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Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by Bkayyy: 1:21pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
Sonnobax15:LOL, you yorubas won't kill me with laughter. My dear, those bogus dowry is for women marrying outside their clan/village. It becomes more when she marries outside Igbo land. For example an indigene of Onitsha marrying an indigene of Onitsha, the official bride price is below 10000 naira and other things can come as gift . I won't tell you the exact money to avoid see finish. Just know that it is below, might be very far below or a little below 1 Like |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by Emekaonline: 1:41pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
Femkod: But why are Igbos so greedy and selfish? Everywhere they go, they are so wicked and money controls their lives. a child does not have right to bury his parents the way he wants in Igbo stinking land. What a cursed tribe! |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by Pharaoh4rin(m): 1:42pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
CallMeAthena: Lemme check. 10Q. |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by bennynaza(m): 1:55pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
Elxandre: If they are married, no. If not, yes. Unless the father before dying gives the daughter any property. Then that property remains hers even after his death even if she is married. |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by Zin123: 2:20pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
pwettyme:If its a woman her people will be consulted and argree on most of the arrangement. They will also dig her grave and aprove her burail site picked by her husband or children. If its a man his mothers people will be consulted first. The grave site will be chosen by the first son, if young under the guide of the elderst son of daughters of the family ( umuumu) and the eldest man of the family. The umu umu dig the grave. The man must be buried in his compound if he has not built any house he can then be buried in an empty land belonging to him or the family. When his children grow they develop the land. Meaning grave site is a mark of ownership. Please dont be scared Its a clear cut tradition and people here are libral nobody will opress you. 2 Likes |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by Zin123: 2:35pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
PowerGlory:The only reason to bury a man on an empty land or farm land is if he built no house |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by maybet081: 2:38pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
Sonnobax15:I love yorubas for their beautiful cultures and social life,they are adorn with beautiful fragrances of hatred, tribalism, competition,strfe and,above all conspiracy when you smell this at night then know a Yoruba is close at you then breath faster 1 Like |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by Zin123: 2:53pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
NoToPile:Yes its a disrespect to the dead man. The information they are working with true or false was probably feed to them by her father. |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by PowerGlory: 3:04pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
amliftedhigher: The girl in question is my cousin. The mother is the second wife of the deceased. He married her when the first legally married wife had series of miscarriages and lost her only son. The man impregnated the girl's mother and took her in as a wife after concluding some traditional rites. Go to Philip Udom Extention, Oguta, Imo State for verification. 1 Like |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by Passionate888: 3:15pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
Igbo Amaka |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by Zin123: 3:19pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
Elxandre:a father or brother can gift his daughter or sister land if he feels that her husband doent have enough to maintain her and her kids. So a woman can recieve gifts coming to inheritance a woman can inherit from husband or father if she remains home as a single parent of boys. She can also inherit land and property outside the viĺlage, it all depends on the father |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by armyofone(m): 3:23pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
Simple thing as burial, they show primitive!! Simple thing as in coming together to grieve, bury the death and carry on with life, they must fight over something! Someone died and the family saw it as a good time to fight over property? Nigerians!! Wetin do you ? |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by armyofone(m): 3:36pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
I remembered one i heard of - they said bring him back home to the village for he is the son of the soil. The children came together, bought a portion in the private section of a church burial grounds and have the father rest in peace. They saw home as the place they were born and raised! Greed has eaten deep into every thing!! sisisioge: 1 Like |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by pwettyme(f): 3:41pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
Zin123: God bless you for this detailed information. I'm calm now. |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by nams77: 3:57pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
pwettyme:That's my LGA |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by Oracleforce: 4:28pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
Bkayyy: Wake up! Your culture usually denies your female child or children of their father's inheritance...can you tell me that is a good culture? Your culture opens an avenue for some few jobless old people in your villages and your communities to exploit or extort you during burial and wedding ceremony is that a good culture? Your culture is diabolical and fetish in nature can that be a good culture? Your culture is discriminatory and callous...can that be a good culture... After all, some of your cultural identities are borrowed if you doubt me, check some foreign materials attached to Igbo or niger-delta attires Dude, we are in the 21st century...wake -up and stop becoming a meal ticket for some lazy old men in the village to leech on...they will collect your money and will still charm you....what a doubt waste. ! |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by Bkayyy: 4:49pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
Oracleforce:Don't move about and show your ignorance by commenting on what you don't understand. Which Igbo culture denies any gender of their inheritance? Mr man our cultures are different and the way we share things are different. I support you that we are in the 21st century and women should be allowed to dress the way they like and speak up anytime like their Igbo counterparts and as well the wearing of hijab must be abolished. Women should be given full right of what to do with their body like their Igbo counterparts. Abortion should be legalized and most important of all lesbianism as women used to marry themselves in ancient Igbo culture. Women should be given exclusive ruling sect in the country like the Igbo have the umuada. Individuals not just women should be protected when they choose to switch religion like the Igbos allow everybody to choose theirs and most women in igboland don't attend Anglican or Roman Catholic with their family and are never disturbed about that. A section of the Nigerias economy should be exclusively dedicated to women eg the fabric section and oil section just as the Igbo customs dedicate a section of every market to women exclusively. Now you know whose culture is more liberal on women |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by Nobody: 5:20pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
Igbos and their backwards and ret@ded traditions.....we wuz Jews geng |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by pwettyme(f): 5:24pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
nams77:Okay. Please would you want to throw more light on their practices? |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by LadySarah: 5:25pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
PowerGlory: Can you develop this story?you will speak up for your family and correct the erroneous impression she has made on Igbos. old consider it. 1 Like |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by Drizzy5001(m): 5:37pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
condralbedez:IMO state |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by Drizzy5001(m): 5:45pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
Stop generalizing, it depends on the father, I am from Anambra state, and where I come from, women receive their shares of properties, so each community has their own tradition. 1 Like |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by Kelvinhunta: 6:00pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
Lol... I laugh at most comments here. Firstly the lady sounded as though there have never been peace in that family which maybe true, secondly don't feel bad because ur mum agrees to marry to another tribe, it's never a problem however ur dad failed to educate you people well about his traditions, some denies it by hiding under the umbrella of born again Churches but in reality it's never a bad idea to bury ur dad in his ancestral home especially if he is the 1st son which I can bet he is! That he married ur mum from another tribe does not make him a less Igbo man! From the way the lady sounds means she didn't even see herself as an Igbo lady! But really is she is an Igbo girl. U better get accustomed to that. Ur uncles did well cos if they want they can let u bury him else where and they forget about u people but burying him in the family house will even bring u people closer home. The DPO understands it and he did a good job trying to unite u people. Don't feel bitterd it's all for vood Abdulazeez99: |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by Kelvinhunta: 6:08pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
Lol... 100% Zin123: |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by FuckOsuPigs: 6:48pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
okpalaAnambra: Anambra o!!! |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by okpalaAnambra: 6:50pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
FuckOsuPigs:And your moniker shows hatred towards the same tribe.. Bc of this your sister will be sacrificed to the gods 1 Like |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by FuckOsuPigs: 6:52pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
jcmaiah: Seriously! So many mad people in the east? Are you being serious right now? Wow! With this revelation from you I needn't wait for her to call for my help ooo! |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by FuckOsuPigs: 6:53pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
okpalaAnambra: Really? What does my Monica say? Be serious bro! Can you break it down? |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by nams77: 7:39pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
pwettyme:Not here. |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by okpalaAnambra: 7:51pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
FuckOsuPigs:What's FuckOsuPigs |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by Femkod(m): 9:54pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
Emekaonline:My brother, I know change is the only constant thing. With time, people will rise up and correct all these outdated practices. |
Re: 3 Graves To Bury One Man: How My Late Father's Kinsmen Hijacked Burial — Lady by FuckOsuPigs: 11:08pm On Oct 24, 2020 |
okpalaAnambra: That's a Tapa language. Ask any Tapa or Nupe man near you. It means "good morning neighbours". |
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