Monogamy is not for everyone one. Most are polygamous in nature. Forcing them into monogamy make them unfulfilled. Cheating is inevitable

Marriage is an individual choice and not a collective one. The government has no business regulating how I use my genital.  It is mine and mine alone.  I decide who I choose to get married to . I can decide to share it with a single person or a married person.  It is  my freedom to choose to be a celibate or be married.   While married, I decide with my partner whether to make it open relationship or monogamy.

Marriage is not for everyone. There are people who are happier single. I mean those who are do introverted that they cannot tolerate a very long time without feeling drained. There are people who prefer long distance relationship with few visits and frequent absence rather than continued presence.  those whose high attention sexual urge cannot be satisfied by any one individual. There are others who dislike the boredom of sticking to one  partner scares the hell out of them. Variety is the spice of life.The fun of experimenting with various sizes and  types thrills them. There are yet another group whose need for independence and freedom makes them dislike the idea of  consulting with another before making decision.  There is another group that  love to be in motion. They wake up one morning and decide to relocate to another state only to explore another culture the next year. Traveling is their hobby and getting married with kids hinders that . Settling down is like a death trap. Flowing water is cleaner. Stagnant water attracts mosquitoes and other microorganism.

Human needs are various. the concept of getting married does not fit into their ideal future. They are better off single or in an open relationship. imposing  monogamy marriage on them will choke them. Their partner and children would suffer . Cheating is bound to occur. The fact that cheating still exist means we should question the effectiveness of monogamy and possibility of open marriage.

Investment experts would advice you never to put all your eggs in one basket to mitigate against risk. Economic  expert suggest diversification and not depending on only crude oil. Why don’t we  Apply  the same analogy to our own emotional life.   Risk is mitigated when we stop expecting one person to be our confident, sexual satisfier ,friend, mother of children etc. Can we consider open marriage and celibacy as alternative to monogamy

No be everybody wey call you "My gy" be your gy..... There is always another circle in your circle.

Connected1:
Not to completely 'trust' anyone in life, no matter their importance to you.

This is a short sentence but baba it covers everything especially @ the bolded bro...

Baba, I award you this below Trophy.

GreenDee:
Damn so me,procastinatn is really eating me up.

I was going to reply your mention but then I was like...

tommorow I would.

Gabe427:


I was going to reply your mention but then I was like...
tommorow I would.

lmao..Omo your own worse oo

JIMMY1393:
Real friends don't exist

My story:
When I was in junior second school, I had this very very close friends that we would always hang out and do everything together...mehn they meant the world to me then ...but for whatever reason people started to see it like they were following me, like I was controlling them or something, which I'll never understand because as much as they come to my hostel room is just the same amount as I visit them....to cut long story short people started calling them "Jimmy's wannabes" that's even the 1st time I learnt that word "wannabe"...and anytime people said this I started to notice their reaction that they would start being distant and sometimes even avoid me, all because of some dumb 11-13yr olds were calling them a silly name? Infact I even put in more effort to make it look like I was chasing them and not the other way round...idk maybe those guys were just jealous of my popularity with them...anyway fast forward to jss3 and I had a fight with one of them and God that was the day I knew that when someone is angry they say the truth...this guy just insulted everything bad about me, my insecurities, my bad sides..he said it all and more...I've never felt more betrayed...and there was another one of the "wannabes" supporting him, I'll call him friend B ( he had already been showing signs of hating me, if I make small comments he will respond negatively, I think he's the one that took the wannabe thing to heart the most) . So even though he wasn't there when the fight started, dude just came in to support the other guy and add salt to injure saying I'm this and that. God I cried that night...took me a while to get over it but that's when my trust issue started...I started seeing friends and not people to be chummy with but people to just talk to for the sake of talking to(if that makes sense)...for example there are people that are your "friend" cos you have similar interests like football, games, movies, weed...the minute you remove that thing that bonds you guys together you'll realise there's no friendship...or those that are just your friend cos you are in the same school/environment...the minute you graduate/move away the friendship dwindles

These days I hardly give a shit about anyone cos that wasn't the only bad experience with so called "friends" I had many more that has made me the stone hearted person I am today

One man Mopol

-There are some risk in life you have to learn alone

-Keep your ideas to yourself even away from family sometimes

-Learn to chop your wins on a low

-If you have money in NG, keep a low profile so you rest of mind.

-Love is for sale

-Never beg anyone to be in your life

dukeprince50:
wow, somehow I wanted to cry for u.
There is nothing like a true friend. The world is filled with men whose existence is attributable to chance. Nice writeup

@ the bolded.... literally the best way to summarize what I meant...wise words

Papertrail11:




One man Mopol

Yessir

Age does not define maturity. You can never please people. U dont know the value of something till u loose it. Dont treat someone as a priority when the person treats u as an option.

Zzor:
Do you know you gave me attention with this comment,mtcheww

shey you don finally chop ban

now your body go calm down

attention seeking Dumblina

The higher you rise, the harder the crash

Never to attempt a paper without reading the instructions.

Way back in the University, there's this 300 level core course I was to sit for. From the past questions we've seen, it's usually 3 questions and you would be required to do 2.

Now, I was one of the best in my department, I was more than ready for the paper. As I took the question paper, I just studied the 3 questions and picked the 2 I was most comfortable doing. I settled for number 2 and 3. I did it with all vigour and zest, then submitted. I was waiting outside for my friends to finish. It took them a while. They came out of the hall and we were exchanging some banter on the just concluded paper, I wanted to show them how I did it. As I held up the paper to say something, behold the instruction was staring back at me..... Attempt question 1 and any other one!!!! Choi!

I quickly rushed back in to see if I could be allowed to correct my error, I was denied even though the paper was still ongoing. Then I resorted to begging the lecturer on subsequent days to just allow me do number 1, he refused. This is a lecturer that was like my godfather. He never begins lectures without first asking after me. That was his way of ensuring I wasn't missing class. I was handed over to him since my 100 level by my big sister's friend and he has since been responsible for me. People thought we had an affair but we didn't. He was too serious minded. I carried the course over. He gave me 39 in that paper, pass mark was 40. Funny enough, I wasn't angry at him. After sulking initially, I accepted his decision. We need upright men.

Our friendship continued and he even ensured he supervised my project. His refusal to budge taught me a big lesson I'd never forget.

Descortes:
shey you don finally chop ban

now your body go calm down

attention seeking Dumblina

But how is that possible?, Her account is still active

GreenDee:
lmao..Omo your own worse oo

it is what it is the lockdown really showed me my issues and we growing and getting better

GreenDee:
lmao..Omo your own worse oo

Gabe427:



it is what it is the lockdown really showed me my issues and we growing and getting better

lol..how do you now deal.with it.

Xoly:

But how is that possible?, Her account is still active

yeah you can still be active and see mentions but you can't post or like a post.

GreenDee:
lol..how do you now deal.with it.

firstly buck load of alarms and reminders... and my
lil sis I tell her everything so she calls to remind me and tries to talk me into doing it ....it helps to an extent...I'm still a work in progress

Descortes:
yeah you can still be active and see mentions but you can't post or like a post.

Wow , that's a big torment

Life isn't balance
People aren't equal
Sabbath day is Saturday the seventh day of the week which was meant for Christians to worship,but they chose Sundays
God never condemn having more than one wife
Death is a saviour of man especially in Nigeria

[quote author=Mandela27 post=94683162]1.Nobody gives a fvck about u,no matter how nice society has painted itself to be,they will show u the real koko when u need them most.

2.Excess virtue is vice.[/quote]

VERY TRUE

Gabe427:


firstly buck load of alarms and reminders... and my
lil sis I tell her everything so she calls to remind me and tries to talk me into doing it ....it helps to an extent...I'm still a work in progress

wow..sure with time,you will get over it.

placeofallure:
Never to attempt a paper without reading the instructions.

Way back in the University, there's this 300 level core course I was to sit for. From the past questions we've seen, it's usually 3 questions and you would be required to do 2.

Now, I was one of the best in my department, I was more than ready for the paper. As I took the question paper, I just studied the 3 questions and picked the 2 I was most comfortable doing. I settled for number 2 and 3. I did it with all vigour and zest, then submitted. I was waiting outside for my friends to finish. It took them a while. They came out of the hall and we were exchanging some banter on the just concluded paper, I wanted to show them how I did it. As I held up the paper to say something, behold the instruction was staring back at me..... Attempt question 1 and any other one!!!! Choi!

I quickly rushed back in to see if I could be allowed to correct my error, I was denied even though the paper was still ongoing. Then I resorted to begging the lecturer on subsequent days to just allow me do number 1, he refused. This is a lecturer that was like my godfather. He never begins lectures without first asking after me. That was his way of ensuring I wasn't missing class. I was handed over to him since my 100 level by my big sister's friend and he has since been responsible for me. People thought we had an affair but we didn't. He was too serious minded. I carried the course over. He gave me 39 in that paper, pass mark was 40. Funny enough, I wasn't angry at him. After sulking initially, I accepted his decision. We need upright men.

Our friendship continued and he even ensured he supervised my project. His refusal to budge taught me a big lesson I'd never forget.

Hmm. In the school of hard knocks, the lessons from this story would full 100 A4 paper.

Blackmiserable:


Hmm. In the school of hard knocks, the lessons from this story would full 100 A4 paper.

Don't exactly get you

Descortes:
yeah you can still be active and see mentions but you can't post or like a post.

But how did you know that she has been banned?

placeofallure:


Don't exactly get you

There are lessons and sublesons in your write-up and the sublessons can be further broken down. And that too, can be broken, O boy.

I am talking of a combination of moral lessons from the story, the depiction of the human characters and their attributes and the outcome of the story. The education gained from this "negative" albeit good experience would linger long.

Not necessarily the hard way though, but I've learnt:
1. To be absolutely Okay with not being loved
2. To reduce to the barest minimum the possibility of someone else's personal decision negatively affecting me.
3. That what you give enriches you.
4. Humans will always be humans. And never to return evil with evil.
5. That God isn't an emotional being like we think It is.

Descortes:
shey you don finally chop ban
now your body go calm down
attention seeking Dumblina

who chop ban,i have been very busy

Descortes:
shey you don finally chop ban

now your body go calm down

attention seeking Dumblina

See this small boy ooo,can you say this to my face.Brolosho

Zzor:
See this small boy ooo,can you say this to my face.Brolosho

your Father

Descortes:
your Father

You are always very aggressive and I know why