UDUJ:


What do you really want? Giving up your child might look easy now but it will surely hunt you in future.

A poster asked a similar question- what do you really want?

Too many scammers in nairaland these days so we take each story at face value.

If you can really prove your situation is ideal - by allowing someone come check to verify your story is genuine you could get some assistance from this platform to start over no matter how small. People in similar situation like yours have received help in the past from this forum. We might be arrogant misogynists, feminists, tribalistic, abusive but there are some sane few ones ( very few - the rest are all mad ) here.

The ball is in your court

If you guys can find out about the authenticity of her story, by God's grace, I'll pay for her house rent for 2 years. Only if she'll be raising the child herself.

Op ..
Please what state are you, I would like to help to provide u with accommodation and then some money for you to start a business

Ten06:
I'm touch by the story of this lady. First and foremost, I want to know the town you currently live
Second, how many people here can support lets contribute money for this lady to get an apartment and start a little business? Anything as low as 2k from 40 people here will go a long way

This lady needs help badly. Why have we lost our humanity. No empathy whatsoever.
Even if it's face me I face you that isn't too expensive.(rent for like a year should be covered)
Money to start a small business especially food related (with this there is little to no loss)
Madam if people of this forum gather to help you. Please you can't afford to be lazy and relaxed(you need to hustle back to back)
I really don't want you to put that girl up for adoption (better still try a motherless babies home and explain your predicament)
Also if all legal works are genuine with a lawyer to witness it. I will say put this girl up for adoption. The only reason am saying this is God forbid something bad happens to you poster-this little girl has no one affiliated to you to depend on.
I pray help locates you.
Let's have your contact details, your present location. Am sure a nairalandder based in your location will be willing to check you out so as to verify your story.
I really don't know why my heart goes out to you.
You are really in pain and you need a shoulder to rest on.
May God come through for you and relief you of this burden.

Mizflo:
Please I need your advice. I had created this account because I am well known here with my main account because I am always active and I want to remain anonymously.

Am 21 a single mum with 1 girl age 5 , her dad rejected me when I was pregnant he left when I was 4 months pregnant with her .

I had a difficult time growing up , my mum died when I was 8 years and my dad denied me claiming my mum had cheated on him and there’s no way I could be his daughter.

My aunty who was supposed to care for me had never bothered about me , she was always out leaving me in the house all alone without food , whenever I complains she will beat me telling me to go to my mum graveyard to ask her for assistance.

I have suffered in the hand of my aunty she didn’t care about my education if I have managed to complete my primary school till jss2 was thanks to this aunty who was a teacher at my school and a good friend of my mum , she sponsored me , And when I was 14 my aunty landlord kicked her out of the house because of rent arrears she said I am the enemy of progress she cant take me to her boyfriend house because he won’t accept me to stay there that I should go and look for a place , I cried and pleaded with her to take me along with her but she refuse I beg her to show me where my dad is she said he will not accept me because he hated my mum but I beg her to take me to him .

She took me to him it was my first time seeing him I looked just like him with one eye big one small but he insulted the hell out of us saying he will never accept me because my mum was a cheater she had so many boyfriends that I should ask her who my real father is but my aunty insisted that my mum had told her before she passed on that he was my dad even taught I resembled him still he denied and kicked us out like we were dogs I cried and my aunty was angry because of the insult so she left me all alone in the street but later came to me .
Since that day my life situation has worsened because I was forced to stay with different people where I was being abused , my baby dad came as a guardian angel to my life he took care of everything i needed by promising me heaven on Earth I taught he will get me out of my hard situations but I was wrong i find out he was married with kids I was heartbroken because I didn’t want to live the same lifestyle as my mum had lived but history has repeated itself just like my mother had me with a married man but she knew he was married but me I didn’t know , but it was too late for me to moved on because I was already pregnant for him and I didn’t want to abort my baby I have decide to continue the relationship but when I was 4 months pregnant he left me and blocked me from all his contacts , this is the man that has never bothered to asked about his child for 5 years now..

My little girl dont even know her dad the same way I did not know mine until
I was 14 which break my heart anytime I think about it.

My daughter and I are staying with my madam the lady tat I serve her for now 3 years but things here hasn’t been easy for us because my madam children don’t like me they keep accusing of things I don’t do like I stole their money , clothes and many more before my madam was telling them to stop with their bad attitudes towards me but I have noticed that whenever they had accused me she start getting angry with me sometimes we can go days without her not talking to me which I think I have overstayed and I am not longer wanted here I want to leave this house and to go and hustle but I feared for my daughter because I don’t want her to end up like me.

If I leave this house we will be on the street for a long time till I will be able to get somewhere else to stay with her also I don’t think I can give her the best education because if she stay with me she will end up being a teen mother just like I did something I don’t want to happen to her and I came across someone who’s willing to help me by taking care of my daughter to give her the best life something that I have always wanted for her , she promised to take care of her till university and she will give me the money to rent a room and start up business she said she will take things to the right direction like adoption but I don’t know how she will do it because I have no idea that I will have to sign up papers for agreement i have agreed because I think is really a good opportunity for me even taught I have accepted but sometimes I am getting worried about giving her my daughter I am having sleepless nights and thinking all nights.

I am just tired of living this life I didn’t ask to be born my parents created me and now I am suffering from their mistakes something I didn’t consented and I don’t want my daughter to suffer because of my mistake I think giving her up for adoption is a good thing , but I don’t know if I am doing the right things.

please no insult what is your advice for me.

Thanks

I really hope someone/people can help her without asking her to give up her child. A business and shelter would be enough to sustain her and her daughter. Where are all indefatigable people of goodwill on nairaland?

Please someone should put her distress on twitter after her consent, for people who can help. I really don't know how to push tweets to a wider coverage, she really needs help and we as humanity must not betray her.

If we can all agree, I am personally willing to help, she must not be made to lose her child because of financial mess, that will not only leave a hole in her heart but will be a permanent source of emotional and psychological trauma.

Let's help please!!!

Mizflo

You can give your child up if you think she's safer away from you.
You can give the child up to the government with option of coming back for your child within a stipulated time.
Those kids aren't put up for adoption, instead they are put up for fostering or stay in the orphanages till you can come back for them.


Keep her where she will be safe.
Get your shhiiiit together (get an education : there are many free adult education around you where you can learn to properly read and and write, with your SSCE, and a good attitude and hard work, you can get a good job that will pay your way through University (NOUN is a very good option because it allows you work full time) and also raise your child.


You can do this!

Righteousness89:
I will be Very Frank with you!

Until the Root Cause of a Problem is Tackled, one might keep Going in Circles. And also using Basket to Fetch Water..

The Same Pattern of your Mum is Exactly what Happened to you.

Its time for you to treat that issue..

It does not look like what can be done by Power.

My Advice to you is to Seek For GENUIE Bible Believing Church. Go there, Surrender to JESUS Completely and Let HIM Work on you..

You need to be Soaked in God to Break Certain yokes and Patterns..

Once the Root Cause is Sorted, other things will Fall in Place..

Shut up fool

Mizflo:

Thanks for the advice. I have lost faith in Jesus because if he was there I wouldn’t have been suffering like this . I don’t want to look for him because he has never care about me and I don’t want to know him

God didn't cause your problem, the choices your parents made put you in this predicament. Sadly you are making the same choices and will end up the way your parents end up, with your daughter going through what you go through. The parents have eaten the sour grape and the children set their teeth on the edge. If you keep making choices that go against God, you don't expect him to be there for you... It is not possible. Only when you come to the side of God willing to listen and learn from him, ready to lose self so that you might find yourself in him can you find true happiness. Without you, God remains God but without God you remain empty and wandering. So it's for your own good that you give self up to find God.

"Freedom is not realised in decisions made against God. How could it be expression of true freedom if it refused to be opened to the very reality that enables our self-realization?"

Mizflo:

Thanks for the advice. I have lost faith in Jesus because if he was there I wouldn’t have been suffering like this. I don’t want to look for him because he has never care about me and I don’t want to know him

Madam, u can't be asking for advice or help from people who actually believe in this same Jesus Christ u despise. People who Jesus have actually helped to live life they never ever imagined was possible. For all I am today, I give all the glory to Jesus Christ my Lord and God who answered me whenever I call upon him in sincerity and humility.

God won't bend His rules because of u, He has created man and the universe and doesn't interfere with the affairs of men unless they invite Him. I advise you to turn back to Jesus Christ who is the actual solution to all ur problem, ask and seek Him in humility, not with this ur pride. There is a way to receive from God, find out that way and do it. Don't just think because u are suffering, then He owes u an obligation to save u. No way.

I don't feel sorry for people like you with poor judgement. I am not perfect but when I see struggling single mother especially those who never wanted the pregnancy n out of foolishness chose not to abort cos of religious or whatever conviction they have I just shake my head. One cos you tot having a child is play play n 2 for not understanding aborting unwanted pregnancy is giving your self a second chance in life.

Check the rate of single mother n tell me if you can count 3% of them in Nigeria thag are not vengeful, filled with regret n bitterness. Did you think they brought all that from heaven ? You will learn that is all I have to say to you. I have close to 50M in cash n asset n I still know what am going tru taking care of a single child. You that u can't care for a child don't have common sense to have protected sex.

Mizflo:

Righteousness89:
I will be Very Frank with you!

Until the Root Cause of a Problem is Tackled, one might keep Going in Circles. And also using Basket to Fetch Water..

The Same Pattern of your Mum is Exactly what Happened to you.

Its time for you to treat that issue..

It does not look like what can be done by Power.

My Advice to you is to Seek For GENUIE Bible Believing Church. Go there, Surrender to JESUS Completely and Let HIM Work on you..

You need to be Soaked in God to Break Certain yokes and Patterns..

Once the Root Cause is Sorted, other things will Fall in Place..

Can we for once try to address issues with greater appraisal and willingness to help?

Must everything be seen as a spiritual problem? What's stopping people from rathering her financial help and advice, which clearly she needs most now?

Mailthaddeus:


Madam, u can't be asking for advice or help from people who actually believe in this same Jesus Christ u despise. People who Jesus have actually helped to live life they never ever imagined was possible. For all I am today, I give all the glory to Jesus Christ my Lord and God who answered me whenever I call upon him in sincerity and humility.

God won't bend His rules because of u, He has created man and the universe and doesn't interfere with the affairs of men unless they invite Him. I advise you to turn back to Jesus Christ who is the actual solution to all ur problem, ask and seek Him in humility, not with this ur pride. There is a way to receive from God, find out that way and do it. Don't just think because u are suffering, then He owes u an obligation to save u. No way.

Trying hard to conceive your write up. Is not believing in Jesus as you stated a reason for her life in shambles? If so, then, we wouldn't be having atheist living big.

I am a Muslim, and I recognize the importance of spirituality, but it is stupid to tell people their life is in downturn because they don't believe in what you belief. What's stopping you from giving her financial assistance for the sake of humanity and not because of any religious affiliations?

Or11:
It's sad that that you have lived such life but I would say never give up your child. Especially a girl. Things may seem hard but would you want to make it harder for your child? You are going to regret it if you put her up for adoption. Better work hard and man up to your responsibility. The way you didn't ask to be born is the same way she didn't ask to be born. God bless you and may you find a solution without adoption.

Yeah so true. I really hope someone/people can help her without asking her to give up her child. A business and shelter would be enough to sustain her and her daughter. Where are all indefatigable people of goodwill on nairaland?

Please someone should put her distress on twitter after her consent, for people who can help. I really don't know how to push tweets to a wider coverage, she really needs help and we as humanity must not betray her.

If we can all agree, I am personally willing to help, she must not be made to lose her child because of financial mess, that will not only leave a hole in her heart but will be a permanent source of emotional and psychological trauma.

Let's up please!!!

thesicilian:
If only you can see that by giving her her up for adoption, you may be subjecting her to a future worse than what you have gone through!
Not all that glitters is gold. That person that promised you heaven and earth to train your daughter and set up a business for you, there may be more to it than meets the eye.
Plus your daughter may never forgive you for pushing her away.

You are correct.

I really hope someone/people can help her without asking her to give up her child. A business and shelter would be enough to sustain her and her daughter. Where are all indefatigable people of goodwill on nairaland?

Please someone should put her distress on twitter after her consent, for people who can help. I really don't know how to push tweets to a wider coverage, she really needs help and we as humanity must not betray her.

If we can all agree, I am personally willing to help, she must not be made to lose her child because of financial mess, that will not only leave a hole in her heart but will be a permanent source of emotional and psychological trauma.

Let's up please!!!

These are consequences of wayward life if you have given your life to Christ by now you could have been in your husband house that God as sent for you.
Just forget about your dad and mum situations it doesn't matter

I read people advising you to drag out the baby daddy for support.
Forcing his duty on him which should be the right thing to do doesn't always end well, he may take it out on the innocent baby if you're not around.

Also the case of adoption...
There are bad people in the world also are there good people.
There are good people that genuinely want a child and can give the child all the love they can fathom..
Nigeria society has demonized adoption maybe due to cultural reasons, some see it as an outright evil and a lot of evil names have been lashed out on the mother.
Nevertheless, adoption is not an evil thing to do as it is also not an easy thing to do by both sides.
What's matters in adoption is the heart which you send the child forth and to which family you decided to entrust your offspring..
Go with an experienced hand, make sure that the family is good and has the capacity to give the child the right training formally and informally.
While at it,develop your self to be a better person to handle such responsibility when its called upon.
Shalom

1. I have seen most of these stories on Nairaland. An alternate monicker by the same person will always ask for donations. I hope this is not one of them.

2. Go to the nearest Catholic church, ask for the priest. You will be directed to JDPC (the Justice Department). You do not need to be a member.
They will help you with the best course of action as applicable (either getting child support from your daughter's father, self empowerment or safe placement for adoption).

In the end, it all boils down to Jesus Christ (the church) since governance has failed in this country.

I pray to God almighty to give you wisdom and understanding. I pray that God guide your decisions and open doors for you in Jesus name. Please do not give up

I would love to help if by getting you an accommodation in my small place, that, if you are saying the truth.
Just send me an email through my profile

spiralwedge:
Mizflo,
Give her up for adoption. That's the right thing now.

It will be tough at first, but best you adjust and face your life squarely while she's in safe hands.

If you don't, you will suffer her for nothing and it will affect you getting the best out of the remaining years in your life.

Never be tired of this life, always make use of new opportunities even if it is not conventional or popular. In this case, your opportunity is to be able to make something out of your life while your daughter grows elsewhere to be an adult.

You will be fine, she will be fine too. Which state are you?


Modified:
I just read other people's comments above mine. Please ignore them. They sit comfortably typing without empathy and with the typical Nigerian mindset.

Adoption is very good, your daughter will have people she can look up to as parents/guardians. She needs that foundation at least till when she is 18. You are merely 21 and this is your chance to restart your life. If you don't take this chance, you will suddenly reach 40, depressed, broke, miserable and suicidal. Please take this chance, especially for your daughter to have a home.

100% concurs
100%

abdullahi45:


You are correct.

I really hope someone/people can help her without asking her to give up her child. A business and shelter would be enough to sustain her and her daughter. Where are all indefatigable people of goodwill on nairaland?

Please someone should put her distress on twitter after her consent, for people who can help. I really don't know how to push tweets to a wider coverage, she really needs help and we as humanity must not betray her.

If we can all agree, I am personally willing to help, she must not be made to lose her child because of financial mess, that will not only leave a hole in her heart but will be a permanent source of emotional and psychological trauma.

Let's up please!!!

This too.
100%%

Superwave:
I don't feel sorry for people like you with poor judgement. I am not perfect but when I see struggling single mother especially those who never wanted the pregnancy n out of foolishness chose not to abort cos of religious or whatever conviction they have I just shake my head. One cos you tot having a child is play play n 2 for not understanding aborting unwanted pregnancy is giving your self a second chance in life.

Check the rate of single mother n tell me if you can count 3% of them in Nigeria thag are not vengeful, filled with regret n bitterness. Did you think they brought all that from heaven ? You will learn that is all I have to say to you. I have close to 50M in cash n asset n I still know what am going tru taking care of a single child. You that u can't care for a child don't have common sense to have protected sex.

This too
100%

Mizflo:
Please I need your advice. I had created this account because I am well known here with my main account because I am always active and I want to remain anonymously.

Am 21 a single mum with 1 girl age 5 , her dad rejected me when I was pregnant he left when I was 4 months pregnant with her .

I had a difficult time growing up , my mum died when I was 8 years and my dad denied me claiming my mum had cheated on him and there’s no way I could be his daughter.

My aunty who was supposed to care for me had never bothered about me , she was always out leaving me in the house all alone without food , whenever I complains she will beat me telling me to go to my mum graveyard to ask her for assistance.

I have suffered in the hand of my aunty she didn’t care about my education if I have managed to complete my primary school till jss2 was thanks to this aunty who was a teacher at my school and a good friend of my mum , she sponsored me , And when I was 14 my aunty landlord kicked her out of the house because of rent arrears she said I am the enemy of progress she cant take me to her boyfriend house because he won’t accept me to stay there that I should go and look for a place , I cried and pleaded with her to take me along with her but she refuse I beg her to show me where my dad is she said he will not accept me because he hated my mum but I beg her to take me to him .

She took me to him it was my first time seeing him I looked just like him with one eye big one small but he insulted the hell out of us saying he will never accept me because my mum was a cheater she had so many boyfriends that I should ask her who my real father is but my aunty insisted that my mum had told her before she passed on that he was my dad even taught I resembled him still he denied and kicked us out like we were dogs I cried and my aunty was angry because of the insult so she left me all alone in the street but later came to me .
Since that day my life situation has worsened because I was forced to stay with different people where I was being abused , my baby dad came as a guardian angel to my life he took care of everything i needed by promising me heaven on Earth I taught he will get me out of my hard situations but I was wrong i find out he was married with kids I was heartbroken because I didn’t want to live the same lifestyle as my mum had lived but history has repeated itself just like my mother had me with a married man but she knew he was married but me I didn’t know , but it was too late for me to moved on because I was already pregnant for him and I didn’t want to abort my baby I have decide to continue the relationship but when I was 4 months pregnant he left me and blocked me from all his contacts , this is the man that has never bothered to asked about his child for 5 years now..

My little girl dont even know her dad the same way I did not know mine until
I was 14 which break my heart anytime I think about it.

My daughter and I are staying with my madam the lady tat I serve her for now 3 years but things here hasn’t been easy for us because my madam children don’t like me they keep accusing of things I don’t do like I stole their money , clothes and many more before my madam was telling them to stop with their bad attitudes towards me but I have noticed that whenever they had accused me she start getting angry with me sometimes we can go days without her not talking to me which I think I have overstayed and I am not longer wanted here I want to leave this house and to go and hustle but I feared for my daughter because I don’t want her to end up like me.

If I leave this house we will be on the street for a long time till I will be able to get somewhere else to stay with her also I don’t think I can give her the best education because if she stay with me she will end up being a teen mother just like I did something I don’t want to happen to her and I came across someone who’s willing to help me by taking care of my daughter to give her the best life something that I have always wanted for her , she promised to take care of her till university and she will give me the money to rent a room and start up business she said she will take things to the right direction like adoption but I don’t know how she will do it because I have no idea that I will have to sign up papers for agreement i have agreed because I think is really a good opportunity for me even taught I have accepted but sometimes I am getting worried about giving her my daughter I am having sleepless nights and thinking all nights.

I am just tired of living this life I didn’t ask to be born my parents created me and now I am suffering from their mistakes something I didn’t consented and I don’t want my daughter to suffer because of my mistake I think giving her up for adoption is a good thing , but I don’t know if I am doing the right things.

please no insult what is your advice for me.

Thanks

Well, whatever you are going through now, just know that a good number of people have gone through that and they survived, today they look back and tell their stories as a victor.

I don't want to sound preachy. But I know We all are given free will by our creator so that we can make choices in life.
Hence, we become the product of all the choices we made.
God will not come to u when u have the choice and free will to go to Him. This is no time to be frustrated nor confused.
You may have been a product of bad choices. Yet u still have the opportunity to Make the right choice NOW! in as much as u still have life in you.
In a nutshell, there can be no better choice than realising u have a maker and being right with your maker....
PLS don't let this continue. Keep your daughter with u and look for a Church.

I know your solution has come. God be with U!

Oh..So sad,the troubles of life people go through are unimaginable.
Op first of all,u said something wrong about not wanting to know Jesus.I sincerely suggest u retrace ur step back 2 Him cos He is the only way.All wat u are going thru are trials and temptation and only Jesus bring peace and happiness..And getting pregnant at that age 4 one so called guy was the actual mistake cos now u have to carter 4 ursef and ur daughter.
Anyway I might be of help,were is ur location?
And honestly u dont need 2 give ur daughter up 4 adoption,wat u really need now is a good source of livelihood,income..Like if u are doing a good
business u can do gr8..wat do u knw how to do? Or wat kind of business can u do?
What u need is ur own accomadation and the capital do venture into business..

Your daughter will be glad to suffer with you than to suffer in the hands of another woman.
Work hard to give her the best you can afford and someday, you will be grateful you did.
Just do your best and seek help if need be.
Shalom.

Sonfethopia:
Firstly ,when you give your child up for adoption, she's no longer yours. Legally she has a new parent and you can never claim her. They won't even Allow you go near her. Its like selling a child legally.

So make your decisions right.

Wow! I just learnt something new today.

Mizflo:
Thanks everyone for your advice and words of encouragement I live in asaba I love my daughter so much more than anything in this world but I think she deserve better than me the reason I want to give her up for adoption is because she will be better off without me over there she will have both parents that will train and guide her to the right path something I never had the change to have so I want her to be greater than me because I don’t have anything good to offer her , I trust this aunty that will adopt her because she has helped me a lot in the past I know my daughter will be in a good place but I just don’t understand why am I having sleepless nights about giving her away I guess is normal for any mother that love her daughter to feel the same way I am feeling because it’s not easy for me to give her away but she had to go because I want her to be happy and I hope one day she will thanked me for making the right decisions for her. Thanks

You are going to help yourself.
your daughter may hate you with bitterness in the future.
She is likely to become a teen mother like you and may continue for more generations. it is not a curse. our behaviour is partly hereditary and partly due to environmental factors. even your father accused your mother of infidelity. you were also abused. your daughter is likely to be abused.


do not give your daughter for adoption
change your attitude and behaviour toward work, money and men. change to direct opposite.
relocate to other part of state or country(area with low cost of living) where you have distance relative or friends.
acquire skills and if you have to work as ' slave' for a while do it to gather some money.

J111333:
Your daughter will be glad to suffer with you than to suffer in the hands of another woman.
Work hard to give her the best you can afford and someday, you will be grateful you did.
Just do your best and seek help if need be.
Shalom.

exactly.

Mizflo:

Thanks for the advice. I have lost faith in Jesus because if he was there I wouldn’t have been suffering like this . I don’t want to look for him because he has never care about me and I don’t want to know him

Describe the person who wants to adopt your daughter.

What does she do for a living ?

Is she living alone or has a family ?

Does she have kids ?

Superwave:
I don't feel sorry for people like you with poor judgement. I am not perfect but when I see struggling single mother especially those who never wanted the pregnancy n out of foolishness chose not to abort cos of religious or whatever conviction they have I just shake my head. One cos you tot having a child is play play n 2 for not understanding aborting unwanted pregnancy is giving your self a second chance in life.

Check the rate of single mother n tell me if you can count 3% of them in Nigeria thag are not vengeful, filled with regret n bitterness. Did you think they brought all that from heaven ? You will learn that is all I have to say to you. I have close to 50M in cash n asset n I still know what am going tru taking care of a single child. You that u can't care for a child don't have common sense to have protected sex.

and you think abortion will solve the problem. even abortion without proper life orientation will still lead to disaster. I agree that some single mothers lack good judgement and op is quity of that too. many teen mothers are successful and rewrite their history because they had proper orientation. since you have 50M in cash and asset, you can help her with a token.

Righteousness89:
I will be Very Frank with you!

Until the Root Cause of a Problem is Tackled, one might keep Going in Circles. And also using Basket to Fetch Water..

The Same Pattern of your Mum is Exactly what Happened to you.

Its time for you to treat that issue..

It does not look like what can be done by Power.

My Advice to you is to Seek For GENUIE Bible Believing Church. Go there, Surrender to JESUS Completely and Let HIM Work on you..

You need to be Soaked in God to Break Certain yokes and Patterns..

Once the Root Cause is Sorted, other things will Fall in Place..

Are you sure you are okay?. Did she tell you she’s a devil? Someone brought a problem can you just get you month shut if you don’t have advice? We talking about someone’s life you bringing in religion. Who caused Nigerians?

Mizflo:
Please I need your advice. I had created this account because I am well known here with my main account because I am always active and I want to remain anonymously.

Am 21 a single mum with 1 girl age 5 , her dad rejected me when I was pregnant he left when I was 4 months pregnant with her .

I had a difficult time growing up , my mum died when I was 8 years and my dad denied me claiming my mum had cheated on him and there’s no way I could be his daughter.

My aunty who was supposed to care for me had never bothered about me , she was always out leaving me in the house all alone without food , whenever I complains she will beat me telling me to go to my mum graveyard to ask her for assistance.

I have suffered in the hand of my aunty she didn’t care about my education if I have managed to complete my primary school till jss2 was thanks to this aunty who was a teacher at my school and a good friend of my mum , she sponsored me , And when I was 14 my aunty landlord kicked her out of the house because of rent arrears she said I am the enemy of progress she cant take me to her boyfriend house because he won’t accept me to stay there that I should go and look for a place , I cried and pleaded with her to take me along with her but she refuse I beg her to show me where my dad is she said he will not accept me because he hated my mum but I beg her to take me to him .

She took me to him it was my first time seeing him I looked just like him with one eye big one small but he insulted the hell out of us saying he will never accept me because my mum was a cheater she had so many boyfriends that I should ask her who my real father is but my aunty insisted that my mum had told her before she passed on that he was my dad even taught I resembled him still he denied and kicked us out like we were dogs I cried and my aunty was angry because of the insult so she left me all alone in the street but later came to me .
Since that day my life situation has worsened because I was forced to stay with different people where I was being abused , my baby dad came as a guardian angel to my life he took care of everything i needed by promising me heaven on Earth I taught he will get me out of my hard situations but I was wrong i find out he was married with kids I was heartbroken because I didn’t want to live the same lifestyle as my mum had lived but history has repeated itself just like my mother had me with a married man but she knew he was married but me I didn’t know , but it was too late for me to moved on because I was already pregnant for him and I didn’t want to abort my baby I have decide to continue the relationship but when I was 4 months pregnant he left me and blocked me from all his contacts , this is the man that has never bothered to asked about his child for 5 years now..

My little girl dont even know her dad the same way I did not know mine until
I was 14 which break my heart anytime I think about it.

My daughter and I are staying with my madam the lady tat I serve her for now 3 years but things here hasn’t been easy for us because my madam children don’t like me they keep accusing of things I don’t do like I stole their money , clothes and many more before my madam was telling them to stop with their bad attitudes towards me but I have noticed that whenever they had accused me she start getting angry with me sometimes we can go days without her not talking to me which I think I have overstayed and I am not longer wanted here I want to leave this house and to go and hustle but I feared for my daughter because I don’t want her to end up like me.

If I leave this house we will be on the street for a long time till I will be able to get somewhere else to stay with her also I don’t think I can give her the best education because if she stay with me she will end up being a teen mother just like I did something I don’t want to happen to her and I came across someone who’s willing to help me by taking care of my daughter to give her the best life something that I have always wanted for her , she promised to take care of her till university and she will give me the money to rent a room and start up business she said she will take things to the right direction like adoption but I don’t know how she will do it because I have no idea that I will have to sign up papers for agreement i have agreed because I think is really a good opportunity for me even taught I have accepted but sometimes I am getting worried about giving her my daughter I am having sleepless nights and thinking all nights.

I am just tired of living this life I didn’t ask to be born my parents created me and now I am suffering from their mistakes something I didn’t consented and I don’t want my daughter to suffer because of my mistake I think giving her up for adoption is a good thing , but I don’t know if I am doing the right things.

please no insult what is your advice for me.

Thanks

dont give your child to any random person... I won't support you give that child to that woman.. Let me tell you the truth.. Exactly what the baby dad told you and later deceived and scammed you is what is about to happen.. I will rather advice you to take the child to any Catholic orphanage of repute.... Well known and document it simple

Righteousness89:
I will be Very Frank with you!

Until the Root Cause of a Problem is Tackled, one might keep Going in Circles. And also using Basket to Fetch Water..

The Same Pattern of your Mum is Exactly what Happened to you.

Its time for you to treat that issue..

It does not look like what can be done by Power.

My Advice to you is to Seek For GENUIE Bible Believing Church. Go there, Surrender to JESUS Completely and Let HIM Work on you..

You need to be Soaked in God to Break Certain yokes and Patterns..

Once the Root Cause is Sorted, other things will Fall in Place..

Even the church (pastor et al may take advantage)
Todays churches ain't safe havens. Many are monstrous.

So i will not recommend the church.

If need be, i will provide you and your daughter shelter and livelihood.

No strings or signatures attached.

Blessed be.