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Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by Antiochus(m): 3:51pm On Sep 21, 2020
TheAviator2000:


I am a man of my word!
I promised her the money without conditions and that remains "standard".

Ehn go and give her the money na. You shouldn't have opened a thread asking us if she is defrauding you or not since you are a nice guy. Give her the money you can even open a petrol station for her sef.

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Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by teemotee: 3:59pm On Sep 21, 2020
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TheAviator2000:


I am a man of my word!
I promised her the money without conditions and that remains "standard".
Tell this girl that if she is okay with you ending the relationship rather than showing what you asked for and let peace reign, then she can go . And DON'T you send her that 150k. DON'T! What are you trying to prove to her? If she has any value for you other being a cash cow to milk she will provide what you asked or confess that she made up the shop thing. Forget being a man of your word. She won't appreciate that but will only see you as a mugu while she enjoys your 150k with her new boyfriend. You will only be made fun of by she and her friends and boyfriend while you think you are being man of your words . If you have excess money you can send to your siblings instead.

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Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by BuddhaPalm(m): 3:59pm On Sep 21, 2020
Yes.
Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by TheAviator2000: 4:03pm On Sep 21, 2020
i926:

Sorry man but this was a gross mistake on your part.

Classifying Nigerians as money tasty mou'fvckers and singled out a female spotless and less devious angel out of the many, as the one that is holy. Not even his mom..smh

Congratulations you are wise.


Try reading to understand first before speaking.
The naija people i know strictly refers to only those in my circle.
God has been good to me and my parents and sibling are all living with me now and we are quite comfortable.

even if i be mumu, i made sure to take care of my parents and all my siblings first.
Sister is in school, brother just graduated, mom just got a job and dad just chilling.

That girl was the only person in my close circle that i haven't helped to relocate.

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Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by James150: 4:05pm On Sep 21, 2020
Tell her Yes you don't trust her and don't send her any money again being it the monthly allowance or the money she requested.

Just pay less attention to her less Messages and communications.( No contact rule)

And watch her expose her self and her intentions towards you. With a little head and a brain inside you'll know what she is up to.

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Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by Legendarytonyy: 4:08pm On Sep 21, 2020
Bro don't send her nothing. For the fact that she trying to deceive you means she's not even faithful.
Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by ikennamadu1(m): 4:14pm On Sep 21, 2020
Bessppectt:
So why still sending her the money if you'll block her and move on? Why not save your money for yourself. Besides, no concrete evidence she's scamming you.

be like u no see where him say she no fit provide common bank statement... abi u need wear medicated eyeglass
Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by Nobody: 4:17pm On Sep 21, 2020
TheAviator2000:


Try reading to understand first before speaking.
The naija people i know strictly refers to only those in my circle.
God has been good to me and my parents and sibling are all living with me now and we are quite comfortable.

even if i be mumu i made sure to take care of my parents and all my siblings first.
Sister is in school, brother just graduated, mom just got a job and dad just chilling.

That girl was the only person in my close circle that i haven't helped to relocate.

Good, I like that fam part✔️✔️

Now, your last paragraph is confusing now from what you said earlier.
1.Are you helping her to relocate, so as to marry her?
2. Or helping her because you are trying to reciprocate her good deeds back when you were in Nigeria?
3. Or doing it because you are a nice guy?

If it's one, think about it throughly..don't recommend that.
If it's two or three, I think you have done enough for her already.

I'm out

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Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by Nobody: 4:19pm On Sep 21, 2020
The nonsense I read on nairaland.. Mtcheew
Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by Nobody: 4:23pm On Sep 21, 2020
emillysmigael:
She is innocent till proven guilty...
am starting to suspect that you are the one in question

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Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by mhktaryan: 4:40pm On Sep 21, 2020
Should i tell him?

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Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by Nobody: 4:42pm On Sep 21, 2020
If this incident is the only reason you lost trust in her, my guy, have a rethink.

Honestly, she hasn't done anything wrong here. She might have been saving from her business and the 40k you send every month so she deserves an applause, not humiliation. How can you order her to send you a picture of her bank statement?Are you her father?

If she is a loyal partner and has loved you unconditionally for 5years, my guy don't dump that girl to avoid regrets later.

This is just my personal opinion.

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Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by Prechy08(m): 4:46pm On Sep 21, 2020
this man is still thinking of sending her another #150k chai she really rented the shop in your Head.

if truly you have being sending 40k monthly then you wake up and asked for evidence of shop to be rented or even money in the account, she should have no qualms providing such information.

my candid advice, since u are far, send someone to monitor or go find out for you. But make e no SHOCK YOU say someone else dey on ground we de service engine. or don't be surprise self she is married and using you as additional source of income. As I see no reason someone will not jump on the ideal of leaving this country to join you.

my submission Sir

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Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by TheAviator2000: 4:46pm On Sep 21, 2020
J111333:
If this incident is the only reason you lost trust in her, my guy, have a rethink.

Honestly, she hasn't done anything wrong here. She might have been saving from her business and the 40k you send every month so she deserves an applause, not humiliation. How can you order her to send you a picture of her bank statement?Are you her father?

If she is a loyal partner and has loved you unconditionally for 5years, my guy don't dump that girl to avoid regrets later.

This is just my personal opinion.

Bro mi, I am not trying to humiliate her but the thing be say she has never ever ever mentioned any savings to me until she wanted to get a shop.
She knows how much I make and when I was struggling as an uber driver in the cold winter or as a food delivery guy, she knew those times...
All I am saying is that I believed that we kept an open and honest communication in our relationship!.....

Sending her upkeep money every month was not because i am rich but because i believed i would marry her and wanted her to be okay and not lack.... Even if she was saving the money, I think she should have mentioned it looking at the fact that month after month, when i asked how much she had in her account, It was never above 10k.
Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by Liposure: 4:50pm On Sep 21, 2020
What if 240k is a ruse to rip you of 150k. What if there is not shop. Besides why will she insist on reappropriating the 80k you promised? Just wondering

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Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by Dangrace01: 4:51pm On Sep 21, 2020
Hope you are sending this amount of money monthly for family members like your mom

She can even snap any shop and send no b pics
Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by Skepticus: 4:51pm On Sep 21, 2020
OP, your decision is appreciated.

In this case of doubt, the best advice na d advice wey u give yasef.

Our instincts work for a reason.

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Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by TheAviator2000: 4:52pm On Sep 21, 2020
Dangrace01:
Hope you are sending this amount of money monthly for family members like your mom


Please go through the comments.
My family are doing incredibly well.
My immediate family members have all relocated and living with me and we God has been good to us.

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Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by jayyem(m): 5:05pm On Sep 21, 2020
TheAviator2000:


Try reading to understand first before speaking.
The naija people i know strictly refers to only those in my circle.
God has been good to me and my parents and sibling are all living with me now and we are quite comfortable.

even if i be mumu, i made sure to take care of my parents and all my siblings first.
Sister is in school, brother just graduated, mom just got a job and dad just chilling.

That girl was the only person in my close circle that i haven't helped to relocate.

Weigh your options man, if she can't be open on that small issue, how are you so sure that after you marry her, she won't send that your lovely family away from your surrounding.. Or maybe she was instrumental in your travelling abroad and you are not telling us?
Have you tried deliberately delaying that stipend for you to get her reaction, As long as money is involved and flowing unhindered, you may never know her true colours
Its even obvious she is not ready to be united with you, how can someone hoping to marry refuse to take opportunity to be with the spouse...e get as e be ooo

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Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by Dangrace01: 5:11pm On Sep 21, 2020
TheAviator2000:


Please go through the comments.
My family are doing incredibly well.
My immediate family members have all relocated and living with me and we God has been good to us.


Great
Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by Nobody: 5:20pm On Sep 21, 2020
As a real nigga,,,,lemme give you advice,,,,
You said your gf not hour wife,, habaangry,,,,you're mature enough to know say na scam,,,wise up ma nigga

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Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by ehmmy11(m): 5:21pm On Sep 21, 2020
TheAviator2000:


I don't believe there is a wrong or right here.
The fact is that there is no evidence to prove that there is 240k savings on her part - No bank statement screenshot
There is also no evidence to prove there is actually a store - No pictures

Those are the facts.
I hate relying on my imagination to connect the dots but there are more questions than answers here


Oga don't send any money if she can't obey your instructions.. Who is the man in the relationship? This is what happens when you give too much liberty to a girl am sure she has a very fine face, that's why you have been holding on for so long.. Do yourself a favor and search nairaland for what happened to naija men who relocated their gfs abroad

PS: if she can't do as you say now what will happen when she comes to the land where women have upper hand? Enough said!!!!!!

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Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by Warlord2014(m): 5:22pm On Sep 21, 2020
Op...
If you get the 150k, give her...
Just to test your suspicion ,and if it turns out that she lied to you, my brother just move on.

Another advice is that, don't ever make the mistake of sponsoring any lady abroad unless she is your wife or sister...na express you dey go oooo! Be careful.

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Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by proclinician: 5:23pm On Sep 21, 2020
I don't know what you expect to receive in return from a Nigerian girl. Shebi they said it's sex, don't you get to have sex with her so it's something u get in return.
Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by ehmmy11(m): 5:26pm On Sep 21, 2020
jayyem:


Weigh your options man, if she can't be open on that small issue, how are you so sure that after you marry her, she won't send that your lovely family away from your surrounding.. Or maybe she was instrumental in your travelling abroad and you are not telling us?
Have you tried deliberately delaying that stipend for you to get her reaction, As long as money is involved and flowing unhindered, you may never know her true colours
Its even obvious she is not ready to be united with you, how can someone hoping to marry refuse to take opportunity to be with the spouse...e get as e be ooo



Asin ehn i weak which loving gf won't jump at the opportunity to be with her better half infact she should be the one pushing to join him ... She even want to further cement her ties with naija.. Well it's Op's money he can do as he likes
Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by sydneyboss(m): 5:26pm On Sep 21, 2020
TheAviator2000:


If it was the other away around, i wouldn't want her to leave me simply because she is moving abroad.
Sometimes, you gotta put the shoe on the other foot to see the perspective of the person you're dealing with.

Please lend me just 70k out of the 150k and I will be grateful to repay back in just a month
Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by Nobody: 5:28pm On Sep 21, 2020
Thanks OP for the post.
Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by ProtectMyMoney: 5:28pm On Sep 21, 2020
TheAviator2000:
I have a situation going on in my life right now with the woman that I love and i need your perspective in this situation.


To end my doubts, i asked her send me a screenshot of her bank statement showing the my life. ... That is honestly how i feel right now


If your girlfriend is in Lagos,
Simply pay service fee of 50k.

We will offer you verification of your girlfriend, the business she is doing and wants to expand, and the shop she wants to rent and location and send the report to you to confirm your facts or assumptions.

Thank you.
Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by Nobody: 5:29pm On Sep 21, 2020
Thanks OP for the post.
Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by Nobody: 5:30pm On Sep 21, 2020
Thanks OP for the post.
Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by Nobody: 5:30pm On Sep 21, 2020
emillysmigael:
She is innocent till proven guilty...
Who will you support before angry
Re: Is My Girlfriend Trying To Defraud Me?.... Matured Minds Please Help! by Nobody: 5:36pm On Sep 21, 2020
Antiochus:
I go dey abroad i go dey send money to one naija girl at home? When i no craze, even my grand father will come back from the grave and give me 200 strokes. undecided

She has to provide the statement of acct. She shouldn't be annoyed with that if truly she has nothing to hide.
As in how some people dey reason sometimes dey vex me he kon still talk say hin go send her money after that hin go block her,I don study that thing people wey dey Nigeria before kon go abroad dem no dey too get sense again maybe dem oyibo brain don enter their head cause oyinbo people no too get sense like that
To me that nigarrr suppose don know say him babe don dey do olosho
Op go coderunzs or badoo you fit see her picture

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