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Jim99:
Dude i've seen men with really hot wives cheat with less attractive women.

And no matter how attractive a woman is, there's someone out there more attractive than her.

Variety is the spice of Life

every guy has his own perception of beauty
it could be the man"s wife is facially beauty but the curves the man raves about the wife lacks it.maybe his sidechick might not be facially beautifully but she has curves.maybe his wife is very tall and he prefers short girls and vice versa
then it could also be sex orientation.could be his wife has timetable for sex and there are times his wife forbids having sex cos her pastor instructed her that having sex on those days are forbidden.on the other hand his sidechick gives him wild six anytime anyday he needs it she is always availaible.such things will make a man cheat on his wife .its really not about beauty but his spec and what really attracts him in a woman .

Mekenz:
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ePoster:
A man who let's his penis think for him...who can't control his libido and jumps on every opportunity to have sex is the worse off than a simp.
Since when did being a lecher become attractive? Y'all clueless lot claim to understand how women work.
Cheat on your wife...whether she leaves or not, you become a valueless zombie to her. Good for one thing only, taking care of her needs.
Pathetic your sex drive would bring you down to the category of drunks and gamblers...etc

Its Men boys[s]

ePoster:
A man who let's his penis think for him...who can't control his libido and jumps on every opportunity to have sex is the worse off than a simp.
Since when did being a lecher become attractive? Y'all clueless lot claim to understand how women work.
Cheat on your wife...whether she leaves or not, you become a valueless zombie to her. Good for one thing only, taking care of her needs.
Pathetic your sex drive would bring you down to the category of drunks and gamblers...etc

Its Men boys[/s]

ePoster:
A man who let's his penis think for him...who can't control his libido and jumps on every opportunity to have sex is the worse off than a simp.
Since when did being a lecher become attractive? Y'all clueless lot claim to understand how women work.
Cheat on your wife...whether she leaves or not, you become a valueless zombie to her. Good for one thing only, taking care of her needs.
Pathetic your sex drive would bring you down to the category of drunks and gamblers...etc

Its Men like you that makes these women feel entitled! stomach it or not, l won't tolerate a cheating woman.
my ancestors will question if am from them or not.......
You can as well help dressup your cheating wife and his guy when you catch them. Eat your food and leave my own poison for me!

lilmonarch:
since the men are not doing anything to better Africa, what are the women who are so full of innovations and ideas doing? Or that responsibility lies solely on the shoulder of men? Oh i forgot they're on Instagram and other platforms dancing naked and stripping to men's delight

I didn't say anything about women doesn't mean they are not free from the stupidity, don't quote me again biko. I don't have time, even if you decide to be stupid and quote me again I will just shun you.

nwaezeemmanuel:
A lot of men don't know what orgasms are or even feel like.

I repeat! Not all sex leads to orgasm

Orgasm is influenced by several things

Yes not all sex lead to orgasm, but without orgasm you won't ejaculate sperm.
Orgasm and ejaculation goes concurrent.
Orgasmic experience leads to ejaculation which rhythm at the same time.
Without orgasm the chance of you repeating the sexual experience is zero, which entail that your chances of cheating or being promiscuous will be heading to zero.
Not having Orgasm is as a result of lower libido which happens to be also as a result of lower testosterone levels or other abnormalities.
High testosterone men have high libido which makes them having more chances of cheating.
A low libido man have low sex drive, therefore why will he cheat when the drive is not there.

ceeceeuwa:
See them justifying reasons why men cheat. I hope you will find reasons to justify your wife's infidelity when caught with another man?
Iranu!

My Wife Have No Reasons To Cheat. Beside I'm Married. Let Me Tell The World Something, When We Newly Married, My Wife Took Advantage Of My Religiousity To Wrecked Harvock In Our Marital Bliss. I Have To Beg Persuation Inorder To Have Anything. Sex Was A Battle At Time, Complaining About Anything Just To Be Left Alone. So After Getting Tired Of Settling The Issue In The Church And Before Her People Withn 1yr And 4months Period, We Hit The Court And Disolved. But Then Again, We Meet And Start Our Love Again And She Started Started It Again, Boom, I No Waste Time I Start Calling Exes And New Back, I No Even Respect Her Presence Again, Na So I Go Dey Flirt.... Bros Matter Long! Now Na Me Dey Do Shakara O! If U No Like Am Dat Way, Go Back To Ya Papa House. Man Just Pray U No Jam One!

Jemiwizzy:
I don't know why men have this habit of cheating. Why must you cheat when you have a wife?

My big sis left her husband's house today because she caught her husband with another woman in her matrimonial bed.

Sometimes I think being single is the best way. All this cheating here and there is too much, can't believe my sister has to go through all this pain now.

Yeah, whoel some men like me are faithful because of Christ that lives in us.

bdchange:
Does the gender not being equal has anything to do with a man having the right to cheat but a woman doesn't?

cheating has nothing to do with rights, i think its just a deficiency in human nature.
when a man cheat he stands to bear the consequences alone buh when a woman cheat the consequence goes beyond her.
The way a kid will absorb "your father cheated" is not the same way he/she will reasoning "your mother cheated" it is not about right its about wanting the best image for women.

CHoccolaTE:
98% Men are just irrationally selfish and inconsiderate evil demons.

their self centered, one sided reasoning on this thread has proven it once again. why get married when you don't have any desire to stay faithful and you expect your wife to just tolerate your infidelity and keep treating STDs?

later somebody wlll come and ask me why do I hate men.

Reason why man get married is not to be faithful to her.
He married her because of love he have for her and his readiness to create future generations with her.
Faithfulness and others are sacrifices he obligated to meet up.

BBBmall25:
My Wife Have No Reasons To Cheat. Beside I'm Married. Let Me Tell The World Something, When We Newly Married, My Wife Took Advantage Of My Religiousity To Wrecked Harvock In Our Marital Bliss. I Have To Beg Persuation Inorder To Have Anything. Sex Was A Battle At Time, Complaining About Anything Just To Be Left Alone. So After Getting Tired Of Settling The Issue In The Church And Before Her People Withn 1yr And 4months Period, We Hit The Court And Disolved. But Then Again, We Meet And Start Our Love Again And She Started Started It Again, Boom, I No Waste Time I Start Calling Exes And New Back, I No Even Respect Her Presence Again, Na So I Go Dey Flirt.... Bros Matter Long! Now Na Me Dey Do Shakara O! If U No Like Am Dat Way, Go Back To Ya Papa House. Man Just Pray U No Jam One!

cheating is wrong on all sides! Whether it's from the male perspectives or female. If you can't remain faithful to your partner, no need getting married and putting the innocent partner through emotional torture. If you can't be faithful, remain single and turn community dick or pussy!

MLTR:
cheating has nothing to do with rights, i think its just a deficiency in human nature.
when a man cheat he stands to bear the consequences alone buh when a woman cheat the consequence goes beyond her.
The way a kid will absorb "your father cheated" is not the same way he/she will reasoning "your mother cheated" it is not about right its about wanting the best image for women.

Please under which review did you derived this statement I highlighted? What about bringing STDs to the wife at home which can disrupt her life? what about impregnating another woman outside wedlock? You mean this consequences are inconsequential towards the man cheating? wetin Musa no go see for gate

Jemiwizzy:
I don't know why men have this habit of cheating. Why must you cheat when you have a wife?

My big sis left her husband's house today because she caught her husband with another woman in her matrimonial bed.

Sometimes I think being single is the best way. All this cheating here and there is too much, can't believe my sister has to go through all this pain now.

It is painful I most say but I pray that they settle n get back together most especially for their kids.

Mekenz:
your sister's husband cheated, because of that she left her home, so what's her aim of leaving, to punish the husband or what. so she will now becomes celibate or go and marry another man that won't cheat on her abi......

these days it only takes the grace of God for a married man not to cheat on his wife, mejority of women these days no longer accord cheating from their husbands a big offence that can dissolve their marriage.

some even know their husbands mistress, but chooses to ignore them, in other not to attract troubles in their homes.

so far their husbands is fulfilling their marital duties at home, and doesn't rub his cheating nature on her face, mejority of women no longer cares, who they are meeting outside. men will always be men especially these days that young girls no longer cover themselves well. married men are seeing alot these days.

Interesting.... No wonder there is a rise in feminism in Nigeria.

Some men sha! how can you bring another woman to your home and knack her on your own matrimonial bed - hotel no dey again ?

Jemiwizzy:
I don't know why men have this habit of cheating. Why must you cheat when you have a wife?

My big sis left her husband's house today because she caught her husband with another woman in her matrimonial bed.

Sometimes I think being single is the best way. All this cheating here and there is too much, can't believe my sister has to go through all this pain now.

Klinee:
Reason why man get married is not to be faithful to her.
He married her because of love he have for her and his readiness to create future generations with her.
Faithfulness and others are sacrifices he obligated to meet up.

You people should not quote bible talking about submission since you believe adultery is now allowed, no be to dey quote part of bible wey support you and make life hard for woman.

Jemiwizzy:
I don't know why men have this habit of cheating. Why must you cheat when you have a wife?

My big sis left her husband's house today because she caught her husband with another woman in her matrimonial bed.

Sometimes I think being single is the best way. All this cheating here and there is too much, can't believe my sister has to go through all this pain now.

You only need to pray for a better half and not thinking of celibacy.

lilmonarch:
are you by chance trying to compare men's urges to that of women? Go do your research on human biology.

And you think cheating starts and ends with sex or fulfilling sexual urges?

bdchange:
Please under which review did you derived this statement I highlighted? What about bringing STDs to the wife at home which can disrupt her life? what about impregnating another woman outside wedlock? You mean this consequences are inconsequential towards the man cheating? wetin Musa no go see for gate

I came that conclusion based on societal perceptions & reception.
Men use condom when it comes to sexcapades, most married men are even conscious of using condom cos of fear of how wil my wife take it buh you see women, esp. the married ones they have a license to Bleep around without condom ...afterall who will ask a housewife were she take see belle. women her receptors so in most cases women infect men more, men infect tew.
If a man impregnate a woman outside worst scenerio he brings her in as 2nd wife or tag her baby mama. buh when a woman get pregnant outside wedlock she will pin it on her husband n as a matter of fact so many men are fathering bastards.
i av sis & a bro, if my bro cheat n get caught he has the shame to bear alone buh if my sis cheat, get caught n sent back to my father's house ..her shame become our shame. hope u get now
The only thing musa won't see for gate is a woman singing you can put the blame on me, i will take the blame from you.

fattprince:
Boss, the problem you are having with my responses is that you are not getting what I'm implying. The foundation of the problem is that you believe man and woman are equal. Which is very untrue. Okay let me cite real life experience for you. A guy was arguing with his babe in front of our hostel. Next thing she slapped the guy. Guys were having a gist in another part. Well the guys talking looked at the side of the lovebirds and immediately resumed their talk when they saw it was the boy that was slapped, some even laughed but when this boy retaliated by slapping the girl he was beaten by these guys there. You see why didn't they leave them to thrash it out like equals. Simple because they aren't equal. A man is meant to be dominant why a Lady is to be submissive.

you did not address the question tho, if you as a guy can say u can't work out things with a cheating wife, can it be fair also if a loving woman who has never cheated on u found out u cheat on her and she decides not to work it out with you?
Does been submissive mean accept a cheating husband, can we tell our blood sisters such in reality tho?

It's like there is some secret war going on i don't know about because it looks like men and woman are competing on who will win in the game of HURTING. Girls,women,boys and men wey suppose dey live a productive balanced lifestyle go just end up being less productive and their performance for their different field go just reduce all in the name of love and una think it is normal abi.
It is either domestic abuse or tales of cheating and i ask myself why get married if you can't stay faithful because some of you find things like cheating or domestic abuse as something that is perfectly normal judging by some of the comments i read here. There is always an option to suit your sexual lifestyle. I mean many women out there are ready to be baby mamas and shit for a few bucks as long as you take care of your kid which gives some of you the chance to have as much sex as you want but still una no want am. Una just want hurt people,cheat people,lie to them and play with their feelings why you could actually balance your lifestyle by simply leaving marriage or relationship for people wey ready for am. Abi surrogacy no dey exist for naija? Abi na make you answer who get household abi na family dey hungry some of una? Cos i no understand how humans will continually ruin very simple things with their selfish human traits leaving the world with kids from dysfunctional homes who accept watered-down versions of love they believe they deserve because it was this same version of rubbish love dem see growing up. Make una continue to dey manufacture hurt dey call am relationship. Una children who go eventually go through the same endless cycle and their children too will go through the same nonsense till one of dem go get sense to realize dem no need need some of these things y'all hurt people for.

I thought adulthood was knowing what you need and what you don't need . Abi una just dey grow for the wrong areas leaving una sense the same way it was while you were kids. If na family you want raise one. If na kids and plenty Bleep you want their are still options out there for you. If na open relationship you want sef naija girls plenty wey need am too. All these una mumu don dey too much and e dey cost government money directly or indirectly due to una stupid human nature wey una fit curb but chose to be simple minded idiots with herd mentality. Time wey person go use make mankind gods for the whole universe na im we go waste dey advice one or two grown adults cos one of dem no dey wise enough to know wetin him or her actually need. Na thunder go fire some of you idiots i swear. Make una thank una God say i no be government if not na serious flogging some of una go dey collect for loose guarding. I just dey look una sha. na so dem dey take start dysfunctional homes before you know children go full everywhere without an idea of what real love or family is and den grow up and do the same shit.

MLTR:
I came that conclusion based on societal perceptions & reception.
Men use condom when it comes to sexcapades, most married men are even conscious of using condom cos of fear of how wil my wife take it buh you see women, esp. the married ones they have a license to Bleep around without condom ...afterall who will ask a housewife were she take see belle. women her receptors so in most cases women infect men more, men infect tew.
If a man impregnate a woman outside worst scenerio he brings her in as 2nd wife or tag her baby mama. buh when a woman get pregnant outside wedlock she will pin it on her husband n as a matter of fact so many men are fathering bastards.
i av sis & a bro, if my bro cheat n get caught he has the shame to bear alone buh if my sis cheat, get caught n sent back to my father's house ..her shame become our shame. hope u get now
The only thing musa won't see for gate is a woman singing you can put the blame on me, i will take the blame from you.

In as much as I agree that the consequences of both gender cheating differs yet the excuse you are laying down for the men are lame(no offense giving). How can you say married men that cheat uses condom, as if you go about with every married men who cheat? As long as you can contract STDs which poses a great danger to your spouse which is enough reason not to cheat. I don't want to bring religion into this discussion, which is another angle that makes it wrong. I think Musa has seen enough of his cows

ReluctantAdult:
I wasn't talking about cheating in particular. What I'm saying is, our nature as men encourages polygamy. By nature I mean our testosterone and our general attraction to females. This is also prevalent in the animal kingdom so it isn't out of place.

That doesn't suddenly disappear when men get married. Therefore staying loyal is a fight against our urges and longings and since they are inherent in us, we will always be defeated from time to time.

You are comparing yourself to animals? Why don't you go naked and start walking around eating grass to prove you are one with them?

Jemiwizzy:
I don't know why men have this habit of cheating. Why must you cheat when you have a wife?

My big sis left her husband's house today because she caught her husband with another woman in her matrimonial bed.

Sometimes I think being single is the best way. All this cheating here and there is too much, can't believe my sister has to go through all this pain now.

Oga don't be too hasty to judge yet. When you marry you understand better.

When you were in nursery, you didn't understand the things of the primary. Same applies to Secondary and higher institutions. When you get to that stage in life you go know better.

Men don't just wake up one morning and declare that they will cheat.

Na something dey lead to something. This also applies to women too.

I stop judging too. Marriage n relationship is complex. There is no formula to it. You just have to formulate the equation that works for you. Chikena!

All i see is a woman calling things out as they are.

There is nothing to understand about infidelity, let us stop mincing words a beg!

Abdogood:




Oga don't be too hasty to judge yet. When you marry you understand better.

When you were in nursery, you didn't understand the things of the primary. Same applies to Secondary and higher institutions. When you get to that stage in life you go know better.

Men don't just wake up one morning and declare that they will cheat.

Na something dey lead to something. This also applies to women too.

I stop judging too. Marriage n relationship is complex. There is no formula to it. You just have to formulate the equation that works for you. Chikena!

bdchange:
In as much as I agree that the consequences of both gender cheating differs yet the excuse you are laying down for the men are lame(no offense giving). How can you say married men that cheat uses condom, as if you go about with every married men who cheat? As long as you can contract STDs which poses a great danger to your spouse which is enough reason not to cheat. I don't want to bring religion into this discussion, which is another angle that makes it wrong. I think Musa has seen enough of his cows

No offence taken, your opinion of what is lame doesnt matter, if you have a pharmacist as a friend or someone that works in a supermarket, stylishly ask him/her btw bachelors & married men who buy condom more then visit short time guest house n see howfar ... i don't av to follow anyone around, my life n exposure is enough.
I have never stop pondering why a yoruba adage says, if a woman that cheat does not kill her husband she will definitely kill her maybe they 4got men cheat tew.
i thot musa stays @ the gate n cows stays in the bush abi dem skype nii

nwaezeemmanuel:
There are successful monogamous homes.

Cheating is not in any man's gene, it is borne from a lack of self control and is just infidelity at its finest.

I am sure he was referring to polygamy. Besides the wisest man was Solomon.....how many wives did he have?

bdchange:
Feminism hasn't done anything yet in this part of the world. Are you talking about equality where men can cheat because is in their nature but women should be hanged if they dare it? The supreme court verdict recently passed on women having possession on her husband's properties is still not accepted by some traditional rulers which boils down to the inferiority they believed is attached to the female folks. As long as our tradition and culture is still the focal points to decide what makes a man and a woman, then we still have a long road ahead of us before we will meet our counter-parts in the western world.

I highlighted certain important rights it has helped to enforce, not only in Africa but the West also.
It's a step by step process. With unrelenting zeal, we would get there...

Powerfly:
Bullshit! What makes a cheat innocent?
I'm pretty sure if the scenario swinged the opposite direction, you would have insulted the past, present and future generation of women.
Cheating in marriage is highly condemned by all and sundry. If the said 'wife' truely was a pain in the arse, what stopped him from dissolving the union so that he can freely bring in as many women as he pleases to bang. You want to vindicate him just because he is a fellow man like you. We know your type nigga. We know your type.

or probably get a second wife.....which would mean he has to go through the same ritual he took with the first before he married her. This can include sex before marriage for the intended new madam

David was a man after God's heart, but he committed murder.

Does this mean you can commit murder?

See why that your last line doesn't just add up

unmask:
I am sure he was referring to polygamy. Besides the wisest man was Solomon.....how many wives did he have?

Shit! Who told you that you can't ejaculate sperm without orgasm?

Do you think every man that masturbates orgasms?

I bet you that many who do ejaculate don't always orgasm. Please orgasm is just a climax, not the baseline.

Something as little as a bad mood can disrupt a man from getting to that climax - it is not always due to a low libido or abnormality.

Klinee:
Yes not all sex lead to orgasm, but without orgasm you won't ejaculate sperm.
Orgasm and ejaculation goes concurrent.
Orgasmic experience leads to ejaculation which rhythm at the same time.
Without orgasm the chance of you repeating the sexual experience is zero, which entail that your chances of cheating or being promiscuous will be heading to zero.
Not having Orgasm is as a result of lower libido which happens to be also as a result of lower testosterone levels or other abnormalities.
High testosterone men have high libido which makes them having more chances of cheating.
A low libido man have low sex drive, therefore why will he cheat when the drive is not there.

Since you've studied yours so well

Can you explain your point to me here

2oby:
U dont know anything. Study d bible very well n reason ur biology very well.