Mbdovey:
Marrying a Nigerian is good to me. My thought though

My dear, thats the best thing to do, must ladies that married foreigner are not finding it easy. Let you heart and head leads you

Mbdovey:
You mean they don't prefer marry Nigerian's single women who based there? But why?

Papers dear.

Tatashi:
I can never move to Canada or US and look for a Nigerian/African Man to marry. I dey crase? What happened to finding a God fearing Handsome Caucasian? How can you move to a developed well advanced country and search for a Nigerian man to marry... Men that are backward and misogynistic in nature. Go to America and see how Nigerian Men are slaughtering their hardworking wives esp Nurses. Pls if you want to live long as a woman you better run away from black men oh. There's this special type of jealousy they carry. God forbid

Smh. It’s hard to find a white guy who will be romantically attracted to a newly arrived Nigerian girl.

Ikjosh04:


Hmmmmm, you should be focus on a more herculean task which is to migrate to the countries you mentioned successfully than focusing on marriage.

For your question. A lady with good attributes and not parasitic in nature will be loveable and if you are loveable, you won't have problem getting suitors.

So focus on building or improving those attributes.

Lol, no b Nigerians again? LMAO... marriage is the ultimate for the average Nigerian

Mbdovey:
I don't know why most men keep saying marriage is not important. What happened when you're old? who will stand by you? Who will take care of you? We all need each other. In as much as marriage is not the ultimate, it's very important.

how many marriages last until both spouses are old?

why do wives outlive their husbands by 25 - 35 years on average even though the age gap between them is an average of 5 -10 years?

MARRIAGE IS THE BIGGEST SCAM IN HISTORY AND BE GUIDED PEOPLE!!!!

Kekereekun123:
Nigerian are getting married to each other and some other races. And yes there are a lot a single ladies and guys too. Over here dating apps or match making are your best bet. I have related with foreigners and Nigerian on dating apps and singles group. The younger Nigerian ladies seems to all have the same thing in common they want a financially stable guy ( typical Goldding trait from 9ja). if you tell foreign gals you just landed and still settling they wont stop talking to you, one came all the way to take me out with her car just to chill tho as a friend. If you tell a Nigerian lady that they would like stop talking to you and cant waste her fuel to come see you. Also the culture here is different unlike in Africa where different men will chase and toast you daily. majority of men here wont do that so woman has to make the move ( our 9ja sisters will say over my dead body). Some will marry, those married ones too some will divorce, some too will be single for a long time. In the West marriage and relationship is not a must. A man can lose his house, pay mortgage, child support and spousal support. many have turned gay or avoided marriage completely. it does not favour men. Everything marriage brings can be gotten while being unmarried. so why marry in the west men are last in the pyramid and have no say during divorce and custody.

Hierarchy of importance in the west

kids
Seniors/oldies
women
pets
wood/stone/plant



man

Pls recommend some good dating apps for me ....

lionlee216:


I don't have to, I'm married to one.

Thank you

Congrats bro.

There are exceptions, as in all cases. But u do know what I'm talking about.

Kekereekun123:
Nigerian are getting married to each other and some other races. And yes there are a lot a single ladies and guys too. Over here dating apps or match making are your best bet. I have related with foreigners and Nigerian on dating apps and singles group. The younger Nigerian ladies seems to all have the same thing in common they want a financially stable guy ( typical Goldding trait from 9ja). if you tell foreign gals you just landed and still settling they wont stop talking to you, one came all the way to take me out with her car just to chill tho as a friend. If you tell a Nigerian lady that they would like stop talking to you and cant waste her fuel to come see you. Also the culture here is different unlike in Africa where different men will chase and toast you daily. majority of men here wont do that so woman has to make the move ( our 9ja sisters will say over my dead body). Some will marry, those married ones too some will divorce, some too will be single for a long time. In the West marriage and relationship is not a must. A man can lose his house, pay mortgage, child support and spousal support. many have turned gay or avoided marriage completely. it does not favour men. Everything marriage brings can be gotten while being unmarried. so why marry in the west men are last in the pyramid and have no say during divorce and custody.

Hierarchy of importance in the west

kids
Seniors/oldies
women
pets
wood/stone/plant
man

Lol

sisipelebe:
It is because they don't want to date outside of their race. They want a Nigerian guy at all cost. Carribeans, Native Americans, Africa Americans are available, but no it's Nigerian. These guys from other race are even more romantic than our Nigerian men. I know the reasons why they don't want to test the waters.

Your first 2 sentences are probably right.

But saying Caribbeans and AA are romantic? ................................................

I laugh in patois.

sisipelebe:
They don't want to explore. Most of them are not good conversationist.

True.

Conversation when wooing or on a date with a Naija girl is so boring and annoying.

They are bad at it because they think showing they are tough, behaving condescendingly and not interested makes them attractive and be perceived as having high virtue.

And when corrected/given feedback, instead of accepting and correcting these behaviours, they would dismiss it in defiance and remonstrate that "if a guy does not like it, he is free to piss off".

Naija guys with options soon learn to piss off and go to where market is good and there is great customer care.

Crispels:


Smh. It’s hard to find a white guy who will be romantically attracted to a newly arrived Nigerian girl.

She can find.

It would just be a dreg of society who wants to taste novel stuff for his freaky needs.

Handsome, successful white guy? That one na like hoping to get 24 hours light in Sapele for 1 month straight.

omoyankee3:


Congrats bro.

There are exceptions, as in all cases. But u do know what I'm talking about.

Yes, the reason I emphasized on the educated ones. Most can be a pain in the ass

The weird thing about this thread is that 99% of the guys here are in their face-me-I-face-you sheds in Ojuelegba typing rubbish and thirsting for things they will never have(white girls). The 'socalled' few abroad are either in Vietnam or India or somewhere remote also bashing Nigerian girls. Shame many of our men have condescended to this level. Honestly, from Nairaland posts, I can tell many Nigerian men suffer from extreme inferiority complex. You will think that their mothers and sisters are whites! No matter what you do, black men will continue to be at the lowest rung of the ladder....You are still a 'black monkey' to the average white man, unfortunately! Feel so ashamed reading some of these comments. I wonder how most black men married to whites truly feel. Imagine lying down next to your prized 'oyibo prized' wife and all she thinks in her heart is see this 'black monkey'. What a sad and condescending way to live your life. You will never be enough unfortunately. I have heard this conversations from white women themselves, who are married to black men. Imagine being ashamed to introduce you to family and the public. Unfortunately, white people generally are known to be polite no matter the situation and can hide what they truly think.....Black men that are supposed to be at the forefront of preserving heritage are willing to trade it for a morsel of bread today, just to impress your fellow blacks and villages people. Very sad.....lots of lost heritage! Shame


Don't be pissed off... I just said the truth and nothing but it! And before you come for me, I am very established where I am, not interested at all in lowlifes, especially those Nigerians living in their rat holes 'abroad'!�
So glad ladies on nairaland ignore you people most times. Very few ladies here and lots of inferior men on nairaland

Gamesmart:


She can find.

It would just be a dreg of society who wants to taste novel stuff for his freaky needs.

Handsome, successful white guy? That one na like hoping to get 24 hours light in Sapele for 1 month straight.

Even from the posts we see here on nairaland. I put it to you that young naija girls abroad who do marry whites guys, do a much better job than the nigerian men who marry white ladies. Please google and check- it is mostly the Nigerian men that marry old, fat, worn out grannies. Hardly do you see such from the ladies...Hardly! Pls do your research. Nigerian men are more likely to marry 'dregs' of white society than the ladies...Peace out!

BTW, it is condescending to call anyone created by God a 'dreg of society'! God, I'm sorry for using that term!�

[quote author=sherylbakky post=93627847]The way we Africans carry marriage matter for head

And who tell you that other races don't?

Tatashi:
I can never move to Canada or US and look for a Nigerian/African Man to marry. I dey crase? What happened to finding a God fearing Handsome Caucasian? How can you move to a developed well advanced country and search for a Nigerian man to marry... Men that are backward and misogynistic in nature. Go to America and see how Nigerian Men are slaughtering their hardworking wives esp Nurses. Pls if you want to live long as a woman you better run away from black men oh. There's this special type of jealousy they carry. God forbid

good fearing white Where you wan see am. By the time he uses intimacy gadget to destroy your anus and pass you around his friends (swinging). U go soji

ziondaughter247:


Even from the posts we see here on nairaland. I put it to you that young naija girls abroad who do marry whites guys, do a much better job than the nigerian men who marry white ladies. Please google and check- it is mostly the Nigerian men that marry old, fat, worn out grannies. Hardly do you see such from the ladies...Hardly! Pls do your research. Nigerian men are more likely to marry 'dregs' of white society than the ladies...Peace out!

BTW, it is condescending to call anyone created by God a 'dreg of society'! God, I'm sorry for using that term!�

the expatriates in lagos are marrying and fucking younger girls here. Those ladies are typically of no substance, have no job except olosho. No Nigeria man with papers abroad marry fat old white women. Both sexed are hustling for papers

ziondaughter247:
The weird thing about this thread is that 99% of the guys here are in their face-me-I-face-you sheds in Ojuelegba typing rubbish and thirsting for things they will never have(white girls). The 'socalled' few abroad are either in Vietnam or India or somewhere remote also bashing Nigerian girls. Shame many of our men have condescended to this level. Honestly, from Nairaland posts, I can tell many Nigerian men suffer from extreme inferiority complex. You will think that their mothers and sisters are whites! No matter what you do, black men will continue to be at the lowest rung of the ladder....You are still a 'black monkey' to the average white man, unfortunately! Feel so ashamed reading some of these comments. I wonder how most black men married to whites truly feel. Imagine lying down next to your prized 'oyibo prized' wife and all she thinks in her heart is see this 'black monkey'. What a sad and condescending way to live your life. You will never be enough unfortunately. I have heard this conversations from white women themselves, who are married to black men. Imagine being ashamed to introduce you to family and the public. Unfortunately, white people generally are known to be polite no matter the situation and can hide what they truly think.....Black men that are supposed to be at the forefront of preserving heritage are willing to trade it for a morsel of bread today, just to impress your fellow blacks and villages people. Very sad.....lots of lost heritage! Shame


Don't be pissed off... I just said the truth and nothing but it! And before you come for me, I am very established where I am, not interested at all in lowlifes, especially those Nigerians living in their rat holes 'abroad'!�
So glad ladies on nairaland ignore you people most times. Very few ladies here and lots of inferior men on nairaland

i'm in Canada along with many of the people who commented. Stop consoling your self lol

PerseDew:
I think Nigerians (esp ladies) abroad have a phobia for other races. I am not judging their fears especially when it's legit like not bathing, quitting marriage without notice, kids from such union may suffer from identity issues or you are just not attracted to other races but the ones that think they will disappoint their family or fear to be gossiped about in their circle abroad and be tagged as someone that is just chasing papers should think well if they meet someone that likes them and they like the person back plus he seems to be well grounded, takes his bath daily and it seems both of you can work on having children that embrace their biracial identities.


I say this because I think it looks some type of way when you keep looking for a Nigerian (some even travel to Nigeria/village) to marry without any good reason when the possiblity of your kids (that you will still raise in the abroad esp in countries with few africans) to marry someone they love from another race is really high and then you probably settled for someone that is not so into you or you don't really like but still married because he/she is Nigerian.

they are scared because they know it is only Naija men that can take their cr a z y drama - the things naija girls do to naija men - if they try it with other races - they fear they may be s ho t

Petyprincess:

Like seriously, even mod pushed this rubbish to front-page to promote bashing of Nigerian women from frustrated guys.

They masturbate on any topic that bashes Nigerian women but will lick a white old granny ass for green card,these men can't tolerate shit from Africa American women,they will lick their ass to get a green card while bashing Nigerian women.

Most of these guys are not sincere,some are suffering to keep their status while be deceiving gullible supposed "fans" and "asslickers" on nairaland at the same time bashing Nigerian women. Even fresh immigrants will start shouting "a white lady picked me up,payed my bills,etc

Believe these people at your risk!

It's vice versa as I have seen our Nigerian sisters abroad with old white men with wrinkled skin and it got me wondering. Most fine young white boys don't really date black women, they date women of the same race as them or asian women. I have actually seen a lot of hot white women with black boys

Gamesmart:


Your first 2 sentences are probably right.

But saying Caribbeans and AA are romantic? ................................................

I laugh in patois.

LoL. The educated onces are.

vhuqnl:

What has his root done for him? Why attack him? You this local champion

Shut up, stop barking and take your medication. Local thug.

You will cry a river when you are banned again, Loser!

topemama1:


It's vice versa as I have seen our Nigerian sisters abroad with old white men with wrinkled skin and it got me wondering. Most fine young white boys don't really date black women, they date women of the same race as them or asian women. I have actually seen a lot of hot white women with black boys

Most fine white boys don't find black women attractive, but few of them do. They prefer Latina, Asia or their own people. But white girls date black guys big time and the reason is because black men knows how to drill.

sisipelebe:
I am not a resident now.

it does not matter.as long as u overseas anybody desperate to check out will make a hit on u

lefulefu2:
if he is doing well for himself he wouldnt need to hustle for an old foreign woman.Its like tell me a nigerian who is a practicing medical doctor in canada will now be hustling for one old granny to marry cos of papers.wont make sense.the ones who run after oyibo grannies are mostly the street hustlers and wen i say street hustler u know what i mean.

lol ! I know a Canadian Nigerian who is a residence doctor in the USA, he is looking for anybody to marry, young or old to get the paper quickly. He renew his papers to work in America at Canada-America border..

For him to get his stay in America, he has to work for a hospital for 4-5 years with a yearly pay of $40,000..

To him, he sees the pay very low, also,he feels he can't wait that long..

Mbdovey:
You mean they don't prefer marry Nigerian's single women who based there? But why?

Don't mind that guy. He is not saying the truth. I studied in Canada so many years ago and there were couple of Nigerians in the university and community. Based on my observation, virtually all, including myself got married to spouses we brought along from Nigeria. I am not sure about those who were undergraduate students there then. Obviously marriage wasn't important for those at that stage of their lives. From medical doctors to professors, and other professionals among us, all got married to Nigerians "imported" from Nija. Except for a friend from the East, all the other couples were long term partners. In fact, a doctor and his spouse were flower-boy and flower-girl at a (Nigerian) marriage of a older relative long time before got married. For the pal from the East, I learn he brought his wife who was more or less a stranger since she was sourced out for him by his people. Times have changed and am not sure, if the same go among these crop of Nigerians. However, understand that this scenario apply to those Nigerians who were already legal residents of Canada after studying there.

lefulefu2:
it does not matter.as long as u overseas anybody desperate to check out will make a hit on u

Definitely!

ziondaughter247:
The weird thing about this thread is that 99% of the guys here are in their face-me-I-face-you sheds in Ojuelegba typing rubbish and thirsting for things they will never have(white girls). The 'socalled' few abroad are either in Vietnam or India or somewhere remote also bashing Nigerian girls. Shame many of our men have condescended to this level. Honestly, from Nairaland posts, I can tell many Nigerian men suffer from extreme inferiority complex. You will think that their mothers and sisters are whites! No matter what you do, black men will continue to be at the lowest rung of the ladder....You are still a 'black monkey' to the average white man, unfortunately! Feel so ashamed reading some of these comments. I wonder how most black men married to whites truly feel. Imagine lying down next to your prized 'oyibo prized' wife and all she thinks in her heart is see this 'black monkey'. What a sad and condescending way to live your life. You will never be enough unfortunately. I have heard this conversations from white women themselves, who are married to black men. Imagine being ashamed to introduce you to family and the public. Unfortunately, white people generally are known to be polite no matter the situation and can hide what they truly think.....Black men that are supposed to be at the forefront of preserving heritage are willing to trade it for a morsel of bread today, just to impress your fellow blacks and villages people. Very sad.....lots of lost heritage! Shame


Don't be pissed off... I just said the truth and nothing but it! And before you come for me, I am very established where I am, not interested at all in lowlifes, especially those Nigerians living in their rat holes 'abroad'!�
So glad ladies on nairaland ignore you people most times. Very few ladies here and lots of inferior men on nairaland

Pointless post. You can do better girl. Put your thoughts together coherently and post something more intelligent.

Warm regards

Mbdovey:
I didn't say kids. At old age, your partner will still be with you. Having a gist mate, a companion, a friend who loves you in old age is beautiful. Let's stop hyping lonely life as if it's preferable.

So if your husband should die, what would you do. Kill yourself?