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Update On My Wife & I by Rtk5: 10:25pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
Few days back I posted a topic on how my wife left home with our 2years old son after a little issue that even animals will laugh at us when they hear it because of how trivial the issue is. Now this is what is at stake 1. She hasn't called since she left a week ago & I haven't called either because I didn't chase her. 2. None of her family has called to know why she came back home though I don't Blame them, it depends on what she must have told them. 3. Perhaps she has moved on already, its no problem but let her come and pack her belongings. I sent her a text to come & pack her stuffs then whoever she is ready to come back she's free but I'll never follow up at her family house & she replied that she's not expecting me to follow her up cos she knows I'm not gonna come after her. 5. My decision is, if she doesn't come back by Sunday or at least come to pick her things, I'll move on & I don't care if she comes anytime & see me with a babe at home. I can't remain single hoping she comes back when perhaps she's already found a boyfriend. 6. Some of you would think its pride that is making me not to go to her family but no, I don't want to look stupid cos I've done that severally. 7. Maybe I'm here killing myself with thinking while she's at her family house laughing. Waking up to see her stuffs in my house is really hurting me the more & making it difficult for me to move on. I really need your advice guys, pls 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by decatalyst(m): 10:32pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
Your marriage, your home. Your decision, your peace of mind. Best of luck. 14 Likes |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by Deffjam: 10:35pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
u better don't call her 'yet' but i will advice you to call her dad and explain to him don't explain as if you are begging oo.....explain like you are telling him let ur voice be loud and clear. 3 Likes |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by dawnomike(m): 10:40pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
You and your wife make me smile... You need to sit down with those that have been married for 10years and above to learn from them. No marriage is perfect but if any of you value it; you would put aside your pride to make it work. 8 Likes |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by Rtk5: 10:46pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
Deffjam:her dad is late, one of the thing that is hindering me from going to tell her mother again is cos the mother believes anything she tells her without hearing from me 1 Like |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by Flexherbal(m): 10:51pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
decatalyst:Gbam! 1 Like |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by Oluromantic: 10:55pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
I've never known loosing someone you love could be this painful. I've never experienced a heart break in my life, I'm 30years of age. We've been married for almost three years & blessed with a baby girl.I saw this in your previous previous thread. I see both of you are quite young. You did not tell us exactly what happened, so we don't know what to tell you to do. But if you're sure what u did is right before God and man, then leave her. Just take care of ur daughter. The more emotional dilly-dallying you are, the more a woman (a young Immature one at that) will traumatize you to high BP point. Just remain unbothered and face your life. Might not be easy but if you survive the first 2 weeks with a free conscience, you've actually survived it all. Don't ever equalize your authority with a woman. What you owe her is loyal love. Aside that, no more. She owes you absolute respect. If she can't give you, she shd squash off. Stop being a weakling! 10 Likes |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by GraGra247(m): 10:56pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
In all marriages that work, one person always stoops low and bears a lot of the brunt. The other partner eventually learns to reciprocate or even may not. I mean all marriages that work. In the posters marriage nobody wants to stoop low. Perfect reason why many marriages eventually fail. 24 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by ogwuche4u(m): 10:58pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
Pride is all I see here. Both of you need to let go of pride and build your home. Let there be Peace. Rtk5: 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by thorpido(m): 11:00pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
The way you're both handling your marriage isn't right. If you can't talk to the mother for reasons you stated what about an older sibling is a close elder in their family? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by Rtk5: 11:01pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
thorpido:They all behave like her mother |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by Rtk5: 11:04pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
GraGra247:You're very very right... But she has tried a lot too in being the fool & making it work. Right now I don't know whats in her mind. Could she have gotten over the marriage |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by tnerro1(m): 11:04pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
You people are not serious, how did they allow both of you to marry when it was obvious you two never reach? 6 Likes |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by GraGra247(m): 11:10pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
Rtk5: So why not try to be the fool and make it work this time. Why does it always have to be her playing that vital part. For you to acknowledge that she's been playing the fool means that you were clearly aware and makes you guilty. 16 Likes |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by Nobody: 11:14pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
the way some women act when they are in a relationship is the same way they will act when they are married forgetting that marriage and relationship are not the same. this thing she did can scatter some marriage, invite her to come and flog her with cane, after flogging her you tell her sorry. you will see her sense will reset, thank me later. 2 Likes |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by Saintmary(f): 11:16pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
Rtk5:If she has played the fool to make things work before, why can't you play the fool this time? Think of your son, do you want another man to play your role in his life? Divorce affects children the most, they don't move on like adults do! 2 Likes |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by FantasticJ: 11:19pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
GraGra247: I'm sure you didn't read the part where he said, he doesn't want to go to her family house because he's been doing that a lot. The 2 of em needs to give each other space then start their relationship afresh. 3 Likes |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:21pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
Rtk5: as you didnt put any #4 point, let me put it for you: 4. pack all her belongings, send it to her family house and make her fully understand that you are done with her BS... 8 Likes |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by Ishilove: 11:28pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1:OP, disregard this advice please. It is on Nairaland that we see single people advising married people how to make a marriage work. 20 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by Nobody: 11:30pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
Only in Nigeria. Jagajaga marriages 1 Like |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by Ishilove: 11:30pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
As for the two of you, continue. The both of you are obviously not ready for marriage. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by Rtk5: 11:30pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
Ishilove:Thanks a lot. |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:31pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
Ishilove: sista Ishilove, why na?!? the woman wasnt driven away, she left on her own decision. so at least, he should make sure she has all her belongings, so that she can do what she pleases, and so can the OP. or you think she can go and hold him prisoner while she plays with his emotional state? if this woman believes she is free to leave and live her life doing whatever she desires, then why cant the OP do the same with his own life?!?!?! 1 Like |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by Ishilove: 11:33pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
Rtk5:You stoop to conquer. When you were marrying her, there were elders, not so? Go to those elders since her mum is not behaving like one. You obviously love your wife. It is written all over your posts. Don't let useless pride rob you of a good thing, so be the man and initiate a reconcilation via those elders, but you have to lay some ground rules. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by Rtk5: 11:34pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1:You're so on point my brother, that's exactly what I've been thinking & feeling ever since she left. Seeing her stuffs at home is hurting me the more & hindering me from moving on with my life 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by Ishilove: 11:35pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1:Brown, marriage is for better for worse. Those were the vows they took. When something is broken, you try as much as possible to fix it. You just don't throw it away at the drop of a hat. If she wants to play the immature fool then the OP should show he has sense. They both can't be immature fools. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by Ishilove: 11:36pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
Rtk5:You never ready to marry. When you move on, if your next woman acts the fool you can also move on as well until maturity catches up with you. 4 Likes |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by Rtk5: 11:38pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
Ishilove:I really love her so much. both of us have made great sacrifices for each other. |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:40pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
Ishilove: so you want a person to stay with an immature fool...? the best these people can do is to part ways and be merry away from one another, instead of trying to force them to be together at any cost. just because they made a mistake getting married, shouldnt be a reason for them to continue being together.... this will only end in tragedy, since its obvious they have no respect for their union. |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by Ishilove: 11:41pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
Rtk5:So why is this case different? You both need elders and people who have weathered storms in their marriages to counsel you both because what I see here is pride and immaturity and an unwillingness to compromise from both parties. Whoever has been advising your woman has not been advising her well. 1 Like |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by Ishilove: 11:41pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1:I modified my post. 2 Likes |
Re: Update On My Wife & I by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:41pm On Aug 14, 2020 |
Rtk5: bro, just call her and make her understand that she can come back home and work this out PROPERLY or you send her stuff back and she can live the life she desires. there are too many issues here to fix, and it seems the best is for you guys to part ways, since you cant communicate like adults. 3 Likes 1 Share |
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