Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / New
Stats: 3,165,119 members, 7,860,038 topics. Date: Friday, 14 June 2024 at 01:31 AM

My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help - Romance (2) - Nairaland

Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Romance / My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help (3267 Views)

'I Need Some Space': What Does This Mean In A Relationship? / Truth Is Bitter, Rev. Oyakhilomeh Was Right About His COVID-19 Analysis. / Is There Any Pussy That Is Bitter? (2) (3) (4)

(1) (2) (Reply) (Go Down)

Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by frozen70(f): 8:49pm On Aug 12, 2020
light099:
The root of your heartbreaks is quite obvious from your narrative.
It seems you suffer from inferiority complex and lack that carriage of masculinity around women.
As a result of this, you live in dire desperation to get approval from the opposite sex and every lady that sees you could read this from your eyes and behavior. You're literally at the mercy of women and they see you as a puppet. And once your acquaintanceship with any lady graduates into a relationship, it's always similar to that of slave - master's relationship. You're just like a slave trying to please his masters. The more you try as a slave to please these girls, the more you irritate them. The benevolent ones among them, see you as someone to pity rather than someone to date, so they friend-zone you immediately while the bad girls see you as a cash-cow to milk in some 2 months relationship before dumping you back in the trash.

Get this son, no woman likes a namby-pamby kind of man. You're more of a weakling than a man. Infact, it might be wrong to qualify you as a simp because your game appears weaker than that of a simp.
Your first step to freedom is giving yourself a rest. Date yourself first, be on your own, be in-charge of your life. Work on your self esteem, stop behaving sheepishly around women. You don't need the attention or approval of women for survival in life, stop acting like a cry baby who needs momma to pat his soft ass to sleep. Stop being desperate to befriend any lady, it's very irritating, show yourself some respect. Stop being a beggar for love.
Didn't you say money isn't the problem? So, why then would you have money and still be a beggar?
When you stop being a pathetic weakling who's at the mercy of women, you start seeing drastic changes in your life.

I wish he will read this again and again to understand what you mean

This is a good advice, only if he will understand each line

1 Like 1 Share

Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by frozen70(f): 8:52pm On Aug 12, 2020
sirzee1660:
lately yes because of what is going on between me

Turn it to love

No woman owes you a debt of love

But you are owing yourself that
Love yourself before others will love you so that you can get loved
Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Nobody: 9:01pm On Aug 12, 2020
Assssh oooh aaaah harrrrder!!!
Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Powerfly(f): 9:31pm On Aug 12, 2020
Are you a water sign guy?.. Yes you are.. Maybe pisces for that matter. Na them dey mumu like that..
you're a simp! Atleast lemme call you a simp fes before your redpill/alpha brothers arrive.

if you're a water guy.. Then there's nothing anybody here.. I repeat anybody here can do for you. Your only hope is to date a water girl.. Or maybe an air mutable sign lady. I did not say air fixed or cardinal oo..mutable. So that you both can bond like super glue.
Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Nobody: 9:40pm On Aug 12, 2020
ModestGal:
Don't worry, nothing is wrong with you. You just need to be loved in return, we all do.

You need to take care of your looks, how you look like matters, how you walk, what is the colour of your teeth? How do you walk?
Do you have mouth odour?
Do you have body odour?
How's your hair?
How is your accent? Do you talk like a village man?

Let's start from the first one, your looks
Everyone is beautiful/handsome, once you take good care of yourself
1. Your skin: Use a good moisturizer (not bleaching cream o), deodorant, soft perfume that would make someone wish to lick you.

If you have any skin disease, treat it. Men with Eczema should get it treated, Eczema can leave your skin, its irritating when I see men with Eczema, most of you don't take care of it.
I have a perfume secret, pm me to tell you

2. Your Mouth & teeth:
Use a good tooth paste, if you have mouth odour, increase your brushing and have Listerine in your bag to spray on your mouth every time, that would make someone to wish to lick your tongue. You should also try and eat lots of pineapple, it would give your mouth a nice fragrance. Stop eating junks, sugars etc
Pm me for more advice and how to turn your mouth around

You can whiten your teeth if they are too brown or black, pm me for the products to use. If your tooth is removed, go and fix another one

3. Your cloth
You need don't need to wear the most expensive, take care of the one you have, iron them

4. Take care of your mental health
Identify who you are, what makes you happy, what doesn't, learn about yourself and why you are what you are. Learn discipline, have a book to write down a new friend you are studying which is you. I do this all the time

I'm an ocean of knowledge, I'm good in different fields and can help you out in several ways. Don't chat me up for any advice, I give free advice and help, but right now, I'm broke so come with your money or something to exchange for my information and knowledge. God bless you

smiley smiley
Fountain of knowledge
Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by nurain150(m): 9:47pm On Aug 12, 2020
sirzee1660:
Please ignore my grammatical error

I fall in love easily once I start communicating with any female folk ,I will start losing control, singing praises trying all my possible best just to make her feel I am into her before I shoot my shot by that time i am already on friend zone, some might declined my request infact every lady I woo prefer me being just friend with her. Even those ones that show interest in me once we started dating it won't last up to 2months she will loose interest not because of financial care or attention because I will do everything just to make the relationship worked. Am really tired right now am single ,no calls from any female friends,I am just lonely,all I needed is just a true relationship, my last date was hell, after everything I did for her she just ghost me and starting dating someone who later got her pregnant which she came to me for forgiveness and requested for money for abortion which I turned down.right now I have moved to a new location and I am deeply in love with my neighbor,I am still trying to avoid rejections, honestly I hate it right now...I want to stop loving I want to b on my own without having any feeling's with anybody, so that I can have rest of mind....this thing is making me to have low self esteem.... please help out.
This thing called love doesn't mean is not for everyone,I have tried all my possible best just to have one
Bro how far na.Take the redpill that the drug you need.be yourself never do things like using cream moisturizers to suit a girl.My bro they ain't worth it.Try to make some cash and if you can't find a girl that like you seek advice from elders in the village or your community.True and honest opinion

1 Like

Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by nurain150(m): 9:50pm On Aug 12, 2020
ModestGal:
Don't worry, nothing is wrong with you. You just need to be loved in return, we all do.

You need to take care of your looks, how you look like matters, how you walk, what is the colour of your teeth? How do you walk?
Do you have mouth odour?
Do you have body odour?
How's your hair?
How is your accent? Do you talk like a village man?

Let's start from the first one, your looks
Everyone is beautiful/handsome, once you take good care of yourself
1. Your skin: Use a good moisturizer (not bleaching cream o), deodorant, soft perfume that would make someone wish to lick you.

If you have any skin disease, treat it. Men with Eczema should get it treated, Eczema can leave your skin, its irritating when I see men with Eczema, most of you don't take care of it.
I have a perfume secret, pm me to tell you

2. Your Mouth & teeth:
Use a good tooth paste, if you have mouth odour, increase your brushing and have Listerine in your bag to spray on your mouth every time, that would make someone to wish to lick your tongue. You should also try and eat lots of pineapple, it would give your mouth a nice fragrance. Stop eating junks, sugars etc
Pm me for more advice and how to turn your mouth around

You can whiten your teeth if they are too brown or black, pm me for the products to use. If your tooth is removed, go and fix another one

3. Your cloth
You need don't need to wear the most expensive, take care of the one you have, iron them

4. Take care of your mental health
Identify who you are, what makes you happy, what doesn't, learn about yourself and why you are what you are. Learn discipline, have a book to write down a new friend you are studying which is you. I do this all the time

I'm an ocean of knowledge, I'm good in different fields and can help you out in several ways. Don't chat me up for any advice, I give free advice and help, but right now, I'm broke so come with your money or something to exchange for my information and knowledge. God bless you

Bro how far na.Take the redpill that the drug you need.be yourself never do things like using cream moisturizers to suit a girl.My bro they ain't worth it.Try to make some cash and if you can't find a girl that like you seek advice from elders in the village or your community.True and honest opinion
Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by lograr(m): 10:11pm On Aug 12, 2020
sirzee1660:
Please ignore my grammatical error

I fall in love easily once I start communicating
I was once like you. In fact i once felt sick because of a woman. Imagine that nonsense. You need to grow some balls and stop being too soft. Control your feelings and don't let your feelings control you. You got to be the boss when it comes to women. There are so many things you are doing wrong. Read about the topics of UBUNJA and HARDDON here on nairaland. I guarantee you will be a changed man if you do
Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Prof0fficial: 10:22pm On Aug 12, 2020
disregard any advice from a woman on this!

you don't need to impress any woman to get her in your arms. keep impressing yourself.

"...to get the flies petching...just spill d honey"

1 Like

Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by NeeKlaus: 10:51pm On Aug 12, 2020
frozen70:


If you really wants to stay alone as you think, life will be more boring, so forget the idea

As for the ladies, why not look for your class, that will help you to have a good balance

Don't go extra miles to satisfy your relationship, just do your best and watch it grow

Women tends to be smarter in relationships so which ever way you want to play the game, they will understand it

Just take it easy and yes, love is for every one
Life without love is like you not existing

Where did you hear the @bolded statement from? grin

Whoever told you that deserves a gigantic knock on their head. Naturally, when it comes to love and things that have to do with emotions, women tend to reason with their emotional sides. Men, on the hand, handle such issues logically - or with their logical faculties mostly - but there are exceptions to this.

Now, from the above, who do you think would be "smarter" in relationships? grin
Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Westernlove: 11:18pm On Aug 12, 2020
sirzee1660:
Please ignore my grammatical error

I fall in love easily once I start communicating with any female folk ,I will start losing control, singing praises trying all my possible best just to make her feel I am into her before I shoot my shot by that time i am already on friend zone, some might declined my request infact every lady I woo prefer me being just friend with her. Even those ones that show interest in me once we started dating it won't last up to 2months she will loose interest not because of financial care or attention because I will do everything just to make the relationship worked. Am really tired right now am single ,no calls from any female friends,I am just lonely,all I needed is just a true relationship, my last date was hell, after everything I did for her she just ghost me and starting dating someone who later got her pregnant which she came to me for forgiveness and requested for money for abortion which I turned down.right now I have moved to a new location and I am deeply in love with my neighbor,I am still trying to avoid rejections, honestly I hate it right now...I want to stop loving I want to b on my own without having any feeling's with anybody, so that I can have rest of mind....this thing is making me to have low self esteem.... please help out.
This thing called love doesn't mean is not for everyone,I have tried all my possible best just to have one

Lol this life shaa, When I am here ghosting ladies on my Neck, I just want to focus on my carrier for now!!!
Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by greencard: 11:31pm On Aug 12, 2020
Powerfly:
Are you a water sign guy?.. Yes you are.. Maybe pisces for that matter. Na them dey mumu like that..
you're a simp! Atleast lemme call you a simp fes before your redpill/alpha brothers arrive.

if you're a water guy.. Then there's nothing anybody here.. I repeat anybody here can do for you. Your only hope is to date a water girl.. Or maybe an air mutable sign lady. I did not say air fixed or cardinal oo..mutable. So that you both can bond like super glue.
what are u saying gan self? undecided

1 Like

Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by greencard: 11:33pm On Aug 12, 2020
Westernlove:


Lol this life shaa, When I am here ghosting ladies on my Neck, I just want to focus on my carrier for now!!!
pictures of the ghosted ladies or I don believe it

1 Like

Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Westernlove: 11:53pm On Aug 12, 2020
greencard:
pictures of the ghosted ladies or I don believe it

I'do feel for you poor guys who use money to chase most nigerian filthy hoes around........When you are handsome, have a good job, Nigerian ladies exclusively will chase you around like flies lol.......I wish I could upload another one so you can satisfy your curiosity but I'm too tired to keep on editting out my identity tonight.......I can't even remember the last time I toasted a nigerian gurl, Just greenlights and we are up, They sometimes do the Chat up......
Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by greencard: 2:06pm On Aug 13, 2020
Westernlove:


I'do feel for you poor guys who use money to chase most nigerian filthy hoes around........When you are handsome, have a good job, Nigerian ladies exclusively will chase you around like flies lol.......I wish I could upload another one so you can satisfy your curiosity but I'm too tired to keep on editting out my identity tonight.......I can't even remember the last time I toasted a nigerian gurl, Just greenlights and we are up, They sometimes do the Chat up......
you are what u attract
Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by ezechi24(m): 2:56pm On Aug 13, 2020
ModestGal:
Don't worry, nothing is wrong with you. You just need to be loved in return, we all do.

You need to take care of your looks, how you look like matters, how you walk, what is the colour of your teeth? How do you walk?
Do you have mouth odour?
Do you have body odour?
How's your hair?
How is your accent? Do you talk like a village man?

Let's start from the first one, your looks
Everyone is beautiful/handsome, once you take good care of yourself
1. Your skin: Use a good moisturizer (not bleaching cream o), deodorant, soft perfume that would make someone wish to lick you.

If you have any skin disease, treat it. Men with Eczema should get it treated, Eczema can leave your skin, its irritating when I see men with Eczema, most of you don't take care of it.
I have a perfume secret, pm me to tell you

2. Your Mouth & teeth:
Use a good tooth paste, if you have mouth odour, increase your brushing and have Listerine in your bag to spray on your mouth every time, that would make someone to wish to lick your tongue. You should also try and eat lots of pineapple, it would give your mouth a nice fragrance. Stop eating junks, sugars etc
Pm me for more advice and how to turn your mouth around

You can whiten your teeth if they are too brown or black, pm me for the products to use. If your tooth is removed, go and fix another one

3. Your cloth
You need don't need to wear the most expensive, take care of the one you have, iron them

4. Take care of your mental health
Identify who you are, what makes you happy, what doesn't, learn about yourself and why you are what you are. Learn discipline, have a book to write down a new friend you are studying which is you. I do this all the time

I'm an ocean of knowledge, I'm good in different fields and can help you out in several ways. Don't chat me up for any advice, I give free advice and help, but right now, I'm broke so come with your money or something to exchange for my information and knowledge. God bless you

Oloshi...the rubbish you just posted are what you want him to pay for?...
Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by ImaIma1(f): 3:16pm On Aug 13, 2020
light099:
The root of your heartbreaks is quite obvious from your narrative.
It seems you suffer from inferiority complex and lack that carriage of masculinity around women.
As a result of this, you live in dire desperation to get approval from the opposite sex and every lady that sees you could read this from your eyes and behavior. You're literally at the mercy of women and they see you as a puppet. And once your acquaintanceship with any lady graduates into a relationship, it's always similar to that of slave - master's relationship. You're just like a slave trying to please his masters. The more you try as a slave to please these girls, the more you irritate them. The benevolent ones among them, see you as someone to pity rather than someone to date, so they friend-zone you immediately while the bad girls see you as a cash-cow to milk in some 2 months relationship before dumping you back in the trash.

Get this son, no woman likes a namby-pamby kind of man. You're more of a weakling than a man. Infact, it might be wrong to qualify you as a simp because your game appears weaker than that of a simp.
Your first step to freedom is giving yourself a break. Date yourself first, be on your own, be in-charge of your life. Work on your self esteem, stop behaving sheepishly around women. You don't need the attention or approval of women for survival in life, stop acting like a cry baby who needs momma to pat his soft ass to sleep. Stop being desperate to befriend any lady, it's very irritating, show yourself some respect. Stop being a beggar for love.
Didn't you say money isn't the problem? So, why then would you have money and still be a beggar?
When you stop being a pathetic weakling who's at the mercy of women, you start seeing drastic changes in your life.


You got it .

Though you used some inappropriate terms.
Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Liliantalks: 3:23pm On Aug 13, 2020
sirzee1660:
okay, but how do I do that, honestly I need help
first how old are you ? I am asking so i can give the right advice. I hv been single almost all my life . And trust me the female side is worse , but I pull through knowing that one day the right man will come, love urself and be happy with your life , focus on making more money and being successful, focus ur energy on something other than women for now , till you meet the one that gives you green light or a lady with the same interest. My own is worse but I am over it and living my life , do same
Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Goddys(m): 5:13pm On Aug 13, 2020
pansophist:
@op, what I wanted to write has been written by light009, so no need to paraphrase. ModestGal gave good advice, but it's focused more on the exterior, and not your interior (eg masculine framing and dominant behaviours). Even if you're handsome like a model, if you do not assume your masculine domain and still act like a slave in the relationship, you'll still be dumped.

As you grow older, you'll realise that what women say they want, and what they are actually attracted to, are two different things. Left to a woman to pick, she will pick the top guy, some call it alpha male, the 10%, or whatever. You have to make her know you're the catch, not her. Get a hobby, masculine one such as weight lifting and revealing those abs, don't be fat, its an instant attraction killer. Plus size stuff is for women, not men.

Being miserable and wanting to be loved sounds pathetic. Will your wife up an aged woman because she wants love? So why expect the same from women? The romance marketplace only rewards people that bring value. Also, if you're a young man like below 22, then suck it up. It gets better with time as you grow older and accumulate resources and competence. Women your age are already at the peak of their SMV (sexual market value), and yours is waiting in the future. Why do you think lots of men in their 30's do not want to get married? They are basically enjoying all that women enjoyed in their teenage to late '20s.

The good news is, you'll remember this time and laugh later. Every grown man can relate to it. Women will come, just do your masculine thing. The Same way you want a woman, she wants a man, be the catch, and let the game reverse in your favour. You good man.
Other things you said are cool except being chubby or fat. Google and also read comments on Quora and you will realize western women fall for fat guys. Muscles only make women wanna have sex but there's this natural attraction they have for chubby guys
Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Liliantalks: 5:19pm On Aug 13, 2020
Goddys:

Other things you said are cool except being chubby or fat. Google and also read comments on Quora and you will realize western women fall for fat guys. Muscles only make women wanna have sex but there's this natural attraction they have for chubby guys
you are not wrong but not too chubby , I met this very chubby guy one times on Facebook, unfortunately we stayed in the same city , he called me , he tried his best , I felt for him , he was ready to spend his money , even though he just had a pharmacy, hardworking guy. But didn’t like him . He was too chubby . I didn’t go on a date with him , didn’t want to disappoint him too much
Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Goddys(m): 5:19pm On Aug 13, 2020
ModestGal:
Don't worry, nothing is wrong with you. You just need to be loved in return, we all do.

You need to take care of your looks, how you look like matters, how you walk, what is the colour of your teeth? How do you walk?
Do you have mouth odour?
Do you have body odour?
How's your hair?
How is your accent? Do you talk like a village man?

Let's start from the first one, your looks
Everyone is beautiful/handsome, once you take good care of yourself
1. Your skin: Use a good moisturizer (not bleaching cream o), deodorant, soft perfume that would make someone wish to lick you.

If you have any skin disease, treat it. Men with Eczema should get it treated, Eczema can leave your skin, its irritating when I see men with Eczema, most of you don't take care of it.
I have a perfume secret, pm me to tell you

2. Your Mouth & teeth:
Use a good tooth paste, if you have mouth odour, increase your brushing and have Listerine in your bag to spray on your mouth every time, that would make someone to wish to lick your tongue. You should also try and eat lots of pineapple, it would give your mouth a nice fragrance. Stop eating junks, sugars etc
Pm me for more advice and how to turn your mouth around

You can whiten your teeth if they are too brown or black, pm me for the products to use. If your tooth is removed, go and fix another one

3. Your cloth
You need don't need to wear the most expensive, take care of the one you have, iron them

4. Take care of your mental health
Identify who you are, what makes you happy, what doesn't, learn about yourself and why you are what you are. Learn discipline, have a book to write down a new friend you are studying which is you. I do this all the time

I'm an ocean of knowledge, I'm good in different fields and can help you out in several ways. Don't chat me up for any advice, I give free advice and help, but right now, I'm broke so come with your money or something to exchange for my information and knowledge. God bless you

The way you hype yourself on this forum eeh..Nawa oo. Take it easy
Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Goddys(m): 5:20pm On Aug 13, 2020
Liliantalks:
you are not wrong but not too chubby , I met this very chubby guy one times on Facebook, unfortunately we stayed in the same city , he called me , he tried his best , I felt for him , he was ready to spend his money , even though he just had a pharmacy, hardwoods guy. But didn’t like him . He was too chubby .

yeah I don't mean Rick Ross type of physique. Like Wande Coal type of physique
Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Liliantalks: 5:22pm On Aug 13, 2020
Goddys:


yeah I don't mean Rick Ross type of physique. Like Wande Coal type of physique
don jazzy chubby is cool too

(1) (2) (Reply)

Ladies Is This True?? / What Is The Meaning Of This On A Girls Facebook Page? / Hey Guys, I Need A Female Perspective On Something. This’ll Only Take A Minute.

(Go Up)

Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health
religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket

Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10)

Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 89
Disclaimer: Every Nairaland member is solely responsible for anything that he/she posts or uploads on Nairaland.