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please don't give up your child for adoption

[quote author=FrLukas post=92910533]Bro, if you can help settle her in Delta, we can raise transport money for her here to get to Delta.

Please PM her, she may not see your post.

God bless you.[/quot

She should get in touch. I don't know if she go even even like the idea...

BigIyanga:
How many hungry peeps have you fed today?

Get out suckers!!

Righteousness89:
I will be Very Frank with you!

Until the Root Cause of a Problem is Tackled, one might keep Going in Circles. And also using Basket to Fetch Water..

The Same Pattern of your Mum is Exactly what Happened to you.

Its time for you to treat that issue..

It does not look like what can be done by Power.

My Advice to you is to Seek For GENUIE Bible Believing Church. Go there, Surrender to JESUS Completely and Let HIM Work on you..

You need to be Soaked in God to Break Certain yokes and Patterns..

Once the Root Cause is Sorted, other things will Fall in Place..

For once you are making sense. This is true

Hello kindly contact me on 08063090387

If you live in Lagos call me let's sort this out!!!

Thanks everyone for advice and words of encouragement, thanks to everyone offering to help me with money to be honest I am not here asking for money like I said earlier I want to remain anonymously all I need is advice whether to give my baby away for adoption or not. I want to give her to this aunty because she is a good person she has helped me a lot in the past I know my baby will be in a good hand I can visit her anytime I want .
With the money I will receive from this aunty it will help me to rent a room start a business and pay my school fee because it’s one of my wishes to go back to school because giving her away will help me to pursue my dreams which I cannot do right now when she is with me I don’t want to
miss this great opportunity , one of my biggest worry is me dying and leaving her alone in this world with nobody to care for her the same way my mum left me in this world it wasn’t her wish to die because I was her everything and I don’t want my daughter to go through the same thing I went through even if I am not longer in this world if she is adopted at least she will have a roof and parents to take care of her .
I am doing this because I want nothing but the best for her.

Mizflo:
Please I need your advice. I had created this account because I am well known here with my main account because I am always active and I want to remain anonymously.

Am 21 a single mum with 1 girl age 5 , her dad rejected me when I was pregnant he left when I was 4 months pregnant with her .

I had a difficult time growing up , my mum died when I was 8 years and my dad denied me claiming my mum had cheated on him and there’s no way I could be his daughter.

My aunty who was supposed to care for me had never bothered about me , she was always out leaving me in the house all alone without food , whenever I complains she will beat me telling me to go to my mum graveyard to ask her for assistance.

I have suffered in the hand of my aunty she didn’t care about my education if I have managed to complete my primary school till jss2 was thanks to this aunty who was a teacher at my school and a good friend of my mum , she sponsored me , And when I was 14 my aunty landlord kicked her out of the house because of rent arrears she said I am the enemy of progress she cant take me to her boyfriend house because he won’t accept me to stay there that I should go and look for a place , I cried and pleaded with her to take me along with her but she refuse I beg her to show me where my dad is she said he will not accept me because he hated my mum but I beg her to take me to him .

She took me to him it was my first time seeing him I looked just like him with one eye big one small but he insulted the hell out of us saying he will never accept me because my mum was a cheater she had so many boyfriends that I should ask her who my real father is but my aunty insisted that my mum had told her before she passed on that he was my dad even taught I resembled him still he denied and kicked us out like we were dogs I cried and my aunty was angry because of the insult so she left me all alone in the street but later came to me .
Since that day my life situation has worsened because I was forced to stay with different people where I was being abused , my baby dad came as a guardian angel to my life he took care of everything i needed by promising me heaven on Earth I taught he will get me out of my hard situations but I was wrong i find out he was married with kids I was heartbroken because I didn’t want to live the same lifestyle as my mum had lived but history has repeated itself just like my mother had me with a married man but she knew he was married but me I didn’t know , but it was too late for me to moved on because I was already pregnant for him and I didn’t want to abort my baby I have decide to continue the relationship but when I was 4 months pregnant he left me and blocked me from all his contacts , this is the man that has never bothered to asked about his child for 5 years now..

My little girl dont even know her dad the same way I did not know mine until
I was 14 which break my heart anytime I think about it.

My daughter and I are staying with my madam the lady tat I serve her for now 3 years but things here hasn’t been easy for us because my madam children don’t like me they keep accusing of things I don’t do like I stole their money , clothes and many more before my madam was telling them to stop with their bad attitudes towards me but I have noticed that whenever they had accused me she start getting angry with me sometimes we can go days without her not talking to me which I think I have overstayed and I am not longer wanted here I want to leave this house and to go and hustle but I feared for my daughter because I don’t want her to end up like me.

If I leave this house we will be on the street for a long time till I will be able to get somewhere else to stay with her also I don’t think I can give her the best education because if she stay with me she will end up being a teen mother just like I did something I don’t want to happen to her and I came across someone who’s willing to help me by taking care of my daughter to give her the best life something that I have always wanted for her , she promised to take care of her till university and she will give me the money to rent a room and start up business she said she will take things to the right direction like adoption but I don’t know how she will do it because I have no idea that I will have to sign up papers for agreement i have agreed because I think is really a good opportunity for me even taught I have accepted but sometimes I am getting worried about giving her my daughter I am having sleepless nights and thinking all nights.

I am just tired of living this life I didn’t ask to be born my parents created me and now I am suffering from their mistakes something I didn’t consented and I don’t want my daughter to suffer because of my mistake I think giving her up for adoption is a good thing , but I don’t know if I am doing the right things.

please no insult what is your advice for me.

Thanks

Sent you a pm

benedictac:
You've just said it. I have one right now. She's 5+ though the father has given me a handwritten consent letter, I still want it legal. It's not easy after giving such a child all the best of education you can afford, only for the biological parent to come to claim their rights.

Lol. That happens a lot.
Get a lawyer who knows his/her onions to do the job.
Alongside, train the child to know you as a benefactor, guardian and parent. Some children grow up and start demanding for their parents without acknowledging the efforts expended on them by the adoptive parents.
I fact, I would advise that you just go ahead and adopt the
Child legally

I had created this account because I am well known here with my main account because I am always active and I want to remain anonymously.

If you were active on Nairaland, you should be able to cater for your daughter. Exchange/Subtitute the Nairaland time to be with her

Mizflo:
Thanks for the advice. I have lost faith in Jesus because if he was there I wouldn’t have been suffering like this . I don’t want to look for him because he has never care about me and I don’t want to know him

What a sad decision you made.

listowell:
Who is us? Go and carry her matter for head,Oga mi.

Okay. My pleasure.

Righteousness89:


I Have Given the Solution..

You can Keep touring up and down .. That's Human Nature! We are Naturally Stubborn.

When u are Through with touring the ends of the Earth, u will come back to JESUS . That is where The Solution lies....

If the Root of the Problem is not Sorted, Even the Helpers will give up..

Mr. Righteousness, do you know that Jesus did not preach love, he practised love, instead of preaching to this lady, why not, give her a helping hand, and then Introduce Jesus and see if she will not whole heartedly accept him

loneprof:
It is wrong to assert that she might have gotten pregnant out of the need to rescue herself from poverty, just because the man who impregnated her was a married man.

You excluded 2 vital factors in your reasoning:
1. That this girl was only a minor (21 yrs with a 5yr old means she was only 16!) when she was impregnated by the so called helper and
2. The man abused her under the guise of helping her, even if he fed and sheltered her, she was still abused because it was statutory rape (any form of sex with a minor under 18).
+3. Even if she deliberately got pregnant as a "wise and experienced 16 year old ADULT" just to escape poverty, does that negate the fact that someone was responsible for the pregnancy and should live up to his responsibility if the girl decides to keep the baby? What kind of man takes a 16yr old girl for abortion anyway?

Pregnancy is not something a man can simply opt out of just because he told her he didn't want it. If you have raw sex with a girl, you are asking for it, it's a simple natural process.

If she wants to keep her child, she should be given the opportunity to give her child motherly care instead of giving her up for adoption. With support, the girl will go places and very soon have good stories to tell.

Conclusion: Your comment portrays you as a very heartless human being. I am a man like you and I can't imagine what that poor girl must be going through. Grow some conscience in the way you think and judge.

We could argue endlessly about who's to blame given the girl's situation, unfortunately, I am not exactly cut out for stuff like that.

As a person, if after analyzing a situation, I find myself honestly incapable of taking responsibility, I simply table my requests without much noise. If the other party goes against my wish, no amount of threat or pain would move me to show compassion.

If that's what it means to be heartless, I am!

coldFLARES1:
We could argue endlessly about who's to blame given the girl's situation, unfortunately, I am not exactly cut out for stuff like that.

As a person, if after analyzing a situation, I find myself honestly incapable of taking responsibility, I simply table my requests without much noise. If the other party goes against my wish, no amount of threat or pain would move me to show compassion.

If that's what it means to be heartless, I am!

Thanks for confirming my assumptions.

I sent you an email please drop your number

Nuttella:
Hey, dont say that, everything happens for a reason, dont blame Jesus, you are the one that opened your small legs for your baby daddy, Jesus didnt tell you to.

He used him...don't be too judgemental
She was 16yrs what does she know?
Let ye without blemish cast a stone
She made her mistake and she admitted should she be crucified.
She has no mother in an important stage of growing don't you think it can also be a factor

kcbaba007:
Mr. Righteousness, do you know that Jesus did not preach love, he practised love, instead of preaching to this lady, why not, give her a helping hand, and then Introduce Jesus and see if she will not whole heartedly accept him

He preached and practiced love

femi4:
Did you remember Jesus when you spread your leg for sex.

sharap, talking nonsense as usual.

wirinet:
The one that would ask her to sow a seed and then fast and pray for 40 days in order to see a breakthrough.

Instead of churches to use church donations for helping poor and vulnerable members of society by providing free social services like education, health care and accommodation, they are too busy exploiting the same people.

you are right my dear

To who soever wrote this write up I on behave of RCCG FRIEND OF JESUS a charity organization under redeem Christian church of God we feel ur pain and u are not in it alone thank God for u speaking out but that is not enough find a way to come RCCG camp along Lagos Ibadan express road wen u get there ask from any security personnel to guide to FRIEND OF JESUS building inside the camp we are willing to assist u come with your child don't give up on Jesus he is the way. GOD BLESS YOU

kroger:
Dont give her out for adoption.. send me an email. Juniorsecond1@gmail.com.

Mizflo my boss Kroger doesn't joke...send him an Email now!!!

Mizflo:
Please I need your advice. I had created this account because I am well known here with my main account because I am always active and I want to remain anonymously.

Am 21 a single mum with 1 girl age 5 , her dad rejected me when I was pregnant he left when I was 4 months pregnant with her .

I had a difficult time growing up , my mum died when I was 8 years and my dad denied me claiming my mum had cheated on him and there’s no way I could be his daughter.

My aunty who was supposed to care for me had never bothered about me , she was always out leaving me in the house all alone without food , whenever I complains she will beat me telling me to go to my mum graveyard to ask her for assistance.

I have suffered in the hand of my aunty she didn’t care about my education if I have managed to complete my primary school till jss2 was thanks to this aunty who was a teacher at my school and a good friend of my mum , she sponsored me , And when I was 14 my aunty landlord kicked her out of the house because of rent arrears she said I am the enemy of progress she cant take me to her boyfriend house because he won’t accept me to stay there that I should go and look for a place , I cried and pleaded with her to take me along with her but she refuse I beg her to show me where my dad is she said he will not accept me because he hated my mum but I beg her to take me to him .

She took me to him it was my first time seeing him I looked just like him with one eye big one small but he insulted the hell out of us saying he will never accept me because my mum was a cheater she had so many boyfriends that I should ask her who my real father is but my aunty insisted that my mum had told her before she passed on that he was my dad even taught I resembled him still he denied and kicked us out like we were dogs I cried and my aunty was angry because of the insult so she left me all alone in the street but later came to me .
Since that day my life situation has worsened because I was forced to stay with different people where I was being abused , my baby dad came as a guardian angel to my life he took care of everything i needed by promising me heaven on Earth I taught he will get me out of my hard situations but I was wrong i find out he was married with kids I was heartbroken because I didn’t want to live the same lifestyle as my mum had lived but history has repeated itself just like my mother had me with a married man but she knew he was married but me I didn’t know , but it was too late for me to moved on because I was already pregnant for him and I didn’t want to abort my baby I have decide to continue the relationship but when I was 4 months pregnant he left me and blocked me from all his contacts , this is the man that has never bothered to asked about his child for 5 years now..

My little girl dont even know her dad the same way I did not know mine until
I was 14 which break my heart anytime I think about it.

My daughter and I are staying with my madam the lady tat I serve her for now 3 years but things here hasn’t been easy for us because my madam children don’t like me they keep accusing of things I don’t do like I stole their money , clothes and many more before my madam was telling them to stop with their bad attitudes towards me but I have noticed that whenever they had accused me she start getting angry with me sometimes we can go days without her not talking to me which I think I have overstayed and I am not longer wanted here I want to leave this house and to go and hustle but I feared for my daughter because I don’t want her to end up like me.

If I leave this house we will be on the street for a long time till I will be able to get somewhere else to stay with her also I don’t think I can give her the best education because if she stay with me she will end up being a teen mother just like I did something I don’t want to happen to her and I came across someone who’s willing to help me by taking care of my daughter to give her the best life something that I have always wanted for her , she promised to take care of her till university and she will give me the money to rent a room and start up business she said she will take things to the right direction like adoption but I don’t know how she will do it because I have no idea that I will have to sign up papers for agreement i have agreed because I think is really a good opportunity for me even taught I have accepted but sometimes I am getting worried about giving her my daughter I am having sleepless nights and thinking all nights.

I am just tired of living this life I didn’t ask to be born my parents created me and now I am suffering from their mistakes something I didn’t consented and I don’t want my daughter to suffer because of my mistake I think giving her up for adoption is a good thing , but I don’t know if I am doing the right things.

please no insult what is your advice for me.

Thanks

Do give your daughter up, you can still hustle and take care of your daughter. If you mind you can buzz me on whatsapp cos i don't have yours i would have call you 0817-61439-94

PAGAN9JA:
You mean CHURCH OF PEDOPHILES ?

No. CHURCH OF CHRIST

Saig:
No. CHURCH OF CHRIST

Same difference.

Lost faith in Jesus?
But you have faith in men/women (seeing you are asking for help/assistance here)?
A very sad existence, if you asked me.

I would love to assist you, but it's hard for me to assist you when you shun the Lord who was and has been my backbone since when I was widowed for over 15 (VERY tough) years.

Mizflo:
Thanks for the advice. I have lost faith in Jesus because if he was there I wouldn’t have been suffering like this . I don’t want to look for him because he has never care about me and I don’t want to know him

I wanted to advise OP till I read her response.... someone who can say those words...I think your problem starts from your comments...

You are in a very tough situation. One thing I have learnt in this world is that you should never judge the decision someone decides to make or judge them for doing certain things they did. Because you never know what you yourself will do if found in a similar situation. You can do exactly what she is doing or even worse.

Sister, I pray God guides you and your daugther in whatever path you have decided to take. May God in his mercies lead you and see you through in Jesus name, Amen.

AnonymousRebec:
You are in a very tough situation. One thing I have learnt in this world is that you should never judge the decision someone decides to make or judge them for doing certain things they did. Because you never know what you yourself will do if found in a similar situation. You can do exactly what she is doing or even worse.

Sister, I pray God guides you and your daugther in whatever path you have decided to take. May God in his mercies lead you and see you through in Jesus name, Amen.

Thank you so much for your advice

Please don’t give your daughter up to anyone for anytime, she saying she’ll set you up with money and all is her indirectly buying her from you. Trust nobody, you should have learnt that already.

May God guide you and show you mercy but please don’t let the girl away. She’s just 5

Mizflo:
Thanks everyone for advice and words of encouragement, thanks to everyone offering to help me with money to be honest I am not here asking for money like I said earlier I want to remain anonymously all I need is advice whether to give my baby away for adoption or not. I want to give her to this aunty because she is a good person she has helped me a lot in the past I know my baby will be in a good hand I can visit her anytime I want .
With the money I will receive from this aunty it will help me to rent a room start a business and pay my school fee because it’s one of my wishes to go back to school because giving her away will help me to pursue my dreams which I cannot do right now when she is with me I don’t want to
miss this great opportunity , one of my biggest worry is me dying and leaving her alone in this world with nobody to care for her the same way my mum left me in this world it wasn’t her wish to die because I was her everything and I don’t want my daughter to go through the same thing I went through even if I am not longer in this world if she is adopted at least she will have a roof and parents to take care of her .
I am doing this because I want nothing but the best for her.

So you're actually selling your daughter? O my God! Too bad!

Arobake:
Lost faith in Jesus?
But you have faith in men/women (seeing you are asking for help/assistance here)?
A very sad existence, if you asked me.

I would love to assist you, but it's hard for me to assist you when you shun the Lord who was and has been my backbone since when I was widowed for over 15 (VERY tough) years.

This your comment doesn't sound Christ-like. Are you sure you're Christian or a pastor follower?

FAT17:
To who soever wrote this write up I on behave of RCCG FRIEND OF JESUS a charity organization under redeem Christian church of God we feel ur pain and u are not in it alone thank God for u speaking out but that is not enough find a way to come RCCG camp along Lagos Ibadan express road wen u get there ask from any security personnel to guide to FRIEND OF JESUS building inside the camp we are willing to assist u come with your child don't give up on Jesus he is the way. GOD BLESS YOU

Please can I chop kiss?