dingbang:
that is why I want to go abroad so I can take uyaiincomparabl along with me

biko take her along ooo ...guys wey no dey take eye see fine babe

showafrica:


I was searching for houses to rent once upon a time and a woman was the landlady whose hubby was leaving abroad and wanted to rent part of her flat. The agent told me she is selective and only wants a single guy. I wondered and decided to try, got there she said she said i an ok that i can pay but she does not like someone who gets female visitors anyhow that i can only have one babe. I said ok, left and never came back. I think the orders, rules and regulations is too much for me also, I think she is looking for male company. Abroad husband no be am.

.maybe she has a reason for that. It might be that the former occupant had several female squatters and maybe, one of them got into a fight with the landlady..

lefulefu:
biko take her along ooo ...guys wey no dey take eye see fine babe

lol..

lefulefu:
most of the stories we hear about women taking of men"s assets na mostly women wey dem arrange for such men or they just met them on the internet.The regular stories u hear of nigerian women enrolled in medical schools by their husbands in the US and uk and the women suing for divorce after graduation do u think such women started with the men? These are quite young girls imported from naija by these men or by their parents nau.How love wan take dey in such type of a union.

bro to be honest I never viewed this from this mindset. I thought that most times any wife that is taken to west by the husband adopts feminism, adopts unilateral decisions and makes deliberate moves to trigger the husband to divorce. It kind of affected my mindset shah cause I have this very loyal partner of 2years who really loves me but can nag so much & become very quarrelsome. Though she will still make moves to reconcile with me afterward. Her quarrelsome nature is so bad that it is a habit with her elder sister and they had quarelled to point the elder sister burnt all the pieces of cloth she bought for this lil girl, and the mother complains about her quarrelsome nature but she herself often concludes that the mom is always one-sided and makes decisions that favor the eldest sister. All these attributes of her make me shudder and fear so much about taking such woman across the Atlantic. She is not materialistic or dips her eyes into flexing or my wealth to indicate she may go any length to acquire wealth anyway. She's just vicious and prepared for quarrel or fight, nags so much. I fear for these reasons, but she never cheats, is loyal (romantically) and loves me at great depth (has helped me financially when I was so broke, even stayed with me through then). So this troublesome or quarrelsome nature makes me fear if I'll be making the wrong decision, taking such woman abroad.

flyingpig:
bro to be honest I never viewed this from this mindset. I thought that most times any wife that is taken to west by the husband adopts feminism, adopts unilateral decisions and makes deliberate moves to trigger the husband to divorce. It kind of affected my mindset shah cause I have this very loyal partner of 2years who really loves me but can nag so much & become very quarrelsome. Though she will still make moves to reconcile with me afterward. Her quarrelsome nature is so bad that it is a habit with her elder sister and they had quarelled to point the elder sister burnt all the pieces of cloth she bought for this lil girl, and the mother complains about her quarrelsome nature but she herself often concludes that the mom is always one-sided and makes decisions that favor the eldest sister. All these attributes of her make me shudder and fear so much about taking such woman across the Atlantic. She is not materialistic or dips her eyes into flexing or my wealth to indicate she may go any length to acquire wealth anyway. She's just vicious and prepared for quarrel or fight, nags so much. I fear for these reasons, but she never cheats, is loyal (romantically) and loves me at great depth (has helped me financially when I was so broke, even stayed with me through then). So this troublesome or quarrelsome nature makes me fear if I'll be making the wrong decision, taking such woman abroad.

Is chimamanda Adichie not a hard core feminist? has she broken up her marriage and taken over her husbands assets? .If a woman has ur interest at heart and really loves you what is asset and money that she will be breaking up her marriage to inherit.Most of these ladies u hear about who divorce their husbands are greedy women imported from naija by the man"s parents.They dont love the man..their only interest is to get overseas and when they get there they use the system to their advantage.Its not advisable doing arrangee marriage even though some guys do it.

ibedun:


No Sir, they will definitely love you but they will get married to a spouse you didn’t raise, start their own family and have to face the challenges of raising their own children. They may travel far and wide to greener pastures far away from where you are.......
And please don’t raise any kids to look after you after retirement. You should take care of that.

for daughters I can vouch for but for sons I ain't expecting anything from dem

flyingpig:
bro to be honest I never viewed this from this mindset. I thought that most times any wife that is taken to west by the husband adopts feminism, adopts unilateral decisions and makes deliberate moves to trigger the husband to divorce. It kind of affected my mindset shah cause I have this very loyal partner of 2years who really loves me but can nag so much & becomer quarrelsome nature but she herself often concludes that the mom is always one-sided and makes decisions that favor the eldest sister. All these attributes of her make me shudder and fear so much about taking such woman across the Atlantic. She is not materialistic or dips her eyes into flexing or my wealth to indicate she may go any length to acquire wealth anyway. She's just vicious and prepared for quarrel or fight, nags so much. I fear for these reasons, but she never cheats, is loyal (romantically) and loves me at great depth (has helped me financially when I was so broke, even stayed with me through then). So this troublesome or quarrelsome nature makes me fear if I'll be making the wrong decision, taking such woman abroad.

she is just quarrelsome but she is not calculative or cunning nau.Now if she was the calculative and greedy that of woman u ought to have started getting worrying.Quarreling is normal human nature but she has to work on that though

dingbang:
.maybe she has a reason for that. It might be that the former occupant had several female squatters and maybe, one of them got into a fight with the landlady..

Yes, didn't rule that one out tho... But why would a young married woman want to share flat with a man, why not her fellow woman?

lefulefu:
Is chimamanda Adichie not a hard core feminist? has she broken up her marriage and taken over her husbands assets? .If a woman has ur interest at heart and really loves you what is asset and money that she will be breaking up her marriage to inherit.Most of these ladies u hear about who divorce their husbands are greedy women imported from naija by the man"s parents.They dont love the man..their only interest is to get overseas and when they get there they use the system to their advantage.Its not advisable doing arrangee marriage even though some guys do it.

Thank you very much. God bless you for this insight I never reasoned through this angle before. May God help all our men paranoid of western courts to know it is about a wife who really loves you and means well for you, as I've come to understand.

flyingpig:
bro to be honest I never viewed this from this mindset. I thought that most times any wife that is taken to west by the husband adopts feminism, adopts unilateral decisions and makes deliberate moves to trigger the husband to divorce. It kind of affected my mindset shah cause I have this very loyal partner of 2years who really loves me but can nag so much & become very quarrelsome. Though she will still make moves to reconcile with me afterward. Her quarrelsome nature is so bad that it is a habit with her elder sister and they had quarelled to point the elder sister burnt all the pieces of cloth she bought for this lil girl, and the mother complains about her quarrelsome nature but she herself often concludes that the mom is always one-sided and makes decisions that favor the eldest sister. All these attributes of her make me shudder and fear so much about taking such woman across the Atlantic. She is not materialistic or dips her eyes into flexing or my wealth to indicate she may go any length to acquire wealth anyway. She's just vicious and prepared for quarrel or fight, nags so much. I fear for these reasons, but she never cheats, is loyal (romantically) and loves me at great depth (has helped me financially when I was so broke, even stayed with me through then). So this troublesome or quarrelsome nature makes me fear if I'll be making the wrong decision, taking such woman abroad.

urm, what's the worst she has done when angry? We need to establish if she isn't the type that can stab you with a knife.

lefulefu:
my landlord does not mind if i have a female visitor..but wetin im no like is if u camp her for a long time.she can spend one or two nights or even a week but he will frown if u are keeping her for months.Landladies tend to have more issues than landlords

Ur landlord no wan make u marry ni? Or May be it was stated in the agreement that rent is only for one occupant.

showafrica:


Yes, didn't rule that one out tho... But why would a young married woman want to share flat with a man, why not her fellow woman?

well you know, women have some issues with their fellow women, they also feel men are easy going and dont take issues seriously.

lefulefu:
she is just quarrelsome but she is not calculative or cunning nau.Now if she was the calculative and greedy that of woman u ought to have started getting worrying.Quarreling is normal human nature but she has to work on that though

i understand you bro thank you very much

dingbang:
well you know, women have some issues with their fellow women, they also feel men are easy going and dont take issues seriously.

On point too, but if i am the husband abroad, i wont be comfortable with that.

showafrica:


On point too, but if i am the husband abroad, i wont be comfortable with that.

yeah true. God help such men

showafrica:


Ur landlord no wan make u marry ni? Or May be it was stated in the agreement that rent is only for one occupant.

if u bring another person permantly in with u that means u will have to pay more rent.can u do tha?.if u want to bring in someone with u u will have to let the landlord know about it and he or she will demand more..but if u come dey camp another person parmanetly with you and u paying the same rent u paying living alone that one go be wahala

dingbang:
urm, what's the worst she has done when angry? We need to establish if she isn't the type that can stab you with a knife.

just walk out from my house that is her worst. I once deliberately created a scene by the road side in a broad afternoon when she really embarrassed me one time, and she almost kneeled by that roadside apologizing to me. She would have completed the kneeling if i hadnt entered ride and left. She's troublesome to point my friend visited, and something as petty as a bought eatery rice i got she "dared" the guy not to even touch it. The guy looked at her in disappointment and left the house, I pleaded with her to go and apologize to him for hurting him but she severally insisted no. The other extreme troublesome I can remember was when she insisted a particular picture of an anonymous girl resembles my twin sisters and I sent the pic to my sisters to see and they concluded the girl is not fine. I informed my gf and she said about my sisters, "who told them they are fine". I felt very irritated because the remark from my sisters were not to her, and she doesn't even know the girl in the picture just an anonymous random internet pic, but see how she has created a different twist by making such retort about my sisters. So there are several other cases can't really remember them now. I just am paranoid about a woman making so much quarrel in the west because the laws there favour her and cause I can't do much there, unlike here. over all if you're expecting breaking my Tv and other "karen" crises when she wants to forment trouble, no not that far

showafrica:


? Or May be it was stated in the agreement that rent is only for one occupant.

it was stated in the rent that it would be only one occupant.but like i said before that u can have ur female visitors and they can spend some time with u.that is allowed.But what i see they dont allow here is parmanent camping.If u want to bring someone in with u on parmanent basis u would tell the landlord and he might increase his rent.

flyingpig:
just walk out from my house that is her worst. I once deliberately created a scene by the road side in a broad afternoon when she really embarrassed me one time, and she almost kneeled by that roadside apologizing to me. She would have completed the kneeling if i hadnt entered ride and left. She's troublesome to point my friend visited, and something as petty as a bought eatery rice i got she "dared" the guy not to even touch it. The guy looked at her in disappointment and left the house, I pleaded with her to go and apologize to him for hurting him but she severally insisted no. The other extreme troublesome I can remember was when she insisted a particular picture of an anonymous girl resembles my twin sisters and I sent the pic to my sisters to see and they concluded the girl is not fine. I informed my gf and she said about my sisters, "who told them they are fine". I felt very irritated because the remark from my sisters were not to her, and she doesn't even know the girl in the picture just an anonymous random internet pic, but see how she has created a different twist by making such retort about my sisters. So there are several other cases can't really remember them now. I just am paranoid about a woman making so much quarrel in the west because the laws there favour her and cause I can't do much there, unlike here. over all if you're expecting breaking my Tv and other "karen" crises when she wants to forment trouble, no not that far

ok it is established that her anger most times is directed at others and not you, but you still need to be extra sure. A woman who listens to her husband and respects him is very important.

If at all she can't be tamed by her husband, who else will tame her? I think she really needs to work on that aspect of herself and once treated, you can go ahead to marry her.

dingbang:
ok it is established that her anger most times is directed at others and not you, but you still need to be extra sure. A woman who listens to her husband and respects him is very important.

If at all she can't be tamed by her husband, who else will tame her? I think she really needs to work on that aspect of herself and once treated, you can go ahead to marry her.

ok thank you very much sir

lefulefu:
it was stated in the rent that it would be only one occupant.but like i said before that u can have ur female visitors and they can spend some time with u.that is allowed.But what i see they dont allow here is parmanent camping.If u want to bring someone in with u on parmanent basis u would tell the landlord and he might increase his rent.

Landlord wants to make sure his soakway doesnt get fills fast

showafrica:


Landlord wants to make sure his soakway doesnt get fills fast

hahahahahahahahahahahahahaahahahahaa this got me
Anyway they dont have soakaways here.They use a general sewage system that transports all the waste to a general collecting center.I dont know their collecting centers are located though.My flat mate was camping a girl in his room.Since june till now and some days ago the landlord was telling him that girl had to leave.That he doesnt have issues with someone coming to visit and stay but that he wouldnt accept a parmanent stay.He was saying something that he would have to pay more money to the tax officials cos they would want to know how many ppl that are staying in the house and if the tax officials sees other wise they might take the house.I dont know if this is true or he was saying this cos he wanted my flat mate to pay more money since he now has someone parmently staying with him .But this issue u talking about soakway getting filled makes me to remember one incident then when i visited my aunt in benin and spent some time with her in technical road.Then there was this UNIBEN students renting a flat close to our own.Its a girl that was actually renting the place.she now invited her friends over and they were now 50 ppl in the small flat.the landlady got angry and told them dat she would kick all of them out if they dont reduce their number in their house and weda dey want to fill up her soakaway .50 ppl in small flat mehn

streamsofjoy:


Thank you sir! Respect

Thanks bae

Samakus:


Does tribe influence personal resolves? Definitely not!

I'm Igbo by the way. Nwafor Anambra for that matter. It doesn't change anything

no wonder .... tribes and culture influence how person reason


Udo

lefulefu:
hahahahahahahahahahahahahaahahahahaa this got me
Anyway they dont have soakaways here.They use a general sewage system that transports all the waste to a general collecting center.I dont know their collecting centers are located though.My flat mate was camping a girl in his room.Since june till now and some days ago the landlord was telling him that girl had to leave.That he doesnt have issues with someone coming to visit and stay but that he wouldnt accept a parmanent stay.He was saying something that he would have to pay more money to the tax officials cos they would want to know how many ppl that are staying in the house and if the tax officials sees other wise they might take the house.I dont know if this is true or he was saying this cos he wanted my flat mate to pay more money since he now has someone parmently staying with him .But this issue u talking about soakway getting filled makes me to remember one incident then when i visited my aunt in benin and spent some time with her in technical road.Then there was this UNIBEN students renting a flat close to our own.Its a girl that was actually renting the place.she now invited her friends over and they were now 50 ppl in the small flat.the landlady got angry and told them dat she would kick all of them out if they dont reduce their number in their house and weda dey want to fill up her soakaway .50 ppl in small flat mehn

The tax officials are right bc more people more work for the environmental people. The 50 people in one flat dey craze, they no get conscience of course soakway that should last one yr will now get filled in one week or month.

lefulefu:
Sorry i am not using mtn or glo.i am on internet wifi in the place i am renting.Over where i am staying we dont have mtn or glo recharge cards .You just go to a shop if ur credit is finished and tell them to top it for u and u pay .And as for what i said pls pick out the evil thing i said.I said if a man is staying legally in europe and is still giving excuses why he cant bring his wife over then he is married or has a girlfriend where he is staying ..thats the obvious truth .At the time i was in a language school then in benin a number of the female students who joined had husbands overseas and the enrolled cos they wanted to join their husbands since it was one of the requirements.One of the young lady her husband was going to school in germany yet he wanted his wife to join him,Thats how u know a man who truely loves his wife.You cant be staying legally in a country and be saying u cant allow ur wife to join u..why?.Only time a man would be making such excuse is when he has a woman over there.As for ur own case i can understand..corona virus globally changed everything..it closed down schools,airports etc..i understand and everybody understands that.We are talking of the world b4 the covid 19.A man is already settled abroad but he still giving excuses of why he doesnt want his wife to come over ..what are his reasons? . one person here said he cant allow his wife to join him cos his wife will collect his properties using oyibo court system .so can we say that is the most reasons many married nigerian men overseas dont want their wives to join them?

110% reason mine is not joining. That has become the racket for Nigerian women here in the UK!
You will be a victim especially if she has aunties, cousins, sisters and the likes here. Alternatively you become her “wife” and she becomes a wicked “husband”.

Before you start judging nonsense, come and work for 30 years here and then invite a Naija hungry girl to come and join you so she can use domestic abuse laws to take everything you have laboured for. Ok! Women that will disown you within 5 mins if you run into poverty or health problems. How Old are you?

showafrica:


The tax officials are right bc more people more work for the environmental people. The 50 people in one flat dey craze, they no get conscience of course soakway that should last one yr will now get filled in one week or month.

about the 50 ppl issue havent u seen yahoo boys renting one flat and they will be numerous in the flat? .One guy go meet landlord to rent the place and within a week u will see about 60 to 70 young men in a flat in their boxers and singlets using laptops .Guy things we do as tenants in naija we cant do as a tenant in a foreign country.In naija u can destroy ur landlord property and scatter everywia and still get away with it.For here wen u pay ur first rent u will also pay the landlord a fee they call security fee.In case u destroy anything he go dey collect from ur security fee .thats how they do it here sha..dont know if its the same way they do it in yankee or uk sha.But if u main with ur landlord he might not collect any amount from ur security fee is something spoil.It depends on how u dey roll with the landlord..but that does not mean u will now destroy his AC or his microwave and he wont collect from ur security fee .if u want to leave maybe at the end of the month or anytime he will give u back ur security fee.

steeltrust:
for daughters I can vouch for but for sons I ain't expecting anything from dem

Smart man but take note - women are changing and becoming masculine and reasoning like men. Just ensure you keep something back to maintain and look after yourself in later years.

I think i can guess the age range of most respondent very well from their responses,its all about the sex,the guy that left for greener pastures wont be getting the sex anyway if he is not the breadwinner,only a few can understand my point,

ibedun:


110% reason mine is not joining. That has become the racket for Nigerian women here in the UK!
You will be a victim especially if she has aunties, cousins, sisters and the likes here. Alternatively you become her “wife” and she becomes a wicked “husband”.

Before you start judging nonsense, come and work for 30 years here and then invite a Naija hungry girl to come and join you so she can use domestic abuse laws to take everything you have laboured for. Ok! Women that will disown you within 5 mins if you run into poverty or health problems. How Old are you?

i am in my 30s and nope i can never invite any nigerian girl to come over with me.I no get serious babe wen i comot so it will be very stupid of me to now invite a girl i saw on facebook or someone linked me up to her .I dont see anything wrong dating a foreign woman or a naija lady based in a foreign land.Na men wey dey restrict themselves to say they must only marry nigerian woman na im go get into issues.why will u invite someone to join u that know nothing about..just because they told u she comes from a good family .But having said this if u already based overseas and u had a wife before u left and u are capable to bring her over i believe its unfair just to leave her back in naija with the kids.Haba the kids need to see their dad and feel his presence nau.

ibedun:


Smart man but take note - women are changing and becoming masculine and reasoning like men. Just ensure you keep something back to maintain and look after yourself in later years.

not for daughters bro but all in all

man will Ve to plan ahead of time cus anytin can happen

christopher123:


no wonder .... tribes and culture influence how person reason


Udo

No wonder? Lolz