Anyiiii:
We are in the month of November. I'm still not married. A close female friend of mine will be getting married in December. Two of my close friends got married this year too. I'm feeling depressed right now. Nothing interests me. My decoder is subscribed and I can't watch TV. I have food but I'm not hungry. I have money but I'm not happy. Who says money is happiness? Some men are coming my way but they are not my spec. I'm very beautiful and look so younger than my age. So stop imagining the looks of an old Lady. Why can't I find the man of my dreams? Please you people should pray for me. Is there any good luck herb that you can recommend for me to get my husband? Thanks

"they are not my spec" is your number 1 problem.



Yes I know people talk about spec in a would be spouse, but let me tell you, that your spec now will turn out to be your nightmare in future if you end up having it, so why not transform your not your spec to your spec and have peace of mind

Ike was BBNaija's Mercy's spec and superman some years ago, but today he has turned to her nightmare.


Maje Ayida was Toke Makinwa's dream man and spec fee years ago, not long ago he turned out to be the number one man she hates with passion. I can go on and on.....


Men are wiser than ladies when it comes to picking a life partner called wife, how


Men during dating and fooling around with girls in the name of dating and flings go after ladies of their spec physically; bouncing buttocks, standing boobs, flat tummy, that straight full legs, jamming thighs and maybe bambi eyes....but guys understand that those are foolish qualities when they are truly ready to settle down.


They become realistic with what they need in a wife. I am talking about men of integrity with sense not the boyoyos.


They go for inner beauty of a lady; a virtues lady with sweet heart and charming personality, her tummy might not be as flat as the tummies of the bimbo ladies he dated and drove around town showing off to the world that he has a hot chick with banging body....the lady he may end up with may not have the biggest bouncing buttocks like that Anita and Rosita and Chioma and Bukky he dated while in school or shortly after school or during NYSC flings.


But ladies keep on daydreaming about their superman, their spec.....the macho man, the tall, dark, handsome, rich God fearing guy of their dream that will sweep them off their feet and propose romantically and then marry them in grandstyle, whereas such guys don't want her type, he want an unexposed local girl from his village or from his mother's side or something like that. ...and the ladies keep wasting their time praying and waiting for this same dream man that don't want them but want the opposite of them...and as time goes, these ladies get older and their male age group become all married and leaving them to young gigolos and playboys who use them to learn how to fvck a woman like a IndecentStar


The cycle continues and the tears continues to flow as years roll by.



Dear single ladies, get real!

Every lady have a toaster, I mean toasters, among them there is your sweetheart, open your eyes and stop thinking too high of yourself, don't look down on any man, give some of them a chance.


Your husband is around you. You can't find that your dream man you have conjured in your fantasies online because same guys online are the guys you see all around you.


That your spec may ruin your life, change your taste not out of no option or frustration but out of understanding that you have been making mistake and looking for what doesn't want you.


Get real with life, crying won't solve it. All the best.

Lari03r:
Are you on dating groups on Facebook?

It could help you.

Also use Twitter and be active on the app. You could meet someone who likes you there.

no. Please can you suggest some for me?

kambili999:
I'm amazed at some of the responses some people are writing here.


So because she is praying for a husband she should marry someone she isnt physically attracted to

Ma, please its good to have a standard, no matter the case. Else you will settle for any tom, dick and harry.

Love yourself first. No one can love u better than you will love yourself,

Set a standard for yourself,

Write out a list of things you want in a man

You may not entirely get everything in one person, but someone who gets 75% of the things in your list is good to go,

Those people saying you will get tired of praying don't mean a bit of what they are saying. God is amazing and he still works ma.

In all, I wish you a happy married life in advance.

thanks

judas123:
Hi pls how do I reach u...(ur personal e contact)

drop your number

Your headline is confusing.

Say "you've not met your spec" and stop lamenting as if men no dey come your way at all.

When you place premium on relationship it becomes difficult finding the man of your dream.

Believe me, there's nothing like that. For you not to have find the man of your dream might be your fault.

Think again sis. May God help U.

If I may ask, what's it ur looking for in a man to qualify him?

Liposure:
God will answer your prayers

stop deceiving her. God cannot be mocked. How can she look down on people God carefully created and classify them as not her spec, who is she Let her drop her picture so we can judge her and see.


Single ladies must understand one sad truth about life; only a man have the absolute right to decide when to marry and who to marry. A woman can only decide who to date, who to fvck and when to fvck, but she cannot decide who to marry and when to marry, that right is reserved for men only in this world we are.


She want her spec of a man, have she asked herself if her spec want a lady like her


In her own mind, just like every lady of today, she is hotter than Kim Kardashian but to her spec or the kind of man she wants, she maybe ugly and classless.


I want my spec, do you know if your spec also want someone like you


Having enough money help mostly men to become the taste of many ladies but having money as a lady does not boost your desiribility to men, it rather reduces it, unless to broke guys looking for female rescue as wife.


Most ladies over rate themselves beauty wise...because a lot of fvck boys toast them online and offline calling them fine girl, fine girl, they start to overrate themselves and their head start to swell, which most time bring later regrets to their life if not dropped on time.


She cannot rate her true beauty herself, only her so called spec of men can rate her beauty and personality, if she matches what they need as a wife.


Prayer without work is a waste of time.

She must first apologise to her God for looking down on some men for reasons best known to her before she can find her worthy partner.

Anyiiii:
We are in the month of November. I'm still not married. A close female friend of mine will be getting married in December. Two of my close friends got married this year too. I'm feeling depressed right now. Nothing interests me. My decoder is subscribed and I can't watch TV. I have food but I'm not hungry. I have money but I'm not happy. Who says money is happiness? Some men are coming my way but they are not my spec. I'm very beautiful and look so younger than my age. So stop imagining the looks of an old Lady. Why can't I find the man of my dreams? Please you people should pray for me. Is there any good luck herb that you can recommend for me to get my husband? Thanks

It would've helped if you put your real photo on your profile. You dey fear say I Sabi you?

Anyiiii:
We are in the month of November. I'm still not married. A close female friend of mine will be getting married in December. Two of my close friends got married this year too. I'm feeling depressed right now. Nothing interests me. My decoder is subscribed and I can't watch TV. I have food but I'm not hungry. I have money but I'm not happy. Who says money is happiness? Some men are coming my way but they are not my spec. I'm very beautiful and look so younger than my age. So stop imagining the looks of an old Lady. [b]Why can't I find the man of my dreams? [/b]Please you people should pray for me. Is there any good luck herb that you can recommend for me to get my husband? Thanks

When you read some stuffs on nairaland, especially romance section, and go further down to interpret it with a RP len,you always have a higher chances of figuring out where the problem stems from, and it could actually be averted if better and more informed choices where made earlier on.
You got time you got all the attentions, validations and even resources from men ,not to talk about marriage proposals from men right and left, genuinely interested in you, but then, you were fooled to believe those experiences will last forever and you got everything under control, forgetting that the older you grow as a woman, the lesser your Sexual market value,irrespective of the wealth and power they have in their possession.


You forgot men will always go for younger women at their peak [within the age bracket of 18-24] for genuine commitment and sexual relationship, than take a look at women way beyond that age bracket and have hit the wall.
Let me be the guy to burst you little bubble, you're old when compared to your fellow competitors, and no man that understands women dual mating strategy is going to take you serious, not when more beautiful, more younger women are out there.

The truth is that your dream men are out there partying and having fun with younger and more beautiful women, and some have settled for younger and more beautiful woman that yourself.
No man with higher socialeconomical status is going to be on the look out for a woman way beyond the peak of her sexual market value.
Deal with that!

These is lesson to other younger women out there who think they can ride the dick carousal at there younger age and when the attention and validations is dwindling as they grow older, marriage will just be at the palm of their hands.

Sound like a hate, because that's what the truth sound like to gullible minds living a lie.

This is a simple solution to your problem

anochuko01:

There's none that I know of really. I still rate nairaland above most dating sites. Forget the men women bashing that goes on here, people still fall in love here .

I'll suggest you start engaging people here too by commenting on topics and discussions, you'll be surprised that some guys here are actually interested in you but might be hesitant cause they've not "known" you yet.

Share your social media links in your profile so interested and reasonable guys can see more of who you are.

So in other words, any Tom, Dick and Harry that comes for her now, she should accept him with open arms and try to change him later. Even if he is a street tout or a drug dealer, It doesn't matter right? She should accept him just so she can answer Mrs. somebody.

You guys should calm down. I don't think there's anything wrong with having a spec or someone you're attracted to whether physically, mentally, intellectually, emotionally, whatever, name it. This thing is marriage we are talking about. What if you are unable to turn the person to your spec years into the marriage? You'd start talking of divorce? What's the point getting married only to get fed up and depressed few years later?

It's okay to have specs please. What's important is having REALISTICS specs. But I don't advice any woman or man to date or marry someone they are not attracted to in any form.

We might not necessarily have EVERYTHING we want in a spouse in one human being because nobody is perfect. But we must pick those very important qualities that we cannot do without and that still means having a spec. If you don't find the important qualities you want, please don't manage the person or settle for less all so that you can be married. You'd end up hurting yourself and the person in the long run.

humilitypays:
"they are not my spec" is your number 1 problem.



Yes I know people talk about spec in a would be spouse, but let me tell you, that your spec now will turn out to be your nightmare in future if you end up having it, so why not transform your not your spec to your spec and have peace of mind

Ike was BBNaija's Mercy's spec and superman some years ago, but today he has turned to her nightmare.


Maje Ayida was Toke Makinwa's dream man and spec fee years ago, not long ago he turned out to be the number one man she hates with passion. I can go on and on.....


Men are wiser than ladies when it comes to picking a life partner called wife, how


Men during dating and fooling around with girls in the name of dating and flings go after ladies of their spec physically; bouncing buttocks, standing boobs, flat tummy, that straight full legs, jamming thighs and maybe bambi eyes....but guys understand that those are foolish qualities when they are truly ready to settle down.


They become realistic with what they need in a wife. I am talking about men of integrity with sense not the boyoyos.


They go for inner beauty of a lady; a virtues lady with sweet heart and charming personality, her tummy might not be as flat as the tummies of the bimbo ladies he dated and drove around town showing off to the world that he has a hot chick with banging body....the lady he may end up with may not have the biggest bouncing buttocks like that Anita and Rosita and Chioma and Bukky he dated while in school or shortly after school or during NYSC flings.


But ladies keep on daydreaming about their superman, their spec.....the macho man, the tall, dark, handsome, rich God fearing guy of their dream that will sweep them off their feet and propose romantically and then marry them in grandstyle, whereas such guys don't want her type, he want an unexposed local girl from his village or from his mother's side or something like that. ...and the ladies keep wasting their time praying and waiting for this same dream man that don't want them but want the opposite of them...and as time goes, these ladies get older and their male age group become all married and leaving them to young gigolos and playboys who use them to learn how to fvck a woman like a IndecentStar


The cycle continues and the tears continues to flow as years roll by.



Dear single ladies, get real!

Every lady have a toaster, I mean toasters, among them there is your sweetheart, open your eyes and stop thinking too high of yourself, don't look down on any man, give some of them a chance.


Your husband is around you. You can't find that your dream man you have conjured in your fantasies online because same guys online are the guys you see all around you.


That your spec may ruin your life, change your taste not out of no option or frustration but out of understanding that you have been making mistake and looking for what doesn't want you.


Get real with life, crying won't solve it. All the best.

@35? what could make a lady Wait this before making up mind to marry

Anyiiii:
graduate, good looking, working class or business man, flawless spoken English, humorous, intelligent, Igbo or Yoruba, age 32-38, neat, fun to be with

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Just Igbo or Yoruba.
Well-done, watching you in 3D

pozehnani:
You better don't kill yourself because of men that are a burden these days. Until you lose your freedom, you will never know how sweet it is. This is not to say you shouldn't aspire to get married but marriage comes with it's own responsibilities huge enough to weigh you down and make you crave singlhood again. So, maximize your singlehood whole i. judgit last. Judging from what I see with the married .

Just calm down so you don't rush into hell. Majority of the men out there are not worth it. Live your best life and see the right man that will respect and give you peace of mind come your way.

Lose which freedom? Bia nwanyi mara mma, marriage is not bondage. So how do you want it now? to flog you for your comment or to face the wall or to kneel, hands up and close your eyes?

HerRoyalFlyness:
So in other words, any Tom, Dick and Harry that comes for her now, she should accept him with open arms and try to change him later. Even if he is a street tout or a drug dealer, It doesn't matter right? She should accept him just so she can answer Mrs. somebody.

You guys should calm down. I don't think there's anything wrong with having a spec or someone you're attracted to whether physically, mentally, intellectually, emotionally, whatever, name it. This thing is marriage we are talking about. What if you are unable to turn the person to your spec years into the marriage? You'd start talking of divorce? What's the point getting married only to get fed up and depressed few years later?

It's okay to have specs please. What's important is having REALISTICS specs. But I don't advice any woman or man to date or marry someone they are not attracted to in any form.

We might not necessarily have EVERYTHING we want in a spouse in one human being because nobody is perfect. But we must pick those very important qualities that we cannot do without and that still means having a spec. If you don't find the important qualities you want, please don't manage the person or settle for less all so that you can be married. You'd end up hurting yourself and the person in the long run.

You ladies are your own problems. Yes, having specs is not bad. Having flexible and realistic specs is the way forward. Specs can will definitely change when marriage come. So spec should be flexible or else, you won't be happy when the change happens.

Anyiiii:
I'm very beautiful and look so younger than my age. So stop imagining the looks of an old Lady. Why can't I find the man of my dreams?

That dream man is prolly out there looking for his dream woman. Why not let God be in change ? Just bend down low

Anyiiii:
We are in the month of November. I'm still not married. A close female friend of mine will be getting married in December. Two of my close friends got married this year too. I'm feeling depressed right now. Nothing interests me. My decoder is subscribed and I can't watch TV. I have food but I'm not hungry. I have money but I'm not happy. Who says money is happiness? Some men are coming my way but they are not my spec. I'm very beautiful and look so younger than my age. So stop imagining the looks of an old Lady. Why can't I find the man of my dreams? Please you people should pray for me. Is there any good luck herb that you can recommend for me to get my husband? Thanks

God will answer your prayers.. But.. If you have money.. You can build a robot and get married to..
Truth is.. Most times.. We don't always get what we want...

Anyiiii:
We are in the month of November. I'm still not married. A close female friend of mine will be getting married in December. Two of my close friends got married this year too. I'm feeling depressed right now. Nothing interests me. My decoder is subscribed and I can't watch TV. I have food but I'm not hungry. I have money but I'm not happy. Who says money is happiness? Some men are coming my way but they are not my spec. I'm very beautiful and look so younger than my age. So stop imagining the looks of an old Lady. Why can't I find the man of my dreams? Please you people should pray for me. Is there any good luck herb that you can recommend for me to get my husband? Thanks

At your age, you should be looking to invest in a man rather than looking for working class. You can easily upgrade a man to your choice standard (provided he scored above average).

When I read your listed specs, I scored myself 85%(because I know what I worth). But if you will access me, I bet you won't score me 40%. That's one thing about relationships. You can't determine it from outward.

If you are yet to be 'taken' and you are willing to try my score(above), check my profile for contact to chat.

bosman50:


That dream man is prolly out there looking for his dream woman. Why not let God be in change ? Just bend down low

You are right, but stop talking about God. God have tried for her, she needs to work on herself.

Mineisgrace:
You don't need a goodluck herb. What you need is to go to meet out and meet people. Don't stay inside all the time.

Try and be more outgoing and God will provide a better man

I'm the better man zero will you recommend me?

Anyiiii:
We are in the month of November. I'm still not married. A close female friend of mine will be getting married in December. Two of my close friends got married this year too. I'm feeling depressed right now. Nothing interests me. My decoder is subscribed and I can't watch TV. I have food but I'm not hungry. I have money but I'm not happy. Who says money is happiness? Some men are coming my way but they are not my spec. I'm very beautiful and look so younger than my age. So stop imagining the looks of an old Lady. Why can't I find the man of my dreams? Please you people should pray for me. Is there any good luck herb that you can recommend for me to get my husband? Thanks

you do not need any good luck herb ma'am. I won't ask you to pray neither, but if your specifics ain't coming for you, you gotta go to them, make friends, meet more people, hopeful you'll find what you're looking for. Ignore the whole negatives going on here. Despite that you might have made mistakes in the past, I believe you'll get through this as well, stay merry, eat healthy and try to make yourself happy. Love you.

Miss spectacular.

Download Badoo and Tinder.....
Igbo or Yoruba? Hmmmm, goodluck anyways

Anyiiii:
We are in the month of November. I'm still not married. A close female friend of mine will be getting married in December. Two of my close friends got married this year too. I'm feeling depressed right now. Nothing interests me. My decoder is subscribed and I can't watch TV. I have food but I'm not hungry. I have money but I'm not happy. Who says money is happiness? Some men are coming my way but they are not my spec. I'm very beautiful and look so younger than my age. So stop imagining the looks of an old Lady. Why can't I find the man of my dreams? Please you people should pray for me. Is there any good luck herb that you can recommend for me to get my husband? Thanks

Will you marry me no jokes!! Pm me. Give it your best shot

Anyiiii:
no. Please can you suggest some for me?

Single & Mingle.
Apples & Berries etc...

There are lots of dating groups on Facebook.

Join as many as possible and don't limit yourself to Nigeria. Be active and you'd be soon find someone.

A sure way to get a man fast is to know what the type of men you are attracted to need in a woman and give it to them. You have written about your specs, which are reasonable, but have you thought about what the men you are attracted to want? to get a man is not that difficult if you are doing it right.

Someone earlier mentioned registering in the gym, and you should take it seriously if you are not in shape. Men are attracted to feminine women, and a huge aspect of femininity is beauty and attractiveness. Think about it, you were not desperately in search of a man in your 20's, a time when your beauty is at its peak, and the men were trooping in like flies to honey, so you must retain that superpower. Luckily, you are a black woman, you guys age really good if you take good care of yourself. As a tip, curly afro hairstyle gives an elegant youthful look, and super feminine and hot. The longer, the better.

And lastly, you have to loosen up your spec, in regards to the age, and tribe. You should judge people by their individual ability, not their tribe. ANd by being a graduate, well, there are lots of dumb graduates out there, who can't even feed themselves. How about a man trained in a particular field of expertise that doesn't necessarily include the wall of a classroom? Many of these men even earn more and employs graduate. My dad is like that.

So, lady, I wish you all the best. Ignore the men here making it seems like you committed a sin for announcing your desire, something that is perfectly natural and commendable. Goodluck.

ladies and their wahala, yen yen yen men are these and that, i thought been single rocks. sorry i dnt mean 2 be harsh. Life of a lady can still be beautiful without a man abi, shebi men are scum nd u can't find u spec. better go tell samsung abi apple to model u spec.....

Anyiiii:
We are in the month of November. I'm still not married. A close female friend of mine will be getting married in December. Two of my close friends got married this year too. I'm feeling depressed right now. Nothing interests me. My decoder is subscribed and I can't watch TV. I have food but I'm not hungry. I have money but I'm not happy. Who says money is happiness? Some men are coming my way but they are not my spec. I'm very beautiful and look so younger than my age. So stop imagining the looks of an old Lady. Why can't I find the man of my dreams? Please you people should pray for me. Is there any good luck herb that you can recommend for me to get my husband? Thanks

I will marry you na . I don't want you to commit suicide.

Anyiiii:
graduate, good looking, working class or business man, flawless spoken English, humorous, intelligent, Igbo or Yoruba, age 32-38, neat, fun to be with

You just have to increase the age limit. Guys don't like marrying ladies they're younger than or nearly the same age with. You need to seriously consider 40+ guys. Just an advice from a 30yr old male

Anyiiii:
We are in the month of November. I'm still not married. A close female friend of mine will be getting married in December. Two of my close friends got married this year too. I'm feeling depressed right now. Nothing interests me. My decoder is subscribed and I can't watch TV. I have food but I'm not hungry. I have money but I'm not happy. Who says money is happiness? Some men are coming my way but they are not my spec. I'm very beautiful and look so younger than my age. So stop imagining the looks of an old Lady. Why can't I find the man of my dreams? Please you people should pray for me. Is there any good luck herb that you can recommend for me to get my husband? Thanks

The only response i can give to you is to ask you what your spec is ?? list them out , lets have a bucket list of what they are .thereafter we can evaluate
if those specs are actually worth sticking to

Anyiiii:
We are in the month of November. I'm still not married. A close female friend of mine will be getting married in December. Two of my close friends got married this year too. I'm feeling depressed right now. Nothing interests me. My decoder is subscribed and I can't watch TV. I have food but I'm not hungry. I have money but I'm not happy. Who says money is happiness? Some men are coming my way but they are not my spec. I'm very beautiful and look so younger than my age. So stop imagining the looks of an old Lady. Why can't I find the man of my dreams? Please you people should pray for me. "Is there any good luck herb that you can recommend for me to get my husband? Thanks

That's your problem...."looking for spec ". No such thing exist except in telemundo. If you lower your standard, you would have gotten married by now. I m afraid, you ve chased your hubby away all in the name of "looking for your spec".

If all men and women do the " looking for my spec" ish, then there shall be few or no weddings

Anyiiii:
We are in the month of November. I'm still not married. A close female friend of mine will be getting married in December. Two of my close friends got married this year too. I'm feeling depressed right now. Nothing interests me. My decoder is subscribed and I can't watch TV. I have food but I'm not hungry. I have money but I'm not happy. Who says money is happiness? Some men are coming my way but they are not my spec. I'm very beautiful and look so younger than my age. So stop imagining the looks of an old Lady. Why can't I find the man of my dreams? Please you people should pray for me. Is there any good luck herb that you can recommend for me to get my husband? Thanks

If you are open to talking over this ... send me a mail or you perhaps drop yours ....