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| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by marvin212: 3:14am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Okay dear! Here's my take! Just as righteousness89 has pointed out. You need Jesus. However, you also need to be proactive. There's no denial that you have made a mistake and from what I can sense from your story. Giving yourdaughter up for adoption is just another circle that's about to begin. There's something definitely wrong, and no offense. You can't see it because you're deluded with your sorrows. I know Jesus hasn't played his role well in your life and that is true. Nevertheless, the only way that could have happened is that you never gave him the opportunity to. This is Man's world and God doesn't intefer except by INVITATION. I urge you to invite and see how things play out going forward. Next. Don't sign any paper for adoption considerations. Rather. Go to human rights and tender your case. Alternatively, you can contact the inner-city department of Christ Embassy. They offer help to people like you. You can reach me to get their contact. Lastly, I know life has battered you and hence you are somewhat discouraged and feel like throwing in the towel. Hey! There's Hope for you! God Loves You! Approach life with gusto. What the enemy wants is for you to end your life out of depression. But Goddoesn't want that for you. I'd like you to stay strong for your baby girl. She needs you more now than ever before. Don't give up on her like your people did to you. Break that circle by staying with her! Like I said reach me to get the contact of inner-city missions. God bless you! Mizflo: |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by onoja12: 3:14am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Rubbish only a slave come up with such ideas,her problem is poverty end of story. Righteousness89: |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by crownwalex: 3:14am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Mizflo:Good morning madam May almighty God help you out |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by fattprince(m): 3:16am On Aug 17, 2020 |
greggng:True true, she was enjoying it. But have you heard of statutory rape. That's have sex with someone that is below the legal age which in Nigeria is 18. The law believes she is not old enough to give consent to sex. So it's still rape anyhow you want to see it. |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by crownwalex: 3:25am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Mizflo:@ Op Which state are you presently and how can one locate you ? |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by Nobody: 3:29am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Mizflow so sorry to hear about your troubles,I know it must have been a tough decision..I see you have already received a tons of advice but still I will like to talk to you.Email me 22523AC@gmail.com or text 07064359026 -I may be able to help you |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by baby124: 3:35am On Aug 17, 2020 |
You need to let us know who this married man is and how we can get human rights commission to make sure you and your daughter are very comfortable. Don’t worry, just let us know and what you think was trouble yesterday will be a thing of the past. You will be able to get somewhere to live and, you will be able to hustle to find a job. Hopefully find a neighbor to take care of your daughter. Just make sure you speak out. There is no shame in suffering. That man cannot just escape like that. |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by baby124: 3:45am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Mizflo:Baby factory loading... ask the aunty that wants to adopt her if she’s willing to ensure she raises the child by herself and sign legal documents as proof, then watch her disappear. |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by Nobody: 3:48am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Mizflo:I can adopt u and your daughter send me a PM 08067212263 |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by Yankee101: 3:49am On Aug 17, 2020 |
if you need help you have to come out as yourself and ask. Not an anonymous account. And I can't verify how true this is |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by Nobody: 3:50am On Aug 17, 2020 |
coldFLARES1:It is wrong to assert that she might have gotten pregnant out of the need to rescue herself from poverty, just because the man who impregnated her was a married man. You excluded 2 vital factors in your reasoning: 1. That this girl was only a minor (21 yrs with a 5yr old means she was only 16!) when she was impregnated by the so called helper and 2. The man abused her under the guise of helping her, even if he fed and sheltered her, she was still abused because it was statutory rape (any form of sex with a minor under 18). +3. Even if she deliberately got pregnant as a "wise and experienced 16 year old ADULT" just to escape poverty, does that negate the fact that someone was responsible for the pregnancy and should live up to his responsibility if the girl decides to keep the baby? What kind of man takes a 16yr old girl for abortion anyway? ![]() Pregnancy is not something a man can simply opt out of just because he told her he didn't want it. If you have raw sex with a girl, you are asking for it, it's a simple natural process. If she wants to keep her child, she should be given the opportunity to give her child motherly care instead of giving her up for adoption. With support, the girl will go places and very soon have good stories to tell. Conclusion: Your comment portrays you as a very heartless human being. I am a man like you and I can't imagine what that poor girl must be going through. Grow some conscience in the way you think and judge. |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by Blendy77(f): 3:51am On Aug 17, 2020 |
You can put her in an orphanage temporarily while u find your feet. Most orphanages Foster children so far you visit the child from time to time and have an agreement with them that you dont want the child adopted. They will take care of her, put her in school till u are ready to take her. What state are u? If you are in Lagos, look for orphanages in lekki/VI axis and your child will be well catered for |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by Nobody: 4:20am On Aug 17, 2020 |
OutsideTheBox:Which track down? Which court? Nigerians are funny. |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by ekerintee: 4:24am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Not everybody can get a degree ,going to the university is not a solution to all problem,how does she sponsor her self there .it's not bad going to the uni but it has to do with if that is the direction she wants to go in life ,some succeed in business ,if she is intelligent and have the zeal,she can go to the university or do a part time degree.polytechnics also have part time options ,the option of open university is there .but I think survival comes first ![]() chinchum: |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by teemswest(m): 4:24am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Fiction |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by Nobody: 4:30am On Aug 17, 2020 |
abdullahi45:Adoption is the best now... |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by shagalinku4life: 4:30am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Please, don't even think of giving out your angel for adoption. The problem your family has is poverty.It was the poverty that affected your mother to take wrong decision.It is affecting your aunt and you at present.You have taken a bad decision already by getting present but the same poverty is pushing you to take a worse decision by giving up your angel for adoption. You can see that a lot of people are after your angel (baby). Someone on this forum instead of finding a way to emancipate you from poverty is requesting you to give your baby to him so that his daughter can have a playmate.Everyone is after your baby but not you. I will advise you post your location and bank account details so that others can join you fight your enemy (poverty). Take to what others have suggested.Approach NGOs and religious houses for financial. Involve the law enforcement agents to force the father of your daughter to take responsibility. Please, do not give up your angel (daughter) for adoption.Do that and it will hurt you for the rest of your life and probably kill you.Your enemy is not your daughter but poverty.Let the woman if she truly wants to help give you money to get an accommodation and start up a business.Give out poverty and not your daughter |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by dannywest: 4:52am On Aug 17, 2020 |
A lot of times children get mistreated by those who adopt them. What do you do? What can you do to be able to take better care of your daughter? You've made a selfless and not bad decision to give to to someone who you feel can take better care of her but I believe you'd be able to do it too if you get yourself out of your mind. What can you buy and sell? What can you make and sell? Do you enjoy reading can you complete your education? What are you good at that you can improve on? Even if you give your daughter away you should work on yourself so in a few years you can be that person who'd be able to give her all she wants. Mizflo: |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by colonytech: 4:56am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Your command of English is very good or someone with a very ow formal education, all the same if your girl child stays with you she will not be safe and you cannot give her the best she deserve given her up to a good family i think is the best option for you. The Choice is yours to make. |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by tammie24: 4:59am On Aug 17, 2020 |
unclemaths:Don't judge her I believe you have never walked in her shoes |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by lordlugards: 5:04am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Mizflo:The fact that you started like your mum does not mean you will end like her, I feel your pain when you said Jesus abandoned you. Sweetie God will never abandon his Own, he still care, just stick to the first comment advice he (God) will see you through. My prayers are with you and I believe, as a strong woman you are, you will come out victorious. |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by lanocfoods: 5:10am On Aug 17, 2020 |
loneprof:With what money, you talk like you don't know Nigeria police or legal system. I think you should give her up for adoption, that will give her a chance at having a better life so you can focus on redefining yourself. Good luck! |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by tammie24: 5:14am On Aug 17, 2020 |
We Nairalanders can extend a helping hand to this woman by contributing whatever we can to her and her daughter Also like some people suggested already Report the rapist of a man to the authorities and make him pay and take care of his daughter till she's 18 at least He should never be allowed to get away with it I just have a bad feeling about you giving aup your daughter for adoption Even though you have her best interest at heart You as her mother is the best person to take care of her Plus She will never forgive you |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by ABOVEDELAW: 5:18am On Aug 17, 2020 |
YOU SOUNDED RIGHT BUT SHE HAS TO TELL HERSELF THE TRUTH, IS THAT GUY REALLY HER BABY DADDY. THIS IS TO AVOID EMBARRASSMENT IF THE GUY INSISTS ON A DNA TEST. loneprof: |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by lanocfoods: 5:22am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Before anyone starts parting with their hard earned money is sourcing for the poster in any form the authenticity of the story should be verified on. |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by abdullahi45: 5:30am On Aug 17, 2020 |
listowell:Convince us chief |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by Mystic1(m): 5:30am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Mizflo:OP I have few questions to ask. 1. What have this madam promised to give you in return you give her your daughter while signing some papers. 2. Asides giving out your daughter, how else would you want to be helped? The only problem affecting you and your family is poverty, there’s no curse anywhere, don’t believe all what the religious minds have said here. You need an objective plan to escape poverty fast. |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by abdullahi45: 5:31am On Aug 17, 2020 |
lanocfoods:Sure. The credence of her situation must be validated.. |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by Mimimma: 5:31am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Where do you stay? I really want to help you |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by Mailthaddeus(m): 5:40am On Aug 17, 2020 |
PAGAN9JA:If u worship the God of ur ancestors, that's totally ur wahala. As for me, I worship the Almighty God and I am not ashamed to announce that He has been my helper and the source of everything I have. My this hatred for things concerning God? And it's not just a Nigerian thing, it's actually everywhere, people just wanna take out God from their existence, and I can't but help but cry for u guys. |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by raymondFirstborn(m): 5:41am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Mizflo:Don't put your daughter up for adoption. You need to do whatever you can ,to take care of your family. I have sent you a PM. |
| Re: I Want To Give My Daughter Up For Adoption by Viking007(m): 5:51am On Aug 17, 2020 |
Righteousness89:This is the problem I have with Nigerian Christians. She's looking for HELP!!! You're busy preaching some BS! If you can't offer her genuine help PLEASE FOR GOD SAKE SHUT UP! |
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