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Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by OlawaleBammie: 7:07pm On Sep 19, 2020
SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family


God forgives me bro..



But if I were u even God knows that that is what I would do.

I can't respect a parent who didn't care about me while growing up. Never!!!


Oga, it would be better if u don't let them know Ur ous o, so DAT they won't go and park them family people come dey beg u.

And pls don't even plan to take any of their children into Ur ous.

Just live Ur life jejely and enjoy Ur sef.

WEN THEY GROW OLD VERY WELL AND DIE, DO THEIR BURIAL IN AN ELABORATE AND GIGANTIC WAY JUST LIKE NIGERIA DID YARADUA OWN.


TO ME THAT IS THE ONLY THIN U OWE DEM.

bleep nonsense

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Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by Clonepops(m): 7:07pm On Sep 19, 2020
benjida:

His parents are pure evil. A 2 year old child for crying out loud!!!

Like and some people are trying to say some bullshitty.. Forgiveness.

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Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by UDUJ(m): 7:07pm On Sep 19, 2020
Timekeeper:



Not like parents sir.... He can forgive them but will not get close to them... It is possible.


Gracia Master.... U av done so good... Thanks

Hello bro happy weekend.

Not in this case, like someone wrote earlier from the parents actions they lost all those rights and now the dad is just a sperm donor and the mum an incubator. I am a christian but in this case, nah those parents are not worth it.

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Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by emerged01(m): 7:07pm On Sep 19, 2020
Op,the other children of your mother and your father are your siblings,pls help them out if they need your help. About your parent,I don’t have anything to say,but take your time to consider your stand, and do what you think please God.
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by benjida: 7:08pm On Sep 19, 2020
Clonepops:

Don't you dare emotionally manipulate this guy.. They deserve nothing from him
Absolutely! These people are wicked and unrepentant.

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Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by Clonepops(m): 7:08pm On Sep 19, 2020
OlawaleBammie:



God forgives me bro..



But if I were u even God knows that that is what I would do.

I can't respect a parent who didn't care about me while growing up. Never!!!


Oga, it would be better if u don't let them know Ur ous o, so DAT they won't go and park them family people come dey beg u.

And pls don't even plan to take any of their children into Ur ous.

Just live Ur life jejely and enjoy Ur sef.

WEN THEY GROW OLD VERY WELL AND DIE, DO THEIR BURIAL IN AN ELABORATE AND GIGANTIC WAY JUST LIKE NIGERIA DID YARADUA OWN.


TO ME THAT IS THE ONLY THIN U OWE DEM.

bleep nonsense

I swear down..people should stop trying to make people escape repercussions from their actions by forgiveness...

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Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by kingdavid09: 7:08pm On Sep 19, 2020
Forget about them
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by OBTOREPA(m): 7:08pm On Sep 19, 2020
Please try and help them,thank God for your life and what you've become.
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by Kemimarch16(f): 7:08pm On Sep 19, 2020
Honestly I understand what you are going through but just forgive and forget and assist them in the way that will not affect u,don't do anything that will affect u to them
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by bongo4real(m): 7:09pm On Sep 19, 2020
SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.

So sorry bro this life just dey somehow.

My own parents never contributed 1kobo to my growth, was raised by my auntie and since then it has been solo race.
I haven't seen my mom for 23 years now and I'm 30 years now.

All I can remember my dad ever did for me was abuse upon abuse. Lemme just continue because story long.

Brother getting married and starting your own family should be your concern now, your children deserve better and that process she start now.

Please reach out to me for more advice, thank God we survived the terrible time our so called parents made us pass through.

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Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by Ceazario: 7:09pm On Sep 19, 2020
The decision you have made is the best. Don’t go go back to them. They are gold diggers and toxic people.

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Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by Nauttyprof(m): 7:09pm On Sep 19, 2020
Here is my advice. Focus on your life and becoming the person you want to be. Give more thought to your progress as much as possible.

If you can, help in your little way to your parents. I know they abandoned you but any little you can assist with, do this but do not go the extra length for them. If you do, the same thing they did long ago they can repeat such when there is nothing to get from you.

Think so much about where you are getting to. Till you are very much comfortable, you can then think of helping others (beyond just your parents).

Your parents still remain your parents but don't go the extra mile for them. First focus on your life before them.
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by harmony75: 7:09pm On Sep 19, 2020
thank God for being there for you.. forgive them and do what your power can for them.. keep everything that concerns you to yourself secret.. pls for marriage marry someone that will give you peace to build a solid family!

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Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by Emyres: 7:09pm On Sep 19, 2020
This story is deep.

I will speak to you from my perspective as a Christian.

If I am you, as a Christian, I want to go to heaven. I will forgive them. For the fact that they gave birth to me, if I have the money, I will pay them off with say, 100k each, and plainly tell them that I don't want anything to do with them.

They don't own me any apology, and I don't own them anything. I will wish them well, but they are not my family.


Good luck to you.
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by omotoyossi(m): 7:10pm On Sep 19, 2020
Imagine the foolishness and selfishness of both parents. Wanting to reap what they didnt sow. Well, if you give any of them one kobo, you'd be d dumbest person ever
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by Clonepops(m): 7:10pm On Sep 19, 2020
Timekeeper:



Not like parents sir.... He can forgive them but will not get close to them... It is possible.


Gracia Master.... U av done so good... Thanks

Your take is trash.... Would you abandon your 2 year old child, if he had died... Would they have come back for him?? Don't you dare emotionally manipulate this guy.... Op.. If you forgive them and take on extra financial burden from very toxic people.. Op.. I swear to The almight God.. You will live to regret it.. Im talking from experience

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Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by AngelicBeing: 7:10pm On Sep 19, 2020
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Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by God1stson(m): 7:10pm On Sep 19, 2020
SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.
U will still help them but not now. Try to marry and raise ur own family now u've realized that ur are alone. When tdem hear say u don marry then no body will be expecting much from you. That way u will now look at them with love and find areas you can be of assistance now take them by surprise.it is not good to pay evil with evil but u've got to balance first.

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Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by kkins25(m): 7:11pm On Sep 19, 2020
Froshloaded:


I feel he should just forgive his parents and do what he can afford ..

BTW are you a christian?
Even if she were a christian, is it not written that the "let the dead bury their dead?"
what can a man who is just starting his life possibly afford to do?
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by luminouz(m): 7:11pm On Sep 19, 2020
Since when do part-time graduates go for NYSC?

Thought the law hadn't been passed? shocked
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by yommen: 7:11pm On Sep 19, 2020
GboyegaD:
One of the things I read here is ignorance on their part. One might be thinking he is punishing the other without recourse to jow the instrument used (you in this case) feels about it.

They have erred and deserve forgiveness. Having a relationship with them to know their person, ideology, and character flaws as a way of guiding yourself is no crime. You do not need part with your money to achieve this.

They want his money, not him. They don't care about him. Did you and digest the question at all?
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by EkopSparoAyara(m): 7:11pm On Sep 19, 2020
carry on with your life. Make them dey their dey.
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by whysquare4real(m): 7:11pm On Sep 19, 2020
OP, please try to accept your parents no matter how they treated you in the past. Just forgive them and reunite with them. What happened was because of anger and issue they had back then. Don't you think they would have forgiven you if you were the one that wronged them. I believe they have learnt their lesson. Consider them, they are your pathway to heaven according to my religion.
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by obowunmi(m): 7:11pm On Sep 19, 2020
SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.


Evil family. Stay far away from them. They have come back to destroy you. Focus on yourself and your future.

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Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by Bobbybrwon(m): 7:12pm On Sep 19, 2020
Forgive your parents and do the little you can for them
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by ehisdouglas(m): 7:12pm On Sep 19, 2020
OP PLEASE JUST FOCUS ON YOUR LIFE AND MOVE ON SINCE BOTH OF THEM WERE NEVER THERE FOR YOU.
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by benjida: 7:12pm On Sep 19, 2020
emerged01:
Op,the other children of your mother and your father are your siblings,pls help them out if they need your help. About your parent,I don’t have anything to say,but take your time to consider your stand, and do what you think please God.
You see ehn, run away from people who do not love you but want to use you. You can never ever buy their love with kindness. Note, they'll never be satisfied. They'll keep coming more and more untill they ruin your life.

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Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by darichlife: 7:12pm On Sep 19, 2020
SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairalanders,
I want to seek for you peoples opinions regarding my family challenges.

I'm from a broken home. My parents divorced when I was a child of two years. I'm the only child from their union. My father and mother abandoned me and remarried to other spouse each. I passed through hell growing up with relatives who insulted me with all kinds of names and I was treated like a slave to their own children.

Because of public outcry about my dehumanizing treatment, my father came to village and took me to the city. It was from fry pan to fire experience as my father's new wife was maltreating me. At a point, my father asked me to leave his house that since my arrival, he don't have peace with his wife.

I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry and started a part time programme. I completed the part time programme and did my NYSC and master degree. I got a job with University of Ado Ekiti with the help of a course mate, managing myself now and surprisingly my mother and father started calling me often.

Both of them have 6 children each with their respective second spouse. Mother want his son to come and live with me, I refused and my father too have been requesting for financial assistance which I also refused. I don't want to have anything to do with both of them. My father's daughter recently called me to help her with school fees, I bluntly told her to ask her mother what she did to me and caught the call. Since then, she never call.

I'm alone and have just two friends. I don't have family. All of them calling now are just looking for what to get from me, not that they care about me. My mother never call me once to ask about my welfare even when I sent my phone number to her through her relative. I wrote WAEC, completed degree course before she started calling me and it is only to request for one thing or other. I'm planning to get married without telling them and build a separate family.

Brother I'm in thesame shoe with you but i found peace the day i forgive my father and move on with life. pride will not let parents say am sorry. take a step and be a king to their life. you have the key to open many doors God wants to use you to show many people how powerful He is. Remain blessed

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Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by middlebelter(m): 7:12pm On Sep 19, 2020
SecretSpy666:

The got to know of where I'm working. I don't know who told them. They arranged with someone I was relating with to bring them to my house. When I got Intel about it. Warned the person not to bring anyone to my house and dissociated with the person. Now they are saying I'm rich and don't want to help anyone but I don't care.
If we look at it from human perspective, it is only that relative that housed you partially that deserves your help. Because his apartment was congested you took abode in a church.
Biblically, the story of Joseph in Egypt will easily come to mind. To be honest with you, the path to your continuous progress could be defined by the way you handle this crisis. I admonish you to go and pray about it. Yes it hurts but if you sincereky prevail in prayer, God is able to help you truly forgive them as if it never happened and you may eventually become the Joseph of the family.

Please be assured that God is able to repay, each and everyone of them accordingly will bear the consequences of their actions and inaction whether you forgive them or not..

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Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by GboyegaD(m): 7:12pm On Sep 19, 2020
Gabe427:



sir did you miss the part where they've been billing him already with request without properly apologising or giving him space to know if he has forgiven them....


He doesn't need part with his money. He should just put a closure to the past.
Re: What Will You Do If You Have My Kind Of Parents? by bewla(m): 7:12pm On Sep 19, 2020
SecretSpy666:
Greetings Nairaland


I packed to the house of a relative and work in a block industry to help myself. Most times, I slept in a CAC church close to the relative house as the two-room apartment is not enough for his family. My mother never care if I was alive. She never call me nor reply to letter I sent through someone to her. I continued working in the block industry .
U will wonder why I pick this and don't delete b4 my post




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