all because her husband to~be insists they are going to be living with his mum after the wedding before they will build their own house.

Now,my sister said she won't go on with the wedding plans if he didn't rent an appartment, even if it's face-me-i-slap-you room,she will be okay with it,she won't even mind if the mother come to spend days with them.

Is my sister doing the right thing?

J111333:
Yea, your sister is doing the right thing. The man should at least kill his mum or chase her away before planning to get married so as not to discomfort his wife.

Biko advise your sister to keep waiting on the Lord for a good man.

J111333:
Yea, your sister is doing the right thing. The man should at least kill his mum or chase her away before planning to get married so as not to discomfort his wife.

Biko advise your sister to keep waiting on the Lord for a good man.

zed7:
The question should be is the husband going to take the right decision? Your sister has made her choice. Is the man going to be smart enough to let her go without begging her?

You can't love me and not love my family, there's no point. It's not like they are going to stay there forever, probably to save up some money first. No man who doesn't like his independence, it circumstances that makes people take some decisions.

I'm not saying your sister doesn't have a right to her decisions, the man just has to be wise enough to let her go to avoid future problems.

Yoighaman:


Sometimes, we need to put on our objectivity cap when addressing issues concerning marriage.

Many, especially Christians are quick to jump to quoting bible verses to support their position due to their subjective outlook.

Look, you can have another husband, maybe more than 2, you can also have another wife, maybe even more than 3, but you see, you can never have another mother.

God forbid, if you went stark broke with no dime in your pocket, then you will who know truly loves you. I can bet that if the situation persists for too long, and your wife's endurance has been stretched to the limit, she would dump your sorry broke ass, not all women though but majority of them; when that happens, don't worry, just turn your head and you will see the unconditional loving arms of your mother wide open to receive and comfort you.

In the history of humanity when men have been faced with great battles and vicissitudes of life, look clearly and very well, you will not see the wife around, not even the father, it is the mother that would be there weeping, even if the child is facing public execution.

Love your woman, treat her with respect, take good care of her but never replace your mother with her; always understand and remember what this article started with, "YOU CAN HAVE ANOTHER WIFE, BUT NOT ANOTHER MOTHER".


...and @OP, to answer your question, your sister's decision is neither right nor wrong; neither black nor white, the cup can be half-full or half-empty; the couple should put their current situation in the right and proper perspective and take a joint decision, either to stay or go their separate ways; again, always remember; "Never enter into a negotiation you are not ready to walk away from"

Cheers.

REDBUNNY:
But why on earth would a man get married and move his wife into his family house, his father's house.
Any man who does that is not ready to be married.
I can't even imagine living with my parents right now talk more of getting married and living in his own family house with his family.
No way.

Ishilove:
Kai. The word 'simp' has suffered in the hands of Nairaland male users.

Wigetsolar:
The man is a "mummy's boy" and is a recipe for bad marriage. Your sister is right.

If we go biblical, "...for this reason shall a MAN leave his parents..." Clealy, the man is still a boy.

Oghenerobo2002:
That's definitely the right thing. If he's not ready to rent an apartment, he shouldn't get married. My neighbor built a house with over 10 rooms and made all his children live there with their wives. You should see North Korea threatening America right there

Jewel1515:

I believe the sister is only trying to have a peaceful home, most times living in the same house with your in-laws can cause avoidable problems. As a couple, they need their own space away from prying eyes. They need to make their own mistakes and set their own rules. The wife needs to be a madam in her own home. Please loving a mother should not bring trouble to her son's home.
Good men know how to place the women in their lives in their various positions.
We always advise women on how to keep a good home even before marriage. Today I am going to advise men to learn how to accord the women in his life their due respect cause that is the only way the home will be balanced.

ChristieCrown:


Some of you speak as if a crane ran over your brain cells!

So, getting married as a man means you've done the woman a favour? So your dad did your mum a favour, lest her life would have been in shambles?

Even your sisters' lives are not worth living until a man pity them with marriage?

Were you high while typing that�
smcheeewww

OluwaLina1:

He said he don't want his mum to feel lonely and his mum won't be free if she comes to stay in his appartment

Mgtowmonk:
guy shut up abeg..you think these women will throw you a pity f**k cause you are defending them ?
Quit white knighting !! it makes you look foolish

OluwaLina1:
Is My Sister Doing The Right Thing? Please Your Advice Is Needed

Advice needed
Don't mind my typo errors.

My sister cancel her wedding plans all because her husband to~be insists they are going to be living with his mum after the wedding before they will build their own house.

Now,my sister said she won't go on with the wedding plans if he didn't rent an appartment, even if it's face-me-i-slap-you room,she will be okay with it,she won't even mind if the mother come to spend days with them.

Is my sister doing the right thing?

OluwaLina1:
Is My Sister Doing The Right Thing? Please Your Advice Is Needed

Advice needed
Don't mind my typo errors.

My sister cancel her wedding plans all because her husband to~be insists they are going to be living with his mum after the wedding before they will build their own house.

Now,my sister said she won't go on with the wedding plans if he didn't rent an appartment, even if it's face-me-i-slap-you room,she will be okay with it,she won't even mind if the mother come to spend days with them.

Is my sister doing the right thing?

jeph19:
Yea! she did the VERY RIGHT THING.
bros should live alone b4 bringing a lady into his life.
with the way mothers are trying to control their children's home, it is advisable to separate yourself from your extended family; while laying the foundation 4 ur nuclear family.

OluwaLina1:
Is My Sister Doing The Right Thing? Please Your Advice Is Needed

Advice needed
Don't mind my typo errors.

My sister cancel her wedding plans all because her husband to~be insists they are going to be living with his mum after the wedding before they will build their own house.

Now,my sister said she won't go on with the wedding plans if he didn't rent an appartment, even if it's face-me-i-slap-you room,she will be okay with it,she won't even mind if the mother come to spend days with them.

Is my sister doing the right thing?

PapaNnamdi:
if I get the guy number,


I for tell am,

to stop calling that your sister or seeing her for 2months,

and see who looses,

marriage favours women only,




he will get an apartment now, and 6months later the woman floods the house with her own family members including OP,
all surviving on the man,


rubbish and hushpuppy

cicodeblazzer:
Ur sister is an ode. Her love for him is not strong. She should have used her onions to convince him to rent an apartment and use a greater part of her onions, woman-to-woman to pull her mother-in-law and all fondly memories out from that house into the new house.

Truvel:
Ur Sister Is A Fool. I Would Advise Dat U Advise Her 2 Accept D Marriage Proposal. She Should Excercise Patience, Otherwise She Would Regret.

frank417:
Why would a man with no place of his own even consider marriage?

Your sister did right bro.

ndukwechinasa:
Too many factors should be put into consideration. My self i am staying with my mum and my wife. We are only two men and my elder bros is married and stays in his own apartment. I will not leave mum to just be alone cos i want to get married to someone who will possibly get another husband instanta eventually the odd happens.