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Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by tobechi74: 10:52pm On Feb 21, 2020
mvem:
you call a 19 year old girl naive
u think age is a measure of maturity
Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by drdrey7(m): 11:07pm On Feb 21, 2020
tobechi74:


u think age is a measure of maturity

I wonder ooo...
Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by Digmygold: 12:52am On Feb 22, 2020
OlawaleBammie:


I pray God keep me more than i can imagine, in great wealth and health... Amen

Amen.
Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by mvem(m): 2:25am On Feb 22, 2020
tobechi74:


u think age is a measure of maturity
exactly my point...A 19year old lady is not naive.

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Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by sindan: 4:48am On Feb 22, 2020
GidiRide:
Dog lover means I own dogs, I care for Pets, also means I have good heart ❤️


What of snake?
Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by chewwie(m): 5:53am On Feb 22, 2020
ifex370:


you being a dog lover makes you so awesome.. wow..
The ego in that line alone was epic.
I beat my neighbor's dogs steady
Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by chewwie(m): 5:55am On Feb 22, 2020
GidiRide:
I’m 10 years older than her.

She’s an Nd holder but still want to get her Bachelor degree. We met in my eglise, she liked me and we started talking.

In few days we were already close, and it felt like we met in months ago.

She really loves me, She’s has shown traits of a good girl, well behaved, intelligent and loving. She’s from a good home, her siblings look forward to seeing me on Sunday.

As I’m typing she’s on WhatsApp call with me eulogizing ourselves with our sweet names.

I really do like her a lot, infact I love her truly but but I’m scared.

Pls note that I’m also a great guy, an entrepreneur, a dog lover, a. CEO etc but I’m SCARED.

I don’t want to jeopardize this relationship and sometimes I feel she’s smaller looking at the age gap.

What do you guys think?

Ehen...Make your intentions known to her. Lay everything out, and see if you both are good for each other. 10-year age difference is nothing, she's an adult, you're an adult. But if na free fork you dey find, na you sabi

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Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by OlawaleBammie: 6:05am On Feb 22, 2020
Digmygold:

Amen.
Thanks Sir.
May God bless u beyond imagining...
Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by Jubilee1982: 6:27am On Feb 22, 2020
The age difference is perfect bro!! Go for her if both of you really like each other. Infact men should always marry a woman whom they are 8- 13 years older than. In years to come, they will begin to see the benefits. When you are 40 yrsand your wife is 30 yrs, one will hardly differentiate your age. Imagining marry a woman whom you are 3 yrs older than, @ 40 your wife is @ 37 or @ 50 she is @ 47. She would look very older than you do. So 10 years gap is perfect. You can wait until she is 22 to 25 before marrying her. Congratulations!

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Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by Digmygold: 7:43am On Feb 22, 2020
OlawaleBammie:


Thanks Sir.

May God bless u beyond imagining...

Amsn and you too.

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Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by content208: 8:04am On Feb 22, 2020
GidiRide:
We both want a relationship that ll lead to marriage..
All she wants is My love, support And advice.
All I want from her is love too.
I think we are in same page bro..

How are you sure that girl knows anything about love, committed and shiit? What does a 19 year old know about relationship and shiit.

That girl is infatuated to you. By the time the infatuation goes, she will wonder how she even managed to fall in love with something like you.

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Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by Youngpo413: 8:26am On Feb 22, 2020
Toks2008:


Modify your title to "A 19year old girl is in love with me"

Please understand that if you are her first love, she may remain with you for life but be prepared to see her stray cos most ladies who never see outside will just want to explore but their heart will always gravitate towards the one she truly loves.

I'm writing from personal experience
is first luv different from first bf?(as in a guy that disvirgined her)
Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by GeneralPula: 8:27am On Feb 22, 2020
Undilutedme:
How does being a dog lover fit into your description Now in this sense??...

He has a good heart..

That’s the summary..

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Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by donmusty(m): 8:31am On Feb 22, 2020
Am also having this same problem but my she's 18 always calling me infacting given me names that i can't get over having video calls and we just meet on Facebook since then I can't stop thinking about the gap between us

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Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by Excelento(m): 9:01am On Feb 22, 2020
SAME AGE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ME AND MY WIFE.
WE'VE BEEN MARRIED FOR OVER TEN YEARS NOW
AND WE'RE DOING GRATE .
PERFECT AGE GAP BR. PROVIDED YOU LOVE HER
SHE LOVES YOU AND BOTH OF YOU KNOW
WHAT YOU WANT.

GO AHEADDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD

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Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by holusormi(m): 9:13am On Feb 22, 2020
That girl is still a child , she’s not even in her hoe stage yet , you will regret this foolishness , leave her alone , find someone older to marry - cradle robber !!!

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Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by Toks2008(m): 10:45am On Feb 22, 2020
Youngpo413:
is first luv different from first bf?(as in a guy that disvirgined her)
First love has nothing to do with the guy who first slept with her.
Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by WildChild00(m): 11:44am On Feb 22, 2020
Toks2008:

First love has nothing to do with the guy who first slept with her.


Question, why do most ladies hold emphasis to their first boyfriend? Or a guy that slept with them first?
Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by MrFly(m): 7:53pm On Feb 22, 2020
TruthSpeaker:


IS IT IMPOSSIBLE TO BE TYPING ON A COMPUTER KEYBOARD WHILE RECEIVING A WHATSAPP CALL?
no be small keyboard
Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by 9jaRealist: 7:53am On Feb 23, 2020
The (Mis)adventures of yet another NL virgin... grin
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Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by Jugo88: 4:13pm On Feb 24, 2020
franchasng:
See the paedophiles hahahahahahahaha, I have the full video shocked grin
I’m 23 years na. Besides she’s above 18 and it was a joke
Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by Danyyyyyyyyyyy: 10:08pm On Sep 27, 2020
Petyprincess:
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Trash!!! Will you advice your teenager sister to date a man almost at his thirty? You guys will just be giving advice that you can't give to your sisters!!
Y'all like younger women because they are easy to manipulate nd exploit at the same time! What is stopping him from waiting for her for three more years by that time she will definitely know what she wants if She's truly interested in this age gap shit! A girl at that age have no mind of her own!!
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Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by phazotron(m): 11:08pm On Sep 27, 2020
Toks2008:


Don't you know that one the reasons young ladies cry of heartbreak is because they get involved with men too young to know what they really want?

Yes in some cases it is not about age but the truth is that age gap is a great factor.

A lady can be older than her man don't get me wrong and love is not about age but understanding and connection but nevertheless it is better for a young girl in her adult teens or early 20s to be with a man that is at least 8 or 10years older..
Why?

1. In most cases, the guy will adore her like a kid sis and will cope with her nastiness compared to a younger guy who is just about her age.

2. By the time the lady is in her mid 20s the guy is probably ready to take her home if she proves to be a good lady.

3. A 30 year old guy dating a 20 or 22year old lady will likely be stable enough financially, psychologically...to support the lady.

4. Ladies love to be pampered and they can get that easily from a guy who is quite older and not their peers that are probably still as childish as them.

5. Guys naturally get the kick when they know a girl is very younger than them and this spark will continue for a long time at least I am a testimony to this...

I can go on and on listing the benefits and guess what; the reason why ladies fall for married men easily is because married men are so mature mentally and they sure know how to take care of a woman and unfortunately ladies are wired to love a man that takes good care of them regardless of his marital status but the good thing is that girls experience same care from men who are considerably older than them.

My advise to adult teenage girls and those in their 20s is that they meticulously choose a guy who is at least 7 to 10years older or even more if they truly want to enjoy bliss.

This is my personal opinion and I think lalasticlala should consider this for front page so that young ladies can benefit from this no holds barr expose.
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Wetin u dey talk sef? You think it's by marrying your younger sister?

Na rubbish u write there shey u know

Oga what is important is unity of purpose

Of what use is marrying a kid whose aim is social media and the latest iPhone and the latest parties and you are trying to build a business, family, legacy?
Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by Petyprincess(f): 10:14am On Sep 28, 2020
Danyyyyyyyyyyy:


I'm 19 and also in a relationship with a 30+ years old man , my brother is well aware and has given his advice, its not a secret , we're not hiding anything, he's not married , I'm all he has.
I don't think I'm easy to manipulate , because if that was so we've spent a lot of time together but he has not had his way with me, he is willing to wait but I'm not , I have a mind of my own and know what I want
age is just a number , if there's mutual understanding and strong communication and a little bit of compromise you'll enjoy being with anybody.
I have to grow a little faster and try to keep up with his pace
and often times I drag him down to my level and we play but most times he's over serious , I'm already used to that�
I've learned so much from him and its been a year now
a lot of times I feel too small and a lot of time he reminds me of my age but he still gives me my respect and any other thing I need, he has compared me to his exes who didn't understand somethings that I do , so I always feel his small woman
and we gave ourselves nicknames too � I have peace of mind right now
I hope this is helpful
Whatever rocks your boat dear, I will just advice you b4 settling down with someone older make sure you know this person doesn't have manipulative personality!
My friend is 22 years old got married to a 36 years old man this year,she got married as a virgin but trust me the husband was really hard on her that she couldn't walk for few days!! She told him she wanted them to wait for two years to have baby naso brother no gree impregnate her but unfortunately she lost the baby(miscarriage) that i almost cried!! Nw she wants to go back to Italy for her master,uncle talk say she should do her masters in Nigeria. I asked her if she noticed these signs when they were dating she said no!!
It is obvious that man is manipulative nd will control her more in future! She can't make decisions herself now!!
Generally older men love younger women especially the naive ones,i personally don't go for anyone older than 28,my boyfriend is 28 years old nd we still gat pretty age gap honestly.

Please b4 settling down make sure he doesn't have trait of someone controlling!! If you check comments on this thread,you will realized guys are looking for younger women to control.

My colleague at work is 37 years old, after his experience with older women he vowed to look for someone as young as i am because they are obedient and can easily be controlled nd i wasn't shocked! Typical Nigerian man wants a naive lady that can dance to their tune!!

Older men that you can't play with them they will start reminding you their age grin grin

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Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by FredSteel: 10:15am On Sep 28, 2020
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Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by Danyyyyyyyyyyy: 12:26pm On Sep 28, 2020
Petyprincess:

Whatever rocks your boat dear, I will just advice you b4 settling down with someone older make sure you know this person doesn't have manipulative personality!
My friend is 22 years old got married to a 36 years old man this year,she got married as a virgin but trust me the husband was really hard on her that she couldn't walk for few days!! She told him she wanted them to wait for two years to have baby naso brother no gree impregnate her but unfortunately she lost the baby(miscarriage) that i almost cried!! Nw she wants to go back to Italy for her master,uncle talk say she should do her masters in Nigeria. I asked her if she noticed these signs when they were dating she said no!!
It is obvious that man is manipulative nd will control her more in future! She can't make decisions herself now!!
Generally older men love younger women especially the naive ones,i personally don't go for anyone older than 28,my boyfriend is 28 years old nd we still gat pretty age gap honestly.

Please b4 settling down make sure he doesn't have trait of someone controlling!! If you check comments on this thread,you will realized guys are looking for younger women to control.

My colleague at work is 37 years old, after his experience with older women he vowed to look for someone as young as i am because they are obedient and can easily be controlled nd i wasn't shocked! Typical Nigerian man wants a naive lady that can dance to their tune!!

Older men that you can't play with them they will start reminding you their age grin grin
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Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by Johnchrix(m): 12:31pm On Sep 28, 2020
lasisi69:
Teen love is useless... Once you get attached so much, she will dump you.. it’s a natural phenomenon.

You are right..
Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by Petyprincess(f): 1:27pm On Sep 28, 2020
Danyyyyyyyyyyy:


I know what you mean but you I think he can only be manipulative or controlling if I present myself to him as a liability, at my age I take care of my own needs in an honest manner , without my family's assistance and if this relationship leads us to marriage , which would not happen yet, I'm going to make sure to give myself respect by
not piling all my bills on his head�
I do work and I'm involved in several investments and at times he wonders how I do it , I guess that's the edge I have.
many of the type of women who are controlled in relationships and marriages are those who turn their man and husband's into their parents and depend on him to do everything, times have changed , I would not accept any ring until I have a stable source of income , that's why I started early and so far so good.
my man is not manipulative in any way, I'm confident about that, I voluntarily give him respect but I don't disrespect myself in the process, he also had second thoughts about US but we gave it a try and its far better than what we expected , he's quite supportive and encourages my academic life and career goals.
If all you said are true then it's perfectly fine.
What matters is respect you have for each other!

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Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by Nobody: 3:19pm On Sep 28, 2020
She Is Not Too Young 4 U. Kanu Nwakwo's Was 18yrs When He Married Her. D News Spread Like A Wild Fire. Dey Are Still Together Till Today.
Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by Jessepaid(m): 4:05pm On Sep 28, 2020
bro she 19... she's legal smash... but for relationship free those 18 to 23 year old girls most of them no get sense.. na shout you go shout until your blood pressure rise

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Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by johnnyn1(m): 7:45pm On Sep 28, 2020
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Jessepaid:
bro she 19... she's legal smash... but for relationship free those 18 to 23 year old girls most of them no get sense.. na shout you go shout until your blood pressure rise
Re: A 19-Year-Old Lady Is In Love With Me, I'm 10 Years Older. I'm Scared by phazotron(m): 11:27pm On Jan 11, 2021
Na for nigeria 19 years old dey dey too young......19 year old American girl dey be like 30 years old naija girl with super mature reasoning on top.

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