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Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Saintmary(f): 5:58pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
SirMichael1:How to get her to do it? Why don't you put a rope on her neck? Can't you buy snacks? You knew it would be your turn to host for a year and you were planning to use your glorified housemaid right? I don't know why women rush to marry you people. What's your benefit? Nonsense! 16 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by SirMichael1: 6:10pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Saintmary:Don't take your fustration out on me. If you spent few more seconds reading, maybe you'll come across the section that reads, "i'll help her make the swallow. She only has to make the soup even with the help of a helper" Stop quoting me like your fingers are not attached to your brains. If you're from a broken home, do not allow it influence your thought pattern. Is making soup now difficult for a woman. You're the reason men don't see good women to marry anymore. 65 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by SirMichael1: 6:12pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Please advice me and not insult me. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 6:14pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
SirMichael1: Michael, if I slap you, you go turn the other face give me make I slap extra. When did you marry, tell me? Enjoy your cruise. |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by bukatyne(f): 6:38pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Righteousness89: The posts on the thread so far are even funnier. Let me keep reading. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by bukatyne(f): 6:40pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
mariahAngel: I have been laughing since. Finally. 7 Likes |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by bukatyne(f): 6:48pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
A wife has to be 'begged' to host 20 men in the church once in two years? Is it 'slavery' for a wife to host her husband's guests? A husband willing to make the swallow and get someone to help? The husband who knows the way the rotation works should tell his men group to shift it (because his wife would not cook)? People are throwing protection and love around; what about love, submission, nurturing!? If clearing the sink is the problem, she cannot cook, serve and tell husbandman he will clear the sink himself since they are his people in jest? Hmmmmmm! @OP: Nice tradition your church has got. Trolling or not, the comments are appalling. 55 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Benbisco(f): 6:53pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
mariahAngel: As in eh, I don't understand! I will so do it with like two single ladies in church, give them enough takeaway and remain some in my freezer. #No cooking @ home for the next couple of days. Maybe the woman is just tired. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by SirMichael1: 7:13pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
bukatyne:Trust me, i wished i was trolling but i'm not. Really i have never brought my marital issues to nairaland and frankly, this has got to be the first and last time i will. This is just the second time we'll be hosting them and the last time they came, they complimented her cooking skills. Not to forget, i did the pounding of yams for over 20 persons the last time, so she only made the soup. I don't know why people will term cooking of soup a housemaid thing. I'm just peturbed over how many reason here. 19 Likes |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by jenifer007: 7:15pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Must they come home before you can host them... You can actually host them in church and get them snacks and drinks and if it is a must for them to come to your home,it is better you get a caterer to solve this problem. From your narrative your wife's mind is made up...I believe you can still find a caterer that will charge you between 8-10k . I am sure she didn't like her last experience...she just did it to please you but this time around you also have to please her. Understanding in marriage solves a lots of problem 9 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Liftmaster: 7:30pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
SirMichael1: It is up to you decline to host in your house this time around. Like I said before, Heavens will not fall if you decline. It's clear to me that what is primarily holding you back from declining is a bid to "save face" in front of your Church members, ergo, ego! Why do you care about what other people think of you even to the extent of prioritizing this over your wife's feelings/happiness? This is a trivial matter. Swallow your pride and move on! Do not let your pride put a wedge between you and your wife. She is already obviously not happy about something. You need to fix that first and forget about what people are saying 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by tabithababy(f): 7:41pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
SirMichael1:. Get snacks and drinks ... Safest option for now... Time is short. Or is it a must the meeting menu must be swallow |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Nobody: 7:47pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Those people commenting are sounding a bit anti church. There's great benefit in believers meeting and breaking bread together. Op no problem with that, continue with your meetings, just make your wife understand the importance and take decisions together 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by ThothHermes: 7:50pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Tadeknkeepcalm:First reasonable thing on this thread. All the females commenting are unmarried. No need to answer them. Time go reset all their brains. 30 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by frozen70(f): 7:52pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
SirMichael1: It's quite stressful cooking especially for crowd Shopping for the food items is a bigger stress Beg her to pick someone to shop with her and do the cooking But my question is,why the cooking, is the economy friendly with you guys in this hard times You guys should start providing the food by paying a caterer to do the cooking and supply to the house who is hosting the meeting By the time you guys can't afford it again, the cooking will come to an end Is it even necessary, or you guys just like partying under the canopy of church ? 5 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by SirMichael1: 7:57pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
frozen70:It's not partying. We start with praise and worship. We don't use any sound producing device. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Saintmary(f): 8:17pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
SirMichael1:Your good women are slaves, born to cook and satisfy your whims, Arrrrgh, I've got stuffs to concentrate on tonight so lemme save my energy for later. If you were half as smart as you think you are, you would have bought pie and Bigi for them at 8000 and still cut your costs. Set awon "use them hubbies". Your type of husbands squeeze the very life out of your wives till they start looking like your mummies before 40. Mtcheew. 7 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Walk(f): 8:18pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
SirMichael1:Really, you tried. Some women want to always do things at their comfort. To go out of their comfort has become a big deal. Tales of 21st century ladies. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Nobody: 8:35pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
CanadianNaija:You are a very wretched animal in human skin , I wonder how you got to live amongst people. An idiot advising OP , certainly you've got maggots in your head instead of a brain 17 Likes |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by mariahAngel(f): 8:38pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Saintmary: So, hosting your husband's guests is the new term for slavery? Wonders shall never cease 34 Likes |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Gavorche: 8:38pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
I read every comment on this thread and I am very disappointed with how most women reason.Sorry Mr Op but ur wife is being inconsiderate and unreasonable not to assist in the cooking since you are willing to participate actively In the process.To even make it more irritating she is preventing you from inviting help from your church members who will assist.haba for something that will be done just once in a year. Some posters are even suggesting you cancel or shift the meeting just to please your wife and be termed peace loving and family focused husband.Mr Op that will be the most stupid thing to do That why am even scared of getting married because I can't take one quarter of all this bullshit I will just divorce you the next day.Imagine ordinary to cook fa with helping hands com turn issue the thing dey even vex me a swear especially those feminist posters above that are just running their mouth without even considering the ops condition.seriously if this is how girls nowadays reason and think marriage no be by force o I remember growing up, my dad host this kind of meeting and my mom do the cooking with some of her friends and sometimes wives of Some of the members.My dad dont even know the location of kitchen talkless of helping in cooking( i think he considered it taboo)She never saw it as an issue intact we will be happy at home because there will be surplus food and drink at home My advise is still talk to her and make her understand her duty for the cooking.You(op) will be responsible for buying the food stuff or you can do it together,you make the swallow,she makes the soup,and after the guest departure you two do the cleanup together and with the invitation of helping hands it will be easier for everyone. If she still refuses you can now employ the service of caterers if you can afford it and if you can't u can explore other options like buying soft drinks and snacks.But you should make it clear to her that that you are not happy with her you too can revenge by declining some helps you render her or sacrifices you make for her so she will know how it pains.DONT just let it go make sure you express your displeasure by actions or at least words or both NEVER you postpone the meeting to please her or due to lack of options or lack of adequate plan.if she refuses make sure you feed your guest in your house with at least snacks and .soft drinks or better by caterers,this will make you the winner and she will be ashame of her sef 44 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by mariahAngel(f): 8:40pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
SirMichael1: Ignore the insults. You did absolutely nothing wrong to ask your wife for her support. 18 Likes |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Walk(f): 8:45pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Saintmary:Girls like you are the ones who make guys think a feministic approach to issues isn't worth it. You keep giving us bad names and all that. Clearly, you're not married. I can't count the times my husband has had to go out of his way to make sure i'm comfortable. You don't know that in marriage, it's a give and take situation? This get together holds once in every two years, not like she'll cook for the guest everyday. Just once and it's just soup. Should you get married with this idea, you'll crash out before you say jack. 61 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by Alexaonfleek: 10:01pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Op are your kids grown up or they're still small? Your kids, especially your daughter can assist you with the cooking stuffs if she's grown up. If they aren't,oh well..... But your wife is a bit inconsiderate na. Shebi it's just once in almost 2 years. Try to let her reason with you,you can discuss it inside bedroom. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by bukatyne(f): 10:04pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
Walk: 11 Likes |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by angelfallz(m): 10:29pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
SirMichael1: Your wife does not respect you. 10 Likes |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by GboyegaD(m): 10:46pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
SirMichael1: Oga, Stop salaye. Have a discussion with her to understand her concerns and address it. If she still refuses, pay the caterer and move on. |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by femi4: 10:55pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
SirMichael1:Pounding yam for 18-25 people? You are evil....you want to kill that woman. Go and get snacks or buy food from eatery for them 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by GboyegaD(m): 10:56pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
SirMichael1: If she isn't co-operating, please don't aggravate her by bringing people to do it. Just let her know you are getting a caterer to make things easy. That way, it is a win win situation. I still feel the issue is stemming from the last time you hosted. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by mariahAngel(f): 11:05pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
GboyegaD: This is just so sad. Would you say these if the reverse were the case? If a wife needed her husband's help on something he can easily render, and he refused and she comes here to complain, would you give her the same reply? What happened to our African values in respect to marriage? 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Won't Cook For Our Guests. Please Advise Me by OscarJaden(m): 11:10pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
SmileDance:I swer,this wan weak me oo... religion has curse harm more than good to some homes |
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