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Benwallt:
IF you wanna b anything, leave your comfort zone and face your demon. It would surprise you how easy it is for you to conquer. Don't wait till your father tells you that you are useless before u make move

LikeAking:
You no follow.

Just shut your mouth and read comments.

A real fada wont do that.

He is old enough to mix with people.

If he doesnt mix up he will be lonely and broke like his dad.

mdchikezie:
HOW MANY FEMALES LIVING WITH THEIR PARENTS GO OUT AT NIGHT TO WATCH FOOTBALL

Prechgold1180:
How can your team Liverpool beat your dad arsenal 3-1 and you expect ur dad to be happy with you
To make matter worse

You were busy singing Liverpool anthem

on this my bro it seems you are walking alone



Packout or man up

EleventhWeirdo:
Lol

You are also wrong. The statement, correctly, goes thus: If I were your father, I would cane you for uttering this.

Gracias

LikeAking:
SLAY THE OVER BEARING FADA.

48 Laws Of Power

oyatz:
1) Go out now and look for any construction site in your town.

2) Wake up by 5:30am, pray for 10mins and ask God to uplift you ,bless the works of your hands and remove reproach &shame from your life.

3) Go straight to the construction site and join the labourers. They normally finish by 4 pm. Continue to this work (3days work, rest on the 4th day)

4) When you get your first pay (it's usually daily pay) buy a wine/whiskey for your dad if he drinks or a plate of pepper soup if he doesn't.
Just say you bought something for him out of your hustling today, don't say anything else

5) Join a contributory thrift scheme (Ajo/Esusu). Avoid Gambling, womanizing or drinking for now.

6)After a week, branch at the market, buy 10Kg bag of Semo or tubers of Yams +5 litres of red oil and give them to your mum.

7) Continue on the job while looking for other jobs/business that suit your taste/interests.

You may not have the luxury of time/energy to be going out to watch Football matches because the little time you will have when you reach home will be to eat, bath, relax with your family , listen to news and sleep.

9) When you get you get your contribution from the Esusu/Ajo, go and buy a wheel barrow, digger, headpan and shovel and start renting them out .
With time, add sales of nails, roofing sheets, cement and other building materials

10) Look for a good lady to be your wife.

11) Watch as the family respect you more especially when you must have rented or build your own apartment.

12) Thank me later.

lastchild:
you are very wrong, there's nothing wrong living in the father's house, the only problem there is his inability to provide for them financially

my elder brother lived in our house till he got married at the age of 35, he took care of my patents till they died

darealbabe:
I feel very angry reading this.
No, not only with your father. With you too!
I understand you've been abused for so long that you can't think of a better way to cope.
Your mental health is at stake her.
Do you know this can make you run mad? Real madness!
You can get out of that house. YOU WILL SURVIVE!!!!
The world outside there cannot frustrate you except you allow it to.
YOU CAN SURVIVE OUTSIDE YOUR FATHER'S HOUSE AND TOXIC PRESENCE!
If it were me, I'll just leave.
I can help you with books that will help you heal.
You've got this.
GET UP AND GET OUT OF THAT PLACE!
Go out to the uncertain world and find yourself!
Or remain unhappy, miserable and wasted there forever.

Midadeola:
NOTE; He didn't answer the question

mrblessed:
Lol
Your statement should be written thus: "The statement correctly goes: "If I were your father, I will cane you." As you can see, there is no need to put a comma in the front and back of the word "correctly."

Will, not would, is the correct word because it is a direct speech, not a reported speech.

Thank you

lereinter:
The US you have never reached

situationreport:
Please is there anyone else experiencing what I'm passing through now, because it's making me sad and depressed I can't believe my dad still whips me at my age.. I don't want to confront him because, he's still my father even though I feel gutted for his actions

Yesterday I went to watch liverpool vs Arsenal match in a viewing center, and came back late at night by 9:55 pm, As soon as I came in, he was still awake in the parlor, what he did next was to use the cain he hid to start whipping me...i think is because I'm still living with him, at my age with no meaningful contribution right now, that's why

I have no where to go to, It seems I'm now a burden to them in our house...because I 'm currently jobless now and unemployed for six months now, due to this pandemic... I was initially working in the hospitality industry as a waiter, but was laid off at the beginning of the covid-19 pandemic, ever since then things have gone from bad to worse for me..... I'm broke to hell at the moment

I'm seriously depressed, I just wish I could relocate far away and look for something else to do, and fix my life back, but no where to go, I don't have anyone to help... � May God forgive me if I can't bear this anymore....

puremaker7:
same thing my dad was doing when I was 25, I made him stop it in hard way, I changed it for him on that good night.
on that certain night, it was around 10:15 pm, I was coming from my babe, so my dad thought it was a business as usual, I collected the cane from him and destroyed it at the front of everybody in the house, then I issued a treat to him, never to try to flog me again, baba was scared like mad, though I tendered my appology to him the following morning for raising my voice at him.

butterfly55:
The only advice I will give to you is to go out there and become a man. Will you depend on them forever? At 26? Go out and hustle, get your own place, even if it's one room, start from there, do something with your life. Start small, make it and stand on your own feet. That way, no one will reduce you to nothing, not even your father. You brought this upon yourself by still living under his house at your age. If you live under him, you have to abide by his rules and take his shit! Sorry but that's the hard truth!

Angelfrost:
Your grandfather flogged his married sons??!... As in, your father was still taking ass whooping from his own father, as a husband and father himself??!....

Damn!!! So many dysfunctionally raised individuals on this platform!!!

Sigh... I just can't deal!!! I give up!!!

Angelfrost:
I'm quite sure Mr. Greene never used those very or exact words!!!

molbic:
Hahahahaha laf wan tear ma BELLE

hstar:
I learnt from your statement, thanks

darealbabe:
I feel very angry reading this.
No, not only with your father. With you too!
I understand you've been abused for so long that you can't think of a better way to cope.
Your mental health is at stake her.
Do you know this can make you run mad? Real madness!
You can get out of that house. YOU WILL SURVIVE!!!!
The world outside there cannot frustrate you except you allow it to.
YOU CAN SURVIVE OUTSIDE YOUR FATHER'S HOUSE AND TOXIC PRESENCE!
If it were me, I'll just leave.
I can help you with books that will help you heal.
You've got this.
GET UP AND GET OUT OF THAT PLACE!
Go out to the uncertain world and find yourself!
Or remain unhappy, miserable and wasted there forever.

LikeAking:
He did.

Midadeola:
OK, this is getting interesting!

Kriss216:
You’re a good writer.

How you managed to skip your gender all through the post is orgasmic.

Righteousness89:
you are Speaking English..
When you Become a father you will understand better the Importance of Discipline..

mrblessed:
Why don't you say a thing or two about our discussion since it is "interesting" to you? Even though the statement wasn't written by me, I concede that I was sloppy and couldn't notice that error. However, I also noticed that my interlocutor couldn't write a comment without making a mistake, even though his knowledge of the language is pretty good.

hstar:
Same thing happened to me @26
Mine was slap, he slapped me such that a mark appeared on my right cheek, I didn't like him before, but dat day I just detest him and moved out of the house d following day, till today I don't bear his surname again, but I played my part anytime I'm with cash.

I couldn't just fight him because he's my father, I wanted to, but I didn't, I just had to bring myself back, d worst part was when I got to my work place, pple who respect me a lot were just asking me how I got a mark on my face, but alas I couldn't tell them, save for one person.

Why did he slap me?
He slapped me because he gave birth to a baby and he was doing the naming ceremony and I refused to show up due to work and mostly I didn't vibe with him due to his character.

Pple wouldn't understand this unless they passed through it

jumper524:
your dad would continue doing so until you dammn d consequences and react back..
was in your shoes years back.
at 21 my dad punished me in front of visitors including children for doing almost nothing wrong.
infact what I did that day was to leave the house when my mom's nagging became too much.
she reported to my dad that I left the house, besides u didn't come home late sef.
it continued until last year @age 23 when I finally reacted.
omo na so d man carry stick for me oo, my anger was too much I took the stick away from him but didn't do nothing.
but I just showed him the hard part of me that day, he tried again some other time and got a messier result.
Now attimes I feel sorry for him cos he knows he can't get me do things the hard way again, rather he begs me indirectly to do it which is something he should have learnt to do on his own but learnt it the hard way.
ill advise you hustle for something oo..
make sure I don't ask him for any penny yes any penny.
@that age of you still stay in your fathers house, it's understandable but if he's still the one funding your bills aside feeding, my brother you still got a lot to do too.

but next time he tries to bully you, no gree am.
it's not disrespect, it's you putting your dad's sense on track .