abbey621:
In any situation you find yourself in life, always think about the worst case scenario. In relationships the one that has the most to lose usually hurts the most. Love is the key but peace is the goal, if the person you're with does not give you peace then he or she ain't worth it!

Ask yourself before you commit to anyone, WHAT IS THE WORST THAT CAN HAPPEN?

1. He/she leaves you?
2. He or she cheats on you?
3. He or she bankrupts you?
4. He or she kills you?

Once you have these scenario locked down and you envision what you can do to protect yourself against all or some of it, then you're golden! How do you do this?

1. While dating, look out for signs of rage, signs of not being content and signs of greed.
2. Check out family history, someone without a good upbringing or fear of papa or mama cannot make a good spouse.
3. Ensure there is a belief in God
4.If you do decide to marry, make sure you don't put all your hopes in him or her. Financially always have a Plan B, if you have kids make sure to get a DNA test done. When you marry, try to have children as quickly as possible, this often humbles people and erases doubts.

FINALLY, accEpt that NOTHING IS GUARANTEED IN LIFE except for DEATH, so if he or she leaves you, ACCEPT YOUR FATE & ON TO THE NEXT ONE

pythondance2020:
Just before any relationship comes to an end, there are certain sure signs we begin to notice that the love is completely dead and there is nothing to hang on to anymore. This is a thread to help those in such relationships that are on the brink of collapse to have an idea so that they can brace themselves for life ahead.

Mine was within the first few months of my marriage, my wife suddenly became obstinate and started going to her parents house whenever we had an argument and would never call back till I called her to please come back and soon after she announced her plans to migrate to another country for good on one of those her return visits from her parents house.
At this point I realized I was alone and had to start planning my life ahead without her.

Please tell your experience, it may not necessarily be someone you were married to, any form of relationship would still fit in.
It could be an ex boyfriend/girlfriend, fiancee etc

UyaiIncomparabl:


Says me.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
90% of the arrangee marriages work out just fine.

spiceadole:


True..Not all these 3 years + relationship filled with premarital sex,unwanted pregnancy, abortions ,guilt ,heart break and premium tears.

SirMichael1:
Where in the bible did it say a man should love his wife more?

UyaiIncomparabl:


Nope.

CanadaOrBust:


Which begs an obvious question. Bet u know what it is

staymore:
When she decided to sneak into my chat was when the trouble started and right from then her love has dropped beyond 50%

We were watching Black Panther on my phone one night and I slept off, when she noticed I was far gone asleep she opened my whatsapp nd messenger and read my messages.

The one that got her badly was the one a girl was confessing that she has never had it the way I gave it to her the previous day, that the f**k was "hot and sweet", my lovely wife started saying everything in this world to me.

I couldn't even say a word, she cried and I just closed my eyes pretending I was sleeping.

Since then, hmmm! Its four months now and it has not been as it used to even as I have repented.

UyaiIncomparabl:


What is it? I am curious, please.

UyaiIncomparabl:

Klass99:
My classmate's story when we were @ University. I'll call her Nengi because she was just as hot as the BBN housemate (if not hotter sef)

Nengi was dating a working class guy off campus and would often visit him at his crib, she had some of her stuff at his place as well. She visited one weekend and all her stuff were gone (clothing, toiletries, etc) When she asked where her things were, dude said his crib had been broken into and the thieves made away with her things.

Thieves broke in but somehow only her things were missing! This was the first sign that things weren't right but none of us saw, what was to come. Mike did a 360 degree turn afterwards and started dating one of Nengi's close friends and eventually married her. I don't think they did proper marriage rites cos Nengi's friend got pregnant and moved in with Mike (not his real name) I hear they are still living as man and wife, several years later.

Nengi was devastated because she truly loved Mike and wasn't playing games on him, she also had a good character as far as, I could tell. So, I didn't understand the switch he made either. The shocker for me was the friend he went for. Adams Oshiomole will best describe the girl he ended up with.

Mike had proposed to Nengi prior to all this drama and if I remember correctly, he had gone to see her parents about his intentions. Some people say jazz was involved. I didn't know what to think back then or even now, except, fear men

pythondance2020:
Just before any relationship comes to an end, there are certain sure signs we begin to notice that the love is completely dead and there is nothing to hang on to anymore. This is a thread to help those in such relationships that are on the brink of collapse to have an idea so that they can brace themselves for life ahead.

Mine was within the first few months of my marriage, my wife suddenly became obstinate and started going to her parents house whenever we had an argument and would never call back till I called her to please come back and soon after she announced her plans to migrate to another country for good on one of those her return visits from her parents house.
At this point I realized I was alone and had to start planning my life ahead without her.

Please tell your experience, it may not necessarily be someone you were married to, any form of relationship would still fit in.
It could be an ex boyfriend/girlfriend, fiancee etc

Mufa:
Wen I noticed that she stopped reaching out to me
Pesin wy b sy she no fit go one day Mk she call,e come turn to after 3 or 4 days b4 I sabi Wetin dy happen e turn 1 week,na onli me come dy do d callin
So I call am one day nd she gv excuse sy she gt mood swing so she no feel like to talk to pple,na dat day I grap wetin dy shele me sf no kuku call am again and Naso we part ways

RAGGA40:
Never being in a relationship, i see love as scam, but if jah give me a reasonable woman to love i will love her very much but with sense/logic reasoning.

folake4u:



Hmm, it is well. All these scares one from entering a relationship or marriage cos everyone is "wilding" these days.

Slimsly100:
Omo! Na shock I shock the guy Las Las. I had been heartbroken before and I almost died(my mum and friend were my godsent) so I didn't want to experience such again. Though I loved the new guy and we dated for almost four years. But in the third year he started to jonce, I approached him severally and he boldly told me he had 3women in his life and each had his purpose. When I ask what my purpose was, he gave me the silent treatment. After thinking about how he had been disrespectful to me and so many things, I pulled myself together and moved on without even telling him.
The next thing he heard was that I was getting married

UyaiIncomparabl:


Yea, your fellow male folks, since patriarchy runs in your bloods.

staymore:


No be small Bleep up o. You seem to be a master at the game. However, after the incident each time I come home my 4yr daughter will tell me that mummy was praying that nobody can take me her husband from her.

I think she allocates more blame to the girl than me.
Mind you, I have repented.

Pearly255:
I really don’t know cos he has always cheated and so much more....


The motherf***er nah NEPA on and off.
I realized I deserved better then I Quietly walked away. Ended up paying bills all alone for 5years now with our lil girl. It’s hurt badly taking care of her all by myself without a penny from him. Got to move on. Irony of life!! Shit happens!!!!

She’s my universe no absolute regret
For my daughter’s sake I forgive him because love is forgiveness and sacrifice.

Beckham14:
I see it as stupidity...No need for the attitude or pretence. Just say you don't want anymore, it's really that simple.

RAGGA40:
Never being in a relationship, i see love as scam, but if jah give me a reasonable woman to love i will love her very much but with sense/logic reasoning.

Klass99:


What choice do any of us have in such a situation, except to move on? You wan kill the betrayers before?

Nengi is married now with kids of her own, but she told me years later that, that was her first and last heartbreak ever. She was the one breaking hearts afterwards.

As for Adams Oshiomole's lookalike and her cookies, I won't completely rule out jazz like others said. I wasn't exaggerating when I said she looks like Adams, she has his stature (short and masculine) with a slightly better looking face than Adams though.

What would make a man in his right thinking mind to give up a Nengi for Adams, if not jazz?

lastchild:
mind blowing sex can do that

pocohantas:

[s]I stopped bothering a long time ago. Even when they say “let’s just be friends”, I tell them not to worry. I have this friend and many guys still find it strange that we didn’t knack. Ironically, he is one person that I can move the world for. We started as friends and we remained that. You mustn’t muddle up everything with one fcked up love. Know people for christ sake![/s]

saucecode:

Just say dat u & MISSCONGENIALITY prefer to have male friends u can be billing & getting free car rides frm without having sex wit dem. Wat else do u nigerian females use male friends for, is it football u ppl want to discuss wit him abi politics or where to buy female jeans and cream?

Mbok make una leave story for village tortoise

MISSCONGENIALITY:

[s]I've never billed a male friend and I don't intend to. Billing a guy has never been my thing. Stop thinking like a dickhead baby boy. You have the mentality of all those little boys that go bragging blhow they recharge btheir babe's phone which is something friends do for friends be it male of female. You need to make genuine frineds who really care about you cos you will never understand what friendship is with this your childish Brian.[/s]