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Useless write up

Powerfly:
Bullshit! What makes a cheat innocent?
I'm pretty sure if the scenario swinged the opposite direction, you would have insulted the past, present and future generation of women.
Cheating in marriage is highly condemned by all and sundry. If the said 'wife' truely was a pain in the arse, what stopped him from dissolving the union so that he can freely bring in as many women as he pleases to bang. You want to vindicate him just because he is a fellow man like you. We know your type nigga. We know your type.

This life no too balance for womenfolk

ReluctantAdult:
How then do you explain the usual scenario of a male animal mating with many females? Very few species are monogamous. In fact 8 out of 10 species of mammals are polygamous and that's as a result of the steep difference in the testosterone levels between these genders.

Testosterone drives libido. A highly libidinous male isn't compatible with a female with low libido. Therefore he cools off with many different females to balance off the scales. It is what it is. You can't dispute nature.

How do you also explain the usual scenario of many male animals mating with only one female animal. If you want to go by this your assertion, then we can equally say different men are as well allowed to sleep with only one woman too or one woman is allowed to sleep with different men. I Still don't understand why you are trying too hard to support your claim that men can be polygamous while women cannot. Their is no rule that says any gender can be polygamous it is your own personal idea. Peace!

nwaezeemmanuel:
Shit! Who told you that you can't ejaculate sperm without orgasm?

Do you think every man that masturbates orgasms?

I bet you that many who do ejaculate don't always orgasm. Please orgasm is just a climax, not the baseline.

Something as little as a bad mood can disrupt a man from getting to that climax - it is not always due to a low libido or abnormality.

I doubt if you are a man, first before I go on, are you a man or woman?
Because you are sounding as if you are not a man or maybe you are impotent from birth.
No man, I repeat, no man ejaculate without having Orgasm, infact orgasm is what bring the ejaculation.
The whole of your comments here don't reflect that you are a guy or you are impotent guy from birth.
Even if you are a girl or impotent guy why not just go read wide, you will understand better.
The only thing that will pull sperm out of the male body without orgasm is maybe using special syringe to aspirate the sperm out for artificial insemination.

As if ladies don't cheat too mtchewww

Biglittlelois:
Only a lady that think less of herself, or has been cheated on countless times she's so used to it and can live with a cheating spouse regardless of the diseases that comes with it, will say this,

1) Not all men cheat cos it is never and can never be their thing

2) It is not the obligation of a lady to keep her home, it is the obligation of both partners to selflessly try hard no matter what, to keep their home,

3) I never said cheating is not cheating, my emphasis of the matrimonial bed is that it should be an intimate place for husband and wife, this is where most couples tend to bond intimately not just through sex, but prayer, intimate talks, playful gists, cuddling, etc. Imagine the thought of knowing a stranger has violated your personal space cos of how many minutes pleasure,

But if you feel that place is no big deal, by all means, allow strangers to eat, sleep and have sex there with your permission, to each his/her own.

You make sense die! But you should also know that it goes both ways.. Some women also cheat on their husbands on their matrimonial bed. It's a violation of the sanctity and the bond the couple shared on that bed. Not to mention the total disrespect!!

Really sad, as much I don't support cheating, though guilty of it too(not matrimonial bed sha). I still think d wife shouldn't have left him but look for a way to help with d assistance of men of God or counsellors. I pray God help us men. It is well ooo.

fattprince:
Bro don't mind them. @ the bolded look at Ned now. All his wives are best friends just because pepper rest. The earlier they realise that men are polygamous the better for them.

most of this small small girls of now are days know nothing about marriage they were inexperienced and not ready for marriage mentally,I got married at the age of 30 not until I reach 40 before getting to martured age

Sixfeetbelle:
The man couldn't discuss with his wife and reach a compromise like you guys normally advise women to do in marital problems?

Or the man couldn't have endured the marriage like his own mother did. I mean after using his mother as a standard, one would expect he acts and behaves like her.

Besides what's your own if she leaves her husband's home? Men frequently send their cheating wives packing without a single thought so why should she stay with a man who was indiscreet about his infidelity?

You should be asking her those questions not me Madame .

WORDWORLD:
Have you asked your sister if she is the type that complains of head ache most of the time her husband seeks for sexual intimacy? Have asked her if your sister is the type that always complains that she is tired when her husband seeks for sexual intimacy? Have you asked your sister if she gives her husband the best of herself during sex and not just lay down like a dead rat? Have you asked your sister if she is sexually adventurous in bed with her husband?

Am just asking because it's a reality that SEXUAL FUSTRATION makes both men and women who never ever intended to cheat when the get married end up cheating when faced with such a challenge.

I have only asked questions madame and some stated factors that gives way for cheating IN MARRIAGE by both men and women.

WE ARE BOTH SPEAKING FROM THE SAME INSIGHT AS TO REALITY.

Sixfeetbelle:
Just like the title, I wish to make some things clear since a lot of misunderstanding rose from a single comment I posted on a thread that I didn't realise would ever hit front page. I'm not yet familiar with attaching links, so bear with me.

The comment: "That's why I pity men who want to marry virgins as a measure to hide their awful bedmatics. Women gossips about their sex life and before you know it, virgin wife will want to experience all these things but won't tell the husband cause 'she's a virgin and shouldn't know about those things'. Las las, na Okey, your driver that will educate her more"

I'll reiterate it as often as I feel it until at least some men pick up on it and improve which was the intention behind the harmless post in the first place.


Being a virgin doesn't mean the lady is an ignorant introverted fool. On the contrary, I believe a virgin, especially in this day and age, is someone who isn't ignorant about sexual practices, probably has some sexual fantasies of her own, who isn't introverted and shy and yet, refused to join the bandwagon of those who believe in immediate gratification. There are exceptions, but I believe this is what is more obtainable.

Having the above definition in mind, I made that statement, hoping men would key into that insight. However the numerous mentions I received showed me starkly that comprehension is quite hard to grasp. So I'll go further and add.

"If you're a one-minute man, marrying a virgin won't help your issue later on in your marriage. She may deal with it now but with time, it would turn into a big problem. If the only sex positions you know are missionary and doggie style (which some learnt about five years ago), trust me, you need to be more versatile in the other room. It will definitely help your marriage with a virgin wife in the long run. Some virgins may confide in you if they don't feel satisfied, some won't say anything (maybe from upbringing), some may have low libido and be okay with it while some will have high libido and crave more. There are lots of possibilities. How would you deal with the excesses?

In addition, like someone explained to me, virgins attach to their first sexual whoever. If you blow her mind (and her pucci) on the first night, chances are she'll always think of you, even if you guys end up separating or divorcing. I've heard women talk about a 'womb shifting' experience and the like and I can tell the man was exceptional. Wouldn't you like to give that experience to your virgin wife on her first night? Don't you think such experience will attach her to you completely? Don't say because she's a virgin, she won't know. That's like being overconfident. I wish you would apply wisdom when it comes to dealing with female nature.

Which brings me back to why I made this post: the mentions were too much last night. It was looking like a mini attack tbh. I do not appreciate publicity in that manner especially when some men missed the point totally and were weighing virgin versus non-virgins and declaring they will marry virgins. Trust me, I wish above all else that those who sincerely want virgin wives will find and marry them. Hopefully, if they marry their choice, divorce rates will lower.


NB: To those who sent emails, I appreciate them but I'm afraid I won't be replying them now. The heat is too much and I'd like to believe your email wasn't prompted because you misunderstood my post. If you're sincere, you can send an email on a later date and time. My apologies.

Thank you.

Disclaimer: Men, Up Your Sexual Game was the title of the thread you opened.

(Did you have it in mind that she would have talked to her husband and gained permission of the driver to educate her after the possibility of her discussing with her husband about her sexual frustration?

"LAS, LAS OKEY, YOUR DRIVER WILL EDUCATE HER MORE".

Jemiwizzy:
I don't know why men have this habit of cheating. Why must you cheat when you have a wife?

My big sis left her husband's house today because she caught her husband with another woman in her matrimonial bed.

Sometimes I think being single is the best way. All this cheating here and there is too much, can't believe my sister has to go through all this pain now.

Why must a sane man be with and have sex with only one woman?

As for "being single", if you women have that option, why do you all largely refuse to take that option?

BBBmall25:
Did U Find Out His Reasons For Cheating? Or U're Just Here Blowing Hot Air For Nothing Out Of "my Sister Sentiment?"

He didn't have to do it in their bed, he is wrong on so many levels.

SegFault:
I didn't say anything about women doesn't mean they are not free from the stupidity, don't quote me again biko. I don't have time, even if you decide to be stupid and quote me again I will just shun you.

lol typical.. If they don't have anything to say, they resort to insult. Airhead

nwaezeemmanuel:
There are successful monogamous homes.

Cheating is not in any man's gene, it is borne from a lack of self control and is just infidelity at its finest.

Where?

In heaven?

Stop chatting nonsense, mate.

nwaezeemmanuel:
Cheating is never justifiable.

Mature couples should resolve things or even file for divorce - instead of sleeping with another person out of the blues.

So all the billions of people, men and women, in history who cheated are not mature?

Stop chatting nonsense, mate.

ePoster:
Same as corruption, ritual killings, kidnapping...doesn't make them right though.
Cheating might be common, but it's not an aspect of marriage. Your 'if you can't handle the heat, leave the kitchen' ideology is quack.
Few men would tolerate a cheating woman.

How is it not an aspect of marriage?

If you don't know something, accept it and be open minded.

Klinee:
I doubt if you are a man, first before I go on, are you a man or woman?
Because you are sounding as if you are not a man or maybe you are impotent from birth.
No man, I repeat, no man ejaculate without having Orgasm, infact orgasm is what bring the ejaculation.
The whole of your comments here don't reflect that you are a guy or you are impotent guy from birth.
Even if you are a girl or impotent guy why not just go read wide, you will understand better.
The only thing that will pull sperm out of the male body without orgasm is maybe using special syringe to aspirate the sperm out for artificial insemination.

baralatie:
there is no relationship between testosterone levels and promiscuity in the animal kingdom.the testosterone levels in the blood stream is to fight or flight.that is why the big cats can fight but yet the females with less testosterone are the more successful hunters because of the instinct to keep the pride alive.

Nonsense!

Testosterone is responsible for many things beyond "fight or flight".

The two screenshots show that ejaculation and orgasm are very different things.

Orgasm without ejaculating is possible
The reverse is also possible

I am not saying it has to be like that for everybody or even be the new normal.

Just saying it is no longer a one-way rule that you must orgasm before you ejaculate. If a man ejaculates with any orgasm, he could have a condition or just be stressed!

nwaezeemmanuel:
If you don't know something, accept it and be open minded.

We are not like the animals, we have laws and social constructs.

This is why we cannot shift cheating to testosterone because cheating itself is a human concept and binds our relationships.

Other male mammals can have several mates, because they are not governed by so much.

Gamesmart:
Nonsense!

Testosterone is responsible for many things beyond "fight or flight".

By the way, adrenaline does more for 'fight or flight' responses not testosterone!

Gamesmart:
Nonsense!

Testosterone is responsible for many things beyond "fight or flight".

Men are cheats, men are cheats, who do they cheat with sef, dogs?

Jemiwizzy:
I don't know why men have this habit of cheating. Why must you cheat when you have a wife?

My big sis left her husband's house today because she caught her husband with another woman in her matrimonial bed.

Sometimes I think being single is the best way. All this cheating here and there is too much, can't believe my sister has to go through all this pain now.

Well, they have not attained relationship maturity.

Simple!

If a married man or woman cheats, it means they just could not be committed enough!

No mincing of words, it's just hard truth.

Gamesmart:
So all the billions of people, men and women, in history who cheated are not mature?

Stop chatting nonsense, mate.

Yes! A woman is involved

This doesn't take away the fact that the man cheated though

Ifebazz:
Men are cheats, men are cheats, who do they cheat with sef, dogs?

Yes! There are successful monogamous homes.

Gamesmart:
Where?

In heaven?

Stop chatting nonsense, mate.

There’s just as money women going around fucking everything that moves and has a bank account so gtfoh with that.
Who will stop cheating first, men or women? Neither, it’ll never stop as long as there are willing participants with no morals walking around, it’ll never stop till we are no longer on this earth.

fof1:
SO ARE YOU SAYING GOD MADE A MISTAKE? CONTROL URSELF.

This man sef

generationz:
You are comparing yourself to animals? Why don't you go naked and start walking around eating grass to prove you are one with them?

This woman sef

ReluctantAdult:
I wasn't talking about cheating in particular. What I'm saying is, our nature as men encourages polygamy. By nature I mean our testosterone and our general attraction to females. This is also prevalent in the animal kingdom so it isn't out of place.

That doesn't suddenly disappear when men get married. Therefore staying loyal is a fight against our urges and longings and since they are inherent in us, we will always be defeated from time to time.

I think u’re making sense, great men in history even as powerful as they were still cheat on there wife e.g King Solomon

Powerful men like Hitler committed suicide, should you go and commit suicide then?

Dump this thinking!

Even great men made mistakes

Burstbrain:
I think u’re making sense, great men in history even as powerful as they were still cheat on there wife e.g King Solomon

Kwinesther:
How do you also explain the usual scenario of many male animals mating with only one female animal. If you want to go by this your assertion, then we can equally say different men are as well allowed to sleep with only one woman too or one woman is allowed to sleep with different men. I Still don't understand why you are trying too hard to support your claim that men can be polygamous while women cannot. Their is no rule that says any gender can be polygamous it is your own personal idea. Peace!

Nature is nature. Whether you choose to believe it or not doesn't change what it is. It is left for you to understand nature so you can know what to expect and how to deal with it.

DenreleDave:
Ur sister maybe cheating too.. Who knows if she fvcks another woman husband on their matrimonial bed...

I am telling u, it is karma.. She did it for sumone and she got served too.

Case dismissed

court knows no karma.
Judge don't show forgiveness.

Burstbrain:
I think u’re making sense, great men in history even as powerful as they were still cheat on there wife e.g King Solomon

They were just being the men they were. There's no point suppressing your beautiful libido and feeling depressed