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Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by DPricey1(f): 6:55pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Hosting is not an easy task. Shopping Cooking Serving Cleaning. With a toddler running around (you said she was pregnant 18 months ago). She did this before and know the pains she went through, it's fine if she doesn't want to do it again. Since you can't afford a caterer now, get snacks and drinks. There's always a 1st time. Don't compare your wife to other people's, you're not in their homes to see how they run things. Laslas, don't allow a group created to solve problems now bring Problems in your home. Peace 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by joyandfaith: 6:58pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
GoodFaith:foolish talk from a foolish person |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by GoodFaith: 6:59pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by na2016: 6:59pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
OP: Must you host? Are there no other men that can do the hosting? I thought you hosted not long ago? Learn to reject somethings, who told you that members of that your group donot know that times are hard? Protect your wife and family and do well to reject unneccessary responsibilities. Of what use is this get together in this hard time in Nigeria? Get sense bro, dont creat problem in your family over some men who doesnt give a fvck about you. |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by GoodFaith: 7:01pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
joyandfaith:Dumb ass bitch Whom is fool? I guess it's your dumb ass Go suck on a D bitch no common sense Talking from your ass Please use ur head |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Jewelbaby01(f): 7:02pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
First off, you're heartless for allowing your 5 months old wife go through the stress of preparing food for this number of persons. Secondly, where are the wives of those other men? Those 19 wives including your wife should be the cooks. How can you tell your wife to do the cooking? Please respect her decision, you married her, you didn't buy her. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by GoodFaith: 7:02pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
DPricey1:Nothing in life is "easy task". but we deal with it |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Sarah20A(f): 7:04pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
LadySarah:Nigerian wives are suffering on a daily basis |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Laboni: 7:04pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
SirMichael1:See the Pussy niggar wey boys wan help. If you like accept it, but your wife is simply being rebellious and once she get away with this, be ready to deal with other rebellious attitude. By the way, everyone knows this covid period is biting economically, why are they bent on hosting meeting this period? ... Why can’t theh halt the meeting till next year when things gets back to normal? .... Man up and tell them covid makes things tough economically and it’s affecting you hence, you can’t host the meeting for now and suggest it’s shifted to next year when things return to normal. If they refused, then you pull out of the meeting, you won’t go to hell and heaven won’t fall. Don’t loose your family because of meeting group while your fellow members keep theirs unless they will contribute or bring foods individually... In all, stand up to your wife and stand up to your meeting people. Summarily, get some balls and be a man. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by NwaIgboBoy(m): 7:05pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
send me her number let me speak with her to know why..... I'm a love doctor. |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Nobody: 7:07pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Stop marrying Nigerian women. They are useless |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Sarah20A(f): 7:07pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
SirMichael1:who will do the serving and the cleaning? |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by ThierryJay: 7:07pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
O ga gan o. To the people saying he should go and bring his sisters and relatives to do the cooking, shey those ones do not have their own families too ni? or when the husband now channels more of his resources to his siblings, the wife would then remember that they are third-parties and that she should be the first port of call. I'm a young comfortable guy that grew up in a well-knit home. There should be absolutely no issue for a couple hosting the church people in their home for an event that happens once in TWO years, especially when the tasks will be equally shared between the husband and wife. Even as bachelors, we know how we rally around to organize parties that happen more frequently with friends, let alone that of a couple. So to those who are forming you want to kill your wife, get a caterer, etc I pity your attempt at pseudo-wokeness. If we dig deeper, most of you'll likely be from dysfunctional families. You lack the practical understanding of the workings of a functional marriage. Marriage also entails learning to interact with your social network in church, place of work, community. A communal social relationship is part of responsible living and if you should understand that it will be anti-social behavior to decline a tradition of hosting a social group that holds once in 2 years simply on the whims of inconvenience, provided there is no deeper underlying issue between the husband and the wife. At the office, if for example you know your client meeting holds every year. You cannot just tell your boss when the meeting is near that you don't want to be involved in the preparation for the meeting simply because it's too stressful and that if your boss insists it'll be tantamount to trampling on your human rights. You'd be out of job in a jiffy. All the excuses of she may be too stressed, it's not easy cooking for 20 people, don't you have money, hold absolutely no water when the husband has already suggested several alternative ways to alleviate the burden on the wife. It just appears that she is simply recalcitrant. I have no problem with someone being a feminist o. But at least do it with brain. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Samadict(f): 7:07pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
We all have areas of strengths and weaknesses. Your wife might not be the kitchen type. As odd as it might sound, some women dread cooking while some enjoy it. If she insists, get someone you can tip for the job (not necessarily a professional caterer). Abi make I come cook am ni? She'll come around 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by GoodFaith: 7:07pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Sarah20A:Really Nigerian are suffering on a daily basis not just women men too Can you believe cooking is now a federal case |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by soundlala: 7:08pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
wany:see this one b forming superwoman online. |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by sharpwriter(m): 7:10pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
UyaiIncomparabl: Dear, he may not be trolling. In one church I attended while in Ibadan (a RCCG Church), it's the same pattern. In fact, I was initially tempted to ask him if he resides in Ibadan. It was the first of its kind I will see in RCCG. Unless OP took up someone else's story to come troll for here. |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by airoport: 7:10pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
SmileDance:In a nutshell, I just tire , feel stressed sef reading the whole story! Me, I no kuku get power for this kine stress sef. Little advice, beg madam well, well that she should help out for the last time for you to save face. Get one agoyin woman to do the shopping cooking and clean up. The church woman can help out with the serving and all. Madam will just supervise. Let's know how it pans out. |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by sharpwriter(m): 7:11pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
SmileDance: Na Ibadan you dey abi? |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by GoodFaith: 7:12pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
There are lot of sorry ass ladies here or there are lot of young ladies here that need to grow up |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by ebby9z(m): 7:12pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
This is where the problem is from. Trying to avoid being seeing as a "dictator." One thing I've learnt about women is that once you give them a metre, they'll take a mile. There's absolutely nothing wrong in hosting your friends or church members. Men have been hosting other men in their homes since the beginning of time. You even pounded for 20 people the previous time while she just made the soup. How much considerate could you be? It's a shame on your household if a hosting fails because the wife refused to partake in the cooking. It's no longer you hosting your church members, it's your family hosting your church members and you all are supposed to be involved. Too much wokeness is what I see here. You trying to be the "perfect gentlemanly husband." God knows I can never be in this predicament. It's a bluepillers problem. SirMichael1: 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Sarah20A(f): 7:13pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
SirMichael1:I'm not wishing you bad but na small small e take dey start. Think with your brain not religion You might not know how stressful cooking for over 20 people is so please try to understand and respect her feelings |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Nauttyprof(m): 7:14pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Reading through the comments of most ladies, I weep for many marriages. Now, I understand why many marriages don't last. It's really sad how we got to this stage. |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by GoodFaith: 7:15pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Samadict: You have some sense Not some of the ladies that are talking trash |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by RealisticGirl(f): 7:16pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Oga, na only food una dey chop for that una church? Please don't allow your wife to go through that stress, what about your family, members maybe your sisters or sister in-law. They can help you with the cooking. Your wife might actually have her reason of not helping out this time around. |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by baby124: 7:16pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Your friends need to contribute for the monthly meetings. Especially in this Covid time so that you people can hire caterers for your meetings. |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Nobody: 7:17pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
You can decline to host in the meantime till you are buoyant enough to hire a caterer. in the meantime do not use this to cause a rift in your home. she has the right to decline to cook for such events as it is major stress. she is your wife first and foremost and not a caterer. it is also possible she is just not in the mood to host now or she is pissed about something. Sort out the cooking and sort her out l8r. Thats how I will handle it though. SirMichael1: |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Sarah20A(f): 7:17pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
GoodFaith:he should simply do the cooking himself or hire a caterer |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by GoodFaith: 7:18pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
RealisticGirl: The man go to other people house to eat Lot of people lack wisdom here Guess lot of the people are likely young with no life experience 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by joyandfaith: 7:18pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
GoodFaith:smelling goat |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by GoodFaith: 7:19pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Sarah20A:The man don't have a wife I have ask him to reach out to me 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by GoodFaith: 7:21pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
joyandfaith:Get a life bitch smelling dog Take a shower fool Please use your head not your pussy |
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