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light099:
The root of your heartbreaks is quite obvious from your narrative.
It seems you suffer from inferiority complex and lack that carriage of masculinity around women.
As a result of this, you live in dire desperation to get approval from the opposite sex and every lady that sees you could read this from your eyes and behavior. You're literally at the mercy of women and they see you as a puppet. And once your acquaintanceship with any lady graduates into a relationship, it's always similar to that of slave - master's relationship. You're just like a slave trying to please his masters. The more you try as a slave to please these girls, the more you irritate them. The benevolent ones among them, see you as someone to pity rather than someone to date, so they friend-zone you immediately while the bad girls see you as a cash-cow to milk in some 2 months relationship before dumping you back in the trash.

Get this son, no woman likes a namby-pamby kind of man. You're more of a weakling than a man. Infact, it might be wrong to qualify you as a simp because your game appears weaker than that of a simp.
Your first step to freedom is giving yourself a rest. Date yourself first, be on your own, be in-charge of your life. Work on your self esteem, stop behaving sheepishly around women. You don't need the attention or approval of women for survival in life, stop acting like a cry baby who needs momma to pat his soft ass to sleep. Stop being desperate to befriend any lady, it's very irritating, show yourself some respect. Stop being a beggar for love.
Didn't you say money isn't the problem? So, why then would you have money and still be a beggar?
When you stop being a pathetic weakling who's at the mercy of women, you start seeing drastic changes in your life.

sirzee1660:
lately yes because of what is going on between me

ModestGal:
Don't worry, nothing is wrong with you. You just need to be loved in return, we all do.

You need to take care of your looks, how you look like matters, how you walk, what is the colour of your teeth? How do you walk?
Do you have mouth odour?
Do you have body odour?
How's your hair?
How is your accent? Do you talk like a village man?

Let's start from the first one, your looks
Everyone is beautiful/handsome, once you take good care of yourself
1. Your skin: Use a good moisturizer (not bleaching cream o), deodorant, soft perfume that would make someone wish to lick you.

If you have any skin disease, treat it. Men with Eczema should get it treated, Eczema can leave your skin, its irritating when I see men with Eczema, most of you don't take care of it.
I have a perfume secret, pm me to tell you

2. Your Mouth & teeth:
Use a good tooth paste, if you have mouth odour, increase your brushing and have Listerine in your bag to spray on your mouth every time, that would make someone to wish to lick your tongue. You should also try and eat lots of pineapple, it would give your mouth a nice fragrance. Stop eating junks, sugars etc
Pm me for more advice and how to turn your mouth around

You can whiten your teeth if they are too brown or black, pm me for the products to use. If your tooth is removed, go and fix another one

3. Your cloth
You need don't need to wear the most expensive, take care of the one you have, iron them

4. Take care of your mental health
Identify who you are, what makes you happy, what doesn't, learn about yourself and why you are what you are. Learn discipline, have a book to write down a new friend you are studying which is you. I do this all the time

I'm an ocean of knowledge, I'm good in different fields and can help you out in several ways. Don't chat me up for any advice, I give free advice and help, but right now, I'm broke so come with your money or something to exchange for my information and knowledge. God bless you

sirzee1660:
Please ignore my grammatical error

I fall in love easily once I start communicating with any female folk ,I will start losing control, singing praises trying all my possible best just to make her feel I am into her before I shoot my shot by that time i am already on friend zone, some might declined my request infact every lady I woo prefer me being just friend with her. Even those ones that show interest in me once we started dating it won't last up to 2months she will loose interest not because of financial care or attention because I will do everything just to make the relationship worked. Am really tired right now am single ,no calls from any female friends,I am just lonely,all I needed is just a true relationship, my last date was hell, after everything I did for her she just ghost me and starting dating someone who later got her pregnant which she came to me for forgiveness and requested for money for abortion which I turned down.right now I have moved to a new location and I am deeply in love with my neighbor,I am still trying to avoid rejections, honestly I hate it right now...I want to stop loving I want to b on my own without having any feeling's with anybody, so that I can have rest of mind....this thing is making me to have low self esteem.... please help out.
This thing called love doesn't mean is not for everyone,I have tried all my possible best just to have one

ModestGal:
Don't worry, nothing is wrong with you. You just need to be loved in return, we all do.

You need to take care of your looks, how you look like matters, how you walk, what is the colour of your teeth? How do you walk?
Do you have mouth odour?
Do you have body odour?
How's your hair?
How is your accent? Do you talk like a village man?

Let's start from the first one, your looks
Everyone is beautiful/handsome, once you take good care of yourself
1. Your skin: Use a good moisturizer (not bleaching cream o), deodorant, soft perfume that would make someone wish to lick you.

If you have any skin disease, treat it. Men with Eczema should get it treated, Eczema can leave your skin, its irritating when I see men with Eczema, most of you don't take care of it.
I have a perfume secret, pm me to tell you

2. Your Mouth & teeth:
Use a good tooth paste, if you have mouth odour, increase your brushing and have Listerine in your bag to spray on your mouth every time, that would make someone to wish to lick your tongue. You should also try and eat lots of pineapple, it would give your mouth a nice fragrance. Stop eating junks, sugars etc
Pm me for more advice and how to turn your mouth around

You can whiten your teeth if they are too brown or black, pm me for the products to use. If your tooth is removed, go and fix another one

3. Your cloth
You need don't need to wear the most expensive, take care of the one you have, iron them

4. Take care of your mental health
Identify who you are, what makes you happy, what doesn't, learn about yourself and why you are what you are. Learn discipline, have a book to write down a new friend you are studying which is you. I do this all the time

I'm an ocean of knowledge, I'm good in different fields and can help you out in several ways. Don't chat me up for any advice, I give free advice and help, but right now, I'm broke so come with your money or something to exchange for my information and knowledge. God bless you

sirzee1660:
Please ignore my grammatical error

I fall in love easily once I start communicating

frozen70:
If you really wants to stay alone as you think, life will be more boring, so forget the idea

As for the ladies, why not look for your class, that will help you to have a good balance

Don't go extra miles to satisfy your relationship, just do your best and watch it grow

Women tends to be smarter in relationships so which ever way you want to play the game, they will understand it

Just take it easy and yes, love is for every one
Life without love is like you not existing

sirzee1660:
Please ignore my grammatical error

I fall in love easily once I start communicating with any female folk ,I will start losing control, singing praises trying all my possible best just to make her feel I am into her before I shoot my shot by that time i am already on friend zone, some might declined my request infact every lady I woo prefer me being just friend with her. Even those ones that show interest in me once we started dating it won't last up to 2months she will loose interest not because of financial care or attention because I will do everything just to make the relationship worked. Am really tired right now am single ,no calls from any female friends,I am just lonely,all I needed is just a true relationship, my last date was hell, after everything I did for her she just ghost me and starting dating someone who later got her pregnant which she came to me for forgiveness and requested for money for abortion which I turned down.right now I have moved to a new location and I am deeply in love with my neighbor,I am still trying to avoid rejections, honestly I hate it right now...I want to stop loving I want to b on my own without having any feeling's with anybody, so that I can have rest of mind....this thing is making me to have low self esteem.... please help out.
This thing called love doesn't mean is not for everyone,I have tried all my possible best just to have one

Powerfly:
Are you a water sign guy?.. Yes you are.. Maybe pisces for that matter. Na them dey mumu like that..
you're a simp! Atleast lemme call you a simp fes before your redpill/alpha brothers arrive.

if you're a water guy.. Then there's nothing anybody here.. I repeat anybody here can do for you. Your only hope is to date a water girl.. Or maybe an air mutable sign lady. I did not say air fixed or cardinal oo..mutable. So that you both can bond like super glue.

Westernlove:
Lol this life shaa, When I am here ghosting ladies on my Neck, I just want to focus on my carrier for now!!!

greencard:
pictures of the ghosted ladies or I don believe it

Westernlove:
I'do feel for you poor guys who use money to chase most nigerian filthy hoes around........When you are handsome, have a good job, Nigerian ladies exclusively will chase you around like flies lol.......I wish I could upload another one so you can satisfy your curiosity but I'm too tired to keep on editting out my identity tonight.......I can't even remember the last time I toasted a nigerian gurl, Just greenlights and we are up, They sometimes do the Chat up......

ModestGal:
Don't worry, nothing is wrong with you. You just need to be loved in return, we all do.

You need to take care of your looks, how you look like matters, how you walk, what is the colour of your teeth? How do you walk?
Do you have mouth odour?
Do you have body odour?
How's your hair?
How is your accent? Do you talk like a village man?

Let's start from the first one, your looks
Everyone is beautiful/handsome, once you take good care of yourself
1. Your skin: Use a good moisturizer (not bleaching cream o), deodorant, soft perfume that would make someone wish to lick you.

If you have any skin disease, treat it. Men with Eczema should get it treated, Eczema can leave your skin, its irritating when I see men with Eczema, most of you don't take care of it.
I have a perfume secret, pm me to tell you

2. Your Mouth & teeth:
Use a good tooth paste, if you have mouth odour, increase your brushing and have Listerine in your bag to spray on your mouth every time, that would make someone to wish to lick your tongue. You should also try and eat lots of pineapple, it would give your mouth a nice fragrance. Stop eating junks, sugars etc
Pm me for more advice and how to turn your mouth around

You can whiten your teeth if they are too brown or black, pm me for the products to use. If your tooth is removed, go and fix another one

3. Your cloth
You need don't need to wear the most expensive, take care of the one you have, iron them

4. Take care of your mental health
Identify who you are, what makes you happy, what doesn't, learn about yourself and why you are what you are. Learn discipline, have a book to write down a new friend you are studying which is you. I do this all the time

I'm an ocean of knowledge, I'm good in different fields and can help you out in several ways. Don't chat me up for any advice, I give free advice and help, but right now, I'm broke so come with your money or something to exchange for my information and knowledge. God bless you

light099:
The root of your heartbreaks is quite obvious from your narrative.
It seems you suffer from inferiority complex and lack that carriage of masculinity around women.
As a result of this, you live in dire desperation to get approval from the opposite sex and every lady that sees you could read this from your eyes and behavior. You're literally at the mercy of women and they see you as a puppet. And once your acquaintanceship with any lady graduates into a relationship, it's always similar to that of slave - master's relationship. You're just like a slave trying to please his masters. The more you try as a slave to please these girls, the more you irritate them. The benevolent ones among them, see you as someone to pity rather than someone to date, so they friend-zone you immediately while the bad girls see you as a cash-cow to milk in some 2 months relationship before dumping you back in the trash.

Get this son, no woman likes a namby-pamby kind of man. You're more of a weakling than a man. Infact, it might be wrong to qualify you as a simp because your game appears weaker than that of a simp.
Your first step to freedom is giving yourself a break. Date yourself first, be on your own, be in-charge of your life. Work on your self esteem, stop behaving sheepishly around women. You don't need the attention or approval of women for survival in life, stop acting like a cry baby who needs momma to pat his soft ass to sleep. Stop being desperate to befriend any lady, it's very irritating, show yourself some respect. Stop being a beggar for love.
Didn't you say money isn't the problem? So, why then would you have money and still be a beggar?
When you stop being a pathetic weakling who's at the mercy of women, you start seeing drastic changes in your life.

sirzee1660:
okay, but how do I do that, honestly I need help

pansophist:
@op, what I wanted to write has been written by light009, so no need to paraphrase. ModestGal gave good advice, but it's focused more on the exterior, and not your interior (eg masculine framing and dominant behaviours). Even if you're handsome like a model, if you do not assume your masculine domain and still act like a slave in the relationship, you'll still be dumped.

As you grow older, you'll realise that what women say they want, and what they are actually attracted to, are two different things. Left to a woman to pick, she will pick the top guy, some call it alpha male, the 10%, or whatever. You have to make her know you're the catch, not her. Get a hobby, masculine one such as weight lifting and revealing those abs, don't be fat, its an instant attraction killer. Plus size stuff is for women, not men.

Being miserable and wanting to be loved sounds pathetic. Will your wife up an aged woman because she wants love? So why expect the same from women? The romance marketplace only rewards people that bring value. Also, if you're a young man like below 22, then suck it up. It gets better with time as you grow older and accumulate resources and competence. Women your age are already at the peak of their SMV (sexual market value), and yours is waiting in the future. Why do you think lots of men in their 30's do not want to get married? They are basically enjoying all that women enjoyed in their teenage to late '20s.

The good news is, you'll remember this time and laugh later. Every grown man can relate to it. Women will come, just do your masculine thing. The Same way you want a woman, she wants a man, be the catch, and let the game reverse in your favour. You good man.

Goddys:
Other things you said are cool except being chubby or fat. Google and also read comments on Quora and you will realize western women fall for fat guys. Muscles only make women wanna have sex but there's this natural attraction they have for chubby guys

ModestGal:
Don't worry, nothing is wrong with you. You just need to be loved in return, we all do.

You need to take care of your looks, how you look like matters, how you walk, what is the colour of your teeth? How do you walk?
Do you have mouth odour?
Do you have body odour?
How's your hair?
How is your accent? Do you talk like a village man?

Let's start from the first one, your looks
Everyone is beautiful/handsome, once you take good care of yourself
1. Your skin: Use a good moisturizer (not bleaching cream o), deodorant, soft perfume that would make someone wish to lick you.

If you have any skin disease, treat it. Men with Eczema should get it treated, Eczema can leave your skin, its irritating when I see men with Eczema, most of you don't take care of it.
I have a perfume secret, pm me to tell you

2. Your Mouth & teeth:
Use a good tooth paste, if you have mouth odour, increase your brushing and have Listerine in your bag to spray on your mouth every time, that would make someone to wish to lick your tongue. You should also try and eat lots of pineapple, it would give your mouth a nice fragrance. Stop eating junks, sugars etc
Pm me for more advice and how to turn your mouth around

You can whiten your teeth if they are too brown or black, pm me for the products to use. If your tooth is removed, go and fix another one

3. Your cloth
You need don't need to wear the most expensive, take care of the one you have, iron them

4. Take care of your mental health
Identify who you are, what makes you happy, what doesn't, learn about yourself and why you are what you are. Learn discipline, have a book to write down a new friend you are studying which is you. I do this all the time

I'm an ocean of knowledge, I'm good in different fields and can help you out in several ways. Don't chat me up for any advice, I give free advice and help, but right now, I'm broke so come with your money or something to exchange for my information and knowledge. God bless you

Liliantalks:
you are not wrong but not too chubby , I met this very chubby guy one times on Facebook, unfortunately we stayed in the same city , he called me , he tried his best , I felt for him , he was ready to spend his money , even though he just had a pharmacy, hardwoods guy. But didn’t like him . He was too chubby .

Goddys:
yeah I don't mean Rick Ross type of physique. Like Wande Coal type of physique