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|My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by sirzee1660(m): 7:03pm On Aug 10, 2020|
Please ignore my grammatical error
I fall in love easily once I start communicating with any female folk ,I will start losing control, singing praises trying all my possible best just to make her feel I am into her before I shoot my shot by that time i am already on friend zone, some might declined my request infact every lady I woo prefer me being just friend with her. Even those ones that show interest in me once we started dating it won't last up to 2months she will loose interest not because of financial care or attention because I will do everything just to make the relationship worked. Am really tired right now am single ,no calls from any female friends,I am just lonely,all I needed is just a true relationship, my last date was hell, after everything I did for her she just ghost me and starting dating someone who later got her pregnant which she came to me for forgiveness and requested for money for abortion which I turned down.right now I have moved to a new location and I am deeply in love with my neighbor,I am still trying to avoid rejections, honestly I hate it right now...I want to stop loving I want to b on my own without having any feeling's with anybody, so that I can have rest of mind....this thing is making me to have low self esteem.... please help out.
This thing called love doesn't mean is not for everyone,I have tried all my possible best just to have one
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|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Averys(f): 7:05pm On Aug 10, 2020|
First take care of your mental health. If its not right it will influence your decisions. Take it easy
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by ModestGal(f): 7:09pm On Aug 10, 2020|
Don't worry, nothing is wrong with you. You just need to be loved in return, we all do.
You need to take care of your looks, how you look like matters, how you walk, what is the colour of your teeth? How do you walk?
Do you have mouth odour?
Do you have body odour?
How's your hair?
How is your accent? Do you talk like a village man?
Let's start from the first one, your looks
Everyone is beautiful/handsome, once you take good care of yourself
1. Your skin: Use a good moisturizer (not bleaching cream o), deodorant, soft perfume that would make someone wish to lick you.
If you have any skin disease, treat it. Men with Eczema should get it treated, Eczema can leave your skin, its irritating when I see men with Eczema, most of you don't take care of it.
I have a perfume secret, pm me to tell you
2. Your Mouth & teeth:
Use a good tooth paste, if you have mouth odour, increase your brushing and have Listerine in your bag to spray on your mouth every time, that would make someone to wish to lick your tongue. You should also try and eat lots of pineapple, it would give your mouth a nice fragrance. Stop eating junks, sugars etc
Pm me for more advice and how to turn your mouth around
You can whiten your teeth if they are too brown or black, pm me for the products to use. If your tooth is removed, go and fix another one
3. Your cloth
You need don't need to wear the most expensive, take care of the one you have, iron them
4. Take care of your mental health
Identify who you are, what makes you happy, what doesn't, learn about yourself and why you are what you are. Learn discipline, have a book to write down a new friend you are studying which is you. I do this all the time
I'm an ocean of knowledge, I'm good in different fields and can help you out in several ways. Don't chat me up for any advice, I give free advice and help, but right now, I'm broke so come with your money or something to exchange for my information and knowledge. God bless you
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by sirzee1660(m): 7:10pm On Aug 10, 2020|
Averys:okay, but how do I do that, honestly I need help
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by sirzee1660(m): 7:11pm On Aug 10, 2020|
ModestGal:okay please do give me Clue
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Averys(f): 7:11pm On Aug 10, 2020|
. By first stop over analysing everything so you can stop over worrying. By putting a stop to any form of anxieties you gain better control of your mental health
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Jamest162: 7:12pm On Aug 10, 2020|
start loving ur self more.....
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by sirzee1660(m): 7:15pm On Aug 10, 2020|
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by sirzee1660(m): 7:15pm On Aug 10, 2020|
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by light099(m): 7:16pm On Aug 10, 2020|
The root of your heartbreaks is quite obvious from your narrative.
It seems you suffer from inferiority complex and lack that carriage of masculinity around women.
As a result of this, you live in dire desperation to get approval from the opposite sex and every lady that sees you could read this from your eyes and behavior. You're literally at the mercy of women and they see you as a puppet. And once your acquaintanceship with any lady graduates into a relationship, it's always similar to that of slave - master's relationship. You're just like a slave trying to please his masters. The more you try as a slave to please these girls, the more you irritate them. The benevolent ones among them, see you as someone to pity rather than someone to date, so they friend-zone you immediately while the bad girls see you as a cash-cow to milk in some 2 months relationship before dumping you back in the trash.
Get this son, no woman likes a namby-pamby kind of man. You're more of a weakling than a man. Infact, it might be wrong to qualify you as a simp because your game appears weaker than that of a simp.
Your first step to freedom is giving yourself a break. Date yourself first, be on your own, be in-charge of your life. Work on your self esteem, stop behaving sheepishly around women. You don't need the attention or approval of women for survival in life, stop acting like a cry baby who needs momma to pat his soft ass to sleep. Stop being desperate to befriend any lady, it's very irritating, show yourself some respect. Stop being a beggar for love.
Didn't you say money isn't the problem? So, why then would you have money and still be a beggar?
When you stop being a pathetic weakling who's at the mercy of women, you start seeing drastic changes in your life.
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|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Nobody: 7:16pm On Aug 10, 2020|
What you need at this time is to love yourself.
Date yourself, take yourself out for dinners, spend some money and time on yourself for awhile before getting ready to date someone else.
Love will come brother, it will. Focus on things that matter for now like career or business. Whatever you do to earn a living is more important at this time.
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Averys(f): 7:19pm On Aug 10, 2020|
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by LINTUNE(m): 7:19pm On Aug 10, 2020|
sirzee1660:swallow the redpill , las las u will be alright
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by ModestGal(f): 7:29pm On Aug 10, 2020|
sirzee1660:I have given you clue, but let me state it again, embrace yourself, embrace your good and kindheartedness, understand that your type is rare, don't mind all the Nairaland liers that would call you a simp or you should swallow one useless pill, they are children.
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Vyzz: 7:52pm On Aug 10, 2020|
Are u an Introvert?
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by sirzee1660(m): 8:11pm On Aug 10, 2020|
Vyzz:lately yes because of what is going on between me
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by sirzee1660(m): 8:18pm On Aug 10, 2020|
ModestGal:you make me laugh I swear well honestly I have no issues with all this things I appear neat
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Lightangel65: 8:24pm On Aug 10, 2020|
Shut up ladies love to be treated like trash, i treat my bitches like shit and they are always loyal you know why cause they love it.
As for the OP ladies dont fancy niceness in men execpt she is around 35 and no gree see husband. Ladies like guys who give no bleeps about them and are a bit mean, try this and you will be drowning in bitches, don't take advise from any lady here, take advise from men who tame bitches and put them on a leash
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Nobody: 8:30pm On Aug 10, 2020|
Well here's the deal: you are too available , accessible and predictable. You are some kind of emotional baggage with no spontaneity, people like that ends up being used. Dude, you've got to learn to love yourself, be your own boss, place value on yourself then you can dish little of you to whoever you fancy.
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by sirzee1660(m): 8:34pm On Aug 10, 2020|
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by danduchi(m): 9:05pm On Aug 10, 2020|
OP, use pen and paper dey watch BBNaija. Jote down everything kidwayya does and learn from it. Stop behaving like a bitch (yes I mean that).
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Lightangel65: 9:08pm On Aug 10, 2020|
Take my advise not one from a vagina person
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by TrueHeart365(m): 10:08pm On Aug 10, 2020|
You need the red pill bro. I think the fact that you realize the problem and accept it is a good start and shows you're ripe to know understand the true nature of women.
Look for these guys on YouTube. Study their material and practise it.
After 3-4 dates you'll master how to carry yourself as a man. How to handle women properly and keep them chasing you.
1. Coach corey Wayne
2. Alpha male strategy
Welcome to the red pill brother
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by joviegghead: 11:18pm On Aug 10, 2020|
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by pansophist(m): 11:40pm On Aug 10, 2020|
@op, what I wanted to write has been written by light009, so no need to paraphrase. ModestGal gave good advice, but it's focused more on the exterior, and not your interior (eg masculine framing and dominant behaviours). Even if you're handsome like a model, if you do not assume your masculine domain and still act like a slave in the relationship, you'll still be dumped.
As you grow older, you'll realise that what women say they want, and what they are actually attracted to, are two different things. Left to a woman to pick, she will pick the top guy, some call it alpha male, the 10%, or whatever. You have to make her know you're the catch, not her. Get a hobby, masculine one such as weight lifting and revealing those abs, don't be fat, its an instant attraction killer. Plus size stuff is for women, not men.
Being miserable and wanting to be loved sounds pathetic. Will your wife up an aged woman because she wants love? So why expect the same from women? The romance marketplace only rewards people that bring value. Also, if you're a young man like below 22, then suck it up. It gets better with time as you grow older and accumulate resources and competence. Women your age are already at the peak of their SMV (sexual market value), and yours is waiting in the future. Why do you think lots of men in their 30's do not want to get married? They are basically enjoying all that women enjoyed in their teenage to late '20s.
The good news is, you'll remember this time and laugh later. Every grown man can relate to it. Women will come, just do your masculine thing. The Same way you want a woman, she wants a man, be the catch, and let the game reverse in your favour. You good man.
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|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Betterman99: 11:50pm On Aug 10, 2020|
Pity the man that measures himself by the attraction he receives from female folks.
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Cowbell521: 11:53pm On Aug 10, 2020|
ModestGal:Na the same category una dey. Nairalanders sha
Is your lips black or pink?
Is your buttocks big or small?
Is your village fine or ugly?
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Regex: 7:21am On Aug 11, 2020|
This was just what I was dealing with till I met the miseducation by ubunja and another friend Martinez39s. Go check their posts.
About you feeling lonely, I have one thing to say and that is: make friend with loneliness. You can only be productive once you are acquainted with loneliness since it it the dominant time in your life.
I stopped receiving calls from women, and also calling them because most times I get put in the friendzone before I say jack. Start being direct with women, like telling them from onset what you want to do with them. If the accept, good for you, if not, you didn't invest anything and it's the best time to walk away.
Honestly if you know how these women feel when you approach them, you'd laugh and it will give you more boldness. They feel scared of not answering you smartly just you will shy and scared of not asking her out smartly...
You maybe financially stable, but your lonely time is for you and your development. Try mental, physical and or spiritual development with your lonely time.
Note: doing the bolded will not guarantee you women. In fact that is when you will experience the worse kinda female drought. What it guarantees is that anyone whom will be with you is with you that she genuinely likes you. But don't trust it.
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|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by Ishilove: 7:21pm On Aug 12, 2020|
You must be pretty boring.
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by joycegurl: 8:20pm On Aug 12, 2020|
danduchi:or like a simp as u ppl do say here
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by frozen70(f): 8:42pm On Aug 12, 2020|
If you really wants to stay alone as you think, life will be more boring, so forget the idea
As for the ladies, why not look for your class, that will help you to have a good balance
Don't go extra miles to satisfy your relationship, just do your best and watch it grow
Women tends to be smarter in relationships so which ever way you want to play the game, they will understand it
Just take it easy and yes, love is for every one
Life without love is like you not existing
|Re: My Heart Is Bitter I Need Some Help by frozen70(f): 8:46pm On Aug 12, 2020|
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